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Suite à un post ou je demandais l’avis entre 2 paires de chaussures de randonnée (haute et basse), on m’a conseillé assez unanimement des chaussures de trail.

Je commence la rando ce dimanche (160kms sans trop de d+). Est-ce que ça vaut le coup d’en acheter aujourd’hui (mercredi)? J’ai la possibilité de les porter jeudi et vendredi et d’aller marcher à la salle si besoin avec. Mais est-ce suffisant ou trop proche du départ?

Hello, I’m planning on doing the WHW last week of June and I have some questions (sorry if some are common here).

I think I will go with a tent. Apart from the first day where I need to book a campsite, anything I need to need before head? Any advice?

Midges… I have been several times in Scotland so I’m aware of the damages they can do.. What equipment do I need? How annoying will they be?

Food. I want to travel as light as possible so I would prefer not to carry food. Is it possible to buy breakfast, lunch and dinner all the way?

I want to do it in 6 days since I’m travelling from France, is it reasonable? Is the 6days’ route from the official website reasonable?

It’s my first solo hike, anything else I need to know?

For the backpack, what maximum weight would you recommend? I estimate mine would be around 10kgs.

Water. Do I need my 3L water bag? Or a 1L bottle is enough? Also is tap water available all the way or will I need to filter it?

Thanks !

So I (32M) talking and flirting with a girl (34F) I met on a dating app. We connected a lot and talked a lot. We met two times already and had deep conversations.

We share many interests and have common life goals and the same vision of a couple.

So on paper it’s perfect. BUT I don’t know if I’m attracted. I got discarded by my ex like a month ago after 5 years together. It was very toxic and I feel a lot better now that I’m not with her. So I don’t know but I’m holding back with this new girl. I feel like she’s starting to get feelings and I don’t want to hurt her.

I don’t know what to do to and if I should keep going a bit more to see where it goes? I don’t think it will hurt but I don’t want to take advantage of her. I’m not interested in having sex and leaving right after, I feel like it’s shitty but I think it may happens soon..

My ex (F31) and I (M32) spent 9 years together from 15 years old to 24. When we broke up, I quickly started no contact but after few months she started reaching. The first year was difficult then I moved on.

After that she reached regularly like every 3-6 months. 3 years ago we even met a few times. She tried to have sex with me but I pushed her away. I like her as a friend but she banged the whole world after me so I’m not interested anymore.

Anyway a month ago, my last gf broke up (after 5 years). So I reached out to my first ex. She knows and understands me so I guess I was looking for comfort or at least friendly talks. She said, she didn’t want to be my therapist. I respected that and stop reaching. But 2 days ago I sent a dumb reel on insta, she laughed and I said it would be fun to start talking again a bit. She then straight up blocked me.

I’m not sad or anything but it’s a bit distributing and I don’t really know what to make of that

Basically the title. We broke, I learnt she cheated and lied. I can ask a common friend for more information (who, when, etc…). I know some of it but not the extent of the lies.
I learnt nasty stuff but I wonder if it’s actually worst.

Would you want to know everything or just the fact that they lied is enough? And why?

Hello, so I’m currently going through a traumatic moment. My girl broke up with me and cheated and lied how pretty much everything for years. My life was not real.

But that’s not the point. I’m currently looking at myself, thinking what went wrong and why I stayed when I knew I should I have left.

And I think I want and need to be loved.

And so I remember I have a thought, that I had many times and at different moments of my life. I picturing myself having a tragic accident or even dying and trying to picture how my close relatives, family, friends or gf reacts. Even when I’m ok. I’m not suicidal and would never do that. So I’m wondering if that’s something that normal people think about from time to time?

Hi,

It’s 3AM now, and after struggling all day I finally feel better, and I don’t want to sleep because I know I’m just gonna wake up to feel sad again.

Instead I’m gonna write all the hate I have towards you. And I am never sending you this because it will only give you the satisfaction that I care so much to do it.

What you did was the most atrocious thing you could have done. I would have accepted a clean break up. I would accepted you leave me for someone else. But no. No you didn’t do just that. You lied, you cheated. And not once. Not accidentally. But repeatedly, with different guys, on purpose. You actually worked actively on that, on dating apps. You probably don’t know I know now. It is so messed up.

So now, not only I have to cry for losing you, losing the woman I loved with all my heart, the woman I wanted to build a future with, but also the fact that none of it was true. You couldn’t even left me memories to cherish.

And I hate you for that, I hate you so much. I will hate you forever. You wasted 5 years of my life. And now I’m left alone, broken and I hate myself. I hate myself for staying when I could and should I left, I hate myself for hoping, for believing in you and in us. I hate myself so much you have no idea. And you did that. I have never doubted myself than these last months. And turns out I was right all along?

So no, I don’t wish you well. I wish you pain, so much pain. Even 10% of what I’m feeling right now would suits me. But what’s the point, you can’t even feel pain. You can’t feel anything. You kept me for years, lied and manipulated me, for years. You stole years from me. I don’t believe anyone who can feel something would do that.
I’ve always been positive about everything and now I can only see negativity, like you.

