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Hi. I’m 19 and I got my first job working in a grocery store a few months ago. I deliberately took a year out before college to work full time and save up for a car and accommodation for college etc. I was originally working five days a week, but a while back I was cut down to four. I didn’t complain, I was still making money and the extra day off was nice. This week I’ve been cut down to three. I decided to talk to my manager about it, because I was terrified I did something wrong. What she said was that I wasn’t good enough. That she wouldn’t trust me to open or close the shop and I rely too much on guidance from my coworkers. That she can’t give me full time hours anymore. That really sucks. I asked her how can I improve but she couldn’t give me an answer. I’m polite to customers, get all my work done and show up 10 minutes early for work daily. When it comes to relying too much on my coworkers, they all have been here much longer than I and they often do the majority of the work provided so to be honest I never get the chance to prove myself at work. I’m just really stuck because I like the job and I don’t wanna leave but if she cuts back my hours again I’ll have to. I just need advice. Please. I really wanna be the best worker possible. It’s all I have since I have no friends and work is my only social outlet. Somebody please tell me how I can prove myself and get back to working 4 or even 5 days.

New pc builder. Looking to spend around €2,000. What should I change..?
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Hey 19 year old looking to get into pc gaming, currently planning out what parts I wanna get and am trying to keep the budget around €2000. I wanna build it myself and have learned the entire process. I have chosen a ryzen 7800 x3d as recommended by people on this sub with an arctic freezer 36 cpu cooler. I’m also looking at getting 32g of ddr5 as well as 1-2 tb of storage although I haven’t decided on the amount needed yet. The current graphics card I’ve settled on for the moment is the gigabyte rx 9070 xt but I was thinking of getting a cheaper graphics card to get more storage as I’m not sure the gaming id be doing would require a graphics card that expensive. Any advice on picking the remaining parts as well as building advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hey I’m a 19 year old guy from Ireland and I wanna purchase a pc for mainly gaming since I’ve been working full time and I have lots of money saved up. My budget is between 2-3,000 euros and I wanna know what sites are the most trustworthy, should I get it prebuilt or build it myself, and what parts should I purchase based on my budget. Thank you for any advice it’s really appreciated

Recently got back into Yugioh. Downloaded master duel and bought the 750 gems packs with the hand traps because it seemed like a good deal now I’m pretty much broke because I spend all my ur dust on more hand traps because it seemed like the best idea since I’d be using them in all my decks but now idk what deck to play and it has to be pretty cheap since like I said I’m broke lol. I’m looking for a deck with relatively simple and short combos with a good recursion game since I hate running out of cards to play in the grind game. I thought the dracotail cards looked cool and that boss monster is broken wtf why isn’t that thing banned but they’re too expensive. Any ideas? I also like fusions but I’ll play other stuff too I don’t mind

Context: she cheated. She’s not a good person unfortunately. She’s a liar and manipulator who love bombed me and then called me crazy when I wouldn’t let her go, then proceeded to cheat behind my back anyways all while called me insecure for having suspicions. I haven’t had contact with her in a couple months. But I’m so fucking scared of her. She’s tried contacting me through various ways, the craziest so far being email, and I’m terrified of what she’ll do next. I had a panic attack when I saw a missed call on my phone, just to realise it was from a takeaway place where I ordered food. How do I make this fear go away. I’m so fucking scared. I’ll probably delete this soon in case she finds it. And if you want more context and stuff just ask.

