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I was reading about honour kiIIing cases of India where I've found that in many cases, the parents found those girls only after the police tracked them and give them their location. As per law after 18, an adult woman in India is free to earn her own money and live on her own seperately. Then why are these police still giving them their location to the parents? They know that their parents are gonna harm them after these girls are caught but still these police are giving their parents the location or dragging them back to the parents.

These girls aren't even asking money from their parents. All they wanna do is just to escape from them but still those police are helping their abusive parents instead of helping those victims. Also those girls even aren't the daughters of those police so what would they get by controlling them? Those police aren't saving their family's so called called by doing that cuz they're strangers.

This year, a 23 year old woman died in an honour killing case after the police tracked her and brought her back to her parents. As per the reports the parents paid the police money to do that. They don't need extra money cuz they already get their salary which is enough for them. In another case, a 19 year old girl was killed by her own father after she was brought to the police station. She ran away with her boyfriend and did an intercaste marriage, which made her parents mad. In that case, also the police tracked her and made her meet her parents. She was in a different state but still they tracked her location. They knew it's not gonna end well but still they brought her back to her parents. The parents weren't even rich in this case. There are many cases like that.

There was a case where a young adult woman left her parent's home to get married with her boyfriend, whom her parents didn't approve. Then her family asked a lawyer and the lawyer suggested them to file a theft case against her. It's really sad to see that some people are misusing their power to control someone that too an adult women.

I know some western people whose parents also filed missing report on them after they left their home and those parents also made false stories like someone kidnapped their kids and falsely accused their friends or partners of kidnapping them. But when the police called them, they told them that their parents are lying and that they're safe. After that the police ignored those parents stories and told them to stop. They didn't even share their kids location to those parents. I think most Indian police should act like that cuz it will also reduce honour killing in the country.

I'm not saying that all members of the legal authorities are bad there are some good people among them too. But here I'm just talking about those corrupt legal authorities, who unfortunately are the majority.

This corrupt authorities are also part of the reason for India's low divorce rate.

Why many young adult women in India aren't treated as adults?

I was reading about honour kiIIing cases of India where I've found that in many cases, the parents found those girls only after the police tracked them and give them their location. As per law after 18, an adult woman in India is free to earn her own money and live on her own seperately. Then why are these police still giving them their location to the parents? They know that their parents are gonna harm them after these girls are caught but still these police are giving their parents the location or dragging them back to the parents.

These girls aren't even asking money from their parents. All they wanna do is just to escape from them but still those police are helping their abusive parents instead of helping those victims. Also those girls even aren't the daughters of those police so what would they get by controlling them? Those police aren't saving their family's so called called by doing that cuz they're strangers.

This year, a 23 year old woman died in an honour killing case after the police tracked her and brought her back to her parents. As per the reports the parents paid the police money to do that. They don't need extra money cuz they already get their salary which is enough for them. In another case, a 19 year old girl was killed by her own father after she was brought to the police station. She run away with her boyfriend and did an intercaste marriage, which made her parents mad. In that case, also the police tracked her and made her meet her parents. She was in a different state but still they tracked her location. They knew it's not gonna end well but still they brought her back to her parents. The parents weren't even rich in this case. There are many cases like that.

There was a case where a young adult woman left her parent's home to get married with her boyfriend, whom her parents didn't approve. Then her family asked a lawyer and the lawyer suggested them to file a theft case against her. It's really sad to see that some people are misusing their power to control someone that too an adult women.

I know some western people whose parents also filed missing report on them after they left their home and those parents also made false stories like someone kidnapped their kids and falsely accused their friends or partners of kidnapping them. But when the police called them, they told them that their parents are lying and that they're safe. After that the police ignored those parents stories and told them to stop. They didn't even share their kids location to those parents. I think most Indian police should act like that cuz it will also reduce honour killing in the country.

I'm not saying that all members of the legal authorities are bad there are some good people among them too. But here I'm just talking about those corrupt legal authorities, who unfortunately are the majority.

This corrupt authorities are also part of the reason for India's low divorce rate.

Why do most legal authorities in India don't treat young adult women as adults?

