u/JustADohyonStan

Capaz es medio boludo el post, pero tengo casi 20 y realmente me estoy empezando a dar cuenta que no sé relacionarme con el género opuesto de manera romántica y me da algo de miedo.

No les voy a mentir, toda la vida fui media feita, me hicieron bullying en la primaria por fea y durante el principio de la secundaria mis compañeros literalmente me apodaron "Fea." Obvio fue un bajón de autoestima durante muchos años, signos de depresión y pensamientos suicidas, mucho laburo en terapia y ahora que estoy mejor me doy cuenta que todo eso me dejó una huella: no sé relacionarme con varones de forma romántica.

Un verano cambie básicamente todo de mí y de la nada la gente me empezó a dar bola. Algunas veces me invitaron a salir y yo me doy cuenta que le huyo a la situación, me causa muchísima ansiedad, no me puedo imaginar a mí misma en una relación ni procesar que la gente puede tener un interés genuino en mí. Pero al mismo tiempo fantaseo con querer una relación y si tengo gente que me gusta. Es todavía peor con cada año que pasa porque me hago más grande y nunca haber salido con alguien, nunca haber chapado, etc. se hace más raro! Me agarra como un rechazo a situaciones románticas por el miedo a quedar mal yo!!

I think this is probably the stupidest thing I've ever posted, but I've come across SO many people using pictures of idols with babies for a "gotcha!!" moment.

The problem with is is that kissing toddlers is an accepted thing in Korea, it doesn't have this pedophilic label it has in most western countries. Trying to use idols kissing babies in farwars to call them pedophiles is watering down the term. If you dislike an idol and think they are problematic, SAY IT. But don't use cultural aspects as proof of them being "bad people". There are compilations on YouTube of idols kissing babies, there are parents that kiss their children, there are some clips from "The Return of Superman" with parents kissing their children, and the list goes on.

Is kissing babies okay? No. And I would never suggest that. It has been proven that it is unhealthy and that your child can be infected by whatever those people have in their mouths. But it still is FAR from being a pedophile.

Hi, I once saw a similar question/post in here, but I was unable to find it, so sorry if this seems like a repetitive question.

For a little context, I was brought up as a Christian, so I have been going to Church my whole life and (as probably every teenager) I had my moment of questioning the Church and my own beliefs, I stopped going to Church and leaned into rock, metal and more recently into riot grrrl.

I know that I believe in God and I'm not here to open up a debate about whether God is real or not. But I'm not dumb, I know what my own Church believes, I've seen them trying to convince a guy to end his relationship because the girl wasn't a virgin, I've seen them pushing for very young marriages, I've heard them talking about homosexuality and abortion as sins, I've heard people joking about ICE and supporting Trump (despite us not living in the us) so going makes me feel out of place, especially when I spend the rest of my weekend at different alt events and when most of my friends are part of the LGBTQ community. So is there actually a way to identify as Christian without people immediately assuming I'm conservative or is it just hypocritical towards both sides?

Es re boluda la pregunta, ya sé, pero me crucé mucha gente que se presenta sin haber estudiado para "ver qué toman"

Para mí es al pedo, te entregan un parcial que terminas entregando con mínimas respuestas/en blanco y el recuperatorio muy probablemente no tenga ninguna de esas preguntas! Pero quería saber qué opinan otras personas y si alguna vez se beneficiaron de ir sin haber estudiado

I'm not sure how to break down this question because I feel like it's very straightfoward already. But I think a lot of us have heard the "God will give you a sign" or "I asked God for a sign and he answered!" But I've always been ashamed of asking how to tell coincidences and actual signs apart.

Lately, I've felt really alone and started praying for actual friends or at least for people to understand me. Since then I've seen the same people around me a couple of times (we are suddenly standing awkardly next to each other or serving together or we end up in the same Bible studies, etc.) The thing is... I'm a very anxious person that also tends to overanalize scenarios a lot and also, every time I try to start a conversation they give me short answers, like they don't want me around. So yeah, I've been wondering if coming across the same group of people so much is simply a coincidence or an actual sign from God to keep trying to connect with them.

