u/Kokomo_Kermit

I have a 15yr old husky mix. 90lbs. The BEST dog ever. The absolute best. His only real health issue is arthritis in the hind legs. He's on Adequan injections every two weeks, and Galliprant once a day. His doctor has reworked his meds multiple times to find something that seems to help the most. But obviously with his size and age, he still struggles sometimes. He is very happy though. Still gets zoomies, loves playing ball, follows the kids around.
He's starting to have incontinence issues. Poops himself while laying down. Not sure if he can't feel it or just can't always get up by himself if no one is home or awake to help him. ​Will poop partly outside then come in and poop more. Or vise versa. Will wake up to a small amount of poop on the floor by the door, and then he'll go outside and poop more. He never urinates in the house (yet!) LOL. His bloodwork looks good and his doctor doesn't want to do anything invasive at his age. Last appointment she mentioned it might be time to consider euthanasia. 😫 As she assumes the incontinence will only get worse. This is inconceivable to me. I obviously wouldn't want him to suffer. But he seems to be happy and not in pain. I'd be thankful for any advice. Would diapers be ridiculous on a dog this large? I just want to keep him comfortable and happy for as long as possible.

I have a 15yr old husky mix. 90lbs. The BEST dog ever. The absolute best. His only real health issue is arthritis in the hind legs. He's on Adequan injections every two weeks, and Galliprant once a day. His doctor has reworked his meds multiple times to find something that seems to help the most. But obviously with his size and age, he still struggles sometimes. He is very happy though. Still gets zoomies, loves playing ball, follows the kids around.
He's starting to have incontinence issues. Poops himself while laying down. Not sure if he can't feel it or just can't always get up by himself if no one is home or awake to help him. ​Will poop partly outside then come in and poop more. Or vise versa. Will wake up to a small amount of poop on the floor by the door, and then he'll go outside and poop more. He never urinates in the house (yet!) LOL. His bloodwork looks good and his doctor doesn't want to do anything invasive at his age. Last appointment she mentioned it might be time to consider euthanasia. 😫 As she assumes the incontinence will only get worse. This is inconceivable to me. I obviously wouldn't want him to suffer. But he seems to be happy and not in pain. I'd be thankful for any advice. Would diapers be ridiculous on a dog this large? I just want to keep him comfortable and happy for as long as possible.

This is probably a stupid question. But I'm new to this, so please be kind.

I understand telogen​ is all over thinning, and alopecia areata starts more on the crown, widening part...etc. but when either first start, you're going to notice the top of your head more than anything else, right? Because that's what we're looking at when we do our hair.

So, how do you know what is happening?

I do have a doctor's appointment towards the end of the month...btw. so I'm not looking for medical advice. Just generally speaking, did y'all need a doctor to tell you exactly what was happening? Or were you able to guess by the symptoms? If so, did you have someone else check the back of your head?

Sometimes I think it's just my crown and part. But other times, like when putting my hair up, or washing it, it seems to be less thick all around. I'm making making myself crazy over here. 😫​

I need vaccine records for my dogs to go to a boarding facility. I've requested several times for the records. The answer from the front desk was to tell me the records are on my receipt. (It's emailed) I check what they emailed me, and it has vaccine reminders at the bottom. Like the date the next vaccine is due.

I tried to submit that to the boarding facility and they won't accept it. They need an actual record of when it was given. I asked the clinic again and they flat out told me me they have no way of providing that.

How is that possible? I feel trapped between a rock and a hard place. On one hand, I get that if I have a reminder my dog is due for a rabies vaccine in 2028 he must be current. And the boarding facility could accept it. On the other hand. Why can't the clinic just provide me the actual vaccine records? I think about when my kids needed vaccine records for school, the doctor had a print out that had the vaccine, date and his signature beside each one. Is that not how it works with animals?

​ What should I do? We are supposed to leave for vacation next week.

UPDATE - spoke to the manager and got the records. She was very apologetic, said they can absolutely provide the records, and that she would speak to the front desk staff about it.

So I think it's a lack of training issue maybe. what's wild is I spoke to two different people about this and was told the same thing.

15yr old husky mix. Retired therapy dog. Well trained and house ​broken. In the past year he's developed this weird quirk where he won't poo in the grass. Ever.

I can walk him in the yard for 30 mins. Till I give up and head back inside. He'll poop on the way back to the house on the patio, porch, or inside.

He can be outside in the fence and hold it till he's inside. Or, if he really has to go he'll go in the mulched flower beds.

Yesterday he escaped the fence (that we were in, my daughter was playing on her swingset) to go poop on the porch, and then came back to hang with us.

He never urinates anywhere except the grass.

To be clear I'm not upset, I'm just happy he's still around and as healthy as he is. But still.. WTH?? Lol. It's weird right? ​​

Daughter just got a marble run. Thought it was terrific idea because she's obsessed with marbles for some reasons. They are like treasure and all over the house. But the marbles run marbles are small! Regular marbles won't work. Is this a how all marbles runs are these days? Or did I unknowingly buy a crappy one?

Also, anyone know if you can get replacement, small marbles?

