u/Kokomo_Kermit

We got a pool this summer. First time my daughter and I have been in a pool on a regular basis, and I've already noticed our hair getting dry and unhealthy looking.

I have thick, long hair. My daughter has thinner, red hair. Typically we try not to wash it daily. But after swimming it feels sticky so it's getting washed a lot more often. Even the best conditioners I know of aren't helping much.

What has worked for all you poolside ladies out there??

I have lived in the same house 15 years. Never had an issue getting packages. And suddenly I'm not receiving my prescription glasses. Check tracking and it said business closed, no delivery attempt, twice. What makes no sense is I've had other FedEx packages delivered yesterday!

How do I correct this? I double checked my FedEx account to make sure it says residence. Contact the glasses company to make sure they had my address down as a residence?? I called and the only thing I was told I can do is pick up from the facility between 7and 8pm. But I'm at work at that time.

Help!

The older my daughter gets, the more she communicates in a constant, whiney, baby voice.

It is so contradicting of her personality it's confusing. She's well behaved, independent, loves helping, loves taking care of our pets, loves asking a million questions a day.. lol But all of it comes out whiney in a fake baby voice. She sounded older when she was 3-4.

What really grates my nerves is when she needs something she won't just ask. She'll whine or fake cry. Wants a drink of water? Whiney fake crying, and repeating the word water in the babiest voice possible. When she used to just say "Can I have a drink of water please?" This has been going on for months! I assumed it was a phase, but I'm loosing it over here!

Has anyone experienced this with their kids? Any advice on how to make it stop?

Has HRT caused anyone to have blurry vision and eye focusing issues? I experienced both after being on it only a week. When I spoke to my doctor about it she stopped the treatment immediately. I'm now scheduled to see my optometrist, and hoping he gives me the all clear to resume. But Dr. said I may not be a candidate for HRT at all due to this.

I definitely am glad she's being cautious. But the vision issues were very slight and not all the time. And from what I read can be a common side effect to hormonal fluctuations. Also my eye symptoms stopped within a few days of stopping the HRT. For what that's worth, makes me think it's definitely the hormones.

Curious if anyone has experienced this or similar symptoms?

My core group of 5 friends range in age from 40's to early 60's. (I'm part of the former) Most of us have been very close for over 20 years. We are always together, travel together. Our kids all refer to us as 'aunts'. We're family... However, as the older ladies approached 60 some very dramatic personality changes have put a strain on this dynamic. Some general examples... Those once dependable are now standing us up without so much as a text. When they are present for dinner or an event, they are visibly annoyed, short tempered, and sometimes bluntly rude. They have become verbally critical, judgmental, and even offensive towards other people. They will blow us off, and not respond to communications. But if THEY need/want something they won't hesitate to be persistent in asking, even hounding, and not hiding how upset they are if someone isn't at their beck and call.

Some of us and even some of our kids have been berated simply for not following arbitrary instructions or just doing something one doesn't agree with. (Example- my friends teenage son was yelled at and humiliated for not bringing in the mail when going to one of his "aunts" house to check on her pets while she was away for a weekend. This was something he did as a favor. He wasn't payed, nore would he of accepted money even if she offered, and she never asked him specifically to get the mail. I agree a lot of people would of thought to do that. But he's a teenage kid!!... She was so angry that he ended going home in tears! Whats worse is when his mom confronted her about it she dug her heels in and continued to insult the intelligence of the kid and basically implied it was from poor upbringing) My own daughter has been very hurt recently because one of her 'aunts' was a no show for several of her events. (Graduation, christmas pageant, dance recital) after she said she was coming. Even confirmed it as early as the day of. Then was a no show without explanation. When asked about it later she brushed it off. At one point she said to me. "Why do you care? I had things to do" It's fair to say all our kids adored these women before this shift, and overall was always very excited to spend time with them. Those are just SOME of the examples we've experienced from the 3 women that are close to and over 60. I know I'm lumping the actions of 3 people together in this post to simplify the point. But the behavior is honestly so similar to each other it's alarming.
It definitely feels like a double standard at best. And like the rug has been completely pulled out from under this once close knit group of women. When the first friend stated to act this way a few years ago we really just thought she was going through something, or even experiencing a mental health crisis. We were understanding and patient. But now that more of the older ladies are behaving similar, it feels like a pattern. And no one seems to be self aware! One lady, once expressing concerns for how the oldest friend was behaving, is now behaving the same and doesn't seem to realize the irony.

Is this common? Is this menopause?? 

This is so heartbreaking! I miss my friends! Help!