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I have a crazy good job opportunity that i will be interviewing for soon. This job is going to quite literally double my hourly wage that i make now, if i get the job.

I am absolutely terrified to leave my current shop though 😭 i love my coworkers and my bosses. They are all respectful, amazing teachers, and genuinely good and funny guys. It really feels like a family. I am so comfortable here, and i honestly have it really good. I dont want to say princess treatment because i pull my weight, but the people i work with are very patient with me. My bosses are lenient and understanding, we can take time off without being reprimanded, when days are slow we mingle and have fun here. My department manager is like a grandpa to me, and they have all been so welcoming and wonderful to me. I am finally to the point where i know i truly fit in at my workplace. And i know for many women that may be hard to come by. But its generally a great atmosphere and i dont dread waking up in the morning because i love what i do!

But by taking this new job, it will be a small change of industry (quarry mechanic) and im used to small town shop work… but i have the opportunity to make upwards of 100k a year with overtime. I am so torn. Absolutely distraught!! I teared up when i told my bosses about my job interview 😭😭 i dont know if i have the strength to leave them. But this is a huge door that has opened for me and i have to give it a shot. It boils down to being able to pay my bills and have a pension (i think this new job is union affiliated which is exactly what i want) and this opportunity will give me more chances to grow in my career and get higher positions/better pay. This is a very very large company, and i do know a girl who works in the trades there!

Im afraid of leaving the people i know and love, the comfortability of my job, but im also afraid i will never get the chance to double my income at my age again. What would you do if you were in my position, or what did you do if you were in my position at one point? Please help a girl out.

Cant seem to find a good headlight or bulb for my 99, im seeing 9004 and 9007 dual beam lights but also i dont want to be an ass and put these bulbs in and end up blinding other drivers lmao. Should i look for entire new headlights that are leds or what bulbs should i get

Hi ladies! Anyone here a millwright? Im a diesel mechanic thinking about picking up a new trade and very interested in being a millwright. How do you like it and whats your day to day like? I love big machines and wrenching on stuff so im really drawn to it.

My only downfall would be the traveling… i am afraid i would miss my partner too much at home but im more afraid i will regret not making this money while im young!

How much traveling do you do and whats the farthest you have traveled? Whats the longest time you have been away from home? I know these are a little broad questions but i am curious to know as much information as possible before diving deeper. I have yet to talk to my boyfriend about this because im too scared ill miss him if i do this!! 😅😅

Basically kind of a follow up to a post i made prior asking about what trades everyone is in and how they like it. Im a diesel mechanic and really looking to get into a union trade but i have a big ask of wanting to stay close to home.

While i know basically anywhere i go im gonna have a long commute to work, thats fine, but lots of trades ive looked in to is something that requires traveling like out of state and staying in hotels and all that good stuff, “chasing shutdowns”. I know the money is on the road but ive never been on a traveling job and dont know if i could do it. I live with my fiance and enjoy coming home every night but i want to go where the money is.

Its a hard decision knowing i could quite literally change my financials and life for the better, but miss out on quality time with my loved ones. I understand its not a forever thing, but im stuck on this decision. Id love to become a millwright but i know they do some extensive traveling, just not sure if im cut out for being alone in a hotel room. I dont have enough knowledge to know where to turn that would allow me to stay close to home but have a decent paycheck

Female diesel mechanic here (non union) and been at it for a few years. Love my job, love my coworkers and the location. But i dont make enough money and never will at my small family owned shop. Benefits and insurance are simply terrible.

I want to stay in the trades because thats where the money is, but i truly dont know what i want to do. I like working with my hands, i dont mind being outside, or getting greasy. I can drive forklifts and operate equipment and all that jazz. I do speciality work on trucks and genuinely enjoy it. But, a few weeks ago, i applied to my local IBEW and i am hoping to hear from them soon. The only thing is i have been seeing so many videos and stories about union vs non union. There seems to always be a fight going on lmao. So i just dont know if im going to make the right choice. (I understand that is an opinion driven question) I want to keep my options open until i get a call from the IBEW, because i want to learn everything i possibly can.

Im in a small town an hour outside of St Louis MO, so any big corp or big job id have to travel daily for, im sure. I just want to be set straight in my career, and where im at right now is not gonna lead me there. I dont think i want to do plumbing or hvac, but theres so many trades.

I want to eventually become some sort of field or project manager, someone that oversees what work needs to be done. I know, big ask, but you never get there unless you try right?

