u/Kryptek_Centurion

So I F23, was hanging out with some friends and some of their friends and generally having a good time with them. About halfway through I was put on a hoodie that was given to me by a family member. About that time one of the friends of my friends, who I had been getting along with until then seemed to get uncomfortable. When I asked them what was wrong because it seemed directed at me she told me that it just seemed like I was culturally appropriating Indigenous culture. I kinda chuckled a bit before I told her that I couldn't be appropriating it because it was part of my culture as I am Native American. This led to her saying that I wasn't because I didn't look enough like a Native American and that I wouldn't call myself Native American but would call myself Indigenous. I argued back saying that to me it wasn't a big deal if I called myself Native American. We proceeded to argue a little bit more before I just excused myself from being around her when I could for the rest of the night. I'm just wondering if I'm the Asshole for this. Edit because I forgot to add, she is Native American as well.

So I F23, was hanging out with some friends and some of their friends and generally having a good time with them. About halfway through I was put on a hoodie that was given to me by a family member. About that time one of the friends of my friends, who I had been getting along with until then seemed to get uncomfortable. When I asked them what was wrong because it seemed directed at me she told me that it just seemed like I was culturally appropriating Indigenous culture. I kinda chuckled a bit before I told her that I couldn't be appropriating it because it was part of my culture as I am Native American. This led to her saying that I wasn't because I didn't look enough like a Native American and that I wouldn't call myself Native American but would call myself Indigenous. I argued back saying that to me it wasn't a big deal if I called myself Native American. We proceeded to argue a little bit more before I just excused myself from being around her when I could for the rest of the night. I'm just wondering if I'm the Asshole for this.

So I, F23, am a wildlands firefighter and I get sent out to a lot of other states and such. Well I got sent to another state and when I got free time I decided to take a simple pic of me relaxing on my free time. It wasn't anything that I thought would be bad, it didn't even have the fire. But after I posted it I got a message from some of my family members that were saying it was in bad taste to post pictures like that since there were 3 wildlands firefighters who died recently. I told them I didn't think that it was because it was just me relaxing on my free time in the nice area I was at and I wasn't even close to the area they were at, not even the same state. They still said it was bad taste and that I should take it down to which I told them it wasn't gonna happen. They said that I'm a bad person and an asshole for it and would like to know if I truly am. Edit: the reason they said something is because it's the same job that I do and because I posted it like an hour or so after their identities were revealed.

So I, F23, am a wildlands firefighter and I get sent out to a lot of other states and such. Well I got sent to another state and when I got free time I decided to take a simple pic of me relaxing on my free time. It wasn't anything that I thought would be bad, it didn't even have the fire. But after I posted it I got a message from some of my family members that were saying it was in bad taste to post pictures like that since there were 3 wildlands firefighters who died recently. I told them I didn't think that it was because it was just me relaxing on my free time in the nice area I was at and I wasn't even close to the area they were at, not even the same state. They still said it was bad taste and that I should take it down to which I told them it wasn't gonna happen. They said that I'm a bad person and an asshole for it and would like to know if I truly am.

AITA for wearing my dress uniform to my friends wedding?

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Alright so I, F23, got invited to my friend's wedding, just as a guest not anything special. My friend didn't have any dress code or anything listed. Normally I would have gone in a dress but he was wearing his dress uniform and there were other's who did as well but I was the only woman there in uniform. When I got there everything seemed fine but at the reception a bridesmaid came up to me and told me that it was wrong of me to wear my dress uniform and it looked like I was just trying to show off. She said that it had come from the bride as well. I was told that it was disrespectful to the bride and groom. When I brought up that there were others in their dress uniforms I was told that it was different but couldn't be told how.

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I didn't want to get into a huge argument so I didn't really argue much with her afterwards and I haven't really gotten the chance to ask my friend either but am I the buttface in this situation?

Alright so I, F23, got invited to my friend's wedding, just as a guest not anything special. My friend didn't have any dress code or anything listed. Normally I would have gone in a dress but he was wearing his dress uniform and there were other's who did as well but I was the only woman there in uniform. When I got there everything seemed fine but at the reception a bridesmaid came up to me and told me that it was wrong of me to wear my dress uniform and it looked like I was just trying to show off. She said that it had come from the bride as well. I was told that it was disrespectful to the bride and groom. When I brought up that there were others in their dress uniforms I was told that it was different but couldn't be told how.

I didn't want to get into a huge argument so I didn't really argue much with her afterwards and I haven't really gotten the chance to ask my friend either but am I the asshole in this situation?

So I'm trying to create a character that's a Viking inspired elf, what could be some interesting backstories for her and what class should I use for an elf Viking? I'm thinking barbarian or fighter are probably the best.