u/KadwaPaan

I feel dejected after solving maine puzzles and dis. I take too much time solving it and hence am not able to clear the cutoff. How to ace this mains prep?

Yesterday it was tough, today it is tougher. Already resisting myself edging. Help your brother out please

For context: For the first 9 years of my life, I lived in a joint family of 8 people in a village house. For the next 5 years, we lived right next door to my brother/cousins. It was a time of absolute freedom, comfort, and "no masks"—I could walk into their house anytime without permission. We moved away, but the house is still there and I visit occasionally.

I dreamed that I was staying overnight at that exact village house from 9 years ago. But in the dream, it didn’t feel like a temporary visit; it felt like I still permanently lived there. My current friend was staying over, and we were hanging out in my old room. Suddenly, I broke down crying, telling him that I wanted to live here forever, but it wouldn't be possible because everybody would be gone soon or moving away, and the place would eventually have nothing left for me.

Around 9 or 10 PM in the dream, my mother asked me to go out on my scooty to buy some veggies because she was going to make something special for us.

When I rode out, the old neighborhood and markets looked absolutely breathtaking. It looked straight out of a movie scene. It was late, so there was barely any crowd, and everything was glowing with just white and yellow lights. I was completely mesmerized by how beautiful and happy the place felt, but I was crying at the same time because of the intense nostalgia.

While riding, I suddenly thought about Hanuman Ji. Immediately, a massive, grand gate appeared. On it was a sculpture of Hanuman Ji literally tearing open his chest to reveal Sita-Ram inside.

Right after that, my father called me on my phone and asked me to find a laborer to help with some work. On the way, I ran into my cousin (who used to live next door to me). He was also in the market for some work, so we teamed up and started searching for a helper together. Then I woke up.

How I feel:

Waking up, it felt so bittersweet. I deeply miss the psychological safety and absolute comfort of that joint-family era where I didn't have to wear any masks.

Why did my brain bridge my current friend into my childhood room? What is the significance of the quiet, beautiful market lights and the Hanuman Ji gate appearing right when I was feeling so emotional? Would love to hear your thoughts or interpretations!

I can't study at all because of this shit, I can't hit the gym because of this shit. Help me out please

Switched from marathon revision videos to proper monthly magazines because IBPS/SBI PO Mains GA aske statement-based questions.

But honestly, the amount of pages are overwhelming. I finish a section, move to the next, and completely forget the first one.

I am not a teen but my cousin is. I am an only child, so I always looked for a sister or brother in my cousins. One of my younger cousins and I were very close growing up. She was truly like a little sister to me. We shared everything, and I always tried my best to support her and be there for her whenever she had a tough time.

Lately, though, everything changed out of nowhere. She stopped replying to my texts. At a recent family function, she completely ignored me while talking normally to everyone else. When I asked her if I did something wrong, she just said she wasn't feeling well and didn't want to talk. I gave her space, but later I found out she blocked me.

The hardest part was at a family wedding recently where I got really sick. While other relatives and even strangers came to check on me, she just walked into my room, picked up her things from my mom, and left without saying a word.

It is very confusing to go from a great relationship to total silence for no reason. I don't hold any grudges, but I am just trying to figure out how to handle this distance.

Hi everyone,

I am planning to start a disciplined Hanuman Chalisa practice to help me build mental focus, strength, and willpower for a highly competitive upcoming goal in my life.

I’ve been reading up on how to properly take a Sankalpa, and I notice that people frequently mention either an 11-day framework or a 41-day framework (Anushthan).

Could anyone explain the spiritual or psychological differences between doing it for 11 days versus 41 days? Is one considered more effective for long-term goals, or do they serve completely different purposes?

I want to make sure I approach this with the right mindset and understanding before I begin this Tuesday. Any guidance or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Jai Sri Ram / Jai Hanuman.

Hi everyone,

I am planning to start a disciplined Hanuman Chalisa practice to help me build mental focus, strength, and willpower for a highly competitive upcoming goal in my life.

I’ve been reading up on how to properly take a Sankalpa, and I notice that people frequently mention either an 11-day framework or a 41-day framework (Anushthan).

Could anyone explain the spiritual or psychological differences between doing it for 11 days versus 41 days? Is one considered more effective for long-term goals, or do they serve completely different purposes?

