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Hello ESFJs!

I guess I'm looking for some clarity. So, I'm a 33 year old female INFP and every time I begin a new friendship with another ESFJ female around my age, it always seems like they are so excited to become friends with me. We hit things off really well in the beginning! But then, when it comes to actually planning a get-together later on down the road, it never actually happens. I will reach out to text them but it doesn't go anywhere as they say they will "look at their schedule" and "get back to me" but they do not... I will say that most of these ESFJ women are mothers with kids. However, I am also a mother (and pregnant with my 2nd). I guess I'm at fault for not reaching out again but I'm afraid I'm bothering them. I wonder if maybe they don't actually want to be friends but don't have the heart to tell me? Or maybe they have so many obligations - including family and friends - already that it's difficult to keep up with everyone?

Perhaps we initially connect well due to our Ne and Si functions. But long-term, I am not sure why the connection is not sustained. Is there anything more I should do? I wonder if my Fi makes ESFJs feel uncomfortable? I am typically a very gentle and nurturing person, to be honest. So, I am unsure.

I really need prayers for myself, my husband, and my babies (one 9.5 month old & one 24 weeks in my womb). We are struggling in every way - financially, spiritually, relationally, mentally, emotionally, & physically. My husband is a teacher and I stay home to care for my little one. I have mixed emotions and a lot of guilt. It feels* so sacrificial on my part because I just graduated with my degree in May and wish I could start working in the mental health field so that I can apply to grad school with more experience under my belt. There is also a piece of my heart that is a bit jealous of my husband because he gets to continue advancing in his career while I stay home. I know this isn't good on my part but the feeling is certainly very real :( Then, there is that deeper part of myself that loves my baby so much I can't even imagine being away from her for more than 2 hours a day. It actually brings me great anxiety and guilt to leave her with my mother-in-law for more than 1 hour. It also feels like her separation anxiety is next level which honestly breaks me. This has led me to seeking out remote jobs, temp/odd jobs, and even attempt to sell homemade baked goods. However, I think I have been spreading myself too thin after this weekend has left me feeling more depressed, stressed and anxious.

I also want to mention that I was recently diagnosed with partial placenta previa but we do not have enough support and I'm always lifting my 20+ pound baby. Plus, we are restricted from intercourse which has also been so difficult for us. My husband and I are both under a lot of stress for so many more reasons... I won't go into them all but it's just a lot of to-dos, responsibilities, etc. with deadlines.

We can barely make it to Mass on time or at all some weekends. I feel like we are carrying the heaviest weight of our lives and someone just keeps piling on the weight. On top of all that, I've been struggling to feel love for my husband. I noticed my thoughts regarding him have been negative (some fair and some unfair).

Please, please pray for us. 🙏🏻

This line has got to be up there among the top 5 most cringe worthy. I get this all the time when/if I express safety concerns or fear about another person's safety.

I don't even know how to process or unpack this statement.

Just curious because my mom said I was the first one out of her 5 babies who began walking. She said I was 8.5 months old. I'm the only intuitive person (INFP) besides my brother (he is ENFJ). My other three siblings are SPs. Maybe it's just silly or doesn't matter, but I thought it was kinda cool. Lol 😅

Sorry if this question isn't allowed; feel free to remove if not.***

Just curious because I recently heard something about teaching/education being a top profession where infidelity is highly likely to occur. I am pretty sure I witnessed two married people engaging in actions that danced on the line but never witnessed enough evidence to know for sure. I am an aid who quietly observes things from the background.

Hi ladies, so exactly as the the title states... I feel sooo insecure. I have always struggled deeply with body image issues, primarily stemming from a lot of childhood trauma. (I don't want to get into this part too much however.) I am currently in therapy for it.

