u/Fuzzy-Lifeguard7229

Hey everyone, I really need some astro-insight into this situation because my Cancer intuition is spinning and I’m deeply confused.

The Backstory:

I knew this Pisces guy years ago. We briefly connected on social media, but my ex-boyfriend at the time deleted him out of jealousy, so we lost touch. Fast forward 3 years later: I’ve been single for 6 months after a heavy breakup, and I randomly added him on Strava. He immediately added me back there and on Facebook, we started messaging, and eventually went out for drinks.

The Connection:

The first few dates felt like that classic, effortless Water-Water synastry.

1st Date: Talked for hours, he was incredibly gentlemanly, drove me home, and kissed me. He pursued me heavily right after.

2nd Date: At his place. We made out, but my protective Cancer shell was up, I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I was still healing from my breakup. He was incredibly respectful, sweet, and kept texting me every day.

3rd Date: We finally had sex. I was so nervous (hadn’t been intimate in a year), but he was patient and understanding, channeling that gentle Pisces energy.

4th Date: Pure magic. We stayed in, cuddled, listened to music, talked deeply, and he even sang to me. I finally felt my walls drop completely and felt safe. The next day, he was already talking about seeing me again after I got back from a short trip out of town.

The Ghosting / Hot & Cold Shift:

As soon as I got back from my trip, his energy completely shifted. The mutable Pisces tide rolled out.He started replying hours apart, claiming he got sick, and stopped initiating plans.I tried to match his energy and match his pace rather than double-texting.

A few days ago, I sent him a picture while out. He replied really flirtatiously, so I thought the vibe was back. I jokingly invited him over (knowing he was working), and... he left me on delivered.

The Confusing Part:

It has been 4 days since he left my message on delivered. But, during these 4 days, he has liked every single Instagram story I post and every single Strava activity I upload almost instantly.

As a Cancer, I crave emotional clarity, and this hot-and-cold routine is triggering my anxiety. I know Pisces men are famous for swimming away when things get real, getting overwhelmed, or playing the elusive "ghost," but why the hyper-vigilant social media liking if he's done?

Is he pulling a classic Pisces fade because the intimacy got too real and he's scared of the emotional depth?

Or is he breadcrumbing me to keep me as an option?

Would love to hear from other Cancers, Pisces, or anyone who understands Water sign dynamics. What is going on in his foggy Pisces head?

Hi, I need honest opinions because I feel confused by this situation.

I knew this guy from years ago. We had each other on Instagram briefly back then, but when I got into a relationship my boyfriend removed him from my socials out of jealousy, so we lost contact.

Fast forward 3 years later, I had been single again for around 6 months and added him on Strava. He added me back there and on Facebook too. We started messaging and eventually went on a drinks date.

The first date went really well. We talked for hours, he was very gentleman-like, brought me home and kissed me at the end. After that he kept messaging me and wanted to see me again.

The second date was at his place watching a movie and having cocktails. We made out, but I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I hadn’t dated anyone seriously after my breakup. He was respectful about it, drove me home, and kept talking to me every day after that.

Third date we had sex for the first time. I was nervous because I hadn’t had sex in about a year, but he was sweet and understanding. After that he still kept messaging me normally and even planned another date.

Fourth date honestly felt perfect to me. We stayed in, had sex again, cuddled, listened to music, talked a lot, he even sang to me lol. I finally stopped feeling shy around him and felt really comfortable. When he dropped me home, the next day he already mentioned wanting to see me again after the weekend because I was leaving town for a few days.

But after I came back, his energy completely changed.

He started replying very slowly (hours apart), saying he got sick, stopped mentioning plans, and became distant. I tried matching his energy instead of double texting. Then one day I sent him a picture while I was out and he replied flirtatiously, so I assumed he was still interested. I jokingly invited him over knowing he was working, and he left me on delivered.

That was 4 days ago and he still hasn’t answered.

The confusing part is that during these 4 days he has liked every single story I post and every activity I upload on Strava almost immediately.

So now I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening.

Is this soft ghosting? Loss of interest after intimacy? Someone keeping options open? Or does this sound like someone who genuinely might have something going on but still likes me?

For context, he’s 34 and I’m 28.

Hi, I need honest opinions because I feel confused by this situation.

I knew this guy from years ago. We had each other on Instagram briefly back then, but when I got into a relationship my boyfriend removed him from my socials out of jealousy, so we lost contact.

Fast forward 3 years later, I had been single again for around 6 months and added him on Strava. He added me back there and on Facebook too. We started messaging and eventually went on a drinks date.

The first date went really well. We talked for hours, he was very gentleman-like, brought me home and kissed me at the end. After that he kept messaging me and wanted to see me again.

The second date was at his place watching a movie and having cocktails. We made out, but I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I hadn’t dated anyone seriously after my breakup. He was respectful about it, drove me home, and kept talking to me every day after that.

Third date we had sex for the first time. I was nervous because I hadn’t had sex in about a year, but he was sweet and understanding. After that he still kept messaging me normally and even planned another date.

