u/Miserable-Winner-437

I went on a date with this guy recently. We went out and visited a museum, and honestly, everything was going really well. We had a good time and I felt comfortable with him.

At one point, while we were in the museum, he suddenly said, “I want to kiss you.”
I told him, “I’m not ready.”

Immediately after that, his entire attitude changed. He became really short with me and almost passive-aggressive.
We were supposed to get something to eat afterwards, but he suddenly said he wanted to go home and didn’t feel like doing anything anymore.

I asked him directly, “Are you upset because I said no?”
He said, “Nooo, but yeah, because this is already four dates and nothing has happened. I pay for everything and it feels like you’re putting me in the friend zone.”

That honestly shocked me.
For context, he kept calling it four dates, but two of those times were literally just us going to the gym together. We had gone out to eat once, and he had gotten me a €7 side without even getting me a full meal. I also paid for my own train ticket.

I told him, basically, “If you want to be friends, then just say that. I’m not going to kiss you because you paid for something.”

At that point, I gave him the flowers he had brought me back and left the museum immediately. I went to the train station alone and took my train home.

Afterwards, I blocked him everywhere because I was completely turned off by the way he reacted to me setting such a basic boundary.
He later found me on Pinterest and messaged me saying that he thought we had misunderstood each other and that he didn’t want to make me uncomfortable.
I didn’t respond. I just kept him blocked.
I understand that he can be disappointed if he wanted to kiss me, but the fact that he immediately became cold and then brought up how much he had supposedly spent on me made me feel like he expected something in return.
So, am i overreacting for leaving immediately?
A friend told me he might’ve acted like that out of nervousness but honestly it just looked like he was pissed at me for saying no. Some other friends said I maybe overreacted by leaving immediately but I just felt like staying with his bad mood would ruin my day so I just left because nothing good was coming out of this.

Went on a date, guy tried to kiss me, I said no, he got angry at me for saying no, I left, thought about you on the train home because I remembered you said you didn’t want to kiss me because you knew it made me uncomfortable. You know I miss you right ?

What’s with that feeling of wanting to reach out to someone who was once special but you definitely moved on from (at least what you think) even tho you are the one who cut them off and told them to leave you alone (I meant to push you away so that you would be closer) and now I’m torn between reaching out and looking once again like a bipolar-can’t-make-a-choice girl or just keep thinking of you from time to time wondering if you think of me, maybe we think of each other at the same time who knows. I don’t believe in chance or pure coincidence so I’ll just tell you what there is.

Checked our birthcharts and guess what (you would probably tell me it’s bullshit) butttttt my sun is your moon and my moon is your sun and other stuff that you probably don’t give a fuck about but it says we have high chances of marriage🥹 okay I’ll just stop the bullshit

I’ll throw a coin and if it falls into a gutter I will text you

What do you mean you don’t love me as much as I do? What do you mean you can go off DAYS without talking with me. How come you don’t get jealous or possessive when I mention the other gender. WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU WOULD REMARRY IF I DIED.

If you don’t love me crazy don’t go my way matter of fact don’t even look my direction if you know you won’t be doing shit for me.

This lowk a risky hot take but I don’t want a doormat as partner I want someone exciting and reading do to everything for love (not psycho crazy level tho, let’s stay focused)

A break is a serious joke where you get the free pass of being single while being in a relationship but not really yadayadayada… feels like one wants a break up but is too scared of doing it and the other one is just holding on a thread emotionally and accepting anything in hope of fixing a broken relationship

How are you 16 and have 40+ exes? Why is there a new person each damn week and if you’re lucky each month? I really KNOW the problem lies with you and not with them. Time for some self reflection and self love because that many exes should never be normalized. Why not start having talkingstages before going into a relationship? Why not LEARN to get to know the person before dating them ? And it’s also always the same that makeout at parties then date 2 weeks before breaking up because the person wasn’t what they thought they were.. no shit? You know their mouth better than their personality. This applies to both men and woman btw

I feel like it’s the intention that counts the most but mostly with girls it’s like playing FBI and not meaning any harm (except for some psychos) acting like a detective while guys that stalk are purely creepy and territorial. If you’re interested in someone why the fuck do you make a fake account to talk to them? Thats actually concerning and not funny. Yes you can search for info but pretending to be someone? Never had a girl do that

Writing a 10 minute song for a 3 months situationship is actually crazy but so real. Song is catchy and relatable while being absolutely gutwrenching making me relive the worst times with some nostalgia. Appart from that I don’t support her at all but the album red slaps hard.

