u/MsChristmas_Letters

maulan e, then this played. dammmmnn.

I'd Really Love To See You Tonight by England Dan & John Ford Coley

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Ang naiiwan na lang sa Box Premium A at B ay ung nasa 407 at 416 which is pinakadulo na. Sa mga nakapag attend na sa concert na jan banda Nampo, alin ung worst to pick? at alin ung best pick? Salamat sa magrereply.

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kapagod mag wait, nag stop na rin mag-search but just about every time I hear this song, mapapangiti na lang sweetly, annoyingly, sarcastically sabay sway to the beat because truly di mo pwedeng i-rush ang love. Di yan nadadala sa pa-urgent at follow up. It takes its own sweet time. ♡ The best kind of love arrives unexpectedly. ♡

To my trentahin people here, on days na nasa-sad ka because single ka, listen to this song na lang! Wag mag relapse. Wag ka na din mag attempt mag create ng spoiler for future shenanigans. What you have is right now and the best thing you can do is carry yourself with kindness and grace.

✨✨✨lots of love dust to everyone✨✨✨

I read this somewhere and I think this perfectly explains it well. Not everyone is an avoidant, they're just really looking after their heart. This post is not meant to spark debate or feud rather it is to put awareness on an overlooked POV often misconstrued as something else.

And I think I'm not the only trentahin who feels this way.

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We’re afraid of getting used to company.

People assume highly independent people are picky.

That we’re single because our standards are too high.
That we’re too busy. Too guarded. Too focused on ourselves.

Maybe 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I think it’s something else.

When we’ve spent enough years alone, we stop fearing solitude.

We learn how to eat alone.
Travel alone.
Make decisions alone.
Celebrate alone.
Cry alone.

We become incredibly self-sufficient.

That’s exactly where the problem begins.

Because one day someone comes along.
They’re kind. Consistent. Present.
They text back.
They check in.
They remember little things.

Suddenly something terrifying happens.
We start making room for them.
Not because we’re needy.
Because we’re human.

After spending years carrying everything ourselves, even a little consistency feels like a huge luxury.

That’s why highly independent people often seem cautious.
We’re not evaluating whether they’ll make us happy.
We’re evaluating whether we’ll survive losing them.

Because we’ve learned something painful:
The people who stay the longest, often leave the deepest imprint.

So we keep our walls up.
Not because we don’t want love.
Not because we don’t want connection.

But because we’ve experienced what happens when someone becomes part of our routine, part of our safety zone, part of our peace… and then they’re gone.

Sometimes gradually.
Sometimes suddenly.
Sometimes without warning.
Sometimes without a chance to say goodbye.

But the scariest part isn’t heartbreak.
It’s realizing how much we enjoyed not being alone.
It’s realizing how quickly company became comfort.
How naturally they became part of our day.
How much we miss something, we never thought we’d need.

So we tell ourselves we don’t need anyone.
Not because it’s true. But because it’s safer.

Maybe that’s why loneliness feels different for highly functional people.

We’ve become so good at being alone that intimacy feels riskier than loneliness.

We’re not waiting for someone to rescue us.
We’re just quietly hoping someone proves that consistency still exists.

Mine is All The Love in the World by the Corrs

argghghh this song!! >.<

Pano magmahal yung dati nang saktan? 

Hindi madaling magtiwala ulit, that’s for sure. To put yourself out there again, to be open to new possibilities, sobrang laking step forward na non. Kaya sana, bago mo i-demand na pagtiwalaan kita, maunawaan mo kung bakit ganon na lang ako kaingat sa puso ko. Hindi ako nag-iinarte or nagpapahabol, sinisiguro ko lang na sana sayo, kung ikaw na nga yon, hindi na ko masasaktan ulit. Kasi lahat ng matatamis na salita at pangako, nasabi na sakin, narinig ko na yan. Di ko kailangan ng mabubulaklak na salita. Ang kailangan ko ay yung kaya akong unawain at sabayan at tanggapin at mahalin kahit sobrang takot na akong magmahal ulit. 

