I’ve recently noticed my 2yo male cat’s fur turning orange ish in some parts like his back and chest. His dad is full ginger so could he possibly continue to change colour even after 2 years ? Or is it a result of him spending a lot more time in the sun this summer ?
I (29F) have been speaking to this guy (27M) for about 4 months, we went out a few times and got along really well, we have so much in common, similar values and family backgrounds etc . On paper we would work out very well and both have said we like each other. We talk on the phone for hours (we live v far from each other) we talk about future plans if things work out etc etc
But he didn’t take long to start showing avoidant behaviour, we both have had very painful breakups / got cheated on by our exes very recently. When I told him about my ideal relationship timeline he kinda freaked out and felt it was going too fast, although he knows that I was looking for marriage and wasnt looking to spend over one year in the getting to know each other stage (we both have Muslim backgrounds and this is very normal in our culture) . He then said he doesn’t feel he’s ready for a relationship, says he is still hurt from his ex and preferred we stop talking so we did.
A few days later we start talking again and he tells me he found out his dad has cancer, we talk for a bit more and I try to be there for him but don’t bring the relationship topic up again, then a few days later he pulls away again and when I bring it up he freaks out , we have an argument and he tells me that I’m incapable of seeing him as a friend only, that I blur the lines too much because I flirt with him slightly (see picture 1)and says he doesn’t want a relationship and blocks me. (Mind you I didn’t ask him for one this time but it is true that I can’t help but flirt with him a little)
After a few weeks, same scenario, I check up on him, he apologises and says he wants to try talking again (see pic 2)and confesses his feelings ? He also had never told me he missed me before this.
We talk for 2 days and everything seems okay, he then starts pulling away again, I put it down to his dad getting worse by the day and I leave him alone for a few days, then I message him telling him if he doesn’t explain himself I’m deleting his number and assuming this is over. He doesn’t say anything and just blocks me everywhere.
I think I’m FA leaning secure after I’ve tried working on it. I’ve been struggling every time he pulls away but I haven’t been acting on the anxiety, I haven’t bombarded him with messages or anything, I just feel like my feelings are being played with and I hate that I gave him so many chances just because I wanted it to work out so bad.
I’m starting to suspect this guy has bigger issues than just avoidant attachment, idk what it is but why would he do this to me ??? What does he get out of it? We have never even been intimate or sexted or anything like that at all, can’t even see what he’s getting out of it.
Lately, due to multiple experiences, I’m finding it hard to shake off the thoughts that I have unintentionally become a person who people inly like having around to listen to them and comfort them when they need it, then easily let me go when they don’t need me anymore.
I went though a divorce in the last year with my ex husband and partner of 8 years due to his indefinitely, the way he was able to cut me off so easily when he found someone else traumatised me. He then ended up spending some time in jail for something he didn’t do and I felt so bad for him that I picked up the phone whenever he called when he needed someone to talk to during his stay in jail as he was miserable and struggling . I’m aware that I shouldn’t have done that but I felt so sorry for him and I still cared about his well-being despite never wanting to go back to him. When he left jail, he never called or asked about me.
Another example is, i started dating again and had 3 talking stages with different men whom I cared about and liked, but quickly realised that the same pattern kept repeating, I would be asking more questions about them and their lives, listen to their problems and try to help, or they would enjoy the attention or care I showed towards them (I think I’m a naturally curious person and like learning about others)etc but as soon as I showed my own issues or human flaws, they were quick to leave or cut me off.
This would open up the wound of being left by my ex husband and I would wonder why do I find it hard to let go of these people even if I know we aren’t compatible, I still value them as a human and would never block or ghost them unnecessarily, but they always found it so easy to not have me in their lives anymore.
I wanna say also that this isn’t only with romantic relationships, I feel the same way with some friendships where the level of care isnt returned and it makes me feel like people only use me as a listening ear.
Sorry about how messily this is written
Lately, due to multiple experiences, I’m finding it hard to shake off the thoughts that I have unintentionally become a person who people inly like having around to listen to them and comfort them when they need it, then easily let me go when they don’t need me anymore.
I went though a divorce in the last year with my ex husband and partner of 8 years due to his indefinitely, the way he was able to cut me off so easily when he found someone else traumatised me. He then ended up spending some time in jail for something he didn’t do and I felt so bad for him that I picked up the phone whenever he called when he needed someone to talk to during his stay in jail as he was miserable and struggling . I’m aware that I shouldn’t have done that but I felt so sorry for him and I still cared about his well-being despite never wanting to go back to him. When he left jail, he never called or asked about me.
Another example is, i started dating again and had 3 talking stages with different men whom I cared about and liked, but quickly realised that the same pattern kept repeating, I would be asking more questions about them and their lives, listen to their problems and try to help, or they would enjoy the attention or care I showed towards them (I think I’m a naturally curious person and like learning about others)etc but as soon as I showed my own issues or human flaws, they were quick to leave or cut me off.
This would open up the wound of being left by my ex husband and I would wonder why do I find it hard to let go of these people even if I know we aren’t compatible, I still value them as a human and would never block or ghost them unnecessarily, but they always found it so easy to not have me in their lives anymore.
I wanna say also that this isn’t only with romantic relationships, I feel the same way with some friendships where the level of care isnt returned and it makes me feel like people only use me as a listening ear.
Sorry about how messily this is written
Hello all, looking for some travel advice
I’m trying to find the best way to get from Enfidha Tunisia to Tbessa , ideally I would like to take the train. (Maybe to Tunis then to Annaba then to Tbessa?)
If not then taxi is okay too but not ideal.
Has anyone done this route before ?
Thank you
Trying to figure out if these skates have good ankle support or not ?