u/Fragrant-Pop-170

How much choice do we actually get in building our lives? Do we really get a say or are we just really supposed to live a life under rigid conditions?

Context: All my life, I have wanted to be an engineer. I grew up in a very conservative family and little career or emotional support. At the ripe old age of 30 I managed to study engineering in a different country, paying out of pocket, after fighting a lot of shit. Now that I am done, I feel like there's no way I'll get to ever actually work as an engineer or call myself one. My home country is technologically severely underdeveloped, there are no jobs for me there. The job market of the country I am in right now is not very favourable for an immigrant student, esp one with no real experience.

This is not a job search frustration for me, this is all that matters to me. I cannot imagine going back to my family, or see the point of living a life if I cannot accomplish this goal. I'm not being dramatic, my path to come study here was forged with blood, sweat and tears. Nothing else will make me feel like I am a person of worth. I am not suicidal, this is just how things are for me. If I can land a job here I will finally choose my own life, going home would mean surviving, not living, seeing as how rigid that society was to me growing up and how stuck in its ways it still is. I have dabbled in magick (simple manifesting, candlework) but haven’t seen any changes.

I want something so much yet I cannot see it happening for me with my odds. Does my will not matter? Do you have any magickal advice for me? Is there no way I carve my path out in the world, are some of us really that limited when it comes to choices?

I moved from a developing country to a first world country last year. I am 30. I didn’t know I have severe emotional regulation problems so I completed my undergrad in my home country with very average grades, not enough to secure me a scholarship. I am doing a postgrad now, paying out of pocket, but the job prospects are looking pretty grim. I need to secure a job that fulfils certain conditions to be able to live here. I cannot imagine going back, my family is vicious with their words. My marriage is a mess, I think I chose an irresponsible partner. The life of an immigrant is not easy, especially when you have no one to be proud of you, to give you words of encouragement back home. I feel like I cannot breathe until I somehow secure a job that would allow me to stay here. This would be my ticket to an independent life. I don't want to go back to my family or my husband. With so many rules restricting my career prospects here, I feel powerless. I want one opportunity to take back my life.

Please tell me who I can reach out to. Please tell me what I should do.

I am an international student studying for a postgraduate degree in Germany. My spouse holds a skilled worker visa and I am eligible for a skilled worker dependent visa. We are both citizens of a third country, which is part of the developing world. My priority is to finish my German University degree first so I'm not applying for the dependent visa yet. My question is, is it going to lower my chances of approval because my partner is a long time resident of the UK? Should I explain the situation in the cover letter stating that I do not intend to move to the UK yet so I am applying for a visitor visa? The purpose of my visit would be a conjugal visit. My spouse has been building a life of her own in the UK for so long and I want us to reunite briefly before I move to the UK in the next two years. I have around £9k in my account which comes from my inheritance after both my parents have passed away.

I'm worried that the Home Office might think I would not leave the UK after my visa ends but if I wanted that, I would apply as a SW dependent. What is the best course of action to ensure that my visitor visa application would be approved?

Who is the God to reach out to when you feel insignificant? Who can help someone make something of themselves? I know all of them can help in some regard but who crosses your mind when you see someone at their absolute bottom, desperate for a way out?

I have a Bachelor in Physics and Master's in RF focused Electronic Engineering. I am in the UK but I am from a non-EU country. Most of the positions in the industry require UK or EU citizenship. I'm considering gaining experience in Lab Tech roles so I can brush up my skills. My chances of getting hired as an RF engineer without a security clearance (and without industry experience) is pretty slim as far as I can see. Is it a bad idea to work one or two years as a lab tech and then apply for engineering positions? I'd rather have some sort of RF experience in my CV than non-RF roles.

I am someone whose face and scalp sweats a lot especially when I put any product on. I have zero idea how to survive this heatwave. I have been religiously applying the Beauty of Joseon sunscreen every two hours whenever I leave my home. But I sweat so much (esp indoors with no fan/wind) I don't know how much of the sunscreen actually stays on my skin. I googled a bit and was advised to use water based products instead of oil based but won't the water-based products get washed off even more easily when I sweat?

I could go without sunscreen but I have been using tretinoin, going bare skinned is going to undo the progress I've made thus far.

Skin type: Very dry, sensitive, sweat-prone.

