u/Indica_l0ver

I recently ended a situationship about 2 months ago because my needs weren’t being met but besides that, the guy did nothing wrong. He was very kind and made some mistakes but he’s a good person(just bad at relationships). which makes moving on harder.

I’ve honestly never ended a situationship/relationship before since I have bad boundary issues so I’m proud of myself, but I have been going through the stages of grief every five seconds since I ended things with this guy.

I always seem to struggle with letting someone go after a break up. I still think of my past two exes before this guy and feel sad.

how do you fellow cancers deal with heartbreak and how do you detach/let someone go? I need to speed up this process I’m tired of my heart hurting and I feel like this is a common thing with cancers.

tbh i lean more pansexual than bisexual but i’m 23f and have only ever dated boys despite having crushes on many women throughout my life.

my last two situationships with men has left me being a man hater possibly permanently but regardless, i am so over men. i’ve been wanting to date women for a while and i would love to have a girlfriend.

i’ve been hit on by girls and didn’t realize it in the moment, and have only shot my shot with one(and it was a fail).

so how do I find queer women to take on a date ?? it’s lowkey nerve racking since i’ve never really put myself out there with women but i really just want to explore and hopefully find the love of my life. any advice?

I’m considering going on daily antivirals since my outbreaks keep happening during ovulation and my period (2 out of the 4 weeks of the month). Also eventually when I’m dating again I will definitely be taking meds every single day.

Now I’m not going to lie, I like drinking. I like drinking wine, I like taking shots, I like cocktails. Only occasionally though. Anyways, I was wondering why you guys do when you want to drink and are taking meds every day. I know it’s not good to drink on them so I am curious.

I’m 23f and I have social anxiety and I know people say “no one is really paying as much attention to you as you think they are” and call me self centered, but I swear I am being watched everywhere I go.

I’ve had people come up to me and say that they’ve seen me before and describe exactly where I was, even though I didn’t see them and have no clue who they are. I’ve also had friends and strangers point out to me that people are staring/watching me.

I’ve recently had strangers come up to me more frequently to ask me questions. for example today, a woman at the grocery store asked me which tea would be best for gut health and started venting to me about how she was sick and needs to clean out her colon ?? like out of all of the people in this aisle why are you asking me ? i literally had my beats headphones on and didn’t realize for like 20 seconds that she was trying to get my attention.

I’ve had so many weird experiences with strangers coming up to me I can’t even put them all here but it makes me so high alert all of the time. And don’t even get me started on weird creepy men. Those interactions are even weirder.

Obviously, I am a young woman and maybe it’s because I’m considered “attractive” but there’s so many attractive people in the world and my friends are pretty but this stuff never happens to them. And if they do have strangers talk to them it’s surface level normal conversation.

So I need advice on 1. why does this keep happening to me? 2. how do I stop this from happening so much if that’s possible? and 3. how can I overcome the anxiety that I have with this so that I’m less anxious in public.

I’m 23f and I have social anxiety and I know people say “no one is really paying as much attention to you as you think they are” and call me self centered, but I swear I am being watched everywhere I go.

I’ve had people come up to me and say that they’ve seen me before and describe exactly where I was, even though I didn’t see them and have no clue who they are. I’ve also had friends and strangers point out to me that people are staring/watching me.

I’ve recently had strangers come up to me more frequently to ask me questions. for example today, a woman at the grocery store asked me which tea would be best for gut health and started venting to me about how she was sick and needs to clean out her colon ?? like out of all of the people in this aisle why are you asking me ? i literally had my beats headphones on and didn’t realize for like 20 seconds that she was trying to get my attention.

I’ve had so many weird experiences with strangers coming up to me I can’t even put them all here but it makes me so high alert all of the time. And don’t even get me started on weird creepy men. Those interactions are even weirder.

Obviously, I am a young woman and maybe it’s because I’m considered “attractive” but there’s so many attractive people in the world and my friends are pretty but this stuff never happens to them. And if they do have strangers talk to them it’s surface level normal conversation.

So I need advice on 1. why does this keep happening to me? 2. how do I stop this from happening so much if that’s possible? and 3. how can I overcome the anxiety that I have with this so that I’m less anxious in public.

I was seeing a guy who was kind of like an acquaintance who confessed that he was attracted not me and asked me out on a date. It went really well so we went on a second date where things got steamy and then I had to disclose for the first time ever. He was shocked, thought about it for a few days, and eventually rejected me. We stayed friends but over time we realized there were still feelings and kept kissing and it basically turned into a sexless situationship.

Fast forward to two months ago. I had to cut him off because he said he could never get past me having herpes. I asked him if he would date someone with oral herpes and he said no. I asked him if I had my first outbreak while we were dating if he would break up with me and he said no because “he would already be exposed to it at that point”. He asked me if he got it in the future if I would give him another chance ?? like ?? you know you can get it from someone else and still can’t take the risk with me who is willing to take meds for life and is educated on it ??

And during that conversation he said that he loved me for the first time ever. Kept trying to kiss me. Was caressing my arm and still wanting me to be in his life. He said he could see a long term relationship with me if it wasn’t for this.

I know there’s a lot of “sad” posts on here that people seem to hate but I have been dealing with the heartbreak of this situation for two months now. I got herpes from someone who SA’d me. I never consented to this yet I feel like I’m being punished for it.

I was seeing a guy who was kind of like an acquaintance who confessed that he was attracted not me and asked me out on a date. It went really well so we went on a second date where things got steamy and then I had to disclose for the first time ever. He was shocked, thought about it for a few days, and eventually rejected me. We stayed friends but over time we realized there were still feelings and kept kissing and it basically turned into a sexless situationship.