My father was extremely toxic. His presence was more harmful than his absence. He made me feel that it'd have been so much better if he abandoned me as a child at an orphanage or disowned me earlier.

My father always tried to isolate me and my family members from everyone. It wasn't for a good reason, he just wanted us to be under his control. He never treated us well and often threatened to kick us out of the house. He used to falsely accused us of doing prostituition, used to create chaos inside the house and beat my sister for no reason, just to make us scared of him so that we'd never go against him. He also loved to break our confidence and always made us feel inferior to everyone else. But when we actually wanted to move out, he always had a problem with it and would go to extreme lengths to stop us. He was afraid that without his presence we'd turn to prostituition and that he would be alone in his old age. He never treated us right but he also never wanted us to leave him as we were retirement plans to him.

His toxicity always made me feel that if he had abandoned me at an orphanage as a child or if he disowned me earlier then it'd have been so much better. At least, I'd have been free of his toxicity.

Did you ever wish it'd have been so much better if your toxic parents had abandoned you at an orphanage or disowned you earlier?

If yes, please share those stories

Has anyone here done apprenticeship at AAI (Airport Authority of India)?

If yes then what was the working hours there? What is the work of the apprentices there for civil engineering graduates? Is the stipend being paid on time every month?

I was thinking of doing apprenticeship at AAI.

Has anyone here done apprenticeship at AAI (Airport Authority of India)? What was the working hours and holidays there? What is the work of the apprentices there for civil engineering graduates? Is the stipend being paid on time every month?

There are many people who complain about how discriminatory Indian adoption laws are. At the same time, many people raise concerns about child safety related to the gender of the adoptive parents. It is true that abusers have no gender and can be either male or female.

Do you think single men should be allowed to adopt a girl child in India?

I went no contact with my toxic parents and they just don't care at all.

Do you know any story where Indian parents regret how they treated their daughter after she went no contact with them?

There are some rapido/uber drivers who overcharge passengers and when the passengers refuse to give them extra fare, then those drivers fight.

Has anyone here had a fight with a rapido/uber driver over overcharging? What happened later? Did you still pay the amount that was overcharged?

Has anyone here got financially independent at a young age especially with a high salary in a tier 1 city? How did you get the job and what skills did you have?

I grew up with a narcissistic father and a doormat mom, who deserved to get divorced but never did. Cuz my mom wasn't financially independent and also divorce is a huge taboo in my country. That's why my country has the lowest divorce rate in the world, which is just 1%. Here people would rather commit suicid3 than leave the marriage. There is also no concept of one sided no fault divorce in my country.

Unfortunately, my mom also chosed to support my dad cuz she was afraid of getting kicked out of the house as my dad would always use this threat to scare us. She didn't support him directly but just use to cry and get scared of what my father's gonna do if we do something he doesn't like. She just chosed to maintain peace in the house by staying silent and trying her best to avoid conflicts especially when it involves my dad.

I believe this upbringing ruined my life.

Did you grow up with a narcissistic parent and a doormat parent who deserved to get divorced but never did?

My narcissistic father used to stop me from becoming financially independent cuz he wanted me to be his retirement plan so that I can stay with him in old age. He was more scared of me leaving in his alone in old age than of being financially dependent on him.

Did your narcissistic parents try to stop you from becoming financially independent ?

Edit: Some people are wondering how can I take care of my dad without becoming financially independent, well in my country old people get pension. My father had a govt job and in govt jobs, here the government pays them monthly pension which is half of the salary which he used to get before retirement. My father had a high rank government job so his salary was high and that's why his pension is still more than the monthly salary of more than 90% of employed people in my country. Those pension were so good that you didn't even need to save for your retirement. But now this retirement plan doesn't exist for the new generation.

My father would abuse me for not becoming financially independent but also when I have to go to a job interview and all, he'd always try to stop me from going there. And even accuse me of wanting to become prostitut3 when I wanted to get a job but also at the same time shames me that I was wasting his money.

Becuz of Google keyboard's autocorrect there were some mistakes in the title

Has anyone here ever been in a situation where someone was complimenting others for looking pretty but not you? Did you feel that the person did it on purpose? Was it in school, college or at the workplace?