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hi

I’m looking for a projected bra. EU (not UK since brexit), cheap. Can’t afford the danish site due to their min order being 60€ 😐🫩 On disability, most I can spend on a bra is 30€. So I shop second hand.

So far i’ve only tried sugar shape and love their sizing system, but since it’s second hand they don’t fit quite right. currently wearing 75/100 (70something. Maybe F?) in one of their molded thinner bras and it gapes at the top, i can feel the skin sloshing against the (molded) cups. It’s been worn before so I can’t speak for the underbust band.

and because I’ve lost so much weight, I have a lot of loose skin around my back, so bras with thin underbust bands pr whatever it’s called don’t ’contain’ it, but if I size up the band slides down.

I lost 60~ kgs (133~lbs) in a year and have a lot of loose skin around my boobs. Swear, half the wright was my boobs, and can’t afford a lift so…

measurement:

LUB: 86

SUB: 80

TUB: 75

SB: 92

LeB: 103

LB: 99

most skin on top, they aren’t full anywhere, but less ’fullness’ where the root starts. nipple almost under where the overhang is, if that makes sense. if I lean over it dissappears. wide root. i think. They are not V shaped but more U shaped. They omly go in at the root when I lean forward.

I don’t know what more to add. I did against my better judgement try a chantelle bra in the size the abtf suggested but it was far too small in the cups (bought 70F) and learned real quick what shallow bras meant.

again, no expensive bras. panache, freya, gorsenia are super expensive here. :’) unless anyone in the eu is selling them on vinted, hmu 🥹

TIA

hi!

i’ve noticed the food noise gets impossible to ignore a week before my period. i’ll eat anything and everything and it goes on the whole day, not just at night or anything like that. like this morning. a 225g bag of crisps. then a big pint of icecream and a can of corn. i just can’t stop.

is there any way to help with the food noise? i also have adhd (i take meds for this but haven’t gotten the appetite suppressant side effect lol) and borderline/eips so food is veeeery much dopamine chasing/stress ‘relief’ for me 😅 i can’t go on walks either when i get ‘in the mood’ due to bad knees and pain so i’m pretty much always around food at home.

hi!

i’ve lost over 50kgs and went from measuring 135cm standing bust to 93cm so there’s a lot of sagging and extra skin everywhere (might have hEDS too)

i’ve had to buy so many second hand bras during this lmao, almost all sugar shape. i’m currently (only) wearing sugar shape in 75/100 in the style aira I think. i got it second hand so i’m not too sure if that’s the right style, but it looks right on the website. i really love the cups and fit overall but the cup goes in a bit and squishes the loose skin there, so the cup looks too small even though it’s gaping near the shoulder strap

n y ways, i’m confused about sizing. the calculator says eu 70g but i tried lindex 80h and that cup felt too small. i can’t buy new bras due to money issues, so i can’t do the whole ‘buy some to try and return the ones you don‘t like’ 😅

i hate mesh bras/see through bras because of my skin folds, which brings me to my next point

skin fold rashes/itchiness. are there any bras for saggy breast that squish them, sorta like a binder or a heavy duty sports bra? i hate hate hate my boobs but sport bras and binders don’t seperate the boobs and get too hot (never tried a binder tho but from what i’ve been told) and razorbacks hurt my neck/shoulders/hate the feeling of them lol

i know this is super picky, and i’m not looking for a perfect fit but yeah

something made in the eu, or easily found at second hand stores in the eu (excluding the uk since the import costs)

measurements:

edit: i didn’t measure over my fingers. I didn’t measure with my finger under the tape, i only added that for clarification of how snug and loose i did it. The big jump in numbers is from the loose skin.  The calculator also doesn’t state if you should measure when breathing in our out. i don’t understand the calculators guide to measuring, because comfortable to me is corset tight. the jump in numbers is from loose skin

loose underbust(deep breath in): 92

snug (half breath): 80

tight: 77

standing: 93

leaning: 110

lying down: 98

and if this helps measurement from the middle of where the collarbones meet down to my nipple is 33cm and if I put the tape under my breast, the sag is 8-9 cm. distance from root to root is abt 8cm. not pendulum shape but U shaped. from fold to nipple is 12~ cm so very much top heavy. literally and figuratively.

any advice welcome :)

hi!

(tw: body image talk)

i started taking concerta three weeks ago, and then one week ago it got upped to 36mg.

but these last four? days i’ve had such intense hatred and plain disgust towards my body (mostly loose skin after losing over 55kgs, nothing fits right and looks disgusting and i can’t afford surgery) i think i’ve either derealization or the beginning of psychosis (when i got diagnosed with bpd they told me i’ve a very high likelihood/extra vulnerable? of developing psychosis) or something idk, i can’t stop crying and everything just feels shit. i can’t finish or start any tasks, forget tasks, brain fog line crazy, everything feels surreal, it’s almost like mania. for the first time ever i can’t stop feeling like i need to spend money and get stuff and even acted on a quite harmful intrusive(?) thought.

i’m in dbt but both my peer support and psychiatrist are on vacation for a few weeks.

could it be because of the meds? i tend to have weird side effects on medication. i’ve sent a msg to my psychiatric clinic but i haven’t gotten an answer yet. i’m sorry this is all over the place

hi! i don’t know if this is the right tag

i’ve lost over 56kgs so far and although i suppose i like it, my boobs (if you can even call them that anymore) are… let’s say not cooperative. the current only bra that i can wear is 90/105~ from sugarshape but it’s way too hot and it points out, so all the loose skin is bunched up and it makes me so incredibly warm.

i‘ve ordered another bra second hand (1. much cheaper because i’m dirt poor. 2. easier to find a bra i like but again, for cheaper) but it comes in next week. it’s 80H
my before measurements were 134 around nipple when standing up, and now it’s 103, so you can imagine all the skin (im also extremely prone to loose skin overall).

i have no idea about projected or shallow or anything like that i’ve tried to learn but i don’t understand any of it, no matter how much i try. all i can say it they’re long and my nipple has always pointed down, with no structure. if that makes sense

my measurements: (the calculator said 75I but i doubt it, that’s why i did a sister size)

underbust relaxed: 86

tight: 83

semi: 84~

Lying down: 101

Leaning: 120

standing up: 103