People who don’t bond from quality time and closeness
I am kind of going on an obsessive loop currently and could use some help untangling it.
I am kind of chronically online lately because this discorse that I am obsessed with, I can only feel free and open to discuss it online because the people I come into contact with every day don’t seem to have the depth (or at least show it) to talk about this.
I don’t understand how so many people don’t bond or grow attachment/love from shared time, closeness, and intimacy. The casual sex movement just baffles me, and to hear “I caught feelings for my situationship” sends me into orbit because…of course you fell for someone that you have been seeing, having sex with, and intimacy with. Why would you not?
What is going on in the brains of people that are able to engage in closeness and experiences and shared quality time with people and not have any attachments or feelings for? I just don’t get it.
I feel so stupid every time I’m dating someone and they suddenly rip the rug out from under me and tell me they don’t have feelings for me. What do you mean??? What was the last 6 weeks of dates and kissing and sex and sleepovers if you didn’t have feelings for me? Why didn’t you tell me this sooner??? Why did you let me be under the assumption this whole time that I was building a romantic relationship with someone if you were hesitant about me from the beginning??