u/Iwishtoremainanonim

I checked my bank account today to see that it was in the negatives, which obviously was completely unexpected.

I asked for a refund on an order the restaurant got completely wrong (missing items + wrong food) and my guess is maybe they tried to refund me and accidentally charged me? But I’m not sure if that’s something that can happen.

In addition to this, any time I go to the link for unrecognized charges the page doesn’t exist.

Does anyone else have this issue?

Usually when I eat eggs I tend to feel mildly nauseated and get a small rash but I had a gas station egg and sausage croissant sandwich this morning and dude.

It’s been eight hours and I am still in severe pain 💔

I blame the fact that I ate chicken yesterday which I am also intolerant of lol

I’ve been working as a paraeducator with a middle school in a blue state for under two months now (just started after spring break) and I love the school + the students I work with.

Yesterday I was told in the last hour of the day that I have to decide whether I’ll be going with one of the student’s I’ve worked with to another middle school (this is after having been told I’ll be staying with the school itself and not the student). I asked for the chance to talk to the student, and other paraeducators + teachers that know the student to gauge if that would be best for him, and was told I could have until the end of the week to decide.

Then today I came in and was told I need to decide right then and there.

I was very heavily “encouraged” to go with the student to the next school even though they would have positions for me at the current school, and kept being brushed off anytime I tried to ask questions for more information since I’ve never been a para before this job.

Nobody seems to know or care about which student I’m legally assigned to, and none of this was over email or doccumented.

In addition to this, staff members who are usually in my corner and had clearly built the habit of using the right pronouns for me in the past were suddenly very cold and were intentionally misgendering me, even going so far as to introduce me as “Ms. ___” to a sub despite only ever referring to me as “Mr. ___” prior to today.

I don’t know if I did something wrong to get me pushed out of the school or what, but the hostility is pretty clear.

I also keep getting conflicting information about whether I’ll be paid over the summer (I only received half of what I should have for my first check, so I was under the assumption that is the case, though the 3rd party paras I spoke to about it are extremely concerned because of how low it was), and I am still not in the union yet because I have not had the time to join.

I have called out discrimination against students from staff and reported a para who had been stalking a student, so that may be what caused this.
But I also know I was mildly disliked based on the refusal to give me a key when even newer paras were given them on the first day so I might be missing something.

I plan on talking to the union rep about all of this and plan on joining (ideally today), so hopefully something can be done.

Does anyone have any legal or personal advice?

Background info:
I was hired this April to work with a 2:1, then moved to a different student as a 1:1 (or so I’ve been told, I’m not too sure anymore at this point), and that 1:1 is moving to a different middle school this fall.

I was told and thus, under the assumption, that I would be with the school itself instead of following the student, however today I was told last minute that I would be following him to his new school unless I choose to be displaced.

Is this a normal thing for paras to do? Will I still get paid over the summer if I go to the next school with him?

I also have concerns since the student really wants another person to be his para, and me following him to the new school is just putting him in an even more upsetting position than it already is for him since he hates change.

What would y’all do in this situation? I don’t want to risk my job, but I also want to prioritize the student’s well being and help him feel like he has a choice in this.

A para who was assigned to my two-on-one in the past but was reassigned due to not doing his job has been obsessively “checking on” the student, and has admitted to essentially stalking him outside of school since they live in the same general area.

It’s creepy. I’m not going to go into details but it’s not how any adult should behave around children.

I’m just worried I’ll get in trouble for stirring the pot, or worse, I’m very worried that the para will know it was me who reported him. No matter what happens it’s worth it if it keeps my two on one safe, but it’s still scary

I’m 22, and have been in various career fields throughout my life- From Entertainment to retail, managment, pharmacy, and now education.

The weird things I noticed is I tend to “climb the ladder” really quickly (Getting put on harder more complex tasks, being given promotions, raises, etc.) and I get told EVERYTHING.

I always know who likes who, who doesn’t like who, who’s getting fired, who’s getting hired, so on and so forth. And it’s not me asking about these things either. It always starts with “how’s your day going”/“good morning” and then suddenly I know the entire history of who’s been written up and why????

Is it because I seem like a good listener (autistic so I exaggerate eye contact and facial expressions to mask)? Or is it because I present fem-ish (involuntarily sadly)? I don’t think I know what I’m doing any more than anybody else, but I always get the praise and the rewards.

I would assume white privilege but most people in these workplaces were also white, and it’s not pretty privilege because most people in these places are also more conventionally attractive.

Do I just do too good of a job at work? Do I seem gossipy?

I ask because I HATE workplace drama and I’m always told everything which inherently gets me roped into it when I just wanna do my job and go home 😭

I (22 ftm) am almost certainly autistic and was raised in an emotionally abusive household and taught to bottle my feelings up (both positive and negative feelings) and not show them to anybody.

Obviously it results in me blowing up on myself when I’m alone and I kinda end up breaking down.

I now live with my boyfriend and his mother, on the opposite side of the country so it’s safe for me to show my emotions but frankly don’t know how??

It’s so so hard to be open about how I’m feeling at any given moment and I’m getting better about showing happiness and excitement in “normal” ways (ex. Saying I’m excited or smiling) but it’s borderline impossible to let myself show stress or sadness to him without feeling worse.

I want to be better about this because I want to have open and honest conversations with the love of my life.

Any advice?

I work at a middle school and have been teaching my students about dandelions- They’re my favorite flower and they grow like crazy here

Has anyone ever experimented with gathering dandelion seeds and putting them on the ground in different patterns to make like a heart, or a smile, or a circle or something else? I want to see if I can surprise my students with a smiley face of dandelions in the grass outside their classroom window but I’m not sure if it’ll work!

I’m thinking about going through planned parenthood because even though I have insurance that might cover it, it’s my parent’s insurance and I can’t risk them being aware of this (I don’t live with them right now but I still desperately want to keep in contact with my family).

Does anyone have experience they want to share? Do you have to do therapy to prove you have dysphoria first, or does that depend on state/ctiy? Is it super complicated or is it a little more straightforward?

Did they treat you poorly, or with respect?

Sorry if these are weird questions I just have literally no idea where to start on any of this despite trying my best to do research and frankly I’m scared to reach out to people about something like this