Wag mo akong madaliin magtiwala sayo.
Hayaan mo lang sana akong mahulog sayo ng buo. 

Ang pagmamahal, sugal din. A bet on you.  A bet on myself. A bet on chance.

Sana alam mo rin na nung dumating ka, sinara ko na rin ung pinto ko sa iba. Ang mahirap lang kasi, ung pinto ko nakasarado na pero hindi ko alam kung nakapila ka pa din sa iba. 

So pano magmahal yung dati ng nasaktan? Dahan-dahan. Hanggang sa mapalagay na ang loob nya sayo. Ang tanong lang naman dito e kung kaya mong makapaghintay. 

Wala lang. It just dawned on me na sayo ko pala natutunan tong song na to. I find myself listening to it sometimes. Very calm lang syang pakinggan and works as a nice background. I'm discovering songs na same ng genre. Baka ito talaga ung main role mo bakit kita nakilala dito sa reddit. Anyway, I still don't have a song in mind for my SDE in the future siguro kasi it's something na I want to do with him together, kung sino man sya, doing things and deciding things together. Because in the end, tying the knot is not just a you decision, it's mutual and always will be. It's amazing how all of these things opened up with that one question you asked for everyone so I guess thank you.

Noon kasi, limewire e ngayon di ko na sure how given na puro na lang subscription ngayon like Spotify. I want to listen to music pero ung walang distraction, like literal na mp3 player or yung iPod (kung maayos pa), as in sa SD card ko sya ise-save lang.

Meron ba kayong idea? Please share naman po at please be nice sa pagreply.

I'll go first. I'd be a neuropsychologist.

Follow up question would be: kung walang constraints sa buhay mo, alam mo ba how to make that happen?

Ako, ung tuwing umuulan at kapiling ka ni Regine Velasquez

finding yourself can be greater. I just noticed that there are so many people here looking for love and I'm not judging them. If any, gulat ako to learn that reddit can be an avenue for that. I'm a newbie here and as I've said in one of my comments sa r/trentahin I came to reddit for research. There are so many things to explore and what I love the most is how you can express yourself without the need to filter pero while I genuinely wish everyone to find their person here, sana we can also find new friends, like minded people who can journey with you regardless kung nasaang phase ka ng buhay mo. Getting into a relationship na feeling incomplete ka pa sa sarili mo is a recipe for disaster because it creates a yearning that can end very badly.

If I become one those reddit love stories, great pero kung wala sya dito, ok lang din. I just want to enjoy this and meet like minded people who can also be my real life friends. Like minded people na hindi lang ung puro lovelife ang center ng universe kundi people who wants to better themselves by taking it to the next level - goal oriented na actively nagiisip and nagi-take action sa kung ano pa ba ung pwedeng gawin para mas masaya at fulfilling ang buhay habang wala pa ung "the one" mo/natin. I'm in my 30s and trentahin people are damn pagod na with shadows and excuses. Reddit bffs can also be a great thing too, sobrang bonus na lang talaga yung reddit love story.

Ako, when I hear passenger seat by Stephen Speaks ♥︎ ang hirap hindi mapangiti ng song na to. this song is never growing old. ✨

Wala lang I just want to share that I got my haircut today hahaha does anyone here does that too when they want to start over? Well, for what it's worth ang saya lang and ang gaan sa feeling✨ So whatever you are going through, AJA!! Fighting :) Second half of the year is here. GO GO GO 🚘

Hindi nya alam na i’m starting to like him kaya kailangan kong prumeno muna 

Hindi nya alam na hinihintay ko lang naman sya

Hindi nya alam na test lang yun

Hindi nya alam na sobra akong nag-eenjoy sa conversations namin

Na na-appreciate ko lahat ng pag-uupdate nya kahit sobrang non-chalant ako

Hindi nya alam kung pano ako nasaktan dati

Hindi nya alam kung bakit sobrang guarded ako

To be fair, hindi ko din alam kung pano sya nasaktan dati

Kung okay na ba talaga sya kaya ganon sya kabilis kumilos

Hindi na kami umabot don

Hindi nya na malalaman ung impact nya sakin, doon sa onting araw na nagka-chat kami 

Hindi ko na rin malalaman kung magkakatuluyan pa sana kami

Hindi nya na malalaman

Hindi ko na rin malalaman

Hindi ko kasi sinabi

Hindi na kasi sya nakapagtanong 

Walang may mali samin siguro

Baka sadyang ganon lang talaga

Hindi na namin malalaman kung right person, wrong timing ba

Ang sure lang

Almost right person, wrong pacing. 

