u/MsChristmas_Letters

para sa mga naglakas loob mag take ng break sa mga career nila, how did it go?

1. gaano katagal ung break mo?
2. gaano katagal before ka nag decide na ready ka ng bumalik?
3. gaano katagal ka before nakahanap ng work?

I'm asking because sa Pilipinas, hindi naman ganon ka supported ang career break/hiatus/sabbatical. Makakarinig ka pa ng mga pasaring na, "ka-echosan lang yan", "priviledged ka kasi, may sasalo sayo", "afford mo nmn kasi walang nakaasa sayo", and more without fully knowing kung anong pinang-gagalingan mo.

Masyado kasi tayong matiisin to the point na kahit ubos ka na, go pa rin... at the expense of your overall health. Pag physical health ang issue, mejo kalmado ang bias. Pag mental health issue, iisipin ang arte mo lang or nababaliw ka ng tunay. Let's break this stereotype.

I am sure there are plenty of people who wants to take a break din pero napangunahan na ng judgement ng mundo.

Please share your story kasi you'll never know who needs to hear it. The good and the bad. Kasi di rn nmn smooth sailing lagi and decision na ito.

I for one, took a break. I thought 1 year is enough pero before I knew it, 2 years na then 3. nakarecover na from the burn out and stress. much healthier and at ease na kumabga and rn is exploring my way back to corporate. It wasn't smooth sailing, but what process is? Ang alam ko lang, if you keep putting effort no matter how small, that effort will meet an opportunity and you can build on that from there.

what's meant for you will always find you. in this case, your next career. TYIA sa mga magi-share.

I never really liked the subject even as a student. But as an adult, in a world where English is universal, words lost its meaning.

People say things they don't mean. Words become nothing.

I used to love language. Words are expressive... alluring... freedom.

But right now, math makes more sense. Math is logical. It's fact. It's straightforward. English is emotional. It's jargon. It's a labyrinth.

It's so much easier to identify constraints: x and y's than where you stand in each other's life. Char.

Anyway, never have I ever thought the day would come that I'd be saying this. To me, English rules, but right now, math makes much more sense.

Dear math, I hate that I'm beginning to love you. 

^(Is this what Rihanna had in mind when she wrote the song?)

Mine is Training Season by Dua Lipa. I need a new playlist, do share yours. Thank you!

Online applications? referral? mano-mano abot ng resume sa company?(this worked for me back then). Genuinely asking because the last time I applied was when I was a fresh grad and yes I stayed with the company long enough to earn my gratuity and never naghanap ng iba. So in short, I don't know how these things work anymore. Paano na ba maghanap ng work in 2026? How did you organize everything? Ano ung preparations na ginawa mo?

I want a hybrid set up na hindi sapilitan ang RTO lalo na kung kayang kaya naman tapusin ang work sa bahay. Yung hindi naka tracker ang bawat galaw because let's be honest na lang din, nakakasakal ang micro-managing.

Sa mga pinagpala na mahanap ung work nila ngayon, please share your tips. I'm from the banking industry, 34F. Took a career break.

Nagbago ba as you age? Would love to hear from people na 30+ na..

Sa mga happy sa work nila, how did you do it?

Sadyang nagi-work ka ba sa field na gusto mo or natutunan mo na lang mahalin ung ginagawa mo?

maulan e, then this played. dammmmnn.

I'd Really Love To See You Tonight by England Dan & John Ford Coley

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Ang naiiwan na lang sa Box Premium A at B ay ung nasa 407 at 416 which is pinakadulo na. Sa mga nakapag attend na sa concert na jan banda Nampo, alin ung worst to pick? at alin ung best pick? Salamat sa magrereply.

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kapagod mag wait, nag stop na rin mag-search but just about every time I hear this song, mapapangiti na lang sweetly, annoyingly, sarcastically sabay sway to the beat because truly di mo pwedeng i-rush ang love. Di yan nadadala sa pa-urgent at follow up. It takes its own sweet time. ♡ The best kind of love arrives unexpectedly. ♡

To my trentahin people here, on days na nasa-sad ka because single ka, listen to this song na lang! Wag mag relapse. Wag ka na din mag attempt mag create ng spoiler for future shenanigans. What you have is right now and the best thing you can do is carry yourself with kindness and grace.

✨✨✨lots of love dust to everyone✨✨✨

I read this somewhere and I think this perfectly explains it well. Not everyone is an avoidant, they're just really looking after their heart. This post is not meant to spark debate or feud rather it is to put awareness on an overlooked POV often misconstrued as something else.

And I think I'm not the only trentahin who feels this way.

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We’re afraid of getting used to company.

People assume highly independent people are picky.

That we’re single because our standards are too high.
That we’re too busy. Too guarded. Too focused on ourselves.

Maybe 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I think it’s something else.

When we’ve spent enough years alone, we stop fearing solitude.

We learn how to eat alone.
Travel alone.
Make decisions alone.
Celebrate alone.
Cry alone.

We become incredibly self-sufficient.

That’s exactly where the problem begins.

Because one day someone comes along.
They’re kind. Consistent. Present.
They text back.
They check in.
They remember little things.

Suddenly something terrifying happens.
We start making room for them.
Not because we’re needy.
Because we’re human.

After spending years carrying everything ourselves, even a little consistency feels like a huge luxury.

