u/Infamous_Choice5906

He doesn’t understand the way hes hurt my feelings, or consider how he hurts them when he does certain things, or at least doesn’t by what he says, but his actions almost always tell me that he feels guilty and knows I was right about most things I bring up honestly, which the things i usually bring up arent big things, domestic issues, me not being heard after asking for things that would fulfill me and make me happy if he did more of, or like he at least listens to me, me feeling like his mother, last night was a final straw, a joke he thought would make me laugh but instead gave me horrible anxiety, but im always the one “being too much” or “too particular and sensitive”(the joke involved him standing in the room with me jokingly demanding i go grocery shopping while he held a gun in the other hand), financial strain has always affected us always, more so on his side than mine, which has always made me stressed and he knows, yet he makes decisions knowing that i wont like them, then is upset at my reactions, i dont know i need guidance, we have lived together for almost 4 years now, he will try to act surprised like he wont see it coming, as he did 6 months ago when i had reached a breaking point prior to us trying to “fix things”, he made me feel like shit and roped me back in again, causing me to doubt myself, how do i bring this up, and end things?