Please, tell me what you guys do for work. Are you union or non union? Do you ENJOY it? Can you make a living that brings more than paycheck to paycheck? I have so much ambition but have no clue if the IBEW is the right idea. Or if i need to go non union and find a place with great benefits. What immediately tells you that “this is a good company and id like to work for them”?

injured myself at work gonna have to take a urine test. I hit a friends thc cart maybe a little over a month ago maybe two months. Worried i wont pass. It was one hit from a cart and im not a frequent user, havent even smoked bud since high school and this was the first time hitting a cart in years. Im of age and its legal its just embarrassing if i dont pass this shit how good are my chances. Im overthinking and nervous as fuck lmfao

Hi ladies i know theres plentyyy of threads asking about good pants and work clothes here, but im gonna be really specific

I am losing weight (good thing) and gonna need to go shopping for new work pants. I wear rural king mens cargo pants and they are great except for, every single pair i own is cut differently. (I know womens clothes have this issue too ugh!) Like seriously?? All the same sizes! One or two pairs i have totally rides up the crotch and gives me a mean cameltoe. Not something i want while working with men lol. Another pair has ripped because of my massive thighs… and another sits lower than my underwear :( major wedgie when i pull them up!!!

Now i can wear jeans at my job but im a diesel mechanic and get filthy af so i prefer the duck material/cargo type pants. Ever since i started this job i have struggled with finding comfy pants. I want something that is high rise and not so tight around crotch yeeoutch please helppp, can be men or womens pants for recommendations idc

On that note, does anyone know of what stores sell actual womens work pants? Something i can try on in store? Every good brand thats been recommended i can only buy online and that sucks !!! Why can the men have 100s of options in store but i cannot find heavy duty pants that fit my thighs! 🤦‍♀️

Im feeling really stupid right now. I am in a group chat with the other bridesmaids (i myself am a first time bridesmaid) and the bride is not in the group chat. They share things that are supposed to be kept a surprise/secret from the bride in this chat. Mind you i know NONE of these girls except for the bride. I have never even met them yet. So i cant ask the bride about what to do here.

Anyways, recently one of the other girls shared a list itinerary for the bachelorette trip we will be going on soon. It included themes as what to wear and color themes for the trip. Which none of these clothes/colors/particular things i own. One of the days is pink dresses, and another day is blue swimsuits etc… i am not a fan of pink (which is fine. I can get over this in order to not be an asshole) and i also do not own any dresses aside from my bridesmaid dress… i just dont wear dresses because they are not flattering on me/not my style. Also girls please dont laugh at me, but i dont own any bikinis 😭 So i asked this chat about whether or not we are all supposed to wear these colors, basically asking if it was required, or if i will need to go shopping.

And of course im sure i WILL go shopping for nice clothes/a swimsuit for this trip, but really i just wanted to reach out to them and ask if these color schemes are something we have to partake in (i didnt word it like that, i really wasnt trying to be an asshole while still wanting to be included!)

And yes, im a bridesmaid and im doing this for my friend, the bride, and i need to get over it. But the thing is no one replied to my question and its been almost a week. It just makes me feel reallllly silly for even asking about the situation, like i should just go with it and get over being uncomfortable wearing things out of my comfort zone. Was it valid of me to even question this lol? Its hard enough to find clothes that fit me/clothes i like, let alone a pink swimsuit.

I have a hopeful outlook on my future health. I have been on tirz for 6 weeks and have lost a total of 11.4 pounds. I am now impatient to just reach my goal and gain confidence i have never had.

I started tirz at 226 pounds, around 5’8. My heaviest i have ever been was around 260. I told myself i am never going back. I am at 215 right now. I am so hopeful that this medicine will help me reach my goal of atleast 180. That would be such a huge difference in my life and i cant wait for that day. At my smallest weight in my journey (before tirz) i hit 198 pounds, just below onederland!!! I cant wait to get back!!! I just have to share this to reaffirm myself that i can get there!

Tirz has, in the 6 weeks i have been on it, IMMENSELY reduced my food noise and cravings. I have never been so full and satisfied in my life. I can only eat a few slices of pizza before being full, while i used to eat a whole pizza plus breadsticks/sides!! I cant believe it actually works like this! Dont get me wrong, i do slip up at times and overeat a little, last night i had dinner and ice cream afterwards, and was left feeling a tad miserable. Not all the time though! I pack healthy (ish) lunches, dont snack through the day, and dont feel bloated anymore. It is amazing.