Fourth date honestly felt perfect to me. We stayed in, had sex again, cuddled, listened to music, talked a lot, he even sang to me lol. I finally stopped feeling shy around him and felt really comfortable. When he dropped me home, the next day he already mentioned wanting to see me again after the weekend because I was leaving town for a few days.

But after I came back, his energy completely changed.

He started replying very slowly (hours apart), saying he got sick, stopped mentioning plans, and became distant. I tried matching his energy instead of double texting. Then one day I sent him a picture while I was out and he replied flirtatiously, so I assumed he was still interested. I jokingly invited him over knowing he was working, and he left me on delivered.

That was 4 days ago and he still hasn’t answered.

The confusing part is that during these 4 days he has liked every single story I post and every activity I upload on Strava almost immediately.

So now I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening.

Is this soft ghosting? Loss of interest after intimacy? Someone keeping options open? Or does this sound like someone who genuinely might have something going on but still likes me?

For context, he’s 34 and I’m 28.

Hi, I need honest opinions because I feel confused by this situation.

I knew this guy from years ago. We had each other on Instagram briefly back then, but when I got into a relationship my boyfriend removed him from my socials out of jealousy, so we lost contact.

Fast forward 3 years later, I had been single again for around 6 months and added him on Strava. He added me back there and on Facebook too. We started messaging and eventually went on a drinks date.

The first date went really well. We talked for hours, he was very gentleman-like, brought me home and kissed me at the end. After that he kept messaging me and wanted to see me again.

The second date was at his place watching a movie and having cocktails. We made out, but I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I hadn’t dated anyone seriously after my breakup. He was respectful about it, drove me home, and kept talking to me every day after that.

Third date we had sex for the first time. I was nervous because I hadn’t had sex in about a year, but he was sweet and understanding. After that he still kept messaging me normally and even planned another date.

Fourth date honestly felt perfect to me. We stayed in, had sex again, cuddled, listened to music, talked a lot, he even sang to me lol. I finally stopped feeling shy around him and felt really comfortable. When he dropped me home, the next day he already mentioned wanting to see me again after the weekend because I was leaving town for a few days.

But after I came back, his energy completely changed.

He started replying very slowly (hours apart), saying he got sick, stopped mentioning plans, and became distant. I tried matching his energy instead of double texting. Then one day I sent him a picture while I was out and he replied flirtatiously, so I assumed he was still interested. I jokingly invited him over knowing he was working, and he left me on delivered.

That was 4 days ago and he still hasn’t answered.

The confusing part is that during these 4 days he has liked every single story I post and every activity I upload on Strava almost immediately.

So now I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening.

Is this soft ghosting? Loss of interest after intimacy? Someone keeping options open? Or does this sound like someone who genuinely might have something going on but still likes me?

For context, he’s 34 and I’m 28.

Hi, I need honest opinions because I feel confused by this situation.

I knew this guy from years ago. We had each other on Instagram briefly back then, but when I got into a relationship my ex removed him from my socials out of jealousy, so we lost contact.

Fast forward 3 years later, I had been single again for around 6 months and added him on Strava. He added me back there and on Facebook too. We started messaging and eventually went on a drinks date.

The first date went really well. We talked for hours, he was very gentleman-like, brought me home and kissed me at the end. After that he kept messaging me and wanted to see me again.

The second date was at his place watching a movie and having cocktails. We made out, but I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I hadn’t dated anyone seriously after my breakup. He was respectful about it, drove me home, and kept talking to me every day after that.

Third date we had sex for the first time. I was nervous because I hadn’t had sex in about a year, but he was sweet and understanding. After that he still kept messaging me normally and even planned another date.

Fourth date honestly felt perfect to me. We stayed in, had sex again, cuddled, listened to music, talked a lot, he even sang to me lol. I finally stopped feeling shy around him and felt really comfortable. When he dropped me home, the next day he already mentioned wanting to see me again after the weekend because I was leaving town for a few days.

But after I came back, his energy completely changed.

He started replying very slowly (hours apart), saying he got sick, stopped mentioning plans, and became distant. I tried matching his energy instead of double texting. Then one day I sent him a picture while I was out and he replied flirtatiously, so I assumed he was still interested. I jokingly invited him over knowing he was working, and he left me on delivered.

That was 4 days ago and he still hasn’t answered.

The confusing part is that during these 4 days he has liked every single story I post and every activity I upload on Strava almost immediately.

So now I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening.

Is this soft ghosting? Loss of interest after intimacy? Someone keeping options open? Or does this sound like someone who genuinely might have something going on but still likes me?

For context, he’s 34 and I’m 28.

Hi, I need honest opinions because I feel confused by this situation.

I knew this guy from years ago. We had each other on Instagram briefly back then, but when I got into a relationship my boyfriend removed him from my socials out of jealousy, so we lost contact.

Fast forward 3 years later, I had been single again for around 6 months and added him on Strava. He added me back there and on Facebook too. We started messaging and eventually went on a drinks date.

The first date went really well. We talked for hours, he was very gentleman-like, brought me home and kissed me at the end. After that he kept messaging me and wanted to see me again.