I had my first baby 8 months ago and fell pregnant again shortly after, despite attempting NFP (and obviously failing miserably), due to a lack of self-control. :( I was feeling quite insecure postpartum but I felt a bit more optimistic as each winter day passed bringing me closer to spring and summer. Now that I pregnant again, I'm gaining weight again and feeling bloated all the time... And what's worse is that my clothes I bought for my previous pregnancy are becoming tight...😭 It's all messing with me psychologically and I know it is all so vain and ridiculous... I know rationally this will pass and everything is temporary... But the emotions and feelings are extremely difficult to deal with. My husband tries to tell me often that I am beautiful but I'm constantly worrying that he will not find me attractive anymore and go to someone else (this is trauma from a previous relationship).

Is anyone going through something similar? Or have you gone through something similar? Does anyone have advice? Please pray for me. It's so hard and I feel so guilty and awful for caring so much about these silly things...

Today I went down a rabbit hole and browsed through a myriad of photo albums featuring my husband's family/extended family throughout the last 30+ years. From the time he was a toddler to his 30s, just before we met. Honestly, I don't know why in the world it had such a profound impact on me but I felt a combination of powerful feelings and emotions... I felt sad for my husband seeing photos of him with his former best friend... I felt sad for his cousins and his aunts, uncles, and parents who aged with serious illnesses/disease today. They all looked so young and happy back then, naturally-- so full of life and love. His cousins seem happy today with their own kids and all but to see a cycle of life repeating and knowing it will end too eventually makes me feel really freaking sad. Life is so short. I wish I would have met my husband sooner. I'm INFP and he is ENFJ though, so we probably were not emotionally mature enough for each other at the time. I keep telling myself that so I don't feel sad about missing out on our 20s together... But yeah, I just got hit with a wave of feelings for everyone in the photos-- even his cousins I have yet to meet. I don't even know how this happens to me. 😭 Now I'm feel super depressed. Feels like I'm lacking in the dopamine department because I just want to cry and eat ice cream.

You might find that he is helpful on your journey. If not, feel free to move along. He has been so helpful to me, however, and so I wanted to share!

Hello,

I'm 14 weeks pregnant, I have a 7 month old and an elderly dog. I texted & called my landlord about the A/C, but he hasn't responded yet. Being completely fair, I texted him very early in the morning -- 5am and it's almost 9am. (edited for accuracy.)

Sometimes he takes a day or 2 to respond but I'm quite worried about the heat wave. I turned the AC last night and am allowing it to defrost. I don't really know much at all about air conditioning; I was only following Google/AI instructions at 3:30am last night. Of course it's my mistake as I left the AC running at 73 constantly.

Unfortunately, we don't have family members near by to stay with. What should we do? Should I just call a technician to come over here if my landlord doesn't respond? It's supposed to get up to 98 degrees today and I'm genuinely concerned... I'm wondering if my landlord is going to be away due to the 4th of July.

Can anyone give me advice or suggestions? Thank you very much.

EDIT 1: LL texted me this: "we are all having the same problem mine can’t keep up either i have it set to 72 won’t get below 76 at the heat of the day It is supposed to to cool down soon."

EDIT 2: Unit is central. I am top floor and it's located in a small room outside next to the balcony. I just walked out and there is a lot of water. I just tried to turn the AC back on to test and cold air is not blowing out.

EDIT 3: LL texted, "you’re call, an emergency call is going to be $500 of which you would pay the trip charge. I think it’s double in a holiday"

I have it in savings to pay for this... I don't have renter's insurance unfortunately. I'm in Maryland and it's not required legally and my contract never required it... I guess I'm now kicking myself...

EDIT 4:

While searching for the lease, I could not initially find it on my computer. I asked the LL for a copy of the lease. He replied "sure not today though"

So then he texted me again and said the following: "30 day notice effective on the the first day of month after receipt for either party in order to cancel."

I just located my lease, however. And...

The lease states that under section 39, LL is responsible for A/C. However, it also states that I am responsible if there is negligence, misuse, or actions of guests or family members.

I am very, VERY unsure how to proceed.

