u/FallenAngelStars

TL;DR: Neopronouns are cool AF.

I just wanted to rant about how much I love neopronouns. Like xi/xem is the coolest pronouns ever. Anything with an 'X' or 'Z' is super cool. IDK why, but I just really like words that start with the gothic letters of the alphabet, usually 'V', 'X', and 'Z'. I'm not goth myself, I'm grunge, but I do enjoy the goth aesthetic. I also really like vamp/vampself, xie/xem, ze/zir, and other neopronouns/nounpronouns like that. Just something about them gets to me. Really speaks to my soul. I think I'm panpronominal, meaning I'm cool with any and all pronouns. More specifically, I'm panfaunpronominal, meaning I'm okay with any and all non-feminine pronouns regardless of what they are. I've tried SEVERAL different pronouns sets, and my reaction to all of them is "meh, good enough". I don't feel strongly to any one set despite liking them aesthetically. I mostly like them for how they look, but I'm also cool with how they sound, mainly ze/zir and xe/xem since they are pronounced the same way. I can't really pick just 1 set of pronouns. I like them all. I'm greedy and want them all. All except she/her. That brings me dysphoria because I'm transmasc. My liking of those pronouns is mostly aesthetic, because I'm not entirely sure what my gender is, xenogender/non-binary/genderfluid is some way, IDK yet. I'm not really worried about finding my gender, I'm mostly just hoarding labels that feel right to me, and adding them to my pronouns.cc page. I like hoarding things as you can tell, LOL. I've never encountered a set or sets of pronouns that felt actively right. They are all just good enough. Because I don't really care what people call me as long as it's in good faith and isn't she/her. I can't use my preferred pronouns IRL for safety reasons, but online I can do whatever I want. I don't introduce myself with a specific set, I mainly just go for whatever the person sees me as. I guess I mainly use vamp/xie/he/they, but IDK, it's whatever. My 1st assumption when I hear someone use neopronouns is that they are alt in some way. Because normies don't typically use non-normative things to describe themselves. And as someone who is alt vampself, it's cool! I love alt people. I wish I had more alt friends.

All in all, neopronouns are super cool! Thanks for reading my wall of text! That means a lot to me!

— Dorian (vamp/xie/he/they)

My gender is more abstract. Like a kaleidoscope, it can shift between different colors, and these different colors represent my gender identity, blue is man, light pink is feminine but NOT female, yellow is non-binary, green is genderless, orange is xenogenders, and so on. Sometimes there’s many colors at once and other times there’s just 1 color. Sometimes there’s no color at all, it’s just blank. 

That’s the best I can describe my gender identity. 

I think this is just genderfluid, and if yes, what subset is it?

If it makes a difference my main genders are man and genderless and xenogenders. Like I feel these most of the time.

So, I think I kin this 1 character from The Sims 4, Esther Gomes. We have a similar personality, and I kinda just vibe with xem in general.

So I was wondering if someone could use xie/xem/xir/xirs/xirself pronouns on me?

Thank you in advance!!! :D

So, I think I kin this 1 character from The Sims 4, Esther Gomes. We have a similar personality, and I kinda just vibe with xem in general.

So I was wondering if someone could use xie/xem/xir/xirs/xirself pronouns on me?

Thank you in advance!!! :D

I think I might be xenogender because of my autism? I don't experience gender like other people, and I don't really want to call myself FtM because I don't experience binary malehood like other people, but I want a male body. So for me, FtM is more about my body + clothing expression, not gender.

But anyway, my gender can best be described as "a painting of a starry night", not The Starry Night by van Gogh, but more just about a painting that is of a night sky with lots of stars.

Is this a thing already?

I use Obsidian for my worldbuilding projects and books. Recently, I installed the Storyteller Suite add-on, which makes it easier to worldbuild. 1 of the templates included is for gender, implemented as a customizable text box so you can put anything in.

My youngest brother was working on creating a character for our collaborative worldbuilding project and saw this. He got angry at the text box and said that it could be simplified to a drop-down menu with options for 'male' or 'female'. I found that disappointing.

I appreciate the text box option, not only for my own use but also for others, it allows for true and pure gender customization.

It is disheartening to see my 13-year-old brother show such transphobic attitudes. This whole thing genuinely concerns me. But I'm not able to correct his transphobic behavior without outing my own FtM identity, which could get me in trouble with my heavily anti-LGBT+ family.

I really like my identity: Dorian, FtM, neptunic, monogamish, they/vamp. This is my first Pride Month where I know my queer identity for sure. It feels nice, like a warm and cozy feeling!

Just wanted to share this because it makes me really happy!!! And I can't talk about this IRL with anyone...

I don’t like or want to date men IRL. So does that make me heterosexual? I’m a heterosexual trans man? I like girls and non-man/non-male genderqueer people. 

It’s NOT just femininity. I like masculine women (as long as they are non-men/non-male), neutral women, AFAB genderqueer people, Male to Female people, etc., I like all genders on the female PLUS feminine-spectrum.

Am I really a hetero man? Or is there a more LGBT+ term for how I feel? I want it to encompass genderqueer people too, that’s a big aspect in my attraction. I like almost all genders. All female genders and most genderqueer genders.