The second date was at his place watching a movie and having cocktails. We made out, but I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I hadn’t dated anyone seriously after my breakup. He was respectful about it, drove me home, and kept talking to me every day after that.

Third date we had sex for the first time. I was nervous because I hadn’t had sex in about a year, but he was sweet and understanding. After that he still kept messaging me normally and even planned another date.

Fourth date honestly felt perfect to me. We stayed in, had sex again, cuddled, listened to music, talked a lot, he even sang to me lol. I finally stopped feeling shy around him and felt really comfortable. When he dropped me home, the next day he already mentioned wanting to see me again after the weekend because I was leaving town for a few days.

But after I came back, his energy completely changed.

He started replying very slowly (hours apart), saying he got sick, stopped mentioning plans, and became distant. I tried matching his energy instead of double texting. Then one day I sent him a picture while I was out and he replied flirtatiously, so I assumed he was still interested. I jokingly invited him over knowing he was working, and he left me on delivered.

That was 4 days ago and he still hasn’t answered.

The confusing part is that during these 4 days he has liked every single story I post and every activity I upload on Strava almost immediately.

So now I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening.

Is this soft ghosting? Loss of interest after intimacy? Someone keeping options open? Or does this sound like someone who genuinely might have something going on but still likes me?

For context, he’s 34 and I’m 28.

Hi, I need honest opinions because I feel confused by this situation.

I knew this guy from years ago. We had each other on Instagram briefly back then, but when I got into a relationship my boyfriend removed him from my socials out of jealousy, so we lost contact.

Fast forward 3 years later, I had been single again for around 6 months and added him on Strava. He added me back there and on Facebook too. We started messaging and eventually went on a drinks date.

The first date went really well. We talked for hours, he was very gentleman-like, brought me home and kissed me at the end. After that he kept messaging me and wanted to see me again.

The second date was at his place watching a movie and having cocktails. We made out, but I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I hadn’t dated anyone seriously after my breakup. He was respectful about it, drove me home, and kept talking to me every day after that.

Third date we had sex for the first time. I was nervous because I hadn’t had sex in about a year, but he was sweet and understanding. After that he still kept messaging me normally and even planned another date.

Fourth date honestly felt perfect to me. We stayed in, had sex again, cuddled, listened to music, talked a lot, he even sang to me lol. I finally stopped feeling shy around him and felt really comfortable. When he dropped me home, the next day he already mentioned wanting to see me again after the weekend because I was leaving town for a few days.

But after I came back, his energy completely changed.

He started replying very slowly (hours apart), saying he got sick, stopped mentioning plans, and became distant. I tried matching his energy instead of double texting. Then one day I sent him a picture while I was out and he replied flirtatiously, so I assumed he was still interested. I jokingly invited him over knowing he was working, and he left me on delivered.

That was 4 days ago and he still hasn’t answered.

The confusing part is that during these 4 days he has liked every single story I post and every activity I upload on Strava almost immediately.

So now I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening.

Is this soft ghosting? Loss of interest after intimacy? Someone keeping options open? Or does this sound like someone who genuinely might have something going on but still likes me?

For context, he’s 34 and I’m 28.

Hi, I need honest opinions because I feel confused by this situation.

I knew this guy from years ago. We had each other on Instagram briefly back then, but when I got into a relationship my boyfriend removed him from my socials out of jealousy, so we lost contact.

Fast forward 3 years later, I had been single again for around 6 months and added him on Strava. He added me back there and on Facebook too. We started messaging and eventually went on a drinks date.

The first date went really well. We talked for hours, he was very gentleman-like, brought me home and kissed me at the end. After that he kept messaging me and wanted to see me again.

The second date was at his place watching a movie and having cocktails. We made out, but I told him I wasn’t ready for sex yet because I hadn’t dated anyone seriously after my breakup. He was respectful about it, drove me home, and kept talking to me every day after that.

Third date we had sex for the first time. I was nervous because I hadn’t had sex in about a year, but he was sweet and understanding. After that he still kept messaging me normally and even planned another date.

Fourth date honestly felt perfect to me. We stayed in, had sex again, cuddled, listened to music, talked a lot, he even sang to me lol. I finally stopped feeling shy around him and felt really comfortable. When he dropped me home, the next day he already mentioned wanting to see me again after the weekend because I was leaving town for a few days.

But after I came back, his energy completely changed.

He started replying very slowly (hours apart), saying he got sick, stopped mentioning plans, and became distant. I tried matching his energy instead of double texting. Then one day I sent him a picture while I was out and he replied flirtatiously, so I assumed he was still interested. I jokingly invited him over knowing he was working, and he left me on delivered.

That was 4 days ago and he still hasn’t answered.

The confusing part is that during these 4 days he has liked every single story I post and every activity I upload on Strava almost immediately.

So now I genuinely don’t understand what’s happening.

Is this soft ghosting? Loss of interest after intimacy? Someone keeping options open? Or does this sound like someone who genuinely might have something going on but still likes me?

For context, he’s 34 and I’m 28.