u/KrissyRainn

I grew up with cats/kittens. Never have I ever met a kitten with so much energy as my 11 week old Rita.

For the first 5 days she was isolated and I would go in every hour to play with her until bed time (I'm currently on summer vacation so I have the time plus I was slowly working on introducing her to 5 year old resident kitty who can be a little anxious).

Once the vet cleared her I did 5 days of a kitty gate open during the day and door closed at night. Going in again every hour and playing with her (for some times over an hour at a time). Resident was doing pretty good with seeing her through the cat gate (occasional hiss and growl).

I know the above may seem excessive but resident kitty has never lived with another cat once she left her litter mates and I wanted to ensure she could slowly ease into a kitten being here.

The past 4 days we have been doing supervised roaming (resident is pretty good with her) but I'm not 100% comfortable letting her be out all night by herself yet.

First 2 days I'd let her out for 2 hours take a break and let her out again once she naps. I noticed if I don't give her a break (put her in her room) she won't eat, drink, or sleep. She goes non stop (I know kittens are very energetic I've just never had a kitten keep going without stopping for even a few minutes).

The past 2 days I stopped hovering and have been letting her do her own thing. Again, she plays sooo hard that she won't stop to rest, drink, or eat so I have to put her in her room to calm down. She does stop to use the litter box while playing thankfully.

Today I had her out from 8am to 2pm and she went from 8-1 without stopping (aside from be physically bringing her to her food/water). She finally laid down on the couch but still wouldn't sleep. She got so overstimulated? Over tired? She was repeatedly attacking my hands and feet and chasing resident kitty despite her protests so again I brought her to her room and closed the door and finally she took a 4 hour nap.

Growing up my parents had many cats and had them all from 8 weeks (or slightly older) so I know how hyper they can be but I've never seen this lol 😆 This is my first time getting a kitten as an adult (my boyfriend had his kitty already when I met him).

Maybe she's just excited to finally be exploring. Has anyone else had to get their kitten to "take breaks". I feel so bad putting her in "her room". She doesnt cry to get out or anything she'll eat, use the bathroom, and fall asleep quickly. She meows once shes up and I let her back out.

She's such a good girl and I'm so happy to have her. I go in in the morning to feed her before I let her out and shes all over me purring and let's me hold her like a baby while she gently paws at my face and kisses me. She follows me around and hangs out at my feet while I do chores. But the only time I can really pet her is when shes groggy from waking or she thinks I'm playing 😆

We have plenty of toys and I play with her a ton.

I guess I'm just looking to see if anyone else has had to do this until their kitten got a bit older and was able to regulate themselves a bit more.

Thank you 😀

Yesterday evening I could smell smoke and I heard my neighbors fire detector (property is a house converted into an upper and lower and my neighbors live in the lower unit).

Banged on their door realized they weren't home so called 911.

Thankfully they got in through an open window. There was so much smoke coming out I truly thought something was on fire.

They had left a pot unattended on the stove and while the firefighter said it wasnt yet a fire it would have become one.

He then started asking about how many people lived there. Told him to my knowledge 4 (parents, toddler, and teen) he told me it seemed like more people were as they found quiet a few mattresses in the basement as well as upstairs. He also mentioned the conditions of the unit weren't great. He asked for a contact so I gave him one for the property manager.

I regret my next decision because now I'm scared the property manager will be upset with me. I left them a voicemail detailing the incident and mentioned the fire department also said there seems to be a possible over crowding issue. I just asked if they could possibly talk to them about fire safety. I feel like I shouldn't have said anything.

I always get a bit nervous when it comes to upsetting property management (I'm just an anxious person). But I was a bit angry at the neighbors negligence. If my boyfriend and I weren't home both units could have possibly burnt down and I have cats as well that I worry about. I get accidents happen but if I'm honest they aren't the best neighbors so this just made me even more angry (very dirty and very loud).

I don't know if what happened will launch an investigation into the property (which is what I'm most afraid of happening) and the PM then getting mad at me for sharing info with the fire department (which i didnt they made their own observations although I mean I've had my suspicions more people were living there and not because the PM allows it i think its all the neighbors doing).

Should I be worried at all? Part of me thinks reporting safety issues is responsible as a tenant but I just never know. Also scared my neighbors are going to be mad at me. I heard them come home late in the evening so I'm sure they saw what happened.