The only side effects I’ve experienced have been light constipation, but nothing a stool softener wont fix. I am on 3.5 mg currently.
I am excited to fit comfortably into jeans again, wear shirts that dont hide my body, and simply feel unashamed of my appearance. It has been a rough journey but im slowly realizing i will get there.

How long did it take you guys to reach your goal? From start to end, i am hoping to lose atleast 50 pounds. The first week of injection i went down 8 pounds, which was crazy! Now its been slower. How is everyone elses journey going?

Hi ladies! What are some things you guys do after a long day at work that makes you feel really fresh and clean? Like any particular soaps or body wash you swear by? Routines?
I love using sugar scrub to get grease off my hands and arms in the shower but sometimes i feel like thats not enough lol. And as for nail care, i have a little nail scrubby thing to get dirt out from under my nails but its just never enough! The grime lingers 😫

How long should i expect to wait to be called in for the test? I did my application in person, last week for Local 1, and mailed my high school and college transcripts. They should be arriving at the jatc at any time.

I heard from a fellow applicant in a sub that they applied to local 1 at the beginning of the year (i think) and are finally going in for an interview. I guess the jatc is currently focusing on interviews. So should i expect to wait a few months to get an email? I was hoping i would make the deadline to be able to test and interview this summer.

Hi everyone. I recently started getting more into health and wanting to try to take better care of my body. I started taking a few supplements/vitamins and wanted to know if maybe im taking too many. Im not sure if its actually possibly to take too many supplements, but wanted some advice and maybe to hear experience from others.

I started taking ashwaganda again (i took it a few years ago for only three months and then stopped) i have been taking l-theanine and magnesium glycinate as well. I am taking these because i heard they have great effects on lowering stress, better sleep, and overall a calm feeling. This is true. Before i started these supplements i was gaining weight and had hair loss due to intense stress, and these have helped tremendously. It might even be a placebo effect but i dont care hahah.

Along with those, i also take fish oil (i have high cholesterol and i was told to take these alongside a healthy diet to help lower/control it) and also apple cider vinegar gummies. Is it even possible to take too many supplements or am i good?

These may be silly questions but i am genuinely curious

23F (me) 23M (bf)

This addiction has not been a problem in my relationship lately which is good, mainly because i have not been asking or checking his phone. Also because i kind of gave up. Realized theres better things to worry about than what hes doing in the bathroom or while im not home. Been together a year and found out about the “addiction” about a month in.

-Posting here because this was where i was referred. By the way, do NOT EVER make a post about porn addiction in the sub r/askmen. I got absolutely flamed and ridiculed so thats that i guess lmao

For a while after i found out, i would be sneaky and check his phone whenever he wasnt around, and 100% of the time i’d find something. Whether it be an algorithm quite literally full of pregnant naked women on tiktok, the reddit app on his home screen (where i first discovered his addiction. Yay reddit) or some wild shit in his search history. After many MANY conversations about this, it always seemed to stop. And he told me he stopped watching it. Then i would get sick to my stomach one day and check his phone, then get even more sick after what i find. Just because he had broken my trust again. Multiple times at this point. So he got sneaky.

Like i said, it has not been a problem recently because i have basically gave up. Accepted it and keep telling myself that he loves me, hes faithful in “real life” and whatever else. I still dont think i can ever fully trust him again in this regard. We live together, we have great sex, we love eachother. But i know he has got really good at hiding it. I just dont think hes done looking at the stuff. And yes, sometimes i ask how he has been doing with his self control, if he has caved lately, and his answer has always been “ive been good.” Im not pushy with the questions. I just dont know if i care enough about it to search for something i know i might find. You know what i mean? Because obviously if i find something, thats just gonna be when i realize that he is never going to work this out or fix his issue. And im gonna have to be serious next time and threaten to leave him.

I think he kept going behind my back and doing it because he thinks im not gonna leave him. And fuck i love him so much, ive never lived with a guy and we are very serious. And please dont get me wrong, masturbating is fine. I have done it in our relationship, only thing is i dont watch porn. Domt even think about it. Why would i need that when i am attracted to my boyfriend? Maybe mens imaginations are just not as good. Idfk.

