u/Less-Bug-7006

As the title states. I’m guessing on the flair.

Is the Babybreeza worth it? Anyone start with one and stop? Or start without it and buy it?

ETA: lol ohhh reddit. it seems there is a super anti babybreeza person here downvoting others opinions.

Having a hard time articulating this. I feel like all of “me” disappeared between pregnancy and stay-at-home-mom life. I worked so hard but had a career setback when pregnant, then my baby (now toddler) needed special care and attention due to bottle refusal and a major heart condition that needed open heart surgery …and then follow up care for a complication (knock on wood she’s good now). I put anything I liked on the shelf as needed and I’m glad I could. But I disappeared. I was coming back but WHOOPS pregnant again, so on the shelf my interests will stay.

Feels like I’m never coming back and I miss me. I’m super nostalgic for high school/college me. People wanted to be around me. I was funny and wild and strong and dare I say it HOT (Sorry old me for criticizing your looks so much).

I don’t understand this body I’m in and now this body is pregnant again. It doesn’t look or feel like mine. Its weak. It has no muscle left. It throws up when I look at chips.

I no longer earn money, and though hubs isn’t going to tell me I can’t buy things I know money is tighter and its going to get worse. So I just wear the same big tee and bike shorts and let my toes look ragged and put off haircuts. Make up? Just enough to not look like I have the flu.

I‘m embarrassed of my looks and boringness and basically *me*. Mainly because this ISNT me. Or I never expected it to be. I don’t fit with the SAHMs I know, and I don’t fit with the working moms I know.

I’m an island, and one of the shitty ones with rocky beaches and seaweed. No one wants to visit it and there‘s nothing much to do on it.

Catholics/Christians - do feel like a target for things when paranormal xyz is around? Like something would mess with you more as a challenge?

I am a confirmed Catholic, but not in classic good standing (ex. I go to a Lutheran church with my Lutheran husband) but do believe in the rights and teachings. I harbor no guilt for this but often wonder if it makes me a target for more negative vs. positive things. I don’t seek anything out, just stating what ~*vibes*~ tend to pop up if anything does on rare occasion.

Just wondering

If island born people can’t leave, then are all the medical professionals imported? It‘s an island with 3000 people if I remember correctly so I don’t think they have a college/Uni. Online school could be available now, but did Patricia/her classmates skip college?

I am pregnant with number 2 and so much sicker and more run down than I was with my first. Doing too much makes me physically ill so I am not working out since I have to be functional for my toddler. ANYWAY wondering if anyone got back to it after their first trimester - bonus points if you have a toddler/ are in your mid-to-late 30s 🥲

Realistically, at what age did your toddler start liking/eating raw veggies?

My mom (boomer, 1952 birth year) decided to drop by yesterday. She is moving and is my dad’s (1954 birth year) caretaker so I give her so much grace all the time. But she’s unstable and quick to snap and throw a tantrum — always has been. *EX: Dumped all my sister’s drawers out when sister said she was bored and told her to go refold everything* She also has been snapping at me from birth. I’m not one of the wilting flowers either, I took it and dealt with it.

That backstory is to show context of her insanity yesterday. She drops by and brings gifts for my toddler - they aren’t age appropriate and are unsafe. I say this and she yells “YOU TAKE EVERYTHING FROM HIS MOTHER!” meaning my MIL. She then goes, in front of my toddler, “Stop being such a bitch all the time!”

I told her to get out of my house. Instead of saying I’m sorry, she storms off and literally slams her car into the wall in our alley driving off.

I’m done getting called a bitch. I’m sick of chasing her down and apologizing to keep her calm and keep the peace. I’ve done it my whole life. FFS I went to a college I didn’t like because I didn’t want to get screamed at for being picky.

That said, I will def have little help with my toddler and soon to come second child.

She has her own trauma (clearly) and will always run an help any family in an emergency, but this is why she gets away with her crazy.

Anyway, just wanted to share in case anyone wanted some drama on a Wednesday morning. I’m sure I’ll delete this later.