Hello all... I'm really struggling with my faith. For some context, I am a "returning Catholic". I love Jesus and I want terribly to just trust God... However, I feel so disheartened. :(

Forgive me for my question but.... How can I continue to trust God in the face of tragedy? For context, my Dad is Venezuelan and although we live in the US, we have family in Venezuela. They are safe but I feel heartbroken hearing about the death toll all the people still trapped. I am a very sensitive soul, so news like this has a profound impact on me. It has left me questioning how God could allow these awful tragedies to occur. Of course I know that tragedy is nothing new in this world, but when I am faced with news of more recent occurrences, I guess reality hits me once again. I think... Death is real... a child's life is not always spared... I want to add I am also a new mother of a 7 month old and I'm 13 weeks pregnant so my hormones are wild right now as well. I feel everything extra deeply. :( please keep me in your prayers. ❤️

I'm curious as to how you would answer!

Hi everyone,

I had my first OB appointment today for my 2nd baby. I am 10 weeks and 2 days with my 2nd. My first baby is 6.5 months old and very healthy. I was planning to nurse my first baby as long as I can because several women in my family have done so (at least until their milk supply dried up). However, my OB told me today that I need to begin weaning my baby as soon as possible because my body cannot "feed both babies at the same time". I asked him it this was specific to my situation because I have low ferritin levels after a hemmhorage (immediately following the birth of my first baby) and he said, "no, this is what all doctors recommend all pregnant mothers who are nursing." I told him that I know women who continued though and he said that he "guarantees" that they're "not following their OB's guidance then." I'm just so upset finding out this news. I don't know what the make out of it so I'm here to see if anyone has continued or if your doctor also told you to stop??? Please help, I'm so stressed. My baby really loves nursing and hates the bottle and she has a cows milk allergy. She absolutely hates the soy formula and refuses it...

From my good friend who was trying to help me feel better after a lady complained about my 6 month old crying:

"If the Church ain't crying, it's dying!"

Hi Mommas!

I know this is a dumb question. But I am feeling so insecure about my face. I looked at some of my old photos and I just look so. very. different! I don't look like the same person anymore. And I want to cry. I don't even feel like the same person. Who am I? I don't even know! :( Of course I put on weight since my pregnancy (I'm 5 months postpartum), so my face looks very full and round... It looks motherly but not youthful and feminine motherly... More like "soft mama bear" motherly.... :( Will I be able to change this? Is this permanent? I do notice many of my friends who are in their early 30s and have like 5+ kids also had similar facial transformations. I don't know but with every passing day, I get more and more insecure and saddened not being able to recognize myself anymore

Hi all,

I'm 5 months postpartum. My last pregnancy was difficult and I hemorrhaged at the end... It was a very traumatic experience... My ferritin levels are now extremely low and I see the hematologist next week. (I also had a miscarriage with my first baby at about 12 weeks and hemorrhaged.) I had been doing NFP up until receiving this test result.

As you can imagine, I am incredibly anxious about the result today... I know I am responsible but I still feel incredibly anxious...

Some extra context: I'm also very stressed. I'm graduating with my Bachelor's degree next month. My spouse and I currently do not make nearly enough to support our family of three at the moment. He is a teacher with a stressful work load and is getting his Master's on top of it. I stay home with the baby and attend school. Sometimes I bring my baby to class or to an exam and that's a lot. Now we have a 2nd little one on the way... I don't even know how last year was made possible...It was definitely by God's grace... I know we are very blessed with the support of his family (mine are not close by), but I feel like they may be disappointed or like they may scold me for getting pregnant again so soon and I'm not prepared for it. :( They are also a Catholic family though, so I'm hoping they will be understanding...

More than anything, I know I'm going to get recommended to have an abortion. I may even be informed that this is life-threatening. Please. PLEASE pray for me. I'm incredibly worried about it all.

Please, please pray God will give me strength to endure.

Thank you for reading and for your prayers.