He knows my thoughts on it. Knows i hate it because it makes me feel like shit. Yeah my confidence is low as fuck. Yeah sure he tells me hes attracted to me and loves me. But he tells me that stuff and then goes to fap to a video of a pregnant woman fingering herself? Like seriously? What the fuck? I know hes attracted to that shit and im not here to kinkshame but im NOT pregnant, im not GOTH or EMO, i dont have big tits, like come ON i dont look like these women!! And he knows i fucking hate it! He knows it makes me quite literally sick!!!

Before anyone asks (like the motjerfuckers in the other sub accused me of) YES i offer sex, i offer blowjobs, i offer to try NEW THINGS!!! All the TIME! But he always wants ONE position maybe if im lucky twice a week. If you are horny COME TELL ME! Im home every night and he KNOWS i will be down for it. He just wants to use his hand on the toilet. So nasty like srsly?? Months earlier i would even catch him in the act, doing it while the shower is running and hes sitting on the toilet. Just gross dude take a shower and come have sex with your gf 10 feet away!!

Another note; im usually the one doing the work in the bedroom. So no one can argue that “its too tiring for him and masturbation is easier than focusing on making a girl finish at the same time” all he has to do is lie down. Instead he would rather jerk off to a random person on the internet.

And one more note to add!!! I had recently discovered that he PAID FOR PORN TOO!! Caught eye of his bank statement and what do ya know. Porn porn porn. Wheeewww i looked away because i was not in the mood for that. I did mention it to him later on though. He apologized and said it was automatic. Thats a lie obviously lol 😂 im not stupid!

Anyways, he knows i hate it, knows how it makes me feel, and i know its not my fault and has been a problem since he was younger. Guess i cant fault him there

Who knows, he might still be doing it he might not be. I dont know if i care enough to find out

Also found his dads social media with public likes showing half naked middle aged women HAHAH should have not done that!!! Now i fear that he may never grow out of it.

Well guys. Im “brushing up” on some math in preparation for this test. It is not going well. I did absolutely terrible in math in high school. Borderline failed algebra and i dont think i even took trigonometry or geometry. This is very frustrating and discouraging haha.
Is the aptitude test actually THIS difficult? I know that questions depends on the person but to anyone else who is NOT mathematically inclined; did you do well on the test? I am nervous for it when the time comes, but i figured i would start practicing now.

I have only started watching youtube videos on it and watched one by markyfbaby going over some math problems but is it actually this complex like algebra just does not make sense to me lmaoo

Do electricians actually even use this stuff 🤣

Anyone in local 1 able to tell me if i will make the deadline for aptitude testing and interviews this year? I dont know when those are held or when they do them. Im putting in my application next week.

My application appointment is in 5 days! I am so grateful to have the opportunity to actually apply and try to get my foot in the door.
What will i be doing at this appointment? Is it basically just filling out a job application and a bunch of paperwork? I am beyond excited.

This is for Local 1, so is there anyone who can tell me if i will make the deadline for aptitude tests and interviews? Or will i have to wait a while…

Do you guys get per diem? How often are you apprentices traveling out of local, and in that case whats your per diem like? Havent heard much about that in the ibew but im sure some of you get it

Hey everyone im applying for local 1 soon when the date of my application appointment gets here. Can anyone let me know how they are with the missed school days at the jatc (i realize now i wont be immediately starting school. I need a certain amount of field hours worked to begin classes during my apprenticeship)

How many days of school can be missed or how lenient are they? Not saying im gonna skip out because i am very committed to this, but for example if there are prior obligations that fall on a school day, are they okay with that? Same question goes for my apprenticeship. Are they cool with days off? Once again, NOT saying im planning on “skipping work” but genuinely curious. I dont know much about how the union or local 1 works. Is there PTO or is it just a “let me know beforehand” situation? Thanks

I have been on 2.5 mg for three weeks now. My next injection (week 4) will be tomorrow or Friday. I have had no side effects whatsoever, except some minor constipation but nothing too crazy. My appetite suppresses majorly on day one and day two after the shot, throughout the weekend, but then during the week it tends to rise back up a little and i catch myself eating a bit too much at lunch/dinner.

I have lost 8.2 pounds between my first injection and my third injection. So, 8.2 pounds in 3 weeks. I dont notice a difference in my body and i assume most of that was water weight and bloating. I take that back, i have NOT been bloated lately so i guess have noticed a difference off the scale!

Anyways, what would you all suggest? Can i go to 3.7mg? 4mg? Should i make the jump to 5mg? Any advice welcome and please be kind. I know its a slow process!!!