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This is gonna be a very long story, and I am kinda stuck so, I may lay it all on here.

I’m a M26, and that person is a F30. We first start as boss and worker, getting to know each other more. We then have our cocktail nights as weekly ritual to share about knowledge. We get to know each other better although have no feeling for her, during that time I still had a girlfriend, but we when drinking and sometimes meet on trip. We happened to become really, really good friends.

Overtime, around 2 years, I said I just broke up with my gf, and that’s when she said she has been into me for a long time and ask if I want to be together. I said no, and she was kinda angry asking why. I said I just had no feeling.

So the relationship went on, but there’s a gimmick of her keep telling that I’m such a bad guy for not liking her back, and she start making questions comparing herself to my ex asking why not her. She say the friendship relationship between us will end if I had a girlfriend. We worked in the same company so everytime I talk to a female co-worker or post a story with female co-worker on Instagram, she was upset. During this time, she keep saying that I am actually in love with her, by everything we’ve gone through. I just tried to denied it.

Have to note that beside those uncomfortable moments, I enjoy working with her and talking about several topics. So it’s like a rollercoaster of emotion going every day. There’s a time I was so afraid to do anything, cause anything can trigger an arguments. She made some rules in we have to text at least one every 3 hours, and said the reason I don’t want to be in a relationshop with her is just because I brought up too much unneccesary fences. Sometimes I felt like the fear is just a little bit overwhelmed.

Some months ago, I left job and went to study abroad. The time before my departure was kinda easy, I informed her and said that we’ll figure some way to maintain the connection. But since my first day abroad, we kept argueing since she said she couldn’t sleep, and argueing about many stuff. Sometimes it went off the limit and I fighted back by saying all the control and jealousy that she put on me before, while realising I was too naive to let it happened for such a long time. I said we need to stop this, by that I mean the relationship. But one time after another, there’s some way we figured it out. We keep texting and having phone call btw. At this point I perceived her as very close and good friend, one I don’t want to hurt, so I kept going.

She studied psychology. And after a while she said that there is something not right with her mental health, and I told her to checked up. She got a result with depression level 2.

At that time, I was also down because i was in a new country, wanted to explore new things but always tied to arguments and thinkings and heavy feelings.

From then, I tried to negotiate to live more freely like it’s my right to have a girlfriend, to be in a relationship etc. She said that my decision to study abroad is the first shock, and if I had a girlfriend will be the second shock, and she cannot just handle 2 shocks at the time.

But I had a girlfriend eventually, she is F22. I hide her away from the person. I have to admit that I sometimes lied about my daily routine as well when texting that person, since she always want to know where I go who I meet. To me, I just want to create some feeling of freedom and “I live my life on my own”

Then the arguments went even worse. At some point, I said “let’s stop” and I really want to stop. But then she negotiate with things that she will accept in order for us to keep the relationship. Accepting that I will have a relationship for my own is one of those. However she said that will still be a shock for her. I understand her situation, but for my own I feel like that’s something still one kind of controlling. I’m pretty confused at this point.

So here’s when thing get a little bit more complicated. So sometimes I received a message from the person saying that she knew I did thing but not telling her, like going to a pub, eating with a group of friends.

So the arguments keep on, and I started not replying back. Not silent treatment, but most of the time I’m too tired with arguing and I don’t know what to say. Everytime I said something, she replied that I was not caring enough or don’t really acknowledge her mental problems. When I told her to seek help from friends and family, she said that I am the only one can help her surpass this. I believed this, since before when she lost her mom I was there to help. But now I feel like I’m the origin of problem and also her solution? It’s truly my dilemma.

So I fighted back, I said I’ll be here with you, but if you ever angry on me again for every reason, I’ll walk away. She said ok.

So last week, I was having some works, the person also knew it. We had and argument, and I left the phone for 5-6 hours. When I picked up again, she texted that she chose to end her life since there’s no joy anymore. I was in a panic, I tried to call everyone for help. After 1.5 hrs, she picked up my call, she said she had vomit everything because she wanted to see me again.

The week after, she texted me that she’s tired and cannot eat anything since everything will be vomit out again. I tried to talk with soft tones, saying that I will try not be so harsh, and I want to keep the relationship going as good friend, although I will have my own life.