Any insight is much appreciated

Today my boyfriend and I brought home a 9 week old kitten.

We have set her up in a spare room with her own litter, bed, toys, and dishes.

When we got home I fed her played with her a bit and she fell asleep (I have her in a pet tent with all her things when I'm not in the room so when she fell asleep I placed her in there).

My 5 year old female was near the door the entire time kitten was napping (closed door). She was sniffing and I could tell she knew something was in there.

When kitten woke up I let resident kitty in just to gauge what she is like so I know how slow to go. She didn't immediately notice kitten but was sniffing the tent. Once she noticed kitten she hissed and let out a few loud growls. I decided it was time to separate them (no lunging at the tent or swatting just growls and hissing).

I know some growling and hissing is to be expected.

Kitten is sleeping again but once shes up I plan on scent swapping and just leaving them without any further interaction for today.

How often should I be letting resident in to see kitten (while in the tent) and how long should I allow her to be in there ? If she starts growling and hissing is it best to immediately separate them or let her continue as long as she isn't physically aggressive for a few minutes?

After their interaction when I went to see resident kitty she was back in a good mood and I gave her some treats and good pets.

Any advice is much appreciated.

A few months ago a man overdosed in front of my apartment (I'm in an upper unit of a house which becomes relevant). I performed CPR on him until EMS arrived (thankfully getting a pulse back).

When I left the scene he had his back to me talking to EMS so I was certain he never saw where I lived.

Two nights ago I get a knock on the door and it was him. I was very shocked. He told me he used to live here. I closed the door behind me and went out to talk to him (I don't think he actually used to live here I've been here 3 years but my bf 6 years). He didn't seem to recognize me at all. I honestly don't know what made him come knock on my door specifically.

He told me he was confused and cold. I offered to get him a sweater and also gave him some food and water and let him use my phone to try to call someone. He was very polite and when i asked him to leave he didnt object just thanked me and left.

My boyfriend got angry with me but I think he may have been right and I messed up.

I made a Facebook post in my local city looking for the young mans family to see if someone could help him.

I got a lot of responses from people who have had interactions with him (all good) and a few that weren't so good. Then his Aunt reached out.

She told me he may seemed polite but if he doesn't get his way he becomes very violent. She mentioned he has even threatened her 12 year old with a knife (none of the family talk to him anymore because of his behavior). She said in the past she's had to call the cops to have him removed many times. She thanked me for helping but told me to be careful.

Few hours after speaking to her I get a knock at my door again and its him. I ignored it and watched from a window until I saw him walk away.

I realize this is my fault. I just have a soft spot for helping those in need but now I'm pretty scared.

Do I just keep ignoring the door and hope he eventually stops coming here ? Do I have a conversation and tell him I have done all I can do and ask him to stop coming ? I am honestly now afraid of making him mad (I'm a small woman).

Another fear I have is my boyfriend getting into it with him and a fight happening. The stairs to my unit are very steep if one of them falls down them it wont be good. I asked my boyfriend to just ignore the door and he's agreed so far.

I know this is on me but any advice on how to handle the situation would be appreciated.

Just some background information first.

About 2 months ago I heard shouting and went outside so see a man lying on the ground and someone on the phone with 911. I heard the man on with 911 mention Narcan and immediately stepped in as it was an overdose.

There was someone performing CPR but they weren't doing it correctly (appeared to be high) so i asked if I could take over. This man was so blue I wasnt sure how long he hadnt been breathing. But I got his color and a pulse back by the time EMS arrived.

Last night I was so shocked to get a knock on my door from him. There was no way he saw where I lived as he was barely conscious when I left the scene.

He told me he used to live here. I stepped outside and asked if he was the man from the overdose and he confirmed it was him.

He mentioned being cold. I had an old sweater that would fit him so I offered him the sweater, food, and water and sat outside with him while he ate and used my phone to try to call someone.

It's so heartbreaking hes only 24. He is a very polite young man as well.

When I got inside my boyfriend blew up on me for giving him food saying things like "now he will keep coming back here expecting you to feed him and bothering us". He laid into me for quite a few minutes over it.

I told him it's hard for me not to help people in need especially the man I almost watched die whos life was literally in my hands.

AITA for helping this man or is my boyfriend being unreasonable?

I understand his concerns but I am not someone to treat someone as less because of their circumstances.

Hello !

