u/JPRose1989

I’ve logged over 200 hours in FR, caught all the Pokemon available to me, and am tiring of the E4 200-win grind. What interests me most nowadays is solo challenges and Shiny Hunting and, for both, it would behoove me to own a copy of Leaf Green.

It would unfortunately be necessary for my purposes to purchase another console as well. The cost of another download + an old Switch Lite for the secondary file almost feels like overpriced DLC, but the possibilities/flexibility it would offer make it tempting.

Acquiring the LG-exclusives, other starters and legendaries, and the trade evolutions would be a nice bonus, but what I’m really looking for Starmie’s Illuminate for Shiny Hunts and a means of going through the full playthrough during solo challenges instead of Versus Seeker grinding.

How many of you splurged on a second console and download? Did you find it to be worth it?

8 years ago, I started working for her. From Day One, I made it a point to prove to her I would do whatever’s in my power to make her life easier, both on and off the clock - dropping her off to work and picking her up; coming in early and staying late; chauffeuring her around before and after work; buying her and her son (she is a single mother) what they need, within my means.

At that time, I was in my only sexual, balanced relationship with a female, but I was losing my interest, as the crux of it became her wanting to having a kid and her biological clock ticking. One of the foundations of my relationship with my ex was hiking and the camaraderie of organizing and leading hikes for a large, active group. We checked off hills from the list,, “peakbagging” together 115 peaks over 4,000-feet, driving hours to get to them, planning endlessly, carpooling with members, etc. It was exciting and fun.

I felt the same fervor toward in my new job working this woman. It was overnight-stocking in big box retail. Sometimes, we came in and the warehouse was a mess, there were multiple callouts, we would have to unload two trucks, reset entire sections of the sales floor after the unload, etc. She was always very clear about what she wanted and how she wanted it done, but never demanded it. There was just always the understood expectation that I would happily do it for her - at the expense of my back, wallet, or whatever toll was to be paid.

I left my ex and threw myself headfirst into this situationship. As she talked enthusiastically about her son and his interests, I took it upon myself to buy him things. Similarly, as I learned of her wants and needs, I tried to help address them. I received nothing in return but the frequent thanks, but was always glad to help. It pains me to say that part of me is happy to be used, so long as I feel I am being more useful than enabling.

I remember my first few “failures” for her at work and the negative feedback she provided. I’d sometimes pack out a department of the store quickly, but it would be a little sloppy and she would scold me beyond that of what a supervisor would to their subordinate - our relationship had gone “beyond” that now.

The worst when I used the code for disarming the truck security in receiving. She gave the code when I started coming early, as the control panel was in an awkward-to-reach place. In one of her days off, when a temporary leader tried to open the door without entering it, the alarm sounded and the police with on the way. Out of a sense of responsibility (rather than concern for her), I used said code before the police could come. Both myself and her were reprimanded for my having this knowledge and she wouldn’t talk to me for days.

But I generally try to make her life easier and better. I want to believe I am helping and not enabling. When I met her, she couldn’t drive; I helped teach her, spending hours at DMV. When I pick her up and drop her off, I’ve spent cumulatively many hours waiting - between the time spent in front of her apartment when she isn’t ready to come to the time I wait in the car while she exercises, works, etc. Meanwhile, my own physical and mental wellbeing has declined sharply.

Whenever I approach her about a desire for the situationship to be more than it is, she dismisses me or tells me it would be better I don’t do anything for her at all, if that’s my expectation. She knows I couldn’t bear that. In the instances I tried to hold her hand or hug her, she scorned me physically, several times violently. Even when my driving is a little reckless for her liking, she gives such negative feedback, while I’m behind the wheel, at that.

It’s embarrassing to post this publicly on Reddit. I have my therapist I see once a week, but the basis for CBT is that forming new thought patterns will change my behavior and this has all been ingrained in me with 8 or so long years. There were two instances in which myself and this woman weren’t seeing eye to eye and I blocked her, but I couldn’t handle it for more than a day. I was reaching out to her and her family (stalking at one point, even) for forgiveness, that I might dote on her again.

I understand this codependence is every bit as much as on me as it is her. But I want more than anything to make her life categorically better and easier. When I feel that I am, it is reinforcement. But she makes me feel bad about myself and demeans me. I am an adult living with my parents working in retail and she’s quick to bring up all of my shortcomings. Her criticisms are often fair and accurate and they hurt especially coming from one I care so much about.