I've tried good brands, cheap brands, all sizes that would reasonably fit me. I love the concept of a tankini for using the bathroom, swimming with kids and not having a bikini top be pulled off... But no matter what kind I get it's riding up and looking terrible.

I've heard, "Mom, watch this!" Followed by the most mundane things imaginable, Approximately 5789 times today.

I know this is a question old as time, but I naively thought as I age it would stop...

I was a very thin kid and young adult. Just naturally thin, and tall. The way people expect me to stay exactly the same size and feel they have a right to comment on it is wild to me. I'm now 45, have 4 kids, my youngest was born when I was 39! I'm still fit and would arguably considered a very healthy weight for my age. But I'm not a stick figure anymore. People that I've known for a long time will look me up and down, make comments like. "You used to be so thin" or "I expected you of all people to loose all the baby weight " WTF is wrong with people???
I even said to a good friend of mine, I'm in my 40's!!! I shouldn't have the figure of a 12yr old boy anymore!
Side note - none of these people have maintained a healthy weight themselves mind you. But because I was always the "thin one" they somehow feel justified in judging my body!(?)

And also, why the double standard? No one ever brings up my husband's weight. He was a skinny kid.

For the love of christ, PLEASE stop seasoning food on the kids menu as if it were the adult menu!!

Ordered a kids meal with a side of corn on the cob. It came out like street corn with chilies and cheese on it. (It wasn't even a Mexican restaurant)

Ordered a kids pasta at a nice Italian restaurant, that came with a spicy pomodoro sauce!!.. the list goes on and on, even French fries covered in seasoning salt. Just hold the seasoning if it's a kids menu item.

I know chefs want to leave their mark. I get it. Trust me I absolutely love lots of flavor, spice, trying new things. And my kids aren't even afraid to try new things. But taking a taste of my spicy sauce is enough. Paying $15 dollars for a huge portion of food they won't touch just makes no sense.

You could be a Michelin star restaurant and serve craft Mac and Cheese on the kids menu, parents would love it.

All we want to do is eat our food without hangry children whining next to us.

Please! Hear my plea!!

EDIT - I should of said basic seasoning like salt and pepper is fine, and just save the fancy/spicy stuff for the adult menu. My kids eat plenty of different foods. I have one that loves spicy food (though, not until he was older to be fair) and one that still hates it even as a teenager. And a 5yr old who cries at the sight of a pepper seed flakes. ​

My point is, when I'm paying money to sit at a restaurant I don't think that's the time to experiment with new flavors for kids. OR do it by sharing the food the adults ordered, and keep the kids meal simple. When we're on vacation, at the beach all day, all I really need is for my kids to eat and not be fussy! It's not the time to be adventurous and expand their palates. IMO

My very close friend, for over 20 years is slightly older than me. Her only child was 5ish when we met. I was very involved with her daughter though the years. I babysat often, went to her events, games, shows, bday parties. She was the flower girl in my wedding. She was often included in dinner dates and girls days out. I would take her to get our nails done together.etc. I'm still extremely close to her daughter in a very 'aunt' like way.

Fast forward, I had a daughter later in life. My friend became an honory aunt. And I looked forward to her being a part of my daughter's life. Now my daughter is 5 and my friend doesn't seem to want anything to do with her. She has never attended anything we have invited her to. (Dance recitals, Christmas pageant, art show) Usually says she wants to go then cancels last minute. Or just stands us up all together. She acts annoyed if I can't get a sitter to watch her and bring her along to a restaurant with us. She is short tempered with her, will scold her for nothing. (Being hangry or fussy about something. Typical 5yr old behavior)

I tried to talk to her about all this and really didn't get anywhere. She kept changing the subject and avoiding the issue.

I'm at a loss. I don't want anyone to feel forced to be in my child's life. But this feels like such a double standard and it's deeply hurtful. Not sure if i should end the friendship or not? Trying to talk about it again might make her feel forced which I do not want. I've made how I feel clear and her attitude hasn't changed.

My very close friend, for over 20 years is slightly older than me. Her only child was 5ish when we met. We hit it off right away and I was treated like family. I was very involved with her daughter as well. I babysat often, went to her events, games, shows, bday parties. She was the flower girl in my wedding. She was often included in dinner dates and girls days out. I would take her to get our nails done together.etc. I'm still extremely close to her daughter in a very 'aunt' like way.

Fast forward, I had a daughter later in life. My friend became an honory aunt. And I looked forward to her being a part of my daughter's life. Now my daughter is 5 and my friend doesn't seem to want anything to do with her. She has never attended anything we have invited her to. (Dance recitals, Christmas pageant, art show) Usually says she wants to go then cancels last minute. Or just stands us up all together. She acts annoyed if I can't get a sitter to watch her and bring her along to a restaurant with us. She is short tempered with her, will scold her for nothing. (Being hangry or fussy about something. Typical 5yr old behavior)

I tried to talk to her about all this and really didn't get anywhere. She kept changing the subject and avoiding the issue.

I'm at a loss. I don't want anyone to feel forced to be in my child's life. But this feels like such a double standard and it's deeply hurtful.