That’s why highly independent people often seem cautious.
We’re not evaluating whether they’ll make us happy.
We’re evaluating whether we’ll survive losing them.

Because we’ve learned something painful:
The people who stay the longest, often leave the deepest imprint.

So we keep our walls up.
Not because we don’t want love.
Not because we don’t want connection.

But because we’ve experienced what happens when someone becomes part of our routine, part of our safety zone, part of our peace… and then they’re gone.

Sometimes gradually.
Sometimes suddenly.
Sometimes without warning.
Sometimes without a chance to say goodbye.

But the scariest part isn’t heartbreak.
It’s realizing how much we enjoyed not being alone.
It’s realizing how quickly company became comfort.
How naturally they became part of our day.
How much we miss something, we never thought we’d need.

So we tell ourselves we don’t need anyone.
Not because it’s true. But because it’s safer.

Maybe that’s why loneliness feels different for highly functional people.

We’ve become so good at being alone that intimacy feels riskier than loneliness.

We’re not waiting for someone to rescue us.
We’re just quietly hoping someone proves that consistency still exists.

Mine is All The Love in the World by the Corrs

argghghh this song!! >.<

Pano magmahal yung dati nang saktan? 

Hindi madaling magtiwala ulit, that’s for sure. To put yourself out there again, to be open to new possibilities, sobrang laking step forward na non. Kaya sana, bago mo i-demand na pagtiwalaan kita, maunawaan mo kung bakit ganon na lang ako kaingat sa puso ko. Hindi ako nag-iinarte or nagpapahabol, sinisiguro ko lang na sana sayo, kung ikaw na nga yon, hindi na ko masasaktan ulit. Kasi lahat ng matatamis na salita at pangako, nasabi na sakin, narinig ko na yan. Di ko kailangan ng mabubulaklak na salita. Ang kailangan ko ay yung kaya akong unawain at sabayan at tanggapin at mahalin kahit sobrang takot na akong magmahal ulit. 

Wag mo akong madaliin magtiwala sayo.
Hayaan mo lang sana akong mahulog sayo ng buo. 

Ang pagmamahal, sugal din. A bet on you.  A bet on myself. A bet on chance.

Sana alam mo rin na nung dumating ka, sinara ko na rin ung pinto ko sa iba. Ang mahirap lang kasi, ung pinto ko nakasarado na pero hindi ko alam kung nakapila ka pa din sa iba. 

So pano magmahal yung dati ng nasaktan? Dahan-dahan. Hanggang sa mapalagay na ang loob nya sayo. Ang tanong lang naman dito e kung kaya mong makapaghintay. 

Wala lang. It just dawned on me na sayo ko pala natutunan tong song na to. I find myself listening to it sometimes. Very calm lang syang pakinggan and works as a nice background. I'm discovering songs na same ng genre. Baka ito talaga ung main role mo bakit kita nakilala dito sa reddit. Anyway, I still don't have a song in mind for my SDE in the future siguro kasi it's something na I want to do with him together, kung sino man sya, doing things and deciding things together. Because in the end, tying the knot is not just a you decision, it's mutual and always will be. It's amazing how all of these things opened up with that one question you asked for everyone so I guess thank you.

Noon kasi, limewire e ngayon di ko na sure how given na puro na lang subscription ngayon like Spotify. I want to listen to music pero ung walang distraction, like literal na mp3 player or yung iPod (kung maayos pa), as in sa SD card ko sya ise-save lang.

Meron ba kayong idea? Please share naman po at please be nice sa pagreply.

I'll go first. I'd be a neuropsychologist.

Follow up question would be: kung walang constraints sa buhay mo, alam mo ba how to make that happen?

Ako, ung tuwing umuulan at kapiling ka ni Regine Velasquez

finding yourself can be greater. I just noticed that there are so many people here looking for love and I'm not judging them. If any, gulat ako to learn that reddit can be an avenue for that. I'm a newbie here and as I've said in one of my comments sa r/trentahin I came to reddit for research. There are so many things to explore and what I love the most is how you can express yourself without the need to filter pero while I genuinely wish everyone to find their person here, sana we can also find new friends, like minded people who can journey with you regardless kung nasaang phase ka ng buhay mo. Getting into a relationship na feeling incomplete ka pa sa sarili mo is a recipe for disaster because it creates a yearning that can end very badly.

If I become one those reddit love stories, great pero kung wala sya dito, ok lang din. I just want to enjoy this and meet like minded people who can also be my real life friends. Like minded people na hindi lang ung puro lovelife ang center ng universe kundi people who wants to better themselves by taking it to the next level - goal oriented na actively nagiisip and nagi-take action sa kung ano pa ba ung pwedeng gawin para mas masaya at fulfilling ang buhay habang wala pa ung "the one" mo/natin. I'm in my 30s and trentahin people are damn pagod na with shadows and excuses. Reddit bffs can also be a great thing too, sobrang bonus na lang talaga yung reddit love story.

Ako, when I hear passenger seat by Stephen Speaks ♥︎ ang hirap hindi mapangiti ng song na to. this song is never growing old. ✨

Wala lang I just want to share that I got my haircut today hahaha does anyone here does that too when they want to start over? Well, for what it's worth ang saya lang and ang gaan sa feeling✨ So whatever you are going through, AJA!! Fighting :) Second half of the year is here. GO GO GO 🚘