u/LawfulnessRadiant562

hey all. i’m currently doing pre reqs for a adn program but had some questions before i’m in too deep. i really want this career but i have some worries.

I really love helping people and advocating for others, but I’m worried about whether healthcare is realistic for me. I have a history of mental health struggles, including an eating disorder that I’m recovering from, and past self-harm (I do have visible scars). I also deal with anxiety/OCD-type symptoms and some physical issues that make me nervous about jobs that are super physically (and mentally) demanding, which sucks because nursing is often both :(… (i also have a learning disability which i know shouldn’t hold me back but makes me doubt myself a lot).

I would love to work in fields such as community/public health, women’s health, behavioral/addictions med (potentially case management), or sports med. I’m also considering school nursing if all else fails.

Basically, I really want this. But I don’t know if i’ll even be able to last/be accepted in the long run to a program once the gen classes are finished. And I have no idea what i’d do if i need treatment again for whatever reason. But I can’t really see myself working in anything else that isn’t similar to nursing. I hate corporate life and office bullshit. But , i’m open to suggestions to other fields that may suit me better and are flexible, but still make good money. That’s also a big goal. Thank you!!

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what’s the best option to get for housing when u got kicked out. for ref, i am currently studying nursing/social work. want to get into sports medicine, peds, or combine nursing and social work to work in behavioral health, addictions, or case management. and planning on locating to either ct or Minnesota. I want to prove everyone wrong and eventually make 120k or more. is this possible? but for now, i need somewhere to stay that isnt my friends place, i’m okay with roommates by would highly appreciate being able to have my own space. m

is it possible to make 120-200k as a RN if you specialize or something similar? I originally wanted to become an NP but i’m not sure if I can handle it. I’m a new grad and only making 50k ish. I also got kicked out at 18, so I have been struggling through the adn at community college holding shitty jobs but finally have my license. But i’m so worried i’ll be stuck here, I have big goals and want a big salary to prove myself that I can make it out and live the life I want. Side note- I have some accommodations needed under the ADA and such, so I am unfortunate limited to less physical nursing roles. If not, I am willing to go back to school if anyone has better jobs for me (i do not want an office or corporate/finance adjacent job). Thanks!

so nervous about turning 18/19 that i don’t think i’ll be able to enjoy being 17 (just turned). what the fuck do i do ?? i’m not ready to be an adult i just wanna be a teen right now which like i am, and i’m not avoiding responsibility i just hate that everyone is talking about how ppl who are 17 are 18 next year so being 17 doesn’t even seem to be an age i might as well be a full ass adult now. mind you, i’ll be 18 / 19 senior year so still at home in a highschool and i feel like i don’t belong there. i’m also nervous another being perceived as a full grown person and i feel like it means i can’t get help

is 18-19 still a teenager even tho it’s legal? like do ppl treat them like older teens not full ass adults, and would it be weird to date someone who’s like 30?

is it wrong to ask God to take me home whenever He can? Is that like considered the same as S*icide asking for Him to have my time soon or no? God willing, what can I do to try to know when He might have me come? Can I ask?

genuine question here, because i’m pretty confused. (i am safe!! it’s for a project in mental health and religious studies!)

so, as I know, in most religions s*icide is considered a major sin or cause for negativity or bad karma. but, is it still considered s*icide if the person has had the thoughts, would feel better off doing it, but doesn’t do it “directly? for example going to a party and experimenting with dr*gs or putting themselves in risky situations… risk taking behavior but not necessarily at the hands of their own. and does this include overdoses they know there is always potential they could pass from (like in drug addicts) who have also had the thoughts, but was not able to know if what they’re taking is laced etc. but aware of the risk. not sure any of this is making sense thanks for bearing with me. That’s pretty much the gist of it, just where the boundary is. Oh, and for example, someone praying to be taken home, etc. just really couldn’t put my finger on where thoughts and feelings vs actions vs risk taking ( knowing it could happen ) divide. thanks everyone, just letting you know again, i’m safe, this is just confusing to me as far as ethics and beliefs go :)

scared to get older. scared of losing myself and my health and my face and my body. what am i supposed to do as an adult who still struggles with mental illness, cries at work, can’t get it together? sleeps with stuffed animals and dresses like a teenager. one day i feel like ill wake up and be considered too old to be wearing crop tops or cute dresses. fuck. what does adulting even mean and why does everyone say it sucks? am i not allowed to have mentors anymore or get help?? i have panic attacks almost daily about this, i don’t wanna be a chud.