I'm afraid of being too ugly or too unbearable to ever be in a relationship. I hope this to be just me being a stupid 20 year old, but somewhere deep in my heart I always have the doubt of how much of this perception of myself I'm "making up".

As I have just stated, I'm 20, which will lead a bunch of you to think "You are young, you still have your whole life to find someone" and I know that's true, but I've been raised in a Christian environment where young relationships and marriages are highly encouraged. I know multiple girls around my age (21, 22, 23) who are either engaged or already married and I know a bunch of younger girls (16, 17, 18) who are already in relationships. But I've never experienced anything like that. I've never kissed a guy, I've much less made out with one, I've never been in a date, I've never held hands romantically. I've been in that "talking stage" with guys only to discover that they are the kind of people that don't know how to be alone.

On top of that, during my elementary and middle school years I was bullied multiple times for my looks. Which I know is stupid, but I've carried that thorn in every thought I have about myself. I can tell others don't find me attractive, especially because teenage boys don't know how to interact with a girl if they don't find her attractive. I've been told to shut up, I've been asked about my friends' numbers. I just find myself begging God to get rid of this feeling, or at least to get rid of my desire to be loved.

Hi! So, lately my feed has been putting a lot of different Christian influencers on my screen. I don't tend to care about them since a lot of them come from a different branch of Christianity or I simply find them to be too extreme, but I started wondering how others feel about them, especially because they do have a lot of likes and followers

I also wanted to give some of my reasons of why I'm not totally into this: Firstly, I think a lot of them keep Christianity more as a brand to sell you certain products, apps or diets. Secondly, I find a lot of them to be extremely out of touch with (my) reality. I consume a lot of media in English, but I'm from Latin America so it's hard for me to listen to someone whose life is financially better, whose worries are different from mine, whose message sometimes feel shallow, and take them seriously. Finally, I think a lot of these influencers are WAY TOO YOUNG to give the advice that they are giving. I am young myself (barely an adult actually), but hearing people my age who have been married for maybe a couple of months to a year giving advice on marriage is kinda icky

No sé bien cómo expandir está pregunta, pero últimamente siento que me cruzo mucha gente a la que le cuesta entender pavadas y no puedo parar de pensar en si la gente fue siempre así de boluda

Ejemplos: Conocí a un chabón que no entendía porque dos personas que nacieron el mismo año tenían diferentes edades (refiriéndose a él que había nacido a principios de agosto y a una mina que nació a finales de diciembre).

Conocí a una chica hace unos años en la secundaria que era incapaz de entender y explicar un CUENTO que si tenía 6 páginas era mucho. Muchas veces teníamos que hacerle representaciones físicas de cuentas o del cambio que le debían porque nunca las entendía mentalmente (aunque fueran boludeces tipo, vos deja 1000 de propina que yo después te paso 500 y había que dibujarle el proceso porque exigía los 1000 pesos devuelta)

Conocí un chabón que tenía que leer y explicar El Quijote, en un capítulo leyó que un hombre se fue en carro y pensó que estaban hablando de un auto.

I've seen this debate in Kyuded's (Daniel from I-Land) latest TikTok video. He made a short video that starts with "K-pop fucked me up" and basically tells a couple of things that happened during I-Land that affected his mental health. As many know, he has been very open about hating his time on I-Land and how it kept affecting him even after being eliminated. Obviously, some people brought Enhypen into the conversation and I've seen some people discussing who suffers more, if those who debut and get expose to the pressure of being an idol or those who waste time training only to end up with nothing.

Me personally, I don't think there is someone who "has it worse". I think both being in a group and not being in one has a bad side. Because it is true that those who don't debut may fall behind with their education and lose opportunities in catching up with their peers. But making it to debut also mean being constantly exposed to the high pressure of being an idol, the extreme diets, the sasaengs, the anxiety, do money and fame really make up for those things?

Hi, I want to give a bit of context for my question and I'm sorry if this gets very long: I'm 19, I'm a girl and I've been going to Church my whole life. From a very young age I have had trouble making friends in Church and in school. This led to me dropping and coming back to Church from time to time, which only made staying in contact with others more difficult. Years went by, I grew more confident and I made tons of friends in school and even more recently, in uni. But Church still is a big source of anxiety and loneliness.

