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Is anyone going to this thing? Is it just everyone from hinge but at four quarters?

I currently have just the 23mm f2 but recently got the newer 33mm 1.4 wr and I love it! I’m doing more professional work and feel I should swap my 23 f2 for one of the 1.4 lenses. Do I get the R or the WR? The older one is obviously about half the price but I’m seeing such better reviews for the newer one. Is it worth the price jump? Anyone have experience using both?

For context, im a documentary style photographer and shoot families, couples, weddings, etc. thanks!

Can anyone relate?

I (F 31) started seeing this guy (31) almost a month ago and I’d say after our 3rd date, I was getting really excited. We see each other about 2x a week, sometimes 3. Always an overnight after our 3rd date. He’s expressed really liking me and I’ve said the same. We became exclusive after the 3rd or 4th date.

I’m at the point now where I just can’t stop thinking about him. He is just so sweet and funny and makes me feel so special. I feel homesick when he’s not with me and it feels like all my time is spent thinking about when I’ll see him next. It makes me not want to spend time with friends because I want to make sure I have time with him. We aren’t yet a “couple” and I think that makes me feel nervous. It’s been a while since I’ve connected so well with someone but I can feel my unhealthy anxious attachment coming out that I thought was better!

Does anyone have advice? He’s don’t a great job at making me feel secure and that he really is excited about me and loves spending time with me but it’s like I feel like I don’t care about anything else except spending time with him because I’m just so excited about it. I know it’s unhealthy so seeking help, thanks!

I’ve been on lexapro for about a year and a half now. I was on 20 for a bit and lowered myself to 10 about two months ago. I’ve been waking up at night sweating a lot and just generally have been sweating and overheating. Do I have to go to 5mg to stop this? Will it ever stop? I take mine in the morning fyi.

I’m currently growing my photography business and booking more shoots and want some gear advice. Here’s everything I currently have in terms of bodies and lenses:

Xt2
Xt3
33 f1.4
16 f2.8
23 f2.8
35 f2

I find myself having the 33 on one camera and the 23 on the other for the entire time. I’m really liking how the 33 photos are coming out and I’m wondering if I should swap my current 23 for the 1.4 version. Would it improve my work at all or not enough to warrant the cost? I’m also considering either a zoom lens or a 85mm equivalent prime like the 56. I used to have a 50 but sold it because I generally don’t like shooting super tight but I’m finding myself in wedding scenarios that I want to be closer to something that I can’t get to and I know I won’t be able to crop a ton because of the cropped sensor.

Let me know your thoughts, thanks!

I’m getting more gigs and therefore means I’m more stressed about storage space, failing hard drives, etc. how do you all stay organized? Currently I just have a 2tb hard drive (I’m aware I’ll need more or a larger one soon) that I store my raws and Lightroom catalogues on and just make a folder per client. And it automatically backs up to my Dropbox when I plug it in. I have in my contract that I will keep client photos for one year so technically I don’t HAVE to keep everything though I probably will. When this hard drive gets full, do I just buy another and eventually have a collection of hard drives? Don’t they usually fail after like 10 years? Help!!

So I’ve been dealing with constipation my entire life and as an adult, it’s gotten far worse than just the nerves of having to poop while traveling. I have a tense pelvic floor and I feel like I may have chronic muscle guarding, which started when I was a kid. Basically I believe my body has trained itself to not feel the feeling of needing to go to the bathroom and keep itself in a tense state. I’m wondering if anyone else has this issue and /or if you can recommend meditation (ideally free??) apps that would be good to relax those muscles and be more in tune with my body’s responses. Thank you!

So I’ve been on lexapro for about a year and a half. I went on it for anxiety. I have social anxiety and also deal with gastro issues and hoped that lexapro would help combat the anxiety piece of it.

Since being on lexapro, my stomach issues/health issues haven’t taken over my entire brain anymore, I have less of a filter and am talking more socially/at work and trying new things that I never would have done not being on the drug. I’m not as stressed about taking trips or making big plans.

However, I worry I’m missing feeling all the feelings. I miss feeling nervous-excited before a date, and sometimes I feel like I’m not that connected and don’t care about people or things. Also the fatigue is really intense.

I’m wondering if I should get off of it. I was on 20 and brought myself back down to 10 the past couple of weeks. I want to make sure I’m not reliant on this and I want to make sure I’m living the best life I can. What do you all think? Is it worth getting off of it and seeing what happens? I’m scared I won’t be the brave girl with no filter anymore!

So I’ve been dealing with constipation my entire life and as an adult, it’s gotten far worse than just the nerves of having to poop while traveling. I have a tense pelvic floor and I feel like I may have chronic muscle guarding, which started when I was a kid. Basically I believe my body has trained itself to not feel the feeling of needing to go to the bathroom and keep itself in a tense state. I’m wondering if anyone else has this issue and /or if you can recommend meditation (ideally free??) apps that would be good to relax those muscles and be more in tune with my body’s responses. Thank you!

I think we all have days where we definitely can work but would just rather work from home. Usually I want to work from home because I don’t actually have that much work on a certain day and don’t want to be stuck doing nothing in an office.

My usual excuse to work from home is that I’m just not feeling that well and would prefer to work from home. What are some other believable excuses to work from home? Currently in the office and have nothing to do so help me get out of here!

Thanks!

Hey guys,

I’m getting more wedding gigs this summer and I’m discovering that I need a good go-to uniform to wear. I ideally would like a jumpsuit so I don’t have to worry about getting in weird positions, but I want it to be breathable and lightweight so I’m not drenched in sweat by the end of the shoot.