i just need to vent and ask the question : is it embarrassing to still struggle with an ed in the 18-25 age range? for some reason my brain tells me that the minute i became a legal adult i can’t be struggling because i’m not a teenager anymore, even tho 18-19 is teens i guess… i was still in highschool till 19 that embarrassed me a lot . i’m into my twenties now and still terrified of adulthood which i spiraled about since 16. but anywho, my therapist is considering inpatient again which i haven’t been to since i was 17 as a minor so i have no idea what the adult side is like and i’m terrified to go. i’m scared i’ll get judged and feel too grown for it while i still have panic attacks, bite my nails, scars all up my arms, a recent relapse in that too, and still sleep with stuffed animals and enjoy “teenage” things and dressing like that. i’m also trying to find work and move out. i feel like a complete failure and it doesn’t help feeling like i’m not a young adult bc my ocd thinks very black and white that i was fully grown at 18 and needed to get my shit together. and it doesn’t help either that tiktok calls eveyone unc and old and “grown btw” and i feel like that applies to my struggles too. like leave this shit in the teens phase fuck i hate myself.

does anyone have tips on how to move out in late teens/early 20s I’m already embarrassed enough i’m 18-19 my senior year and feel very out of place and unsupported. I’m terrified that i’m labeled as an adult, while i still feel like a teenager. i feel like it’ll feel that way till i’m like 20-22. And I really don’t want to be a chud still living with my parents as an adult. just leeching off mommy or whatever people say. Everyone says ur a full grown adult, and shouldn’t even be hanging out with someone younger, i feel like a pred not a peer in high-school, while i still just want my mom honestly and need to ask to use the bathroom. i’m also so scared now that older people can legally pursue me and i can’t do anything about it. and i feel like i can’t be supported the way i was at 14 when i’m like 21 (turning 19 soon ish) Like in the future, I don’t really want kids, but would love to have a dog and hopefully meet someone. I’m in a bad situation and constantly feel like a failure. I want to take responsibility and show myself i can do it but i’m struggling on how i’m going to afford and find a place. i’m totally fine with renting but it’s so so expensive, is there any programs i can apply to for help that don’t discriminate based off income so i can stay on it if i need? i want to go to school maybe community or a cheaper state university to go into nursing, which i’m also nervous about because of people saying that it is draining and underpaid. I have mental illnesses and some disabilities which do make me nervous about choosing this career path because it might be too harsh. but i would hate living in the corporate world more. i want to be able to live my life the least “adult-like” i can and more chill and fun (meaning not office based, opportunity to decorate my space more spirituality, and live more like a college student vibes while maintaining responsibilities- not letting it become my life.) but the career paths i like don’t make as much as i would like to be most comfortable considering i need to spend so much on meds, appointments, out of pocket costs. i hate the way our world is right now and need anything to convince myself to keep going. and dress how i like (chill tops, crop tops, etc) and have my stuffies and tv time. also terrified of the transition to the adult mental health system, bc as of late i’m still allowed in the adolecent in my states adults are 19+ which also confuses me bc legally ur a full adult at 18?? but if i say that on here everyone will tell me to grow up and be an adult, esp on tiktok where everyone calls u a unc old and washed if ur over 16-17. and i’m scared of losing my teen face, i don’t deal well with any change and i already struggle enough with body image this will destroy me. i just cannot see myself ever reaching like 30, that’s too much. but back to the mental health, esp if i need inpatient care again, ive heard they really just don’t care about you. i would do anything to go back to age like 14-16. any advice helps. thanks for taking the time to read all this. i’m really struggling.