Every time I feel like I have made a friend, something happens that proves this feeling is one sided (I don't get invited to whatever they are doing, I don't get invited to birthdays, I end up sitting alone in classes or sermons or in buses when we come back home from camps, no one prays for me when we are asked to pray in couples or they straight up tell me things like "It's nice we can talk even if we are not friends").

The situations are always so embarrassing and I thought maybe we didn't have a very welcoming group (which some have admitted), but around 6 months ago a new girl joined and she already has a boyfriend, a big group of friends, gets invited to all kinds of activities and was threw a surprise party a few months ago, everyone just makes sure all the time that she is comfortable and everyone is interested in getting to.know her. This last part has also led to me feeling very envious.

Before anyone says it: I have prayed about it, I have been open to others about how I feel, I have straight up tell people "I feel alone, I don't have friends here", I have asked others to pray and I've started multiple conversations, but everything always feels like a dead end and I've started to question if God is trying to tell me this place isn't for me.

Creo que acabo de hacer la pregunta más virga de todo este subreddit así que PIDO PERDÓN, pero realmente no sé como moverme. Hace más o menos 4 años que estoy atrás del mismo pibe sin realmente conocernos. Los dos vamos a la misma Iglesia, él está super metido en todo (campamentos, actividades recreativas, alabanza, predicación, etc.) mientras que yo me quedo más al margen así que nunca coincidimos y él tampoco me tiene muy registrada. Sé cosas de él por conversaciones grupales o datos que voy escuchando por ahí, pero no tenemos realmente amigos en común ni nunca llegamos a hablar nosotros dos solos. Me gustaría saber cómo puedo hacer para entablar conversación con alguien que "conozco" sin que quede raro, forzado y sin que se note que le hablo porque me parece lindo.

PD: Antes de que alguno me tire "Háblale y listo" tengan en cuenta que estoy diagnosticada con ansiedad así que tener que hablarle a la gente se me hace más difícil que al argentino promedio

Bue, re específico el título, pero con toda la conversación que hubo sobre Argentina racista me lo empecé a cuestionar. Porque si bien es verdad que Argentina está MUY pero MUY lejos de ser el país más racista o más sexista del mundo, tampoco somos la Madre Teresa de Calcuta. Existen claros problemas sociales en relación, por ejemplo, a la obsesión con la delgadez extrema (tenemos uno de los índices de TCA más altos a nivel mundial) y aunque nos esforzamos por ignorarlo decile "Negro" a un chabón porque es inculto, poco fino o pobre tampoco es el acto menos racista y menos clasista del mundo. Siento que para muchos es difícil aceptar y entender que el país tiene momentos grises.

I know the tag isn't the best, but I'm not sure which one to use. Basically, I was invited to a Hunger Games themed birthday party and I was asked to go dress as an citizen of the world of The Hunger Games. I wanted to avoid Katniss since she is the main character, but she is like the easiest character of them all. What other easy options are there?

Eso, no tiene demasiada ciencia la pregunta. Pero básicamente logré pasar todo el CBC y el primer cuatrimestre de la carrera sin rendir nunca un oral. Pero ahora me tocaba uno en el intensivo, básicamente me quedé en blanco cuando me preguntaron las cosas, le admití al profesor que no podía seguir y me dijo que fuera al recuperatorio y que me quedara tranquila porque me iba a preguntar exactamente lo mismo y que no tenía ninguna intensión de desaprobarme. Me angustie muchísimo (como una boluda) porque es la primera vez que desapruebo algo en la facu (mi nota más baja hasta ahora había sido un 6). Yo entiendo que no es el fin del mundo, pero actualmente estoy en tratamiento por ansiedad y tener que mirar a alguien a la cara y contestarle cosas no es mi fuerte

Since I finished the series I got a bunch of those "If you liked Widow's Bay you should read/watch..." And I'm currently looking for new scary books and series, but I'm not sure how much I trust those posts. I also don't want to buy a book that is actually nothing like Widow's Bay and just share small details. For example, I've seen a lot of people recommending IT which I have both watched and read and I'm a big fan of, but I do not think they are similar apart of the whole town being cursed and the clown. I want more of the general aspects of the series being there. Maybe small town horror, generational curse and it would be even better if it doesn't take itself 100% serious

The title is all I had to get out. I have been feeling this way for a couple of years now. It's stupid, really, but it bothers me anyway. I do not hate her. I love my sister and I don't hold any kind of resentment against her, it's mostly against my parents.