Red string theory.

If it’s meant to be, it will be. 

Hi SDE! Haha Minsan, nakaka-miss to say good morning sayo but I don’t want to miss that anymore. 

It’s 5AM dito and probably after midnight jan. I value my tulog more, alam mo yan but the past few days, ang hirap matulog. At least sure ako na tina-try kong di ka isipin pero just in case lang naman iniisip mo ko hahaha men magpatulog ka naman! 

We both have a way to reach out to one another pero none of us is making effort, so I guess this is it? 

I see you’ve resumed your side quests and search ops. No holds barred. Carry on. Maybe in one of your pursuits, you’ll find her. Or maybe you’ll think of me. Dunno

As for me, well, God knows how stubborn I am and how I’m saving my heart for the person He made for me. So I told him na if it’s not you, if all that was was a teaser for nothing then paki resume na po yung peace of mind I had before you. 

Isaiah 60:22, Psalm 37:7 ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡

I’ve so much more to say, but then what was it you said again? “Ang dami ko pang paligoy paligoy”. Hahaha kainis SDE, kainis (¬_¬")

Legit, I thrive on details but I guess you prefer summaries. 

Aren’t you a little impatient? Haha

Anyway, it’s just me putting it out here. You may see this. You may not. 

Red String Theory ngani. 

But there. Thank you SDE. I’m now going forward with my days.

May you be blessed. 

🙋🏻‍♀️🎄💌

If you are one of those lucky people who are able to do the job they love at the terms they want, how were you able to do that?

Outright no ba kaagad if it doesn't align with the terms you have in mind?

How did you know na 'this is it' of all the offers you got?

And how did you handle the negotiation part?

Luck is a loose term, I know. Sobrang big blessing to be able to work at job with all the box ticked. But we all know, that the effort it takes to acquire that is no easy feat.

Thank you sa mga sasagot. Share your tips! More blessings to everyone. ✨

Lahat naman siguro tayo may goal nung nagstart ung taon. O baka nga goals pa yan nung mga previous years? Kumusta na? Lapit na bang ma-achieve? Sisimulan pa lang? O mejo stuck at this point?

Do you see yourself pursuing it pa kahit kalahati na ng taon?

And sa mga strong independent trentahin people, kaya pa ba? or baka time na para I-try ung may accountability partner?

At sa mga natry yung may accountability partner, worth it ba o mas better na solohin mo na lang I-track ang progress mo?

Share your thoughts and wins and your true feelings.

ako lang ba to or do you also find it parang impossible na to have that kind of encounter sa mundo? I mean, nung nag shift ang mundo to digital, pati pag date naging online. nung nag pandemic, lahat ng tao nasa bahay lang. nung nag-end ang pandemic, busy lahat mag work at bumawi with their finances. the wfh set up makes you tethered sa bahay nyo and ang weird na makihalubilo sa tao.

paano tayo mahahanap ng "love" na yan kung parang it seems out of grasp?

girls lang ba nagiisip nito or even guys din?

should I blame all the books I've read for wanting this kind of encounter? minsan nakakainis na ung mga kdrama, tipong gahhhh it only happens in the movies blah blah

am I the only trentahin who feels this way?

share your experience naman or love stories. what age did you meet and where and how did it go?

Mas ginanahan ka bang tumuloy or bumalik ka na lang sa paigiging employee? Ano ung stand out lesson na tinuro sayo and if you can start over, what will you do?

I have so many ideas pero lahat sila tengga in my mind. Until maya maya I'll see someone doing the business na naisip ko.

And since online business is growing fast, ung businesses ba with physical store ay worth it pa ba? Please answer from the pov of a business owner.