Seeing way too many scary marriage posts lately.
So lately, I’ve been seeing way too many marriage-related posts. Even teenagers are asking questions about how scary married life is going to be.
So, here are some truth bombs based on what I’ve seen and faced in my own life.
Elanu weekend kada, free time lo chadhuvukondi.
A Small but Important Story Back when I was in the 10th standard, I used to cycle to a school in a neighboring village. It was a 7 km journey. For the first 4 km, you’d see other people on the road like farmers and commuters. But for the remaining 3 km, there was a shortcut right through the middle of the fields. 99% of the time, andha shortcut lo ma school vallu tappa no one uses it. It was so isolated that if you got a flat tire by mistake, wahan koi nahi hota tha to help you.
From my village, I was the only 10th grader going to that school; everyone else was a junior. Naturally, being in the 10th standard meant having a bit of senior status and semma hawa untadi kada. On regular days, when I took that shortcut, the juniors would see me, wish me, ask what I was planning to do next year, or ask if 10th-grade subjects were tough. There was always some conversation happening, and I felt recognized.
BUT... On the way back, I'd usually be late because of study hours and special classes. Sometimes, I even had to go on weekends or holidays for exam prep. On those days, there would be absolutely koi nahi on that very same road. No one to talk to, no one to have a conversation with, no one to stop me from feeling lonely or, sometimes, scared.
Kadhai kazhinju .. Story ends here..
So, what I’m trying to say is: the exact same road that feels romba amazing to you right now while you are single, could become deeply painful in the future.
Right now, you are young, looking your best, and full of energy. Simply put, there are other travelers on the same road as you. They might not be walking with you, but there are people around whom you can approach. But yeh path won't stay this way forever.
A time will come when there will be absolutely no one around you. That's when it hits you, and you'll think, "Bhai, it would be so good if I just had someone by my side."
Especially for men: If you genuinely think you can maintain peak physical health, keep your good looks, earn excellent money, and most importantly, netti meeda bochu kaapadukogalnu ani confidence untene marriage delay cheyyandi.
Otherwise, koi nahi bacha payega. You will literally be consumed by your own insecurities, beda (don't do it), I'm telling you.
Are you going to ask me, "Arey brother, what do you know about our breakup pain?" Well, this is my life, and I’ve had my fair share of relationships.
A few of them completely wrecked me—actually, beyond wrecked. One even went all the way up to the wedding stage—the most beautiful relationship I had—but it just didn't work out.
So when I say there is still hope, believe me, there is hope.
People keep asking hypothetical, fearful questions: "What if she buys a blue drum for me?" or "What if he comes home drunk and beats me?"
My counter-question to you is: Agar kal tum mar gaye toh? What if you lose a leg or a hand in an accident?
Life is a gamble, bro. We don't even know if we'll wake up tomorrow morning, but we still set an alarm anyway. We worry, we get excited, and we plan ahead. That act of setting the alarm? Wahi toh hope hai, machane.
So, stay hopeful. Just because someone else's life turned out badly doesn't mean yours will too. If life worked on that logic, sab ke sab Ambanis hoga, right?
Ishta illa andray, if you don't like it, just ignore. If you do, try to stay hopeful, makkale. ✌️
Thanks to u/Scary_Tomorrow5116