I‘m in a weird spot. I don‘t want extreme opinions from women or men - just real world advice. I’m a woman, and wife/mom.

“Literacy is important!” I mutter to myself as I read Its Time For Bed Biscuit at 7am

I’m expecting baby number 2. My first child refused bottles so I could only breastfeed/direct breastfeed. This has made me really scared to breastfeed a second time. While I’m glad I could give my daughter what she needed; it was incredibly isolating, exhausting, and scary (the idea of losing supply, getting sick, being the only source of food, etc).

So now I am contemplating only giving formula from the jump with #2. I would love to pump for a little and combo feed, but I don’t want to risk a formula aversion.

Any advice? 5w 5d hormones are already kicking my ass so I am thinking (aka ruminating and crying) a lot.

**This might sound stupid, sorry about that. Did you have to try different formulas for your newborns?

I have a toddler who in her baby times decided bottles were evil and she would only EBF. When she learned straw cups (but couldn't do cows milk yet) she would only take Kendamil.

Pregnant with #2 (unplanned) and hoping we can do bottles so I can have a little help with feeds.

I would really love to not spend $50 on 1 can of formula, so my question is this: Did you have to try different formulas with your newborn/baby? Again, this might sound stupid, but my daughter was so picky even as a newborn that I don’t know whats possible.

I just need to share this SOMEWHERE. I feel so incredibly stupid for getting pregnant. We were OAD and I was finally getting excited about life again. My 20mo old is wonderful and was at a point we could start really doing things/playing, soon naps wouldn’t interfere. We figured out budgets and actually had a chance, on occasion, to go be adults.

Now I’m headed back into hell. Pregnancy and babyhood was FUCKING TERRIBLE and I’ve had little help with my baby since she refused to take bottles and had a severe heart condition.

May 18: Daughter’s cardiologist says she has a good check up and we can breathe. I get excited and talk about seeing family, daughter getting to do activities, I make plans in my head to start working out and making a point to find time for myself.

May 24: Positive pregnancy test.

I’m so incredibly stupid.

ETA: Thank you for the support, everyone

Niche? not niche? Idk. What I do know is that I’m pissed off for multiple reasons right now. 🥲🔥

eta: no idea why this would get downvoted. Reddit is wild

You play certain games you get certain prizes but as the mom of a 20mo old hubs and I are not very “active.” I’m old, and just started to feel like I was getting my feet under me and was getting out of the hell of baby-hood.

On top of that, we will need extra-extra testing and MFM specialists due to past issues with our 20mo old.

I don’t know how to get through the next 2 years.

eta: I was upset about my daughter being alone when she grew up so I am grateful. But I am so old and now worried about all the potential issues. I trust God, as much as that shocks reddit, but I am still terrified.

Our house was built in 1919 and used to have 2 or 3 fireplaces that the previous owners took out. It seems like they counted on these fireplaces when installing the HVAC system since be side of the house has literally no air vents, just a small cold air return. House is 2 stories +basement and 1300sq feet.

Room 1: 2 giant baseboard vents.

Room 2: 1 giant baseboard vent.

Upstairs Bedroom 1: single wall vent

Upstairs Bedroom 2: single wall vent

Bathroom: 1 single wall vent.

This long, probably dumb sounding post is to ask professionals for their thoughts on if anything can be done to add in some more vents or increase airflow? Our house is wildly inefficient and most rooms are cold/hot.

The actual system is from 2018, I think, so it might be getting old - but airflow has always been an issue even when it was only 2 years old.

I am a gal with no HVAC experience, so please don’t attack me for my lack of knowledge 😅😂

I had a hard first year with my kiddo. but toddlerhood is amazing.

I try to offer one meal, but my 20 mo old will very likely not eat the veggies… maybe tastes the meat (eats it if its the correct texture and kind)… and then scarfs down the carbs.

I’m trying to follow all the “rules” eg. give them safe foods with the new foods, no pressure, mirroring etc.

I can’t tell if I’m doing something wrong or if this is normal.

ETA: Someone explain why this is downvoted?