u/FlakyAssistant7681

I'm an Indian recruiter.

For the past one week, I have been trying to post a premium job on LinkedIn and every time I enter payment details, it fails after authentication.

The page displays that there is an error with one of their payment systems. Tried reaching out to their customer support but there is no resolution still. I initially thought this could be an issue with my card but I checked by entering another card detail, even tried to post the job via my teammate's LinkedIn account but nothing works.

Is anybody else facing this issue or is it just me and my team. Honestly it is quite strange.

Hi everyone. I am a 28 year old (F) working as a Senior HR Generalist for about a year. Like the title says, I do anything and everything that falls under the umbrella of an HR role. I also work/coordinate with many senior stakeholders and cater to their requests as well.

Sometimes it all feels a little too overwhelming. I hate that on most days, the first thought after I wake up is related to my work - people matters, situations, scenarios and what's on my list for the day and how to handle those issues that came my way the previous evening.

While this is all I do, I would really like to detach emotionally and mentally from work. A lot of my work deals with understanding people's issues, while they are so ungrateful and speak in a very rude tone. I do not take it to my heart, but I also hate putting on a fake face at work to behave professionally.

As the title says.

Hi, I am 28 F and recently matched with a guy via AM process. This is through a local matrimonial service.

I have been texting the guy for the last 1-2 weeks, spoke over the phone once and it was okay. We did not talk about a lot of things and it was small talks, initial casual conversation.

Initially it was a lot of small talks from his side, texting me during the work day (sometimes even double texting me)/ asking me a question and then answering it himself. I found this slightly weird and I am not very active in chat during my work day and I do tell him this and even apologise multiple times, which he understands.

However, I asked him if he would be okay to stay separately after marriage (he stays with his parents now), which is my preference, but not a compulsion to do. He said he would think and get back to me but he did not even bring up that topic later. He said he wants to talk over the phone again so I said okay. I am waiting to speak to him over a call today to clear this out, but I have a strong feeling that he will say no to moving out.

I know that a lot of men stay with their families and that it must be comfortable. But is it a lot to ask a guy to take a place together after marriage just for the 2 of us? If both of us are working, earning a decent salary and can afford to pay rent, I think I would want to stay in a separate home.

My reasons are basically 1) since it is an AM, between two different cities, there won't be a lot of time to get to know one another properly. I won't even get to know his parents so much. While they might be good people, there will be a lot of conflicts. I don't even want to stay with my own parents after marriage let alone stay with my in-laws. 2) I would feel extremely awkward about physical intimacy while staying with in-laws, no matter how big the home is.

How do I even tackle this situation if a lot of men are living with their parents and act like I have asked them for their kidney? Considering my reasons, if I only meet guys who live with their parents, should I try changing my mind about it because the AM process has been extremely draining for me. A lot of families and men who reached out to me did not even qualify on the basic criteria and randomly reach out with their profiles so right now this is the only match I have and if I reject, I'll have nothing and I don't know how long it will take me to get married.

Hello everyone, this past week, I wasn't feeling like myself and I booked an online therapy session for this afternoon.

I have been on and off therapy the past few years and somehow feel very different as the session approaches. The therapist I connected with seemed really young. I did not do much research about her because she was the only one whose slots were available at the same time as I was available.

Talking to her felt really good. I was fully present at the moment and I was able to articulate what I had in mind and everything that was bothering me. It's just a small step, but I am glad I booked a session. I was feeling extremely weird and disoriented the past few days and have nobody to talk to or share anything with. How many of you take therapy?

Edit: I had mentioned the name of the platform through which I booked the session. Removed it now as some people, even though I had mentioned this isn't a promotion were accusing me of promoting. :)

Hi, as the title suggests, I would like to know if there are any good clinics in Mangalore that come to your home to collect your blood samples for tests. If yes, please let me know a contact. Hopefully one which has good reviews, and is reputed.

A few days back, I was craving masala dosa and ordered from Ideal Cafe, which used to be my go-to place for crispy dosas. However, I noticed they've been undercooking it and the dosas are not as roasted as they were before. Another place I liked ordering food from is Sai Palace and they too have started undercooking dosas. Hell, I ordered paneer tikka the other day and it looked so raw that I had to roast it in a pan at my home. It's so frustrating because even though I complained about this to Swiggy and Zomato, no action is being taken. I'm being redirected to their email support system that took forever to hear back.

Is this happening elsewhere too? These are big restaurants and this is what they're doing. I understand that the commercial gas prices have increased, but the solution is not selling undercooked food. I am just done ordering food now. :)

I've lately noticed that whenever I order food from Swiggy and Zomato, it takes way too long for a delivery partner to be assigned. Has anybody else noticed the same?

Hi ladies, my parents introduced me to an Arranged Marriage process, a couple of months back. This is not the typical matrimonial site stuff, but rather our community specific matrimonial services which helps exchange profiles and connect. It is not via any referral. It has been hard finding suitable matches and basic preferences are filtering out the profiles for me. I have not even been able to like somebody genuinely, and there are a lot of weirdos just sending me their profiles that don't even align with the preferences I have put in my biodata.

