u/Infinite-Albatross44

Even breathing or listening to your phone/tv to loud can really trigger some hard non forgiving emotions.

What are the best supportive things a man can do without receiving real backlash?

Maybe it’s none of my business but they’ve made it my business when they write a two page long obituary. We are human beings, we want to know. If someone dies from choking on flaming hot Cheetos, I want to know. Why you ask? Because if that’s the reason maybe I won’t eat flaming hot Cheetos.

Every time this happens and it someone that’s younger or the same age as me I spend like the next 30 min trying to figure out why.

Recently cut back on drinking to about once a week. Mainly because I can see that drinking is making me look like I’m 10 years older than I am. Within a week my face stop swelling and I could tell a major difference. Not sure that this is fun or even good like all the time but once a week is fine.

I’m not sure it would be that helpful for me if it was full sobriety or I turned it into this a big deal. Seems exhausting to go completely sober. Like from weed and everything.

Building a guideline for a 2nd shooter video that I’m doing. The 2nd shooter are more than often new. I’ve only had around two that were quite amazing and understood the process.

I often find that Brides are increasingly asking for candid photos and the second shooter is the person for this.

Can anyone add crucial things that I’m missing here?

Bring the Right Glass

Carry a long telephoto lens ideally a 70-200mm or up to 105mm. Do not show up with only a 35mm or 50mm and expect to get the job done. You need reach.

Study the timeline

2nd shooters are often there because the main can’t be in two places at one time. Usually it’s because the wedding is in multiple location. Find out where you need to be and be there at every point in the day. Even if the main doesn’t directly tell you to go every time.

Stay Out of the Frame

Be hyper-vigilant of every camera on site (including videographers) all day long. Make sure you are never in the background of a shot. This is exactly why you need that long telephoto lens.

Own the Candids & Alternative Angles

Your mission is to rule the candid photos these are often the real gems of the day. While the main photographer takes the standard, direct shots in front of the subjects, you need to hunt for a completely different angle so the final gallery doesn't look bland. ( these are often the best shots of the day)

Coordinate the Ceremony Positioning

Talk to the team before the ceremony starts to decide who is in the aisle. If there are videographers, do not jump into the main walkway. Most aisles only have room for two shooters; adding a third creates a major tripping hazard. Use your zoom lens to pull shots from a different vantage point.

Never Miss the First Kiss

Some ceremonies last 15 minutes tops be ready. Both mains and seconds miss this moment far too often. Never get caught hanging out in the back of the room; one photographer even had to make the couple repeat the kiss because they weren't in position.

Reception: Speeches & Flash Control

Speeches: Do not over-shoot. Take 4–5 sharp, in-focus pictures of each speaker, then move on.
Flash: Watch your power on the dance floor. Take a shot, zoom in on your LCD screen to check it, and ensure you aren’t blowing out the images with too much flash.

Video team here. Recently had a photographer that just couldn’t understand that they couldn’t speak during audio recordings of family and friends speaking. Basically just ignorance to video or audio recording? They also continue to want or need to be in the video? Why is this? The photographer told they had 18 years of experience, which I DO NOT believe now.

Is it just important to try and mess up the brides day for video, tik toks , reels or socials now to produce exclusive content? I had to ask repeatedly over and over and they looked like I was killing them. Do they not understand that they’re not part of the family on there wedding day?

Recently did a festival with some psychs.Usually I’ll just take a small amount of mush and drink some beers and I’ll generally have an amazing time.

This time the beer and alcohol selection was garbage. One was a low alc content ipa and the other two were worst versions of Busch light in a pretty can that a local brewery had made.

We quickly gave up on this and by the next day we brought our 20mg 4 ho met/ 4 ho det mix with about 700 mg of shroom. At home this usually is way more than I ever need. About half of this good for full blown wild time. Not here.

There was a lot of walking involved and finding and doing things so I think this was part of the lack luster trip. Two shows that I did see were amazing but I really thought I could have taken twice as much and reuped for the final show.

Is this normal for festivals? Do you usually end up taking ALOT more .

Literally who the heck set that up!?!! The worst beer water ever! They should be ashamed of themselves.

Hi All!

Context:
The wife and I are on a work trip this week and we get to do a festival this weekend so we are super happy but also it’s been a stressful work travel week. Finally got to relax a little and try the PLUR I’ve had for like 2 mos.

Weve also had 5 mapb multiple times around ten years ago.

4:30- We both popped 2 just to see if it would give us a serious reaction. I’m a hyper responder to most substances so I can get overwhelmed fast and like to keep things low in the beginning.

5:30- Barely anything really but starting to feel something. We dosed another.

6:00- hit hard for me here. I have to sit down to feel ok. A little nauseous but not like sick , just need to sit. Still kind of baseline here for her.

6:30- I’m full on messed up here and we decide to walk outside which is super difficult. We sit down by this large stand of bamboo that this air bnb has in the back yard and throw a frisbee with my pup for a while. I did look over at her at this time and she’s got a “real” smile on that I haven’t seen all week. So happy to see it honestly. Mainly because all the trials and struggles that we’ve been going through lately have all been successful. Hard work and success doesn’t always bring smiles .

We are also both scared to sleep in one of the rooms in this air bnb as we both think it’s possibly haunted . Took us two days with horrible dreams and no sleep to figure this out.

7:00 - we are still outside and realize my dog has blood coming from his arm where he opened up a wound on his arm that we’ve been doctoring. We both freak a little and immediately take him inside. Wash him, clean it , and give him meds to relax so he won’t mess with it. He’s went to the vet for it last week and we thought it was doing much better. Very hard to get him to stop playing so hard!

7:45- I can’t possibly do any more. Mainly because I’m full on rolling at this point. She takes my other one and hers which brings her to 125mg and me at 75mg

8:00- we move it to the bedroom and it all happens. I have to have ice water to cool down here. We also used ice on us both for fun and to cool down. I’d recommend it.

This went on for a long time lol. Really great for couples here. We will likely do this again just because it 100% brought us closer together.

10:00- I’m starting to come down but still super messed up. She’s now having trouble walking around and standing a lot. All the fun stuff continues but we regularly have to stop as it gets to hot literally. I have to keep ice water close but I’m not over drinking it. We lay and talk and cuddle.

12:00- starting to fall asleep. She absolutely not at this point 🤪. I think she did actual sleep at 3:00 am.

Conclusion: comparatively to the old 5 mapb. According to what’s in the package this product was much stonger IMO than the old Chinese stuff. I’d recommend not taking this walking around in a hot environment. Not even sure this could be taken at a club or concert tbh. At least there is no way I could.

Overall just a great experience and I’m so happy that we were able to take it together and finally wipe away some of the stress. Sometimes we forget how to love each other when all the bad shit is flying at you. It’s important to take the time for yourself and your spouse or partner if you expect it to work in the long run.

Jake Paul standing behind you is like having Linda McMahon standing behind you with your payment for student loans laughing at you. Seriously please bring back mocha man Randy savage and Rick flair.

The beer is really concerning!?
1/10 on both side of the exports and imports from 10 years ago.

Wine exports down to 1/3 of what they were a year ago.

This was in Clarksville but this man was just kicked out of restaurant and arrested in Nashville over the weekend.