u/KennyMcCormickIrl

I have dyed hair, it's not my first time dying my hair so I know what this usually looks like.

One time I booked an appointment because the color was wearing off, but I accidentally booked my appointment at the wrong saloon (don't ask me how I booked the wrong saloon, it's a long story), so I went to this other saloon for the first time and they actually did a great job! Then they told me something no other hair saloon had ever told me before, they told me to come back in like 15 days because they'd do this thing called lumen that I've never heard of before that according to their words was supposed to make my color last for longer, they said for months! So of course I was stoked because months without having to worry about the dye wearing off?? Especially with pink that wears off faster than others colors?? I felt like I just found the greatest deal of my life!

As I said, I've never heard of this lumen thing even though it wasn't the first time dying my hair and when I told my best friend who had also dyed her hair in the past she also said she's never heard of that (and in hindsight that should've made me suspicious already, but who turns down potentially months without having to dye your hair again!)

So 15 days later I went back to that saloon to get this lumen thing done and everything was fine, but then when I washed my hair for the first time after this lumen I actually lost way more color than usual and I didn't change anything about the way I usually wash my hair and as I said I know that pink wears off faster, but while the other times I washed my hair in the past the water was just a bit pink, this time as soon as the water started running through my hair even before the shampoo the water was already turning bright pink and it seemed really weird since this thing I think it's supposed to make me loose less color, but after that my hair was still pink, so I was just like "whatever that was weird, hopefully next time will go better", then I washed my hair again and the same thing happened, even before using the shampoo the water was already bright pink

That's why now I'm really starting to think, is this lumen thing even real or they finally found someone dumb enough like me to fall for it??

I'll turn 18 in like a month and usually I never really make parties for my birthday, I just eat at a restaurant with my friends and that's enough for me, but of course for my 18th birthday I'll have an actual party and this year I'm actually really excited for my birthday!

Anyway, I'm a young goth and got into goth music not too long ago so I was thinking, why not make a goth playlist for my party? There are many danceable goth songs and many calmer goth songs perfect for sitting down and eating and I think many goth songs can fit the vibes of a party (at least in my opinion) so it's perfect, right? But now thinking more about it it just occurred to me that I'll literally be the only goth at the party and (except for only literally one of all my friends) no one else of them is into goth or anything alternative (it's not like they hate alternative or anything, they're all I think pretty neutral to it and not part of it but of course support me liking that stuff), so what if nobody at the party enjoys the music except me and maybe that one friend and I take away from them the opportunity of dancing or at least vibing with the music because I only though of what I like?

I thought about maybe not doing only gothic and putting in between the goth music some pop, popular party song that the rest can enjoy, but I'm afraid that those two genres are too different and would just clash together and it will all just sound like a mess forcing those two completely different vibes together, so I either have to choose something I might only like or something everyone else but me will definitely like

(And by the way, I don't actually know what any of them actually think about gothic music itself and most of them definitely don't listen to it because as I said basically none of them is any kind of alternative, but I think there could also be a chance they could like it, it's a pretty chill kind of music anyway compared to other alternative genres like for example metal that most basic people wouldn't enjoy so I feel like it's easier for them to enjoy goth compared to other genres, but what if on reality they don't? Would it be selfish of me taking this risk just because of my preference?)

Thanks to anyone who will share their perspective

HOT TAKE THAT ISN'T ACTUALLY AN HOT TAKE BUT JUST COMMON SENSE

This is kind of dumb compared to the other stuff in this subreddit and isn't that big of a deal in my opinion, but I still want to hear what you think because if my approach actually was wrong I do want to change it and I do want to hear what you think would've been a better option.

I (17F) and my cousin (13F) were playing a card game that I've been playing for literally years while she had just recently learned, so of course she doesn't really have a solid strategy yet and sometimes does dumb moves, there's nothing wrong in that and I have also of course done a lot of dumb moves when I was still learning (and sometimes still do some dumb moves) because it's normal,

So that why whenever she did a dumb move I tried explaining to her why that wasn't the smartest move not to be like "lol you suck" because that's literally a kid and of course doesn't have the same level of experience as me, but because I wanted her to learn from her mistakes and understand why it was dumb so she'll do better in the future because this is how you improve and she seemed to listen and understand and she didn't seem upset so of course to me everything was fine.

For the most part she played well and just did a few small common mistakes that everyone does at first and that I myself used to do before people explained to me why they were mistakes and only one actually major mistake.

So we eventually finish the game and get to the part where we have to count our point and I asked her if she remembers how to count her own points and she says no so I go and help her and I show her how I count and I count that the points she had to pay were more than the points she had on the table so her score was of course gonna be a negative number so I tell her that her score was gonna be negative and I then show her how I count my own points even of there was no need to just to show her how you count points.