On top of all this, I do not want to live with my future in-laws, even if they turn out to be the sweetest people on Earth. It is not very uncommon for a guy to live with his parents, but I don't think I would be even a slight bit comfortable with it, because:

1. I don't even feel very comfortable living with my own parents and have dreamt of having a space of my own, which I would want to build with my future partner

2. I want to move to Mumbai, and it offers a lot of scope to grow my career. So I'm looking for matches from there. This will not give me a lot of time to get to know my partner due to the distances. Although I'm not in a rush, I don't think that I would be able to just start living in a house with a new man, plus his parents

3. Privacy - I don't even have this in my own home and I can't comprise not having this forever. It would be an adjustment to even live with a man, as I have always enjoyed my own bed, my own space when I lived alone for a few years

4. This might be a big issue but I don't plan on having kids and it is not something that I would prioritise. I feel that living with in laws or any elder family member would mean constant nagging to make a baby

I have been told in another sub, that my preferences don't make me "marriage material". Is that right? I am not exactly desperate for marriage, but I like the idea of growing old with somebody and sharing life's experiences with that one person.

I want to hear from women, especially those who had the same concerns about living with in-laws. How did it turn out?

I'm turning 28 in a few days and for the first time, I don't know what I want. A few years ago, I was materialistic, so I bought things like a watch, wallet etc and started investing money. I don't know what to get myself this time. How did you spend your birthday and what did you get for yourself, maybe that will give me some ideas.

I visited Le sparrow a few months ago and liked the vibe. I'm looking for similar restaurants. Please suggest? I tried looking up but couldn't find anything that's suitable for going with family.

I recently matched with somebody through a matrimonial site. The contact mentioned was that of his parents and I reached out to them. They connected me to the guy and we started texting. It has been just 2 days and I noticed right from the tone of his messages that he is very informal, and came across as extroverted, compared to me. Maybe it is my profession, but even when I text a new person, I am not this informal and keep my tone neutral and don't keep very high hopes.

I had asked him a few questions to get to him a bit better, but he replied along the lines of "....you can teach me that in the future" when it came about driving a car, basically sounding like he's already thinking about the future when we have not even spoken on the phone or met each other. From the messages, I am at this point, not even feeling like this is an AM related conversation. I found it a bit awkward, as he seemed to be getting friendlier with me over text. Is this a red flag or am I overthinking?

I am 27 F and have been friends with these 2 girls for close to a decade. I was dealing with a lot of issues in my personal life and over shared with them, which I realised I shouldn't have done, considering neither of them ever share anything with each other/me. I feel like they know too much about me.

Last year, one of them got married and that was the start of our changing friendship dynamics. I felt like I did not fit into this friendship. The girl who got married is very materialistic and probably earns much more than I do, even though we both started together. I am not materialistic but whenever I see branded stuff that she has bought, I do get jealous.

The other friend, also is getting married and she kept it a secret until things were official, which I felt slightly bad about, but I understand her choice and the fear of nazar. She does not talk to us anymore, at least not like before. Neither of them have ever checked on me, not even a causal Hi/Hello even though I am in the same city. We never hang out. They are constantly busy. Earlier with college, exams, then work and now marriage. I already have only a handful of friends and now I feel like I'm slowly becoming all alone and all I have is my family, with whom I stay. I don't get along well with them. There is a lot of negative energy/talks at home but right now I don't have the option of moving out. I don't know how to cleanse this. How to not let it affect me. I had another friend in the city, but she is almost anti-social media and hardly responds to my texts. I either get her responses after 3-4 days, or never.

I've put in a lot of effort throughout the year, constantly initiating conversations, plans etc but never felt like I got the same in return. Honestly, I have distances myself a bit from them, I try not to get influenced or stressed out and go about however I can. The more I speak to them, the more distant I want to get. Should I give up on trying to make any effort on these almost broken friendships? Maybe let my heart open to newer people? That is also scary because I trust very rarely. I don't think I have had a new friend in over a decade now. It is really hard making friends in your late twenties.

Hi, I have been working as an HR Generalist for a year. I worked in TA before this, for a short period of 1.5 years. Lately, I have been feeling like there is no scope for growth in this role at my organisation. While I initially liked it, because it was a new experience and gave me the exposure I was looking for, but now I feel stuck. I report to an extremely busy manager and most of the time, work gets delayed. While she is a genuinely sweet woman, a very understanding person, I hate that I have to remind her multiple times to get something done so that I can tick off my to-dos. Even before I finish some of the tasks on my to-do list, more pile up.

I've also realised how ungrateful employees are and look down upon the HR professionals and still, there is so much we try to do here to make their work life easier.

I know I am very young in this profession and lately, I have been thinking about my future. I don't think this is what I would enjoy doing. The only reason I am still here is because I have a manager who doesn't micromanage and is not toxic. With the rise in AI, our company is slowly shifting to it and we have also been exploring a few options for our own work. It's also been slightly challenging negotiating matters with some of the seniors and I feel very demotivated when I am not able to put my thoughts across and be firm. I'm contemplating moving to a slightly more back end role in the future, one that doesn't involve a lot of regular people interaction but also pays well. Because let's be honest, HR is an extremely low paying job. At least it is in India, where I am from.

I would really love to explore my options here. One of the things I have enjoyed is the compliance side of this role as I work closely with our legal team sometimes. Is there any way I could build my skills and get a job in this domain? What are some roles? Has anybody made a switch like this? If yes, I would like to know how you did it and what's your advice for me.