Do I even need to explain? Viruses,sickness,rashes. I saw one girl on tiktok who got weird spots on her lips that look like giant black heads or just straight up herpes from kissing ONE GUY. Lets not normalize sharing salivas with unknown people

Don’t pull the card “they didn’t do anything to me” or “it’s really uncommon from them”. By excusing their behavior you are acknowledging it and accepting what they are doing. By trying to shut a victim up for being against your friend/partner(the abuser) you are just as bad or not just worse. Victims already have a hard time speaking up about it and people like you are making it horrible. And btw not defending someone when they get assaulted is considered non protection to person in danger and is legally prohibited and can get you in serious legal trouble

Yes heavy weightlifting is complicated but there is no need to scream as if your family got killed and you lost all your toes. And let’s not talk about those people that pee when lifting stuff. Get a diaper

It’s not normal to see kids 1-2 not even know a few words and kids that are 5 not even know how to write their name or say the abcs. Later on they become pre teens and have never read a book in their lives and say it’s boring and useless while watching cocomelon the whole day and playing Roblox. This is bad parenting. By not helping your kids enjoy reading they will fail academically, PERSONALLY AND MORALLY. Books are a need for civilization or just straight up common knowledge. You’re setting your kids up for failure by shoving these iPads with no educative games in their faces.

I mean both can end up pretty badly if you don’t parent them enough but I feel like its way more dangerous for a girl. Pedos, boys, creeps at night, bad influences, manners, jealousy from other girls, toxic relationships, teenage pregnancy, older men lurking to date a teenager. Like the list is really long and mostly irreversible damage too.

I feel like to talk about something is really just staying in this bad energy and constantly thinking about it and how to react or avoid while just forgetting and moving on are way better. Why would you pay a therapist when you can vent online for free or just MOVE ON

Edit: therapy is bs but seeing a psychologist and a psychiatrist is absolutely valid and is in no way the same thing as a therapist that doesn’t give any solution or diagnosis just listens. I’ll add a chatgpt response since people here don’t know what they are talking about.

Can a regular therapist prescribe or give medication?
No. A regular therapist cannot prescribe medication. You would need to see a psychiatrist or another medical doctor for that.

Can a regular therapist diagnose you?
Usually not officially. They can discuss symptoms and give their opinion, but an official diagnosis is typically made by a psychologist, psychiatrist, or another qualified clinician, depending on local laws.

As a woman who has a lot of talkingstage experience. If a guy talks with you regularly for more than 1-2 months and doesn’t try anything: IT MEANS HE DOESNT WANT ANYTHING. Don’t stay hoping he’s gonna commit one day because he’s just not. If you give him everything on a silver plate he WILL get bored of you and just move on and never commit.

Okay so I think that Billie Eilish is a hypocrite because:

1. She spoke about Palestine whilst being seen at a Starbucks on multiple occasions

2. Said she would risk her career if it meant protecting Palestine yet she made a movie with Disney (who supports Israel) and LAUNCHED her movie in Israel and made multiple videos talking about her love for israelis and Justin Bieber (Zionist)

3. Told billionaires to donate their money while getting her money from companies supporting something she calls out

4. Stole her best friends boyfriend

5. Said “you can’t love animals and eat them” while claiming in previous interview that she’s not “one of those raging vegans” and while she uses non cruelty free products and sponsors brands that use animal testing and animal abuse.

6. Called Taylor swift out for being capitalist and making 6 versions of an album and then released 6 different vinyls to collect and makes her merch REALLY expensive while being trash quality

Okay so basically i (f16 at the time) worked at a store and there would be families with kids getting toys and sometimes it happened that the parents didn’t have enough money(card declined all that) and sometimes i would pay the gap with my own money and i would sometimes act like the system had a default and i would need to scan everything because the price changed (it really does happen so it wasn’t weird) and so I would scan it again with the employee card to get a discount and I would also skip some articles(the most cheap ones like 1-2$) to make the total lower. I did it like 3 times in 2 years because I hated seeing parents sad and embarassed and the kids disappointed. I did this and also added free goodies and toys. Never got caught and I was actually the best at the register.

I have natural black hair but I feel like it doesnt suit me at all and just washes my face off, but a similar color to my skintone really pops my eyes out ( sort of ginger and dark blond). I wonder if the black hair really didn’t suit me or if I didn’t style it some way that would look good on me