u/Junior_Box_2800

As the title says, what do women do for their male partners in relationships? Men ask them out on cute dates, buy them random/birthday/valentines gifts, take them shopping, spend time with them chatting, watching tv, etc. I just saw a post on the dating sub in fact from a dad talking about how he knows his daughter found the one because he bought her 200$, and several comments were talking about the green flag. With one teacher gushing about how her male students even take extra shifts to have extra cash to buy their gfs gifts.

Meanwhile women nowadays talk about stepping back, not even tolerating men venting as thats emotional labour they want to do that's reserved for therapists.

Men are the true romantics.

It’s funny to me that society usually associates romance with women, because when you actually look at who is doing the romantic gestures, it’s overwhelmingly men.

Who plans the surprise dates?
Who buys the flowers?
Who lights the candles?
Who writes love letters?
Who spends hours figuring out the perfect date?

Most of the time, it’s men doing those things for women.

I’m not saying women don’t care about their partners or don’t show love in other ways. Obviously they do!

But they aren’t romantic at all.

In fact, giving a man flowers is so uncommon that when it happens, it literally goes viral online because people think it’s so unusual or adorable.

I mean that says everything right there.

We’ve had it backwards the whole time.

Men are often portrayed as less emotional and less romantic, but if romance is defined by grand gestures, gift-giving, surprises, and courtship, it seems like men are doing the majority of it.

I hung out with my friend recently who's married and being around him was eye-opening. I thought I'd made decent progress but being around him made me realize how he's in a relationship and how much further I have yet to go until I'm worthy of being in one myself:

- The dude has a really nice apartment for himself with an amazing view in a great area full of greenery and liveliness and close to everything someone could need. Meanwhile I still live with my parents

- The dude is absolutely built and shredded, while I'm still pretty lean and skinny

- This ties into the above point but his discipline and dedication is insane, he's addicted to the gym and has been doing it for years, meanwhile I only just started and have been sporadic, only managing around 3 days. Plus his diet control and weight management and all that

- Another big thing: how social he is. The dude has droves of friends pretty much everywhere and is always running into someone or the other.

We both grew up in similar environments and used to be pretty similar but I feel like we've gone in complete opposite directions. He's so charismatic and social and driven whereas I feel like I've only become more reclusive and stagnant. This isn't me whining btw. It's sobering and really inspiring, a mirror that shows your shortcomings so yk where to improve

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