u/ImaginaryPhysics

It has been 11 months since we broke up. It was my first and only relationship, we were together for a little over 4 years on and off... but the pain of her finally leaving me was excruciating. I did everything I could to get over her, by everything I mean EVERYTHING, but I couldn't help myself thinking about her everyday.

I even tried going to a Thailand trip with my boys to figure my shit out, but that was hopeless too. My feelings for her at that time kind of ruined the entire trip for myself. I wasn't able to have fun. As much as I was with my boys, I wasn't there mentally. I came back, tried talking to her to mend things only to get my heart CRUSHED again.

That pushed me into seeking therapy - in my mind at the time, the only way to figure this out. I think therapy helped me a lot in some ways and no help in others. What I came to realise is that I cannot force myself getting over her. It is not a button that I can just flick on or off. One day I would feel like I am over her and the next day I would be absolutely miserable, thinking that there is genuinely something wrong with me.

Anyway, did 4 months of consistent therapy (still on going), where I had a stupid urge of reaching out to her again only to get my heart absolutely obliterated again for the third time. But this time something flipped inside me. My conversation to myself after that was that I have tried absolutely everything I ever could to win her back, I moved houses, I got my family relationships sorted (Kind of), my business is taking off 🧿, I got therapy and conveyed in the most expressive way possible of what she means to me but even after all that, she didn't want me back. I guess it was finally time for me to let go of her too.

I cannot keep giving everything to a person who doesn't even care or know that I was/am still so deeply in love with. I would like to believe a part of me has moved on, because I know one thing for sure that I will NEVER EVER, ABSOLUTELY NEVER reach out to her ever again, no matter how crushing it is for me. Never in a million years did I ever imagine a life without her, but I guess here we are and such is life.

A silver lining now is that I am somewhat free. I still think about her from time to time - but I am forcing myself to not to yearn for her, and in some sense I am NOT yearning her. I have a friend's wedding coming up in Bali in September, excited for that and got a great trip planned. I am just hoping that I don't ruin this trip either because of what I felt for her.

I am hoping that I can truly find someone who I can call the love of my life... Or maybe that is delusional still. Who Knows?

Hello! I have been born and brought up in New Delhi, India. Did my undergrad in Australia now back in my motherland. I am in a great profession, earn decently well and have a great set of friends where I live, but I just feel like something inside me is missing.

Looking for someone who is a kind person, who likes to be goofy! I am interested in playing chess, watching movies, cooking great food, admiring art and love listening to Jazz and R&B.

I believe myself to be a gentleman and a romantic. Just trying to find myself someone who I can genuinely trust.

Hello Everyone, by now y'all would have known that we run a jewellery business based out of New Delhi, India. Thanks to our patrons, we have been receiving international orders which we obviously have to export out of the country.

Now us being in the "high value" business - our products have to go through Indian customs precious cargo channel for appraisal before the product is actually shipped. A jewellery appraiser which is appointed by the Indian government has the absolute right to out right reject a cargo shipment if deemed "unsatisfactory".

I wanted to highlight this to the community that we are and have always been running an ethical business where everything is done by the book. All paperwork is collected, organised and submitted for verification along with a complete and thorough packing list of all items being shipped. The transaction is recorded and is submitted to the bank against a proper invoice of the items being shipped and is cross verified by the jewellery appraiser.

Despite all of this, despite being absolutely legal in our business workings and doing things by the books diligently, we still have to pay a bribe to the jewellery appraiser to approve our shipment. It is absolutely ridiculous how common it is, from the lowest peons up to the top appraiser, every shipment, every cargo, no matter what it is and from who it is, every single person has to be paid a bribe for things to go smoothly. THIS IS CRIMINAL! And the worst part is that is is widely accepted as a common practice now that has been going on in the country for decades.

People don't understand how difficult it is to run a business in India. The government says it is promoting young businesses to thrive, but clearly the foundation to cultivate business in India is rotten.

I have a shipment which has been ready to be shipped to Saudi Arabia for roughly 3 weeks now. The customs process is so slow and so incapable that a minor outage in a portal for customs clearance has halted all shipments. Is this how the country aims to improve its balance of payments?! There is no backup of anything, everyone is lazy and dont want to do any work and all they want is to get paid unjustly for just sitting on their asses and doing fuck all. There is absolutely no timeline for resolution. All one has to do is sit and wait...

Sit and wait and reassure your customer in Saudi Arabia that your jewellery which you have paid full money for in a foreign country will come to you. When? I can't guarantee that, but it will... Disgusting. It ruins my reputation and the reputation of India as a business. How will a consumer gain confidence in doing business with Indians?!

I am still privileged enough to "pay the bribes" and get things going at least. At least so that my commitment to the end consumer is on track. But what about other people, what about people in different areas of business and life. If corruption is so open and prevalent here, what about the rest of areas where I dont even know about?!

I think I am losing track of this rant now. All I wanted to say was that this is extremely frustrating, especially when I am doing everything by the book.

If you have experiences any similar situation or know any resolution to this, please put it down on the comments!

I don’t want to just keep sharing jewellery I made on this subReddit, I wanted to share jewellery insights, trends and aesthetics…

I need your help! Who can help me grow this community? What sort of discussions does this community want? How can I make sure that this subReddit becomes and remain credible?

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