Then today, in the morning, she send me a photo of my gf’s insta asking what’s going on, since my gf is wearing a shirt of mine. We called, she said that my gf has followed her IG, then post photos of her with hint of me, but never romantic one. She said that that’s run her down, and with the fact that I said I would not receive any anger, she was suffering alone

A and I know the fact that my girlfriend is a bit childish, she might do what young woman do when they’re jealous. My gf never knew that the person has mental issue. So I said the main problem is I didn’t communicate fully about the person to my gf, and those girl trick came not at the right time. I was so sorry for that. But she went on and said my gf is a kind of “b*tch”

I kept sorrying, saying the problems was mine, from not communicating well to not letting her express her anger. She said I should stop protecting my gf, and she will left if I choose to stay with my gf.

I felt like it’s the “choose me or choose the relationship” again, so I fighted back, but hard words. I broke my promise of being soft but I just cannot helped myself. At one time, I said the control and jealousy of you for the past 3 years has ruined my emotion. I tried to speak what I felt. But she said she we’ll end her life, and wish me happiness with my “b*tch”

I fell into a total breakdown again. I cried, suffering, begging her not to do it. I said I’ll leave my gf. I am such a coward, but I cannot carry the thought of my decision could end someone’s life. After an hour of talking, she said she won’t do it, but I’m now devastated. I know I love my gf, and she did such a childish thing. But I also want that person to live a good life not being so emotional attached to me. I don’t know what to do when the sun rise tomorrow.

This is gonna be a very long story, and I am kinda stuck so, I may lay it all on here.

I’m a M26, and that person is a F30. We first start as boss and worker, getting to know each other more. We then have our cocktail nights as weekly ritual to share about knowledge. We get to know each other better although have no feeling for her, during that time I still had a girlfriend, but we when drinking and sometimes meet on trip. We happened to become really, really good friends.

Overtime, around 2 years, I said I just broke up with my gf, and that’s when she said she has been into me for a long time and ask if I want to be together. I said no, and she was kinda angry asking why. I said I just had no feeling.

So the relationship went on, but there’s a gimmick of her keep telling that I’m such a bad guy for not liking her back, and she start making questions comparing herself to my ex asking why not her. She say the friendship relationship between us will end if I had a girlfriend. We worked in the same company so everytime I talk to a female co-worker or post a story with female co-worker on Instagram, she was upset. During this time, she keep saying that I am actually in love with her, by everything we’ve gone through. I just tried to denied it.

Have to note that beside those uncomfortable moments, I enjoy working with her and talking about several topics. So it’s like a rollercoaster of emotion going every day. There’s a time I was so afraid to do anything, cause anything can trigger an arguments. She made some rules in we have to text at least one every 3 hours, and said the reason I don’t want to be in a relationshop with her is just because I brought up too much unneccesary fences. Sometimes I felt like the fear is just a little bit overwhelmed.

Some months ago, I left job and went to study abroad. The time before my departure was kinda easy, I informed her and said that we’ll figure some way to maintain the connection. But since my first day abroad, we kept argueing since she said she couldn’t sleep, and argueing about many stuff. Sometimes it went off the limit and I fighted back by saying all the control and jealousy that she put on me before, while realising I was too naive to let it happened for such a long time. I said we need to stop this, by that I mean the relationship. But one time after another, there’s some way we figured it out. We keep texting and having phone call btw. At this point I perceived her as very close and good friend, one I don’t want to hurt, so I kept going.

She studied psychology. And after a while she said that there is something not right with her mental health, and I told her to checked up. She got a result with depression level 2.

At that time, I was also down because i was in a new country, wanted to explore new things but always tied to arguments and thinkings and heavy feelings.

From then, I tried to negotiate to live more freely like it’s my right to have a girlfriend, to be in a relationship etc. She said that my decision to study abroad is the first shock, and if I had a girlfriend will be the second shock, and she cannot just handle 2 shocks at the time.

But I had a girlfriend eventually, she is F22. I hide her away from the person. I have to admit that I sometimes lied about my daily routine as well when texting that person, since she always want to know where I go who I meet. To me, I just want to create some feeling of freedom and “I live my life on my own”

Then the arguments went even worse. At some point, I said “let’s stop” and I really want to stop. But then she negotiate with things that she will accept in order for us to keep the relationship. Accepting that I will have a relationship for my own is one of those. However she said that will still be a shock for her. I understand her situation, but for my own I feel like that’s something still one kind of controlling. I’m pretty confused at this point.

So here’s when thing get a little bit more complicated. So sometimes I received a message from the person saying that she knew I did thing but not telling her, like going to a pub, eating with a group of friends.