You broke me, you destroyed me, I’m dead inside.

I wish I’ve never met you.

I love you and I hate you for that.
You are the worst thing that has ever happened to me.

Hello, I’m not sure I’m in the right place, but I got broken up with my ex 5 days ago. Since then I learnt many things, like so much lies and cheating. And the past 4 years have been difficult and I didn’t really realized it because I was so in love with her.

I spent years working on myself, working on my paranoia and fear of abandonment.

I want to start therapy, and I will but I have trouble finding a good therapist. So meanwhile, how do you process that? How do I process the constant pain of losing the woman I love, at the same time as the anger and the shame for having been such a fool? And not to forget the self estime close to zero now…

She gave me my stuff back but I need to make sure she deletes all my personal data (we were looking for a flat so she has everything). Also she kept my ps4, where I’m still logged in, I don’t care about the console but she needs to log off.

Should I break NC to ask that? I really don’t want to.

Im wondering if I should cut my friend out of my life. My ex broke up and cheated and lied to me.

I went no contact the second she told me.

But we have a friend in common, that is talking to both of us. She doesn’t tell me anything about my ex, but she kinda justified her actions because she got her version.

What would you do in a situation like this?

Also if that’s relevant, we all live in different cities, so it’s not like I’ll run into my ex.

Im gonna give a bit of context for better understand my question and I’ll reply in comments if necessary.

For the past few months, things have been difficult with my gf of 5 years. She wouldn’t commit and still live together. Other from that we were happy together. But for the past 3 weeks, she has been in depression crisis, rethinking every aspects of her life (family, job, herself and our couple). So I gave her space, and it was hard and painful as I have anxious attachment. But I did it anyway, I fought, we fought. We talked a lot and told ourself we would get over it, together.

Yesterday, we met. I sensed instantly something was wrong. We was cheating. She « fell in love » with someone else and been with him. I left almost instantly, didn’t cared for details or apologizes.

Thing is, she came at my place the day before because I was away to take her stuff and give mine back. And she left a letter.

This letter is completely bullshit. She says I save her, made her someone better, that I am amazing all and all.

So now I feel so angry, she’s trying to clear her conscience, make it seems this is a clean breakup and she did the right thing. I’m so mad and I don’t want her to find peace. I want her to know that she screwed up so bad and that she is a bad person. I want her to face reality and consequences. I don’t want to just disappear and make it easy.

I will go no contact, but I think I need to tell her these things.

What do you think?

Im gonna give a bit of context for better understand my question and I’ll reply in comments if necessary.

For the past few months, things have been difficult with my gf of 5 years. She wouldn’t commit and still live together. Other from that we were happy together. But for the past 3 weeks, she has been in depression crisis, rethinking every aspects of her life (family, job, herself and our couple). So I gave her space, and it was hard and painful as I have anxious attachment. But I did it anyway, I fought, we fought. We talked a lot and told ourself we would get over it, together.

Yesterday, we met. I sensed instantly something was wrong. We was cheating. She « fell in love » with someone else and been with him. I left almost instantly, didn’t cared for details or apologizes.

Thing is, she came at my place the day before because I was away to take her stuff and give mine back. And she left a letter.

This letter is completely bullshit. She says I save her, made her someone better, that I am amazing all and all.

So now I feel so angry, she’s trying to clear her conscience, make it seems this is a clean breakup and she did the right thing. I’m so mad and I don’t want her to find peace. I want her to know that she screwed up so bad and that she is a bad person. I want her to face reality and consequences. I don’t want to just disappear and make it easy.

I will go no contact, but I think I need to tell her these things.

What do you think?

My girlfriend of 5 years is in a full depression phase for the second time. Her doctor prescribed her time of work and meds. She is now lost in every aspects of her life; family, job, hobbies and even our relationship.

I have a huge fear of abandonment and she’s now avoiding. I am then fully triggered, a lot of anxiety and fear all the time. We barely talk and meet. I’m afraid she is going to break up at any time.

I love her so much and I want to help her but there is nothing I can do. She said that only respecting the distance helps and she’s grateful for that. Then a day later she doesn’t know if she wants to be with me.

It is so hard to handle, I’m in a lot of pain.

Are there people like me here who have been through something similar? Anyone to talk? I feel so lonely. Everyone tells to stop and breakup. I don’t want to but I don’t know what to do. I want to be with her.

Help please

My girlfriend of 5 years is in a full depression phase for the second time. Her doctor prescribed her time of work and meds. She is now lost in every aspects of her life; family, job, hobbies and even our relationship.

I have a huge fear of abandonment and she’s now avoiding. I am then fully triggered, a lot of anxiety and fear all the time. We barely talk and meet. I’m afraid she is going to break up at any time.

I love her so much and I want to help her but there is nothing I can do. She said that only respecting the distance helps and she’s grateful for that. Then a day later she doesn’t if she wants to be with me.

It is so hard to handle, I’m in a lot of pain.

Are there people like me here who have been through something similar? Anyone to talk? I feel so lonely. Everyone tells to stop and breakup. I don’t want to but I don’t know what to do. I want to be with her.

Help please