u/GoFigure284

Someone matched with me yesterday, and he liked a prompt of mine that said I was looking for someone fit/in shape. I scrolled down to his prompts, and the "You should not go out with me if"... and he answered, "You don't like chubby guys."

When I looked at his pics, he was lean. I thought since he liked my prompt about wanting someone fit, maybe he recently dropped weight and was working out and just hadn't updated his profile. When I returned the match, I asked if his pics were current. He admitted that he has put on "some weight recently and his pics were in the last year." He also said that he decided to add that prompt because a couple women were shocked by his appearance in person.

Can y'all please be honest about what you currently look like? He intentionally deceived women by putting up pics when he was thin. People aren't going to suddenly see how great you are in person and completely forget about you looking totally different.

I make it a rule to never go under 100 rubies in the game just in case there is something big that I need and don't want to merge it. I had 122 rubies yesterday, and today, it's down to 99. I didn't purchase any energy or any other items! Has this happened to anyone else?

Goodness, gracious, could the devs please stop with the constant updates? It's like every few days, and many of them take forever. Couple that with being spammed with a ton of events as soon as you log on, and it becomes almost insufferable.

We've (women) been very vocal about the influx of messages from men asking for sex on this dating app. I actually saw a couple of men say that men need to have sex with us first to determine how they want to pursue us, if at all. Basically saying that we have to audition ourselves with our bodies to see if a man finds us worthy. This is such disgusting ideology. And just another way for some men to use this nonsense to get quick and easy sex.

EDIT: The amount of downvotes from men speaks volumes. A woman doesn't need to prove herself worthy of a relationship by taking off her clothes. Asking for sex on the first meeting to see how he feels about you is manipulative. But I expected nothing less from this sub.

Do the men in this sub understand what I'm saying? I'm talking about men messaging for sex on dating apps before even meeting you and the men who condone this by saying that a guy needs to see if you're relationship material first!

"He only thought you were good enough for sex."Stop thinking you're going to have a beautiful life with guys in the top 10%."Why would he put effort into a 5 when he could have a 10? "Your profile pictures must be too sexual. That 's why guys are swiping for a hookup."Maybe stop matching with men who are too good looking. You're not their priority."

These are just several of the responses I've seen in this sub, either said to me or other women. They say these things without knowing anything about us except that we posted our frustrations in this sub. Almost like it's a sport for them to soothe their ego because they aren't getting matching from anyone.

He was on a motorcycle, and when my food arrived, it looked like it had gone through a tornado! The food containers had opened up and spilled everywhere inside the bag. The bag wasn't tied up, and I know he must have seen the condition of the food. He half approached the door and extended his arm out to hand it to me before running back to his bike. I was horrified when I opened the bag. I threw everything out. I tipped him 25% (about $10) to go 7 minutes from my place. This is why tipping should only occur after delivery. I can't fathom picking up people's food on a motorcycle without ensuring that it's properly secured.

I genuinely do not understand why so many men in this sub think that a woman doesn't have the right to be upset being reduced to some sort of call girl on dating apps. The whole "He took his shot, and you weren't into it. Move on. People enjoy sex and will ask for it," argument is exhausting. Men do not understand that when a woman takes the time to put up nice pictures, fill out a well-thoughout bio seeking a long-term relationship and get men matching with her who think she should be flattered he asked for sex, it isn't simply "Who cares that he asked." It's being reduced to a literal prostitute. Why wouldn't we be offended??

And I mean the very FIRST message they send to you. Not even "How's your day going?" A man sent me this very message today on Hinge. When I asked why he wanted to match, he unmatched. I already knew what he was after. That is not the first time that this has happened.

I am really getting tired of some men treating dating apps like they're an escort service. Women are not put on this planet to fulfill your sexual needs in the moment.

I have been playing this game for a while. I'm over a level 50 badge, but I am seriously considering just uninstalling it. The pop-ups, when you first start the game, are absolutely out of control. I have to literally X out of about 15 of them. I really wish they would change this. There is absolutely no need to be bombarded with so many events and discounts at once.

I had a customer come in at 7 pm and ordered 3 everything pizzas! I currently have like 17 toppings. I couldn't give her flowers to extend time, and after putting EVERYTHING on all 3, she was still unhappy. Cost me a refund of $98 dollars. I was so livid that I closed the app. Taking that loss hurt 🤣

It never dawned on me until recently that men who have maybe one pic of their face and the rest are hidden behind the phone in mirror selfies and the others are just random pics of things like their pet, food, etc., are probably cheating on a wife or girlfriend. I'm not saying all who do this are, but it sure comes across as trying to hide something. I wonder how many women actually don't see past that and match with the guy?