To be clear, my daughter isn't "bad" or problematic in any way. In school she gets nothing but praise from her teachers. Not saying she's perfect either of course. But it's not extreme behavior that is putting my friend off. Things that annoy her for instance are, my daughter interrupting us during dinner to ask her if she can help her look for something in her find it book. Or if she can play tic tac toe. God forbid she gets whiney because she hungry or tired. That'll set this women off like she's the worst kid ever.

And for context, her daughter was a very typical child as well. Very talkative, very demanding of attention...not in a bad way. Just in a kid way. They are actually very similar.

Considering all that, I just can't understand where this attitude towards my kid is coming from? And I don't know what to do moving forward.

We got a pool this summer. First time my daughter and I have been in a pool on a regular basis, and I've already noticed our hair getting dry and unhealthy looking.

I have thick, long hair. My daughter has thinner, red hair. Typically we try not to wash it daily. But after swimming it feels sticky so it's getting washed a lot more often. Even the best conditioners I know of aren't helping much.

What has worked for all you poolside ladies out there??

I have lived in the same house 15 years. Never had an issue getting packages. And suddenly I'm not receiving my prescription glasses. Check tracking and it said business closed, no delivery attempt, twice. What makes no sense is I've had other FedEx packages delivered yesterday!

How do I correct this? I double checked my FedEx account to make sure it says residence. Contact the glasses company to make sure they had my address down as a residence?? I called and the only thing I was told I can do is pick up from the facility between 7and 8pm. But I'm at work at that time.

Help!

The older my daughter gets, the more she communicates in a constant, whiney, baby voice.

It is so contradicting of her personality it's confusing. She's well behaved, independent, loves helping, loves taking care of our pets, loves asking a million questions a day.. lol But all of it comes out whiney in a fake baby voice. She sounded older when she was 3-4.

What really grates my nerves is when she needs something she won't just ask. She'll whine or fake cry. Wants a drink of water? Whiney fake crying, and repeating the word water in the babiest voice possible. When she used to just say "Can I have a drink of water please?" This has been going on for months! I assumed it was a phase, but I'm loosing it over here!

Has anyone experienced this with their kids? Any advice on how to make it stop?

Has HRT caused anyone to have blurry vision and eye focusing issues? I experienced both after being on it only a week. When I spoke to my doctor about it she stopped the treatment immediately. I'm now scheduled to see my optometrist, and hoping he gives me the all clear to resume. But Dr. said I may not be a candidate for HRT at all due to this.

I definitely am glad she's being cautious. But the vision issues were very slight and not all the time. And from what I read can be a common side effect to hormonal fluctuations. Also my eye symptoms stopped within a few days of stopping the HRT. For what that's worth, makes me think it's definitely the hormones.

Curious if anyone has experienced this or similar symptoms?

My core group of 5 friends range in age from 40's to early 60's. (I'm part of the former) Most of us have been very close for over 20 years. We are always together, travel together. Our kids all refer to us as 'aunts'. We're family... However, as the older ladies approached 60 some very dramatic personality changes have put a strain on this dynamic. Some general examples... Those once dependable are now standing us up without so much as a text. When they are present for dinner or an event, they are visibly annoyed, short tempered, and sometimes bluntly rude. They have become verbally critical, judgmental, and even offensive towards other people. They will blow us off, and not respond to communications. But if THEY need/want something they won't hesitate to be persistent in asking, even hounding, and not hiding how upset they are if someone isn't at their beck and call.

Some of us and even some of our kids have been berated simply for not following arbitrary instructions or just doing something one doesn't agree with. (Example- my friends teenage son was yelled at and humiliated for not bringing in the mail when going to one of his "aunts" house to check on her pets while she was away for a weekend. This was something he did as a favor. He wasn't payed, nore would he of accepted money even if she offered, and she never asked him specifically to get the mail. I agree a lot of people would of thought to do that. But he's a teenage kid!!... She was so angry that he ended going home in tears! Whats worse is when his mom confronted her about it she dug her heels in and continued to insult the intelligence of the kid and basically implied it was from poor upbringing) My own daughter has been very hurt recently because one of her 'aunts' was a no show for several of her events. (Graduation, christmas pageant, dance recital) after she said she was coming. Even confirmed it as early as the day of. Then was a no show without explanation. When asked about it later she brushed it off. At one point she said to me. "Why do you care? I had things to do" It's fair to say all our kids adored these women before this shift, and overall was always very excited to spend time with them. Those are just SOME of the examples we've experienced from the 3 women that are close to and over 60. I know I'm lumping the actions of 3 people together in this post to simplify the point. But the behavior is honestly so similar to each other it's alarming.
It definitely feels like a double standard at best. And like the rug has been completely pulled out from under this once close knit group of women. When the first friend stated to act this way a few years ago we really just thought she was going through something, or even experiencing a mental health crisis. We were understanding and patient. But now that more of the older ladies are behaving similar, it feels like a pattern. And no one seems to be self aware! One lady, once expressing concerns for how the oldest friend was behaving, is now behaving the same and doesn't seem to realize the irony.

Is this common? Is this menopause?? 

This is so heartbreaking! I miss my friends! Help!