u/Jaelorr314

Hey guys. I recently just got a new job as a house cleaner so I’ll be doing things like wiping tables, vacuuming, mopping, etc. I had opportunities to have manlier jobs but this one paid so well and seemed relatively low maintenance so I took it. I’m excited about it and happy, but a small part of me feels kind of bad because it’s not “manly enough”. Like, what guy is a freaking house cleaner? It feels really emasculating and makes me sorta dysphoric, even tho it’s just a transitional job, really. I really wanna be a farmer, and I’ll start doing farm work soon as a volunteer and hopefully be able to land an actual job from the experience. But yeah. This one makes me feel like a maid and really feminine so I guess I’m just searching for reassurance

Hi everyone! I’m not a woman, I am a trans guy about a month on testosterone (18 years old) Fir background the women in my family have a history of PCOS and my mom thinks I may have it but I’ve never been officially diagnosed. I recently within the past week or two have noticed a small bump on my private areas between my vagina and anus. It doesn’t really hurt, only a little bit when I touch it. I’ve gotten small cysts on my vagina before during my period but they’re not super common for me. This one concerns me because it’s closer to my anus and it’s been persisting. It hasn’t been growing or anything, I’ve taken some pictures to try and see what it looks like and it just looks like a little reddish-skin color bump. I know it’s not a hemorrhoid or anything but it’s just strange. Does anybody have any ideas? Maybe a cyst? I’m not sure. Thank you for reading my TMI post lol

I’m gonna try to explain this as easily as I can. When I was 13 I was groomed by an older guy online into sending him nudes. It was scary at first but as I got older I started to lowkey like it. I’m 18 now, and since I was about 15 I’ve been having fantasies about having sex with older men. I myself am not into people who are younger than me, I’ve never been able to picture myself with someone younger than me. Even a one year age gap feels like a lot. But if they’re older than me I just can’t help but be sexually attracted. It’s to the point where even fantasizing about people my own age makes me feel like a pedo. I don’t want to be this way but sometimes when I’m horny enough I just imagine myself having sexual relations with someone much older than me, and I am turned on at the idea of me being so much younger and them being so much older.

I’ve always wanted to get married. When I imagine myself in a future relationship, I usually imagine myself at age 25 or above with someone the same age as me. I mean everybody likes dilfs and nikfs but sometimes I just get so horny I’ll go onto a dating app to try and meet older people or I’ll imagine myself getting sexual with older people. I’ve struggled with pedo intrusive thoughts before but I know they’re intrusive and I am genuinely disgusted and off-put at them. They don’t consume my life but sometimes when I imagine myself being groomed for my own sexual gratification I can’t help but feel like a predator or creep. Is there any way for me to stop this? I don’t want to be like this. It’s not the only thing I jerk off to but it happens on enough occasions where I’m worried for my future. I’m not saying I’m gonna grow up to be a predator or creep, but what if? What if this is a gateway to me becoming a bad person, like how some creeps get abused when they’re a kid and then grow up to be sexual assaulters? I don’t have urges to do anything bad to anybody but what if one day I do? I don’t want to be broken anymore and I want help

I’m just gonna accept that I’m never gonna lose my virginity at this point. Not just that, but I’m never getting into a relationship. Please don’t mind my essay of a vent

I’m 18 FTM (passing) on HRT for two months and I’ve had horrible luck with dating. I’ve been downloading apps for about two years now trying to find love but it’s always the same shit. We meet, they either get turned off by the fact I’m trans or they ghost me. I know I’m not the most attractive person but I certainly don’t think I’m hideous. I’ve had people go up to me before and say I’m ‘bad’ or ‘cute’.

I’ve had some luck but things never went past them flirting with me and me being too shy and helpless to flirt back so I’m not very fun to talk to or be romantic with. I’m horrible at flirting. I try to start conversations and ask questions but people always give me the driest answers . I could ask them how school is going and they’ll just say “good”. I take that as them not wanting to talk to me and surely enough when I leave them alone they don’t ever try to reach out and converse like I did.

I feel like I’ve always been a little broken. Anybody who *did* actually have or at least imply that they had feelings for me back I’d honestly get super annoyed and angry with. Idk why, it was for no reason. If I am crushing on someone and they crush on me back, I end up wanting nothing to do with them and avoid them because they’ve suddenly become the most annoying person in the world to me. Not just the most annoying, but scariest. I’ve never had a crush on someone and been able to imagine myself doing anything romantic or sexual with them without getting uncomfortable… even if it’s a HUGE crush.

My best friend who’s younger than me had a dating app for like two weeks not even a month ago and already has a boyfriend. I just feel so useless and lonely. I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I might just be undateable. And I’m really trying hard to just accept that. I’ve been having crazy urges to go and download a dating app or talk to people but I know damn well that it’ll never ever work out in the end for me. A lot of my closest friends are also trans and they are all in relationships. I don’t know why things are so hard for me.

I’m just gonna give up now. I’m taking this as my sign to just stop where I am and not even try anymore. No more dating apps, no more trying to make a move. I’m done. I’m transgender anyways, that just makes things extra hard for me.

Idk I’m sorry about the rant. I guess I just need people to reassure me and be sure to drill into my head that I’m making the right decision. It’s gonna hurt really bad. I’d consider myself a very “yearn-y” person. I have songs I dream of playing at my future wedding and I constantly fantasize about having a sweet little married life with a future husband but every time one given an opportunity for romance I basically immediately shut down. It’ll kill me knowing I’ll never get to date or have sex or anything (if you care about my opinions on sex then by all means go ahead and ask lol) but I know it’s the right thing to do and it’ll hurt a lot more before it gets better. Has anyone else given up? How did things go for you? Thanks for listening I appreciate you and you’re loved

For context I work out regularly, drink water, eat clean. Maybe I can do a bit more cardio tho

Hi all, I’m not sure where else to post this so I’m turning here. I’m 18 M), turned 18 in March. I’ve been talking to this guy on hinge for about a month (34M) and I really fw him and he fw me, but he’s 34 and I’m clearly not. I haven’t even graduated yet, and I really do like this guy but I’m not sure if I should be like worried he’s a weirdo or not. He’s definitely made it clear that he has interest in my sexually, and I’m still on the fence about most things because I’ve never even kissed or dated anybody. I guess I’d just like to know other people’s opinions on whether or not I should keep pursuing something more than friendly with him. Thanks for reading