Does anyone else have a problem with lagging? Toppings will suddenly stop working, the customer's percentage will wind down at the counter sometimes because I can't hit "Ok" after they state their order, etc. Happens at least twice a day. Also, sometimes, after I box up a completed order, the pizza just disappears.

The mediator assigned was incredibly rude and condescending. She rolled her eyes at my first counter offer. She told me that I "didn't like to be challenged" when I asked a very standard question. She made me feel as though I was wasting everyone's time. I ended up with a 5-figure settlement, but it was heavily influenced by her. "You're not going to get anything else. Take it or leave it" stance. I am a black woman, and I don't know if that played a part.

Per my agreement, payment is to be deposited 30 days after my former employer receives the dismissal paperwork. The mediator never followed up with me once that paperwork was signed by the director the same day I signed my settlement agreement. I assumed that she did her job and sent the paperwork to my former employer informing them of the signed dismissal. She didn't.

When I inquired wirh my former employer 2 weeks after both documents were signed, as to when I could expect a direct deposit date, I was told several hours later that they had just received the dismissal that day (after inquiring about it to the mediator)! And that the direct deposit clock started the day she sent it. I was livid. I clearly have no proof that this is intentional, but given everything that transpired with her, I feel as though it was. If i hadn't followed up with my former employer, who knows when she might have sent it. Is there any recourse here?

I moved down here about 20 years ago. It was a great neighborhood. Of course, there were the occasional disturbances, but nothing like it is today. I enjoyed seeing people walking to the bars, having a nice time by the lake, enjoying the restaurants, etc. It was familiar and comforting. When I saw what happened to Water Street, I knew it would only be a matter of time before Brady Street was hit.

I say this as a black woman, but I absolutely HATE how so many of my people can ruin things like this. Twerking throughout the city on cars, the fighting, loud music, shootings, etc., is infuriating and embarrassing. I just miss the way things were years ago. Sadly, I don't think we will ever get our neighborhood back.

EDIT: And to the couple people whose comments were removed, questioning me being black simply because my comment history is private, please grow up. I'm not here to troll or deceive anyone. The fact that black people can't even speak up on issues regarding our own communities without being attacked or accused of being deceitful is insane. We need to do better.

Hinge doesn't allow for any additional pics or videos (videos of landmarks, food, etc., nothing inappropriate). How comfortable would my fellow women be moving to a different platform like Telegram to exchange these photos and videos before meeting? He asked to exchange numbers, and I said no, but I do have Telegram, which is pretty safe when it comes to keeping your identity private.

I X'd on someone too quickly and tried going back and received a prompt about paying to backtrack! 3 months for $29.99 when it was obviously free up until yesterday. This was one of the features that I loved about Hinge. These apps really try and nickel and dime you. Unreal.

Hello all,

I am very new to this but had an idea for an ebook that I thought would be a great idea. I went through the entire process, uploaded everything, and when it came time to publish, it says my account setup was not complete. I went back to the account, made sure bank info and my name was correct, and everything looks fine. When I saved that account info, it said "success." The only thing I can think of is that the bank info is still being verified. Would I be unable to publish until the bank info is verified?

I work for a small (one attorney) law firm. I'm the full-time paralegal and pretty much have the run of the office, as he is older and tends to come in much later in the afternoon. He has another paralegal who works for him sporadically and usually after hours. She has been there for 4 years and used to being the only one. From my understanding, she has tried to intimidate other paralegals who worked for him. He has had 8 in 4 years.

He tells several people that she has mental issues but that he needs her because she is helping him on a long-term project where he received a pretty large retainer fee. She knows he will never fire her and does whatever she can to get me to quit.

She started taking my office chair and putting it in another office so when I came in in the morning, I would have to put it back. When that stopped working, she started writing me scathing, profanity laced emails criticizing my work and telling me I was "a fucking psycho." Keep in mind that we NEVER work together. I'm 9-5 and she is as needed but always after 5 pm. We've had exactly 3 in-person interactions that were no more than 10 minutes.

Our office is on a vacant floor of a 20-story building. There are several offices in the building, but all of our neighbors on the floor moved out because they were government offices that relocated. With this knowledge, she has started to intentionally leave the doors to the office unlocked overnight (she stays until like 2 a.m., "working"). Anyone can enter the building, and if they were aware of the doors being unlocked, could slip inside and wait for me in the morning. She has done this twice now.

She also stole my pepper spray that I left on my desk one evening. She has a charge for stalking some guy years back and had a restraining order filed.

When I talk to the attorney, he tells me to make friends with her, and it might stop. He says she has never been violent in 4 years and that she only does it to "antagonize" me. I can't afford to quit right now, and the job market is so terrible. I have no idea what to do about this lunatic.