u/IcyHoneydew8087

Hi all, I’m 27F Orthodox Christian married for 3 years to 30M. I try to be submissive and traditional as much as I can, but fail at times like everyone does. However, I’m curious where other tradwives “draw the line” or “put their foot down” regarding their husbands behavior towards them. At what point have you/would you not submit or speak out against him? Does the line exist for you? How have situations where you consciously chose to say or do something contrary to him gone for you? Thanks!

Hello all! I am 27F and 4 months postpartum with my first baby. I’ve struggled with insomnia my whole life life, as well as anxiety/OCD/fatigue/autistic behaviors. My insomnia improved in pregnancy but has recently severely worsened. My baby will be asleep but I’ll lay asleep for hours. Some of it is sleep pressure/sleep anxiety/knowing my baby will wake up and need something, but some of it also feels biological if that makes sense. I also have been breaking out in massive welts on my body. My doc thinks it might be autoimmune and LDN could help my welts as well as my insomnia.

I’ve heard some people say LDN worsened their insomnia, at least temporarily. Others say it wildly improved it. I couldn’t imagine my insomnia worsening, I think I’d die. I’ve already had a mental breakdown and hallucinations due to it. However, if LDN could help me I’m very intrigued.

How did LDN impact your sleep?

Thanks!

It’s a story as old as time. My 16 week old used to be a pretty good sleeper and actually slept 9-10 hours straight before, but usually a 6-8 hour stretch followed by 3 hour stretches. The past month things have steadily declined. Now, she goes to bed between 6:45 and 7:15, may need some light resettling (we don’t pick her up but may give her some bottle in the crib or pat) but goes to sleep usually pretty well. However, now the first stretch we’re lucky to get three hours, we do a dream feed at 10 if she’s not already up, then she’s up around 12:30-1, then after that she’s up every 45 min to 2 hours if we are lucky. I exclusively do the wake ups at night minus the dream feed and my brain feels like it is rotting. I can feel myself becoming more and more impatient and unable to think clearly at work (I’m a nurse). I never wanted to sleep train but o worry we might have to.

I’m wondering how this approach sounds and if anyone has had success with something similar: Currently baby spends the first half of the night in her crib, then around 12-1 I bring her to the bedside bassinet to make night care easier. However, I feel with sleep training she will need to spend the whole night in the crib, which breaks my heart because I love sleeping next to her. We would continue the dream feed at 10, then she can have a bottle at 1 if she’s wakes, then a bottle at 4 if she wakes again. Any wake ups outside those times we will Ferber starting at 2-5-8 minutes then increase the lengths from there.

Hearing her cry is going to kill me because I’ve always responded to her quickly…but I don’t think I can do this current system much longer. Is there a chance she will just grow out of this phase on her own if I wait a bit?

Thank you for your input!

It’s a story as old as time. My 16 week old used to be a pretty good sleeper and actually slept 9-10 hours straight before, but usually a 6-8 hour stretch followed by 3 hour stretches. The past month things have steadily declined. Now, she goes to bed between 6:45 and 7:15, may need some light resettling (we don’t pick her up but may give her some bottle in the crib or pat) but goes to sleep usually pretty well. However, now the first stretch we’re lucky to get three hours, we do a dream feed at 10 if she’s not already up, then she’s up around 12:30-1, then after that she’s up every 45 min to 2 hours if we are lucky. I exclusively do the wake ups at night minus the dream feed and my brain feels like it is rotting. I can feel myself becoming more and more impatient and unable to think clearly at work (I’m a nurse). I never wanted to sleep train but o worry we might have to.

I’m wondering how this approach sounds and if anyone has had success with something similar: Currently baby spends the first half of the night in her crib, then around 12-1 I bring her to the bedside bassinet to make night care easier. However, I feel with sleep training she will need to spend the whole night in the crib, which breaks my heart because I love sleeping next to her. We would continue the dream feed at 10, then she can have a bottle at 1 if she’s wakes, then a bottle at 4 if she wakes again. Any wake ups outside those times we will Ferber starting at 2-5-8 minutes then increase the lengths from there.