I guess this also counts as body dysphoria???

Anyway, I just feel like my pinky finger is always in my way. My highest kin has 4 fingers. It just makes me feel bad. IDK how to describe it… sorry. I just really wish I had 4 fingers or at least no pinky, but it's kind of an important finger, so I can't do anything about this.

My mother and I were talking about my great-aunt and aunt and how they both have Factitious Disorder (Factitious Disorder is a mental illness in which one deliberately feigns or exaggerates illness symptoms). My mother said I'm "starting to show symptoms" of Factitious Disorder when I was talking about my OCD and recent contamination anxiety surrounding a cut on my finger and getting blood everywhere.

I've been professionally diagnosed with OCD since I was 13. So I'm not making this up! I do not have Factitious Disorder!

My mother told me to "just stop thinking about it". Like I could just turn intrusive thoughts off like a switch.

I don't know why I tell her anything anymore…

She thinks she's always correct because a doctor ONCE told her to write a medical book because she corrected him ONCE. So she thinks she knows everything about mental and physical health. I'm starting to believe that doctor thing was a story she made up to get attention.

My mother and I were talking about my great-aunt and aunt and how they both have Factitious Disorder (Factitious Disorder is a mental illness in which one deliberately feigns or exaggerates illness symptoms). My mother said I'm "starting to show symptoms" of Factitious Disorder when I was talking about my OCD and recent contamination anxiety surrounding a cut on my finger and getting blood everywhere.

I've been professionally diagnosed with OCD since I was 13. So I'm not making this up! I do not have Factitious Disorder!

My mother told me to "just stop thinking about it". Like I could just turn intrusive thoughts off like a switch.

I don't know why I tell her anything anymore…

She thinks she's always correct because a doctor ONCE told her to write a medical book because she corrected him ONCE. So she thinks she knows everything about mental and physical health. I'm starting to believe that doctor thing was a story she made up to get attention.

My mother and I were talking about my great-aunt and aunt and how they both have Factitious Disorder (Factitious Disorder is a mental illness in which one deliberately feigns or exaggerates illness symptoms). My mother said I'm "starting to show symptoms" of Factitious Disorder when I was talking about my OCD and recent contamination anxiety surrounding a cut on my finger and getting blood everywhere.

I've been professionally diagnosed with OCD since I was 13. So I'm not making this up! I do not have Factitious Disorder!

My mother told me to "just stop thinking about it". Like I could just turn intrusive thoughts off like a switch.

I don't know why I tell her anything anymore…

She thinks she's always correct because a doctor ONCE told her to write a medical book because she corrected him ONCE. So she thinks she knows everything about mental and physical health. I'm starting to believe that doctor thing was a story she made up to get attention.

I'm multi-name and multi-pronoun, and I like the aesthetic of the name Dorian, but I'm not sure if it's for me. Can someone just test it out real quick?

So… like??? Are anti-TransID TransIDs allowed here? Because I identify as a TransVampire in a non-harmful way. I even found a TransSpecies vampire flag for Alterhumans.

I am strictly anti-harassment and anti-harm; I do not want to hurt or harm anyone.

TransSpecies feels more deeply connected and rooted in identity than merely Alterhuman or Otherkin labels that I've been able to find or feel comfortable with.

For me, this is more about a deeper, genuine connection without harm or delusion.

So am I allowed to talk about this here openly? Or no?

So, I'm AFAB and genderfaun (mainly identifying as genderless) and female to male, but I'm pre-transition, so I still have a female body, and so I still connect to the lesbian label. Because, technically speaking, I'm a female who likes other females. Also, calling myself a hetero trans man doesn't make me feel comfortable in my identity.

Would it be correct to call myself lesboy or simply just a lesbian?

Because I also feel like neptunic isn't right either…

I know genderfaun is a lack of female or feminine feelings, but sometimes I feel like a girl. I THINK this is more dysphoria shifts? Maybe? Being a girl feels really bad; I don't like it. But my gender still shifts. I feel masculine, male, and genderless genders (sometimes xenogenders, but not all the time). And then sometimes these weird girl shifts sometimes, but they feel bad, and I hate my body because of it.

Is there a way to tell the difference between gender shifts and dysphoria shifts? What's the difference between the 2? What is my real gender identity, and what's just dysphoria?

All I'm asking is if I can be genderfaun or not. My OCD makes it so I need permission to label myself. I need an outside POV in order to feel like it fits me.

I know genderfaun is a lack of female or feminine feelings, but sometimes I feel like a girl. I THINK this is more dysphoria shifts? Maybe? Being a girl feels really bad, I don't like it. But my gender still shifts. I feel masculine, male, and genderless genders (sometimes xenogenders, but not all the time). And then sometimes these weird girl shifts sometimes, but they feel bad, and I hate my body because of it.

All I'm asking is if I can be genderfaun or not. My OCD makes it so I need permission to label myself. I need an outside POV in order to feel like it fits me.

What counts as being OCkin? Because I’m NOT sure if I’m OCkin or if this is a self-insert.

They were a self-insert at the start but kinda developed into being their own thing over the years. But I still see them as myself despire them being their own character now. I still heavily relate to them as in my head I see myself as them.

Am I OCkin or no?