Fast forward to two months ago. I had to cut him off because he said he could never get past me having herpes. I asked him if he would date someone with oral herpes and he said no. I asked him if I had my first outbreak while we were dating if he would break up with me and he said no because “he would already be exposed to it at that point”. He asked me if he got it in the future if I would give him another chance ?? like ?? you know you can get it from someone else and still can’t take the risk with me who is willing to take meds for life and is educated on it ??

And during that conversation he said that he loved me for the first time ever. Kept trying to kiss me. Was caressing my arm and still wanting me to be in his life. He said he could see a long term relationship with me if it wasn’t for this.

I know there’s a lot of “sad” posts on here that people seem to hate but I have been dealing with the heartbreak of this situation for two months now. I got herpes from someone who SA’d me. I never consented to this yet I feel like I’m being punished for it.

This year has honestly been the worst year of my life. I lost all of my friends-some from personal differences, others who have moved out of state. I recently just got out a of a situationship that has left me completely heartbroken. I am working a part time job making $400 biweekly and most of that money goes to bills. I am planning on going back to school in the fall to go for my nursing degree even though I have a B.A. in psychology I just don’t want to be a therapist, psychiatrist, social worker, etc.

I am really going through it and although I am grateful for having a roof over my head, my home environment is toxic. my family is not emotionally healthy and I am dealing with a lot and need to get away.

If I had money saved up I would go volunteer in a different country or something but I don’t. I need to get out of here somehow I can’t stay where I am at in life and need a change in environment.

Has anyone been able to do this and how?

This year has honestly been the worst year of my life. I lost all of my friends-some from personal differences, others who have moved out of state. I recently just got out a of a situationship that has left me completely heartbroken. I am working a part time job making $400 biweekly and most of that money goes to bills. I am planning on going back to school in the fall to go for my nursing degree even though I have a B.A. in psychology I just don’t want to be a therapist, psychiatrist, social worker, etc.

I am really going through it and although I am grateful for having a roof over my head, my home environment is toxic. my family is not emotionally healthy and I am dealing with a lot and need to get away.

If I had money saved up I would go volunteer in a different country or something but I don’t. I need to get out of here somehow I can’t stay where I am at in life and need a change in environment.

Has anyone been able to do this and how?

Sorry if there’s a lot of dating questions on this sub, I haven’t been on here much.

But I am 23f and my current situation is that I work a part time job making $400 biweekly, I live at home, My parents pay for a lot of things for me, and although I graduated with a B.A. in psychology, I don’t plan on doing anything related to the field and am instead going back to school in the fall to hopefully boost my GPA up enough to get into nursing school.

Because of my current financial and living situation, I don’t feel worthy of being in a relationship. I want a partner but I feel like I don’t really bring much to the table. I am pretty much broke (not even any savings-spent it all on rent and groceries two years ago) and I don’t really know if my situation will get better within the next two years. I’m honestly kind of embarrassed that this is my life right now.

Can anyone relate or give any advice?

Hello, I have been working out consistently for the past four months and although I can feel myself getting stronger and I’m lifting heavier, the muscle growth isn’t really visible.

I will be honest, I am very insecure about having a flat butt so I train my hardest on leg/glute days. This is my current leg day that I do 3x a week:

3x8 hip thrusts (230lb with 10 second hold after the final rep)

3x10 rdl step ups (30lb dumbbells)

3x8 bulgarian split squats (20lb)

3x8 sumo squats (50lb weight)

3x10 hip abduction (115lb)

3x10 cable kickbacks (15lb)

I do glute activation and some cardio before these exercises. I have also been taking creatine only on leg days. Hopefully someone can help me figure out what I am doing wrong. It could be my protein intake because I think on a daily basis I mostly eat maximum 90-120g of protein and maybe that’s not enough ..? (23f 144lb) idk

This job market is frustrating and it’s making me depressed

I, 23f, am currently working a part time job only paying $300 biweekly and I am really struggling.

I am barely surviving and every paycheck i become broke within a week from paying bills, and getting groceries. There’s days where I don’t even really eat because I don’t have enough to buy food.

I have applied to so many jobs and haven’t heard back from literally any of them. Honestly this job search and my financial struggles are making me a little suicidal. It feels like torture.

I really need a full time job and at this point I don’t even know where else to apply. I’ve applied to movie theatres, grocery stores, art supply stores, Michael’s, Hobby Lobby, multiple Dunkin’ donuts, receptionist positions, cafe’s, hospitals, etc. So many different jobs and no one will even give me a reply back.

I have experience being a hostess at a restaurant, an ice cream server, a babysitter, and lifeguarding. I have a B.A. in psychology which I got last year, and I am going back to school in the fall to try to get into a nursing program next spring.

I, 23f, am currently working a part time

job only paying $300 biweekly and I am really struggling.

I am barely surviving and every paycheck i become broke within a week from paying bills, and getting groceries. There’s days where I don’t even really eat because I don’t have enough to buy food.

I have applied to so many jobs and haven’t heard back from literally any of them. Honestly this job search and my financial struggles are making me a little suicidal. It feels like torture.

I really need a full time job and at this point I don’t even know where else to apply. I’ve applied to movie theatres, grocery stores, art supply stores, Michael’s, Hobby Lobby, multiple Dunkin’ donuts, receptionist positions, cafe’s, hospitals, etc. So many different jobs and no one will even give me a reply back.

I have experience being a hostess at a restaurant, an ice cream server, a babysitter, and lifeguarding. I have a B.A. in psychology which I got last year, and I am going back to school in the fall to try to get into a nursing program next spring.