Hearing her cry is going to kill me because I’ve always responded to her quickly…but I don’t think I can do this current system much longer. Is there a chance she will just grow out of this phase on her own if I wait a bit?

Thank you for your input!

I’m a FTM to an adorable 12 week old baby girl, and while I love her, it truly feels like all I do is change diapers, feed her every 2-2.5 hours, pump (I EP) and sorta play with her all day. On an endless loop! So few brief moments of personal time and it’s always rushed. Trying to get out of the house is difficult to time around all these endless tasks!

When did childcare stop feeling like an endless loop of these tasks?

My baby is 12 weeks old and has been fighting naps! She used to contact nap well but lately even that’s been a battle. At night she does well in her crib from 7-1/2, then I move her to the sidecar bassinet. She’s just not very cuddly :/ I’ve been exhausted and would love to lay beside her in bed for a daytime nap. Today I tried it and she just kicked and squirmed. Any advice?

I’m not even one of those no fireworks people, but cmon…I have a newborn and am already sleep deprived. As soon as I think they’re done and can close my eyes…BAM. It’s almost 2 am. Have basic decency. At least cluster them all together and get them out of your system rather than dragging it out for hours on end. Makes me want to drive around the block at 6 am blasting music for these people, because it’s only once a year so why should you care?

Basically the title. Like most babies mine has never been fond of any naps outside of contact naps, but is a decent night sleeper. However, this past week even her contact naps suck-like 15-20 min. And she will fight them fussily until she reaches a point of exhaustion. Anyone else experience this?

This might be a hot take for some, but postpartum summer sucks. I was told and thought throughout my pregnancy that I was lucky to have an April baby-it would make it easier to get out of the house and help prevent depression. And to a degree, yes that’s true. I can go for walks (sorta, I live in the ghetto so it’s not great) and get fresh air and sunlight. HOWEVER…Everyone is out at the pool, the beach, doing fun activities etc. but you really can’t do those things with a new baby. They can’t be out in the heat or sun very long, and like most young babies mine won’t just go down for a nap independently for an hour or two inside the house-almost all contact naps. People keep inviting us to summer activities but it’s a logistical nightmare most of the time. It’s especially hard for me because I LOVE to swim and be at the pool all day. I just feel like everyone around me is living it up and I’m trapped inside most of the time with my baby. I almost wish it was a colder month because then it doesn’t matter if I’m trapped in the house-so is everyone else! I keep telling myself next summer will be my time to shine because my baby will be more of a toddler who can endure a bit more heat and I won’t be exclusively pumping anymore (thanks GOD it’s the worst).

Just needed to get that off my chest 🫠

I’m 7w pp with my baby girl. She sleeps ok, not great, and husband and I are still doing shifts (I sleep 9:30-1 while husband is on duty, pump, then we both go to bed around 1:30 and I do all the wake up’s from then on). It works such that we can both get some sleep, him more than I since he works. However, the lack of any evening time together and the difficulty of finding any time to be intimate is starting to take a toll. I miss him a lot even though he’s right here.

When did you get more time with your husband back? How do you make time?

Sincerely yours from the trenches 😅

Like the title says-baby girl is one month old and was breech my whole pregnancy, ended in c section. Baby has a lot of tension due to being breech and a significant tongue tie that was noted in hospital and has since been corrected. Originally, baby would scream and refuse the boob in hospital. She will now latch, although it’s shallow, but doesn’t really “suck” much. Just kinda plays with it for comfort. Worked with multiple IBCLCs, seeing a Webster Chiropractor, etc. I latch her once or twice a day to practice but mostly just EP and bottle feed. I hate how tethered to my pump and schedule I feel and would love the option to go out of the house with baby and just breastfeed. Has anyone’s baby ever just spontaneously gotten better at breastfeeding months later when they get bigger/stronger?