I want to make sure I approach this with the right mindset and understanding before I begin this Tuesday. Any guidance or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Jai Sri Ram / Jai Hanuman.

Are you actually covering every single type (radar, caselets, arithmetic, etc.), or just mastering a few selected types to clear the cutoff?

Hi everyone,

I am planning to start a disciplined Hanuman Chalisa practice to help me build mental focus, strength, and willpower for a highly competitive upcoming goal in my life.

I’ve been reading up on how to properly take a Sankalpa, and I notice that people frequently mention either an 11-day framework or a 41-day framework (Anushthan).

Could anyone explain the spiritual or psychological differences between doing it for 11 days versus 41 days? Is one considered more effective for long-term goals, or do they serve completely different purposes?

I want to make sure I approach this with the right mindset and understanding before I begin this Tuesday. Any guidance or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Jai Sri Ram / Jai Hanuman.

I hit an absolute wall every single afternoon and feel entirely useless for a solid hour or two. No matter how much coffee I’ve had, my brain just completely clocks out and I spend an hour staring blankly at my monitor. How do you guys overcome it?

I'm looking for some Stoic advice on how to process a sudden shift in a close relationship. I am an only child, so I always looked for a sibling's love and care in my cousins. My cousin is 19 (3 years younger than me), and we used to share a beautiful bond.

​She used to confide in me completely about her relationship and her life. I always did so much for her and made sure to be there whenever she needed support, especially when her boyfriend would treat her poorly or shame her. She was like a little sister to me.

​Then, out of nowhere, she went completely cold. She stopped replying to texts, ignored me at family gatherings while greeting everyone else, and eventually blocked me. I tried confronting her and even apologized multiple times for whatever I might have unknowingly done, but she just brushed it off, saying she "wasn't feeling well" and didn't want to talk.

​Recently, I fell severely sick at a family wedding. While strangers were checking on me, she walked into my room, ignored my presence entirely, took her things from my mom, and left.

​I am struggling with the modern equivalent of "ghosting" within my own family. I spent so much energy trying to fix something when I don't even know what went wrong, and her absolute indifference hurts deeply.

​How can I apply Stoic principles to accept this sudden silence? I know her actions are outside of my control, but I am finding it hard to let go of the desire for closure and the expectation of mutual care after everything I did for her.

I'm not a teen, but my cousin is 19. I'm an only child, so I always looked for a sibling's love and care in my cousins. She is just 2 years younger than me, so we shared a beautiful bond. She has a boyfriend and used to tell me everything about how her relationship was going..what he did, how things were. She even used to order stuff to my house so she could later give it to her boyfriend. She was my dear little sister, after all.

Then one day, I texted her and she didn't reply. Later, we met at a family get-together. She greeted everyone except me and completely ignored me. I apologized, even though I didn't know what I did wrong. This behavior continued. When we met again and it was the same, I confronted her and apologized once more. She just said she didn't want to talk to me because she wasn't feeling well. I said okay and let it go. But one day, my mom asked me to call her to get some information, and I found out I was blocked.

Recently, we went to a wedding and I fell really sick there. Even people who barely knew me came to check on me. But she just walked into my room, asked my mom about her stuff, took it, and left.

Man, I did so much for her. I was always there for her, in her bad times even if I had some important work. I just don't know what went wrong.

I graduated in 2024 , it'll be my third attempt this year. But what happened today broke me down. Last year around june or july, some construction work was going on at my home. Parents asked the labourers not to bother me for anything. Be it for tea, or some other raw materials which are to be brought from the market. They didn't. Also they struggled a bit because they knew how to ride a bike but not a scooty. They did everything by themselves. Also they were quite excited for my exam. They also wished me luck when they left.

Cut to today. One of them called me while I was taking a test. It was an unknown number so I picked it up. He was the same guy who was helping us to renovate our house. He told me that he couldn't hear my father properly so he asked me to take him on a conference call. I asked him if it's urgent. It was not urgent. I told him that I was taking a test then and I'd connect him to my father after an hour. He was quite surprised. He gently said, "Bhaiya paper nahi nikla aapka kya". He must be thinking that for this unemployment piece of shit , he used to go to the market in scorching heat. It felt heavy. Won't write more. You guys might understand what broke me down.