I know this sounds awful. And maybe it is. But I’m gonna say it anyways. Over a year ago now, I met my ex girlfriend. I met her online, and she was and still is my only relationship. We were both teens and didn’t have money to travel to long distance it was. The first months were great, and then they got bad. I will not get into the gritty details, but she wasn’t mentally healthy, we fought lots, and turns out she was shamelessly cheating on me behind my back for months. I found out around 11 months into our relationship. I went ghost after that, after saying some admittedly awful things, and tried to move on in life. Around a week after our breakup, I did attempt to re establish contact by texting her simply asking for answers. But I quickly came to my senses and blocked her again after realising that I’m not to get the truth out of a girl that lied to me for half our relationship. Then around two weeks later, I receive a call. It left a voicemail. It was her. It was basically saying that this whole situation was really affecting her and that she “wants to forget it all”. I know. Don’t laugh. She also said that if I wanted to talk about it she was here but I decided that enough was enough and ignored her message. I thought that was the end but no. Nearly a month later a receive an email. From her. Screenshot of my Instagram profile. I delete it and block the email. It’s coming up to a month since I got that email and I pray to god this is the last of her. I know she wants my attention and I’m afraid of how far she’s willing to go for it. Today I went out to get the mail and I ended up getting a panic attack because I thought one of the letters was from her. I thought she found me and my address. To be honest I’m scared to post this because I know she comes on here sometimes. I have nightmares about her almost every night, and suffer from these flashbacks of her I would say maybe about 100 times away where my mind goes blank and I can’t do anything. At this stage I almost that her severe mental issues got to her and she ended her life so I can be at peace knowing she won’t hurt me anymore. I know all about her issues and I know without me she doesn’t have anybody to support her. I know it sounds awful but I genuinely just want to be left alone and be at peace. I’d appreciate it if you left some kind words or maybe dmed me because I’ll probably take this down later. Thank you for reading.

Hi. Sorry if this doesent make sense because it’s really late and I’m so tired but I need to get this out. I feel like I failed my cheating girlfriend. She had a rough upbringing where she never experienced real love. A bad father, a shitty ex, everything. Then she met me and everything changed. She said she felt happy for the first time since she was a kid. I was going through my own stuff at the time too. I wanted to pull us both free so we could both be happy. I sacrificed more and more of my mental wellbeing to try and help her but it failed. She got worse. And she was disloyal. Cheated shamelessly for months. I was completely unaware, and it would’ve stayed that way if I hadn’t figured it out. Even though I know it’s not my fault, I get upset at thinking this poor hurt girl has to live the rest of her life in pain. Nobody else cares about her. I was the only one. I don’t feel anger at her anymore. I pity her.

Hi just wondering if anybody wanted to talk. I’m an 18 year old guy about 2 months into recovering from heartbreak. My girlfriend of a year wasn’t loyal and I’m not even sure if she loved me in the first place. I get vivid flashbacks of the events leading up to me finding out probably 100+ times a day which make it super hard to concentrate and I experience nightmares of her every night which makes it hard to sleep. I’d really like to talk to somebody maybe around my age or having gone through something similar. I like Pokemon, Yugioh, anime and lots of other things so we can talk about them if you’d like or you can talk about your problems too. Thank you for reading my message.

Hey. I'm not in any immediate danger, I just feel really shitty right now and I honestly just wanna end it all. Life should be good. I got a full time job, friends, family, all that. But my boyfriend, my one and only love who l dedicated a year of my life to was cheating on me for months without me knowing. I found out around two months ago and broke it off immediately. Almost every night since then, I have intense nightmares about him. I think about him every second of every day. I'm disgusted with him and myself for loving her. That he was letting others see parts of him only meant for me to see. I don't feel attraction towards others anymore. I try to imagine romantic scenarios but the boy in my imagination is always just him. I loved him so much and I doubt he even loved me. He talked to and was likely sexual with other women while being with me. It's not possible to do that to someone that you love. My insecurities have gotten worse too. I've always been a little chubby, but he always said he didn't mind and loved me the way I was. During the relationship he ruined my mental health so badly I went on antidepressants and gained more weight due to their effects. I thought I found someone who actually loved me for me. I was wrong. I want to hit the gym which I am and have been trying to lose weight but then even if I get into great shape l'll just find a man who loves me for my body and I don't want that either. How do I win in this scenario? And yes I'm going to therapy. Yes it's helping. And yes this feeling is only temporary and l'll likely feel better in the morning. I just wanna be heard, as l've never " so unloved and unwanted as I do now.