There was a time I would have desperately asked here how I can be happy in this situationship. Now, I know that’s not a possibility. I no longer work for her, but it’s not hyperbole to say she is my life. So, I ask how I can slowly make steps toward getting out from this Hell. I’ve lost interest in furthering my career, hiking, ultra-running (I’ve run a 50K and some trail marathons), and my schedule virtually revolves around her and her son.

I crave her validation and am driven largely my hopes and doubts in this situationship. It’s worth noting that there was a point in which this situationship had taken its toll and I developed feelings for someone else - someone I deemed far kinder and understanding. But, when that didn’t go anywhere, I relapsed back into this Hell.

I am aware that the best life is a purposeful one not predicated around what anyone thinks of you. But I can’t imagine a life without her.

8 years ago, I started working for her. From Day One, I made it a point to prove to her I would do whatever’s in my power to make her life easier, both on and off the clock - dropping her off to work and picking her up; coming in early and staying late; chauffeuring her around before and after work; buying her and her son (she is a single mother) what they need, within my means.

At that time, I was in my only sexual, balanced relationship with a female, but I was losing my interest, as the crux of it became her wanting to having a kid and her biological clock ticking. One of the foundations of my relationship with my ex was hiking and the camaraderie of organizing and leading hikes for a large, active group. We checked off hills from the list,, “peakbagging” together 115 peaks over 4,000-feet, driving hours to get to them, planning endlessly, carpooling with members, etc. It was exciting and fun.

I felt the same fervor toward in my new job working this woman. It was overnight-stocking in big box retail. Sometimes, we came in and the warehouse was a mess, there were multiple callouts, we would have to unload two trucks, reset entire sections of the sales floor after the unload, etc. She was always very clear about what she wanted and how she wanted it done, but never demanded it. There was just always the understood expectation that I would happily do it for her - at the expense of my back, wallet, or whatever toll was to be paid.

I left my ex and threw myself headfirst into this situationship. As she talked enthusiastically about her son and his interests, I took it upon myself to buy him things. Similarly, as I learned of her wants and needs, I tried to help address them. I received nothing in return but the frequent thanks, but was always glad to help. It pains me to say that part of me is happy to be used, so long as I feel I am being more useful than enabling.

I remember my first few “failures” for her at work and the negative feedback she provided. I’d sometimes pack out a department of the store quickly, but it would be a little sloppy and she would scold me beyond that of what a supervisor would to their subordinate - our relationship had gone “beyond” that now.

The worst when I used the code for disarming the truck security in receiving. She gave the code when I started coming early, as the control panel was in an awkward-to-reach place. In one of her days off, when a temporary leader tried to open the door without entering it, the alarm sounded and the police with on the way. Out of a sense of responsibility (rather than concern for her), I used said code before the police could come. Both myself and her were reprimanded for my having this knowledge and she wouldn’t talk to me for days.

But I generally try to make her life easier and better. I want to believe I am helping and not enabling. When I met her, she couldn’t drive; I helped teach her, spending hours at DMV. When I pick her up and drop her off, I’ve spent cumulatively many hours waiting - between the time spent in front of her apartment when she isn’t ready to come to the time I wait in the car while she exercises, works, etc. Meanwhile, my own physical and mental wellbeing has declined sharply.

Whenever I approach her about a desire for the situationship to be more than it is, she dismisses me or tells me it would be better I don’t do anything for her at all, if that’s my expectation. She knows I couldn’t bear that. In the instances I tried to hold her hand or hug her, she scorned me physically, several times violently. Even when my driving is a little reckless for her liking, she gives such negative feedback, while I’m behind the wheel, at that.

It’s embarrassing to post this publicly on Reddit. I have my therapist I see once a week, but the basis for CBT is that forming new thought patterns will change my behavior and this has all been ingrained in me with 8 or so long years. There were two instances in which myself and this woman weren’t seeing eye to eye and I blocked her, but I couldn’t handle it for more than a day. I was reaching out to her and her family (stalking at one point, even) for forgiveness, that I might dote on her again.

I understand this codependence is every bit as much as on me as it is her. But I want more than anything to make her life categorically better and easier. When I feel that I am, it is reinforcement. But she makes me feel bad about myself and demeans me. I am an adult living with my parents working in retail and she’s quick to bring up all of my shortcomings. Her criticisms are often fair and accurate and they hurt especially coming from one I care so much about.

There was a time I would have desperately asked here how I can be happy in this situationship. Now, I know that’s not a possibility. I no longer work for her, but it’s not hyperbole to say she is my life. So, I ask how I can slowly make steps toward getting out from this Hell. I’ve lost interest in furthering my career, hiking, ultra-running (I’ve run a 50K and some trail marathons), and my schedule virtually revolves around her and her son.

