u/Imaginary-Degree-271

Hello. So I'm just making this post to hopefully get some advice to improve my anxiety/nervousness with driving, because I've been driving now for a few years just casually but due to multiple different reasons I'm going to have to start driving a lot more often, and I want to just improve my driving ability as much as possible which I've read many times a good start is addressing any anxiety/nervousness.

I mean I'm perfectly fine and comfortable just with normal simple plain straightforward driving, clearly marked obvious turn only lanes or lanes that merge, clearly identified parking/no parking, straightforward driving on the highway, all that sort of relatively simple, and just clear cut stuff obviously. It's just I guess the uncertain/unfamiliar and unforeseen type stuff that makes me nervous to drive of course. I just don't trust/have confidence in my judgements and sense, in general honestly sad to say, but especially on the spot in immediate instances you know. I feel like when driving a vehicle there are inherently and unavoidably (especially the more you drive of course, and definitely even more especially in unfamiliar locations too) situations and circumstances you will inevitably encounter at some point, that you are not going to be prepared for and informed/knowledgeable about, and this is really I think what gives me the most anxiety with driving...

Hello. So I'm just making this post to hopefully get some advice to improve my anxiety/nervousness with driving, because I've been driving now for a few years just casually but due to multiple different reasons I'm going to have to start driving a lot more often, and I want to just improve my driving ability as much as possible which I've read many times a good start is addressing any anxiety/nervousness.

I mean I'm perfectly fine and comfortable just with normal simple plain straightforward driving, clearly marked obvious turn only lanes or lanes that merge, clearly identified parking/no parking, straightforward driving on the highway, all that sort of relatively simple, and just clear cut stuff obviously. It's just I guess the uncertain/unfamiliar and unforeseen type stuff that makes me nervous to drive of course. I just don't trust/have confidence in my judgements and sense, in general honestly sad to say, but especially on the spot in immediate instances you know. I feel like when driving a vehicle there are inherently and unavoidably (especially the more you drive of course, and definitely even more especially in unfamiliar locations too) situations and circumstances you will inevitably encounter at some point, that you are not going to be prepared for and informed/knowledgeable about, and this is really I think what gives me the most anxiety with driving...

Hello. So I'm just making this post to hopefully get some advice to improve my anxiety/nervousness with driving, because I've been driving now for a few years just casually but due to multiple different reasons I'm going to have to start driving a lot more often, and I want to just improve my driving ability as much as possible which I've read many times a good start is addressing any anxiety/nervousness.

I mean I'm perfectly fine and comfortable just with normal simple plain straightforward driving, clearly marked obvious turn only lanes or lanes that merge, clearly identified parking/no parking, straightforward driving on the highway, all that sort of relatively simple, and just clear cut stuff obviously. It's just I guess the uncertain/unfamiliar and unforeseen type stuff that makes me nervous to drive of course. I just don't trust/have confidence in my judgements and sense, in general honestly sad to say, but especially on the spot in immediate instances you know. I feel like when driving a vehicle there are inherently and unavoidably (especially the more you drive of course, and definitely even more especially in unfamiliar locations too) situations and circumstances you will inevitably encounter at some point, that you are not going to be prepared for and informed/knowledgeable about, and this is really I think what gives me the most anxiety with driving...

So a little context is best, my GF makes it very clear and mentions every time she has to get gas how much she just absolutely hates pumping gas, but more importantly, she has made quite a few obviously loaded little remarks about how, "she's just so jealous of her Sister and Mother, because they never have to even touch a gas pump" (she likes to make little obviously loaded remarks pretty normally/regularly). And I mean her Mother is absolutely just... disgusting, with how much of the 'tiniest', literally most 'trivial' things she makes her Father do for her, I'm talking things like handing her her drink or food or the remote etc. that is literally right next to her when he is in another room even, and 'bigger' things too that literally put his health in jeopardy due to previous heart attacks and health conditions, because she just doesn't want to do whatever it is, but is far beyond more than capable. I mean I wouldn't be surprised if she has him wipe her every time she uses the bathroom when we're not there...

So anyways, I just can't help but wonder/be unsure of whether I'm the arsehole here and being a crappy partner by not pumping her gas for her, or... I'm referring mainly to the gas pumping here, but if it helps she has also asked/had me do similar things for her like I explained with her Mother, like opening bags of chips for her, or handing her toilet paper that is literally within her arms reach when I'm in an entirely different room, etc. all that kind of stuff... I just can't help but see this as kind of like maybe a 'controlling' type of matter? Or like I said am I just overreacting and being ridiculous for not bringing her something within arms reach of her when I'm even in a different room idea y'know...

So a little context is best, my GF makes it very clear and mentions every time she has to get gas how much she just absolutely hates pumping gas, but more importantly, she has made quite a few obviously loaded little remarks about how, "she's just so jealous of her Sister and Mother, because they never have to even touch a gas pump" (she likes to make little obviously loaded remarks pretty normally/regularly). And I mean her Mother is absolutely just... disgusting, with how much of the 'tiniest', literally most 'trivial' things she makes her Father do for her, I'm talking things like handing her her drink or food or the remote etc. that is literally right next to her when he is in another room even, and 'bigger' things too that literally put his health in jeopardy due to previous heart attacks and health conditions, because she just doesn't want to do whatever it is, but is far beyond more than capable. I mean I wouldn't be surprised if she has him wipe her every time she uses the bathroom when we're not there...

So anyways, I just can't help but wonder/be unsure of whether I'm the arsehole here and being a crappy partner by not pumping her gas for her, or... I'm referring mainly to the gas pumping here, but if it helps she has also asked/had me do similar things for her like I explained with her Mother, like opening bags of chips for her, or handing her toilet paper that is literally within her arms reach when I'm in an entirely different room, etc. all that kind of stuff... I just can't help but see this as kind of like maybe a 'controlling' type of matter? Or like I said am I just overreacting and being ridiculous for not bringing her something within arms reach of her when I'm even in a different room idea y'know...

How are you supposed to be happy living a lonely life when you don't have confidence or faith in yourself especially in this chaotic fast paced socoety and world, so therein any matters of moral character aside, do not like yourself?

How are you supposed to be happy living a lonely life when you don't have confidence or faith in yourself especially in this chaotic fast paced socoety and world, so therein any matters of moral character aside, do not like yourself?

Hello, I am a 31 y/o male, and I was in a relationship for just over 5 ½ years that just ended a few weeks ago, that I had doubts for a while about, both myself and the other to blame.

But now I'm just completely alone and lonely by myself again, I legitimately don't have any friends or family and have various personal issues that even make having or making friends extremely difficult - if not just equally as painful ultimately as being lonely - let alone to maintain.

I was here once before I got in any relationship and it felt just completely dark and abysmal, and I at least didn't feel this looming 'blackness' over and in me, in the relationship, that I feel being completely alone and lonely...

I have little confidence and faith in myself, and even having someone 'barely' wrong for me feels better and safer than literally none. I mean the world and life and society feel exponentially more intimidating and difficult to handle completely by myself, without anybody else to at least be there providing any support at all just simply in the form of their company. In that specific sense, is where I can't help but feel like even relatively 'bad' company is still better than literally 0 company I guess...