u/JeromeSergey

Hello, I have a difficult question about my 95 year old father. Do you think he is a candidate for inpatient hospice?

He doesn't have any diseases. Being 95, he was in cognitive and physical decline, but could walk very short distances. For a year, he has been having fainting spells, and last week, he fell, shat on himself. Suddenly he couldn't walk anymore, can't even get out of bed, can't stand. He can't even turn on his side in bed, or pull his blanket up.

He was at the ER, was hospitalized, and will now go to a rehab center. There are no known causes for his inability to walk, except old age.

He has been telling me this week he would like to die. He doesn't think he will recover. He hates the idea of being in a rehab center for 2 months, and then probably going to a nursing home. My mother is unable to care for him, being old and disabled herself.

My father never complains, is very non-dramatic. He is speaking very little now, except to say he wants to die. He has never been depressed, and is not spiritual at all.

I have never spoken to his doctor, and I don't know if this doctor would have a basis for recommending my father to go to a hospice.

We live in New York.

Your thoughts, please.

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