I started noticing some differences way back when we were little kids. My sister isn't and wasn't the most loving girl ever, she even made my parents cried a few times with how cruel she was, which I think led to them trying to buy her love. But it was never big enough until I turned 15. In our country it is a big thing and I chose a trip to Disneyland (the rule was a trip or a party), we got my papers ready and I bought a few shorts and a pair of shoes to be comfortable around the parks. My sister also got clothes "to make it fair." I went on my own and all the updates I got from my family where about them eating out or going out somewhere once again "to make it fair." Years later it was my sister's turn. She got the trip AND the party (which also fell on the day of my actual birthday). She got the big dress she wanted, a new phone, official soccer jerseys for our favourite team, clothes for the park and more. We didn't celebrate my birthday because "we were tired" and I didn't get a gift because "we spent so much on the party."

Soon after she decided she wanted to go to an expensive Youth Camp and my mom made sure she could go. Once again she got new clothes, a new suitcase, a new swimsuit, a new Bible and a new notebook to match it. I also asked for a swimsuit since I was going on vacation with my friends (we didn't pay for a thing, we never ate out, I took my own money for food and we didn't have to pay for the place we stayed in) but I was told the swimsuit I wanted was too ugly and that they wouldn't pay for something like that.

Even more recently I wanted to go to a concert, I was told to pay for it myself, which left me with no savings. My phone (that I got like 6 years ago) broke a few days after I bought the ticket and I was told I should have spent my money wisely and that I would have to make it work. Two months after that my shoes broke (I know, luckiest person alive), I asked repeatedly to be taken to buy new ones. They decided to go without me, bought a pair I do not like and do not fit me (but coincidentally fit both my sister and my mom) because they were 18 dollars after tax and also got shoes for my sister. They were the brand and color she wanted, they cost 120 dollars (mind you, she does have shoes! she has at least 4 pairs, now 5, in perfect conditions).

No es secreto para nadie que desde hace unos años hay una queja hacia el nivel primario y secundario que tenemos en las escuelas. Sé que este deterioro se puede rastrear a muchas cosas (crisis, dictadura, etc.), pero qué qué creen que fue eso que terminó por matar a los alumnos en los últimos años? Intensificaciones? Llevarse temas en vez de materias? La no repitencia en Buenos Aires?

Before asking my question I want to say I'm sorry if my grammar or vocabulary is weird, English is not my first language.

Now, regarding my question, during the winter break (it's currently winter break where I'm from) I wanna get a few items of clothing to be comfortable but still look decent during my classes. I always end up using all black or using the same 10 graphic tees in rotation. Don't get me wrong, I love not having to think hard about my outfit in the morning, but I still want to learn how to dress properly for class. I want to give a good first impression while feeling like myself. Do you guys have any tips about how to dress better/cuter and appropriate for class?

Perdón, medio random la pregunta, pero es solo eso. Necesito alguna recomendación de zapatillas de mujer lindas y cómodas. Haces algunos años que uso casi que exclusivamente Converse, pero sé que son malas para el pie y la verdad que las hago bosta porque las uso para todo (para la facu, para pasear, para hacer mandados, para andar en bondi, etc etc). Este año probé unas Rebook y me destrozaron los dedos. Sumado a eso me gustaría recomendación de algún conocedor(a) de Flores de algún lugar con ropa linda para el invierno (especialmente buzos). Creo que son contadas con una mano las veces que fui, casi siempre terminó en algun local que se hizo conocido por redes y no me parece que tenga ni mucha variedad ni mucha calidad.