Routine:

AM: Illiyoon Ato Ceramide Moisturizing Cream (only on the days my skin feels too dry, very light layer)

Beauty of Joseon Relief Sun Rice+B5 Sunscreen SPF 50 (Every two hours if I go out)

PM:

Cleanser: Cetaphil cleanser

Active Ingredient: Tretinoin 0.05%

Moisturizer: Illiyoon Ato Ceramide Moisturizing cream (heavy layer)

Then I sometimes use Vaseline to slug if my skin feels too dry.

Please suggest me a sunscreen that would at least stay on my skin and give me the protection I need. I am brown skinned, I'd love something without the white cast. Please help! 😭

I have always had a problem with intrusive thoughts. This question is especially aimed at people who have done Success Magick.

When I do the part of 'giving away' the gift, we are supposed to imagine that everyone on the planet is getting benefits from the gift and becoming successful, right? My mind has recently started asking "What about serial killers though? Do they also benefit from the gift of, say, endurance and commit more murders?" I ignore it and finish the task, however I feel extremely annoyed that I have 'ruined' the magick.

How do I tame my mind? How do I keep doing magick daily if my mind does not cooperate with me at important magickal moments?

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Hi, I bought a physical copy of Wealth Magick back when I was living in a country where Amazon was not accessible. I paid thrice the original price to get it shipped via a third party. I currently live in the UK and am able to access GOM works much more easily. If you are more comfortable with the physical books and want to do Wealth Magick, hit me up. The book is completely new as I hadn't have the time to work with it. I can arrange a delivery. I am working FTM and SM and in the future if I do WM, I would choose the kindle version.

I got a Mona Lisa CuT 380A inserted today. It's a 10 year one. I'm really happy to report that I haven’t felt any debilitating pain. I had to travel to the neighbouring city for it. I didn’t take any painkillers before, just had a good sized meal. The entire appointment took less than half an hour, including getting briefed by the doctor. I didn’t take a pad with me so I was given one for the post-insertion bleeding. I was advised to eat iron-rich foods or take iron supplements.

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How does Hera influence people's marriage? Will she be willing to help someone whose marriage is struggling? Or will she cause it to fall apart in case this marriage is not aligned with the worshipper's best interest?

Also I live in a dormitory and I am not the best at housekeeping. I know miasma has more to do with death and bad energy, so will I be okay in that regard if my room is not clean?

What the title says. If he met a woman in the bar, came home and jerked off to her, and admitted this to you later, is this a deal breaker? My heart is numb. I'm not sure what I'm feeling, or what to do.

Men's advice welcome as well.

I don't think I ever had a normal sex dream in my life where I was enjoying normal sex. It's always a man trying to take advantage of me or forcing him on me and me enjoying it immensely. When I wake up this feels weird. What does it say about my animus and anima when the only way I can enjoy sex is feeling like a prey? I cannot help wondering if this is a signal from my unconscious to work on some part of my life but I'm not sure which. Can anyone shed some light on it?

I have a gold necklace that I intend to give to Clauneck. I heard he likes gold. This piece is pretty significant to me as this was gifted to me when I got married. Should I keep it at his altar? That might cause security risks as it would be exposed to people. Is it okay to keep it locked? Can I wear the piece of jewellery after giving it to him?

Also I would love to hear your experiences with Clauneck. How did you know he was right for you? How is the relationship going so far?

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I am open to long term workings. I need a job in my field that will also sponsor a visa in a specific country. I don't think narrowing it down to my field is actually going to limit my options, because my field is somewhat in demand. But with the world's unstable economy and my visa requirements, it feels quite difficult.

I am doing Success Magick, and Financial Transformation Magick. What should I try for this specific purpose? I have enough time on my hands but I also want the peace of mind that this is achievable it the end. Should I try establishing a relationship with a specific demon or an angel? Has anyone been able to secure a desired job with their specific list of requirements using magick? In the Empowered Angels book there is a power of Poiel to 'Obtain Your Desire'. Can I do this one repeatedly or does it doing multiple times harm the chances of success?

Please leave your suggestions especially if you have experience with this sort of thing.

So 7th House profection years are supposed to be about relationships, right? Why am I then moving to a completely new place/country every 7th house profection year and completely reinventing my life? Should this not happen during 1st house profection?

My 7th house is Aries/ has a Taurus moon there so it does not even make sense. I would somewhat get it if there was some Sagittarius involved. But nope! How does a freaking Taurus moon make so many changes?

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