does anyone have tips on how to move out in late teens/early 20s I’m already embarrassed enough i’m 18-19 my senior year and feel very out of place and unsupported. I’m terrified that i’m labeled as an adult, while i still feel like a teenager. i feel like it’ll feel that way till i’m like 20-22. And I really don’t want to be a chud still living with my parents as an adult. just leeching off mommy or whatever people say. Everyone says ur a full grown adult, and shouldn’t even be hanging out with someone younger, i feel like a pred not a peer in high-school, while i still just want my mom honestly and need to ask to use the bathroom. i’m also so scared now that older people can legally pursue me and i can’t do anything about it. and i feel like i can’t be supported the way i was at 14 when i’m like 21 (turning 19 soon ish) Like in the future, I don’t really want kids, but would love to have a dog and hopefully meet someone. I’m in a bad situation and constantly feel like a failure. I want to take responsibility and show myself i can do it but i’m struggling on how i’m going to afford and find a place. i’m totally fine with renting but it’s so so expensive, is there any programs i can apply to for help that don’t discriminate based off income so i can stay on it if i need? i want to go to school maybe community or a cheaper state university to go into nursing, which i’m also nervous about because of people saying that it is draining and underpaid. I have mental illnesses and some disabilities which do make me nervous about choosing this career path because it might be too harsh. but i would hate living in the corporate world more. i want to be able to live my life the least “adult-like” i can and more chill and fun (meaning not office based, opportunity to decorate my space more spirituality, and live more like a college student vibes while maintaining responsibilities- not letting it become my life.) but the career paths i like don’t make as much as i would like to be most comfortable considering i need to spend so much on meds, appointments, out of pocket costs. i hate the way our world is right now and need anything to convince myself to keep going. and dress how i like (chill tops, crop tops, etc) and have my stuffies and tv time. also terrified of the transition to the adult mental health system, bc as of late i’m still allowed in the adolecent in my states adults are 19+ which also confuses me bc legally ur a full adult at 18?? but if i say that on here everyone will tell me to grow up and be an adult, esp on tiktok where everyone calls u a unc old and washed if ur over 16-17. and i’m scared of losing my teen face, i don’t deal well with any change and i already struggle enough with body image this will destroy me. i just cannot see myself ever reaching like 30, that’s too much. but back to the mental health, esp if i need inpatient care again, ive heard they really just don’t care about you. i would do anything to go back to age like 14-16. any advice helps. thanks for taking the time to read all this. i’m really struggling.

i’m really confused on the ages 18-19. They’re not your 20s, but people say they aren’t teens either because teen isn’t in every language and they’re legally adults. what are they throughout the world? is someone 18-19 or even 20-21 equivalent to someone 22-29/30? and people are saying eveyone is infantilizing young adults even though adolecense i thought was 18-19 but i guess some say 18-24, i’m very confused. how do people look at people in this age range? 13-17 vs 18-24 or 18-19/21?

is age 17-19 a teen or adult? or explain difference between someone aged 17,18,and 19 as their own age range (including someone who turned 17 and it’s already the same year you turn 18, but it doesn’t happen for another like 2-4 months…are you an adult then or still a teen?)

hey everyone hope you’re well. I’ve been doing a deep dive on sunscreens recently, I have extremely sensitive skin that is prone to burning and a friend with albinism i’m trying to help out. Of course UVB is an issue but i’ve been mainly worried right now about UVA rays due to the unfortunate lack of UVA protection in US sunscreens. does anyone know affordable sunscreens to get either from outside of US or any US sunscreens that pass the high pa++++ tests? And anyways to protect skin against the suns harmful rays that I should be adding into the mix as someone who likes to stay active outside when possible, but is very extreme on protection :) and trying to stop damage and make sure my skincare and anti aging products actually work, because if the sun is damaging my skin i might as well be throwing away my money. Thank you so much!

hey everyone! i’m thinking about going to get my degree and masters to hopefully become a bcba as a long term goal. i’m a fairly empathetic person who doesn’t want a corporate office type job and needs flexibility in my schedule. i also have some mental health issues and physical disabilities i hope won’t disqualify me from this role, and get paid enough to cover my treatment expenses, meds, food, rent, etc. i want to be independent but work something that doesn’t feel awful for my body and mind. i’ve always loved helping others and need something that makes a difference. my other ideas were nursing, social work, early childhood, but the last two didn’t seem to make enough and nursing seems too intense for my needs. i also have nvld, which i hope won’t be a barrier instead help me understand my clients better. any advice is much appreciated, including if it’s okay to go to a state school and online masters and no trouble getting hired jus because the school isn’t “top-tier”. and just any insight you didn’t get studying that you have now working. also job stability and AI take over is a worry. the other option i’m considering is school counseling. Thanks!

hey everyone! i’m thinking about going to get my degree and masters to become a bcba, i’m a fairly empathetic person who doesn’t want a corporate office type job and needs flexibility in my schedule. i also have some mental health issues and physical disabilities i hope won’t disqualify me from this role, and get paid enough to cover my treatment expenses, meds, food, rent, etc. i want to be independent but work something that doesn’t feel like hell. i’ve always loved helping others and need something that makes a difference. my other ideas were nursing, social work, early childhood, but the last two didn’t seem to make enough and nursing seems too intense for my needs. i also have nvld, which i hope won’t be a barrier instead help me understand my clients better. any advice is much appreciated, including if it’s okay to go to a state school and online masters and no trouble getting hired jus because the school isn’t “top-tier”, also job stability and AI take over is a worry. Thanks!