Does anyone have any good outfits they can recommend? Also shoes that are comfy but also wedding-appropriate? Fall is easier for me to dress for but these hot summer days have been rough!

So I live in Vermont and am very close to Montreal. I’ve been looking on marketplace for a used couch and Montreal has so many good ones. If I take a truck to Montreal to pick up the couch, am I allowed to do that? Will I get charged for it at the border or get it taken away? What should I expect and do I need to do anything beforehand?

Thanks!

I’m 31 and currently live around Burlington, Vermont and love the area. However, jobs are sparse, houses are crazy expensive, and the dating pool is rough. I’m not the most outdoorsy person and the winters can be really tough on me emotionally. However, I do love things about the Burlington area:

Most beautiful views of the lake and mountains
Living among likeminded liberal people
Strong sense of community
Artsy city
Scenic driving and being able to escape and go to a cute farm or vineyard
Living someone near a big city (Montreal)

I’ve been feeling stuck for a while and I’m wondering if I need to move on from this place. Are other women experiencing the same thing? Is any place even perfect? Am I failing at life because I never left my college town?

A big reason I’ve stayed is my friends and community I’ve built for myself. But I’ve been here for about 12 years and I don’t know if I’m just making safe comfortable choices because I’m scared. And at what point am I just staying for my people only to have them all move on and leave me. I do love it here but could something better be out there?

I currently live in the Burlington, Vermont area and love the area. However, jobs are sparse, houses are crazy expensive, and the dating pool is rough. I’m not the most outdoorsy person in the world so a lot of the winter Vermont activities are wasted on me. However, I do love things about the Burlington area:

Most beautiful views of the lake and mountains
Living among likeminded liberal people
Strong sense of community
Artsy city
Scenic driving and being able to escape and go to a cute farm or vineyard
Living someone near a big city (Montreal)

I’ve been feeling stuck for a while and I’m wondering if I need to move on from this place. Can anyone recommend a good spot to “start over” as a single woman in her early 30s that has all of the things I love about Vermont but maybe in a bigger area with more people and more affordable housing? Thanks!

I’ve been instructed to pick up some containers of light amber maple syrup for some family. I was supposed to get it at Palmer’s this weekend but didn’t have time and now they’re closed today. Can someone point me to some stores or even local sugar houses that are open today that I can grab the good stuff from? Thank you!!

I should mention I’m near Burlington so ideally spots within a 40 minute drive also be ideal!

Does anyone know if Palmer’s ice cream shop sells all of their maple syrup products?

I’ve got some friends visiting briefly and we’re planning to go out to dinner on Monday. I’m big into the food scene here but they’ve got dietary restrictions. What’s a cute restaurant that will accommodate both vegans and pescatarians? I think we’re gonna go out to the Shelburne farms inn for drinks before, so if there’s a spot out there, that would be ideal!

So a few weeks ago I took plan b and a week later, I ended up getting my period a week earlier than it was due. Literally since then, I’ve been bleeding. We’re on day 11 guys…

And just to note, this period was super light for me and I keep thinking it’s fading and gonna stop and then it comes back. It’s brown but also sometimes dark red brown. So it’s not even cute.

It seems too heavy for it to be spotting, but now I’m questioning what’s going on. I know plan b can fuck with your cycle, though I’ve taken it before and this has never happened. Should I call my gyno? Do you think it was spotting and my actual period is gonna start soon? Am I gonna just bleed until I die?

I’ve been on lexapro for about a year and a half. I got on it for anxiety. I have really bad social anxiety (heart will start beating out of my chest if I do something out of my comfort zone to the point of me not doing anything) and I also have some stomach issues which I believe to be very much linked to anxiety.

Being on lexapro allows me to not worry about what could happen and just live in the moment more. I don’t get as much physical anxiety symptoms and it’s allowed me to talk more socially, try new things, and even get up on stage and perform to a crowd!!

But here are my issues with it. I’m CHRONICALLY tired (I’m on 20mg now) and I don’t feel “jazzed” about anything. I feel just very neutral. It takes a lot for me to cry, and when I do I realize how much I miss that. I also don’t get nervous excited about anything, which is a feeling I want to have.

I want to have the full spectrum of emotions and I guess I’m wondering if those 2 things are enough of a reason for me to get off it. I’m worried I’m gonna get all my physical symptoms back and not be able to perform on stage which is something I am so proud of myself for doing.

Any thoughts, any stories about your experiences with this?

So I currently have an xt2 and am getting bigger photography gigs so I definitely need a second body. I’m a documentary-style photographer and to be honest, I don’t really feel I need a 40mp camera sensor like the xt5. I rarely crop my images much/if at all and it would just take up so much storage space. I’m considering picking up a used xt3 or xt4.

My question to all of you is if that’s a good idea or if you think I would really want the xt5 OR the coming soon xt6. I don’t believe I need the newest and best camera to produce beautiful images, but at the same time if there are things such as IBIS (I know that’s in the xt4 and not the xt3) that would make my life easier, maybe it makes sense to have them.

Just so ya know, the current lenses I have are the 16mm, 23mm, 35mm, and 50 mm (I am planning on selling the 50 because I never use it). These are all the little cheap guys. I’m considering getting a 33mm 1.4 which I think will help me in lower light situations.

Thanks all! I’ve been down so many Reddit and YouTube rabbit holes and need some guidance before I spend a ton of money!