It’s been the better part of year since I dragged my way out of a brutal limerent episode and have been drifting by with some depression, anhedonia (nothing is enjoyable), etc. But today (Mother’s Day here in the States) is stirring up all the same unbearable sentiments, even after 8-plus months of no contact. She’s a mother of an infant and it adds further shame that I’m sentimental here for someone with a child that is not my own nor have I even met.

I’m sure this is relatable to some of you limerents, so how do you cope? I’ve found myself detaching myself from said feelings (via escapism and avoidance, mainly) rather than processing them in a healthy way and moving on.

I’m solo running with a Magikarp and grinding with Struggle at these higher levels is really getting to be a chore. I’m trying to make use of his Flail, which is a relatively high BP at low levels, but it’s tough to lower my HP without fainting. Any ideas?

Obviously, I don’t have access to anything to like Endure and, while I’m holding Focus Band, that 10 percent chance to activate just doesn’t cut it. But I do have access to the whole world map including post-game islands. Are there are any opp’s out there with False Swipe?

What would the female counterparts be? Linda Insulinde? Kylee Le Caillou? Other regions - Ange Oranje, Arielle Ariopagita, Kendra Kedra…

I usually don’t do the whole TLDR essay thing, but this really struck me as something seldom discussed albeit really important in DE.

(First off, for those who don’t know, limerence is romantic love to taken to the extreme, characterized by feelings that are impossible to reciprocate and fantasies that are impossible to actualize. Many argue that it officially deserves a place in the DSM (mental health association) as a diagnosable mental health disorder)

An overlooked facet of the Deserter’s dismal condition is his limerence for Klaasje. “She had a face like an archipelago - with those birthmarks,” he says.

When everything around you seems hopeless and you develop such a loathing for humanity that it extends to yourself, it’s not an unusual phenomenon for desperate individuals like him to become utterly infatuated and obsessed with someone of that opposite gender that emanates a beautiful, mysterious energy. The limerent then idealizes their limerent object to the point that they virtually lose what little purpose they had in their life. When some sight that evokes doubt in their longing (her intercourse with the merc) becomes unbearable and incites excessive fear, hope, or jealously, they often take impulsive action, driven by the overbearing emotions that originated from their own self-hate.

With Harry, the limerence (for the ex Doris) is much more frequently referenced, as well as are the dangers to succumbing fully to it. It’s fitting that he seems her as a Dolores Dei-type figure, as he is essentially putting her (not so much the actual person as his fallacious image of her, if that makes sense) on a pedestal to the point of Goddess status. The recurring dreams we see Harry experience on Death Island are a common characteristic of limerence, as it has fully taken hold of the subconscious.

For both men, the respective woman is a microcosm for what’s missing in their life and winning them (back, in Harry’s case) would provide the ultimate validation, as it’s impossible for them to be fulfilled elsewhere. While the Deserter ultimately knows he cannot be with Klaasje, he can’t bear the thought of someone else (someone awful, to one who “hates everything”) being with her instead and “critiques” what he sees through the scope. Harry may try desperately through phone conversation to reach back out to Doris, but virtually everyone component of his psyche (as well as the all-knowing Phasmid) advise him to move on.

Harry once tried get that satisfaction from a disco lifestyle; Dros’ idea of that impossible perfection was the communist ideals he once fought for. With those dreams dead, their (false) hopes cling to unattainable women.

It’s indisputable that one of the main conflicts in the game is Harry’s internal struggle here and it parallels that on the Deserter’s. In broader terms, these two (and many other characters) are hung up on the past. The idealization can take the form of an impossible ideology, political belief system, or the perfect woman, but when left unchecked, it is equally dangerous.

I’m fighting the Rival in a solo run with Elekid and it turns out I have to rely on Attract luck to defeat him, unfortunately. There’s one major variable in the midst of the fight too and that’s whether or not his Venusaur uses Sunny Day. For me, this is a must, as it negates the preceding Tyranitar’s Sandstream ability and bolsters my Fire Punch to the point that I can KO Venusaur.

In 5 times I reached Venusaur, twice I had most - all of my health. Both times, he used Sunny Day. The other three times I within range for being KO’ed by Earthquake, he attacked and fainted me. Is this just a coincidence or does AI know to use Super Effective (or any strong enough) moves that will KO when you’re in range? I’m really hoping it’s the latter for the sake of my chances here.

Also, will it always use its setup move (Sunny Day here) when I’m healthy? Please say yes lol