I am 32/F/Canada.

I was diagnosed with ADHD not long ago and I would really love to make some ADHD friends to chat with and share experiences with as I navigate this diagnosis and hope to find someone I can relate to.

That being said I am not exclusively looking for ADHD friends if you think we can vibe feel free to reach out 😀

A little bit about me:

I tend to get along with everyone. I am very laid back and very non-judgemental. I would like to think i have a good sense of humor.

I love cats, playing Sims and phasmophobia (even though I am honestly terrible at it), reading, and watching movies/TV.

I am not great with small talk I prefer deeper conversations. I also have a long term boyfriend so please if you choose to message me keep it platonic.

Last night I was watching TV when I heard a women ask if 911 was called.. something in her voice made me jump up to see what was happening. When I looked out the window I saw a man on the ground in front of house. I ran outside to see if I could help.

There was a man on the phone with 911 and I heard him mention someone had administered narcan so I knew immediately the man was overdosing. There was a women kneeling beside him who appeared to also be impaired (I now think she may have been his girlfriend or maybe a friend). She was trying to perform CPR but I could tell she wasn't doing it correctly.

I introduced myself calmly and said I had medical training and asked if I could help (this isnt a complete lie I am about to enter my third year of medical laboratory science but I have no CPR experience I could just tell what she was doing wasn't working). She moved aside and grabbed her things and left.

The man was so blue. We talk about cyanosis in school but I've never seen it first hand. His lips were such a deep shade of blue I was sure he hadn't been breathing for a bit. I didn't check for a pulse instead I immediately started performing CPR with the guidance of 911. I gave it my all and hoped what I was doing was going to work. I'll admit I avoided looking at his face because I knew it would through me off so I focused on my hands.

911 was having trouble understanding where to send paramedics. By this time a few people had gathered and I was getting more overwhelmed. I'll admit I raised my voice to shout the address again and the 911 operator was like "WHY ARE WE YELLING?!" which made me feel bad that I raised my voice to her.

By this time a women was holding his hand I thought she knew him but later on she told me she was watching from across the street and just wanted to comfort him. She shouted his color is coming back and when I looked he wasn't blue anymore. He let out a gasp and 911 told me to continue compressions. He then started making what is described as "death rattle noises" ( I know the sound as I've come across videos). It startled me but I continued even with the women next to me yelling about it (she was saying something like omg the death rattle hes dying).

Thats when I looked up and saw 2 women wearing gloves (at the same time I heard sirens approaching) the women holding his hand informed me they are from a program ran by the homeless shelter near by. One of them asked me if I would like her to take over. I said yes and she felt for a pulse and thankfully found one and EMS arrived maybe a minute later. They were able to fully bring him back and get him on his feet. He refused further medical care which I understand is common with people experiencing addiction. The cop told him what I did and he walked up to me and said sorry and put his hand out... cop gave me a look like dont do it but I didnt care I shook his hand and told him not to be sorry.

I think the whole thing lasted maybe 10 minutes but it felt like an eternity. One of the women who volunteers at the homeless shelter had to hold me still and tell me to breathe I must have been hyperventilating and shaking or something. The man who called 911 called me a hero and the women holding his hand hugged me cried and thanked me. I don't feel like a "hero" or think i deserve any thanking. I actually felt very uncomfortable with the things they said.

I hadn't realized my boyfriend had come out and been there. If it wasnt for him witnessing it I would have thought it was a dream. It still doesn't seem real. I couldn't sleep I just kept replaying it over and over wondering if I done enough or could have done more (like convincing him to go to the hospital). This morning I finally broke down and cried for a long time. The thought that he may have died later that night weighs very heavily on me since he didn't receive any further treatment. Also seeing what I now think was his girlfriend or friend just leave him like that (I know she probably didn't want to be around when the cops showed up) was also so disheartening.

I have had traumatic things happen before but never like this. I know even before this I should have been getting therapy or counseling to deal with those past traumas but I don't have the money. I think this has impacted me more than I originally thought. My friend has told me I should try to find some free counseling services offered for low income (being a student I would probably be eligible maybe even for services from the college even though its summer). But I often think whats the point ? I don't think free services (which only typically offer 3 sessions or even what's offered by the school) would be enough as aside from this I have a lot of other things I would need to discuss and would need long term therapy.

Thank you to anyone who reads. I really just needed to write this out.