Everything was fine and of course she wasn't mad she lost and she didn't show any sign of feeling hurt, but then when she left my mom told me I shouldn't have told her those things and she was especially pressed about my comment about her score being negative, but I wasn't like "ahah loser your score is negative!", I was more like "you'll have to pay these points for this and these other points for that and now let's subtract these points from your score and it's negative" and I genuinely don't know how else I was supposed to state this fact while showing her how I counted her score? It's not like there's anything wrong with losing and making a negative score, especially if you're still learning and I wasn't trying to make a big deal out of it or laugh at her, I can win against people much more experienced than her so what would be the point?

But maybe I did accidentally phrase that wrong and sound offensive while I genuinely just wanted her to learn, so am I the asshole? If yes, how would you change about how I had gone about it?

I am not asking for medical advice. Ever since I was a kid I've never been much of a sleeper, I could go to sleep around 4 AM and then wake up around 7 or even 6 AM without any alarms and without really feeling tired or taking naps later in the day or caffeine and my sleep has always been very light and anything can wake me up.

Later in life though I had to try starting to sleep more because of health issues and I started taking melatonin to sleep and I guess it does help a tiny bit bc I feel more tired at night while before I often wouldn't really feel all that tired, but still, my sleep is so light sometimes I even wonder if I'm actually sleeping at all bc even though I'm laying with my eyes closed I'm still very conscious basically almost as conscious as when I'm awake, I still feel the time passing and I pretty much feel all the time very aware of my surroundings and what's going on around me and my mind just keeps working basically the same it does when I'm awake. I still keep waking up in the morning around 6 or 7 AM because that's just the time I naturally wake up.

But only now I'm starting to really think about this since something unusual has started happening, as I said, I've never napped throughout the day, never felt the need to, I've never felt tired during the day even when I don't sleep much, but now I've been starting to get random bouts of sudden sleepiness in the middle of the day and I suddenly feel extremely tired and it's becoming harder and harder to just push through them while i'm sitting or laying whether i'm actually doing something important or just scrolling on tiktok.

I mean, the easy solution would just be caffeine even though I've never needed it and I don't think (and I hope) this could be anything too serious, it's just probably that I can't sleep properly

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I don't get WHY DOES SHE HAVE TO ALWAYS SAY IT?? Idk it just annoys me so much because it's ALWAYS the same comment. It happened a few times that BY PURE DAMN COINCIDENCE something bad happens the day before my period and it makes me cry and I'm not a person who usually cries and then soon after that I get my period and my mom is like "I knew you were gonna get your period, because you always cry before you get it" IT'S ALWAYS THIS DAMN SENTENCE EVERY. DAMN. TIME.

Idk the universe hates me for some reason because BAD THINGS IN MY LIFE HAPPEN ONLY BEFORE I'M ABOUT TO GET MY PERIOD because I PROMISE YOU, I would have cried for most of those things even if I wasn't about to get my period.

Also WHAT'S THE POINT IN POINTING IT OUT EVERY FUCKING TIME!? I GET IT MOM, YESTERDAY I CRIED AND TODAY I GOT MY PERIOD, WHY DO YOU KEEP SAYING IT OVER AND OVER AND OVER I GET IT YOU MADE YOUR POINT VERY VERY CLEAR SO WHAT'S THE POINT OF ALWAYS REPEATING IT EVERY MONTH!? YOU WANT A FUCKING TROPHY BECAUSE YOU KNEW I WAS ABOUT TO GET MY PERIOD!? THERE'S NO TROPHY

Honestly, I don't think I owe other people informations like my sexuality unless I'm romantically involved with them because who I'm attracted to shouldn't be something that concerns you. However, I do come out to most people, but for a completely different reason than feeling the need to.

As I said in the title, I only come out to people to test their morals. What I mean by that is, I don't want to get close or be friends with someone close minded and ignorant, so to avoid getting emotionally attached to someone before being sure they're a good person I almost immediately come out and see their reaction because I think it already tells me everything I need to know and I'm sure they're a good person because if they're not homophobic I don't think that they can be racist or misogynists or anything else bad and if they fail the test I'll just immediately cut contacts without being hurt like I would if I found out they were homophobic later.

So that's the only reason I come out to people, but if in exceptional cases I'm somehow 100% SURE someone can't be homophobic (for example: the other person is wearing a pride pin or anything else gives away that they either support or are a part of the community) I won't come out to them because as I said, I don't owe anyone that information about me, but of course if you ask or the topic just comes out naturally I won't hide it at all.

So, can anyone else relate or am I the only one who does it?? I'm curious

So, yesterday I decided to look for a tutorial for the metal scream bc 1. I was bored, 2. It would be pretty cool to be able to sing a few songs, 3. It would be a pretty badass thing to show off, 4. Bc I can. I followed as best as I could everything the girl in the tutorial said and I think I made a pretty nice first attempt and my throat barely even felt sore or uncomfortable at all, just now this constant sensation of needing to clear my throat that doesn't go away no matter how many times I clear it. Is it normal?? Did I do anything wrong wrong?? Should it worry me?? Should I never ever do the scream again?? Thank you 🫶

Se non pensava già che ero strana alle elementari o alle medie sicuramente lo penserà adesso 🙃