Hey. I’m not in any immediate danger, I just feel really shitty right now and I honestly just wanna end it all. Life should be good. I got a full time job, friends, family, all that. But my girlfriend, my one and only love who I dedicated a year of my life to was cheating on me for months without me knowing. I found out around two months ago and broke it off immediately. Almost every night since then, I have intense nightmares about her. I think about her every second of every day. I’m disgusted with her and myself for loving her. That she was letting others see parts of her only meant for me to see. I don’t feel attraction towards others anymore. I try to imagine romantic scenarios but the girl in my imagination is always just her. I loved her so much and I doubt she even loved me. She talked to and was likely sexual with other men while being with me. It’s not possible to do that to someone that you love. My insecurities have gotten worse too. I’ve always been a little chubby, but she always said she didn’t mind and loved me the way I was. During the relationship she ruined my mental health so badly I went on antidepressants and gained more weight due to their effects. I thought I found someone who actually loved me for me. I was wrong. I want to hit the gym which I am and have been trying to lose weight but then even if I get into great shape I’ll just find a girl who loves me for my body and I don’t want that either. How do I win in this scenario? And yes I’m going to therapy. Yes it’s helping. And yes this feeling is only temporary and I’ll likely feel better in the morning. I just wanna be heard, as I’ve never felt so unloved and unwanted as I do now.

Hey I like hurt my lower back real bad I did a back day and was doing garden work for hours afterwards and two days later it’s still super sore and stiff should I skip workout today I was gonna do chest and shoulder or should I rest up a bit more

Hey. I’ve always thought that I might have autism. I’m diagnosed with adhd and I’m going to a therapist who specialises in people with adhd/autism and he said after a couple sessions he suspected I had autism. Like today my mom brought clothes home to try on which I hate and after a few minutes I just got so overwhelmed and couldn’t do it and had to stop which made my mom really angry. I have a lot of stereotypical autistic traits I feel, I get overstimulated easily, I get really into things and hyper focus on them and don’t care about anyone else, I fidget a lot and sometimes I need to put in music or YouTube or something in my earphones when I get overwhelmed and even my friends joke that I’m autistic because I’m a little socially weird idk I just need advice I just feel different from everyone else like my brain works so differently and I just need advice please.

So basically I went through a really rough breakup like a months ago where she was cheating for months n shit but now I’m done my exams and schools finished n stuff I decided to wean off my antidepressants since they were slowly my metabolism and making me gain weight and this is the first day I went off them and I’m just lying in bed and just feel… sad…? I miss what I had with her, I miss the person I thought she was, the person I made up in my head. My wasn’t perfect, but to me she was. She wasn’t the most conventionally attractive girl, but to me she wasn’t the pinnacle of beauty, and unfortunately she still is. I genuinely don’t even feel anger, I just feel sadness. I loved her so fucking much. But I’m pretty sure this is the medication right. Because I was recovering pretty well until I decided to wean off it. This should pass. Any comforting words would be greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading and hope you have a nice day.

My girlfriend cheated on me for five months before I found out. Treated me like trash. Called me names. And now that we’ve broken up she’s made no effort to contact me or apologise or anything. She’s back flirting with guys, posting on Instagram and whatever else. I’ve blocked her now. It hurt to much to look at. I just feel so unloved. She threw me away and replaced me. Told me I’m nothing special. How anybody could do what I did. Before that she told me how I was perfect just the way I was and how she wanted to marry me. They all feel like lies now. I feel so so unloved. I just want a girl to love me. I tried so hard and was used and thrown away. I’m only 18. Please help.

Hey I’m an 18 year old guy. Going through a breakup where my gf cheated on me. Really just need someone to talk to because I’m feeling pretty low right now. Preferably around my age or going through a similar situation. I’m usually a pretty put together guy so don’t worry about me breaking down in front of you I just kinda wanna talk to someone. I don’t think my DMs are working for some reason so if you wanna talk just lemme know and I’ll give you my Instagram. Thank you for reading

I lie in bed every night and think about the moment I found out. All the moments we shared together knowing looking back she was cheating. I have nightmares about her every single night. I’m only 18. Why did she do this to me. I put everything I had into her at a time where I had barely anything to give. I loved her so much. I hate myself for falling in love with her. How she’s probably long moved on even if it’s only been a few weeks. How do I stop the nightmares. Please me help make them stop

Hello so basically I’m an 18 year old guy and my first and only girlfriend ever cheated on me and has been for months and it was a really bad breakup I found out three weeks ago and I’ve just trying to get through all of this because my final exams were coming up and I’m nearly done them and tbh I’m feeling kind of lost. I wanna start getting into the gym and lose weight because I’ve always been insecure about my body and ever since she cheated I feel even more insecure and also I wanna get a job so I can buy a car and help out my mom too. If anybody could maybe give me some advice especially for the gym or for losing weight it’d be really appreciated because I just wanna feel loved to be honest.