So the arguments keep on, and I started not replying back. Not silent treatment, but most of the time I’m too tired with arguing and I don’t know what to say. Everytime I said something, she replied that I was not caring enough or don’t really acknowledge her mental problems. When I told her to seek help from friends and family, she said that I am the only one can help her surpass this. I believed this, since before when she lost her mom I was there to help. But now I feel like I’m the origin of problem and also her solution? It’s truly my dilemma.

So I fighted back, I said I’ll be here with you, but if you ever angry on me again for every reason, I’ll walk away. She said ok.

So last week, I was having some works, the person also knew it. We had and argument, and I left the phone for 5-6 hours. When I picked up again, she texted that she chose to end her life since there’s no joy anymore. I was in a panic, I tried to call everyone for help. After 1.5 hrs, she picked up my call, she said she had vomit everything because she wanted to see me again.

The week after, she texted me that she’s tired and cannot eat anything since everything will be vomit out again. I tried to talk with soft tones, saying that I will try not be so harsh, and I want to keep the relationship going as good friend, although I will have my own life.

Then today, in the morning, she send me a photo of my gf’s insta asking what’s going on, since my gf is wearing a shirt of mine. We called, she said that my gf has followed her IG, then post photos of her with hint of me, but never romantic one. She said that that’s run her down, and with the fact that I said I would not receive any anger, she was suffering alone

A and I know the fact that my girlfriend is a bit childish, she might do what young woman do when they’re jealous. My gf never knew that the person has mental issue. So I said the main problem is I didn’t communicate fully about the person to my gf, and those girl trick came not at the right time. I was so sorry for that. But she went on and said my gf is a kind of “b\*tch”

I kept sorrying, saying the problems was mine, from not communicating well to not letting her express her anger. She said I should stop protecting my gf, and she will left if I choose to stay with my gf.

I felt like it’s the “choose me or choose the relationship” again, so I fighted back, but hard words. I broke my promise of being soft but I just cannot helped myself. At one time, I said the control and jealousy of you for the past 3 years has ruined my emotion. I tried to speak what I felt. But she said she we’ll end her life, and wish me happiness with my “b\*tch”

I fell into a total breakdown again. I cried, suffering, begging her not to do it. I said I’ll leave my gf. I am such a coward, but I cannot carry the thought of my decision could end someone’s life. After an hour of talking, she said she won’t do it, but I’m now devastated. I know I love my gf, and she did such a childish thing. But I also want that person to live a good life not being so emotional attached to me. I don’t know what to do when the sun rise tomorrow.

This is gonna be onna be a very long story, and I am kinda stuck so, I may lay it all on here.

I’m a M26, and that person is a F30. We first start as boss and worker, getting to know each other more. We then have our cocktail nights as weekly ritual to share about knowledge. We get to know each other better although have no feeling for her, during that time I still had a girlfriend, but we when drinking and sometimes meet on trip. We happened to become really, really good friends.

Overtime, around 2 years, I said I just broke up with my gf, and that’s when she said she has been into me for a long time and ask if I want to be together. I said no, and she was kinda angry asking why. I said I just had no feeling.

So the relationship went on, but there’s a gimmick of her keep telling that I’m such a bad guy for not liking her back, and she start making questions comparing herself to my ex asking why not her. She say the friendship relationship between us will end if I had a girlfriend. We worked in the same company so everytime I talk to a female co-worker or post a story with female co-worker on Instagram, she was upset. During this time, she keep saying that I am actually in love with her, by everything we’ve gone through. I just tried to denied it.

This is gonna be a very long story, and I am kinda stuck so, I may lay it all on here.

I’m a M26, and that person is a F30. We first start as boss and worker, getting to know each other more. We then have our cocktail nights as weekly ritual to share about knowledge. We get to know each other better although have no feeling for her, during that time I still had a girlfriend, but we when drinking and sometimes meet on trip. We happened to become really, really good friends.

Overtime, around 2 years, I said I just broke up with my gf, and that’s when she said she has been into me for a long time and ask if I want to be together. I said no, and she was kinda angry asking why. I said I just had no feeling.

So the relationship went on, but there’s a gimmick of her keep telling that I’m such a bad guy for not liking her back, and she start making questions comparing herself to my ex asking why not her. She say the friendship relationship between us will end if I had a girlfriend. We worked in the same company so everytime I talk to a female co-worker or post a story with female co-worker on Instagram, she was upset. During this time, she keep saying that I am actually in love with her, by everything we’ve gone through. I just tried to denied it.

Have to note that beside those uncomfortable moments, I enjoy working with her and talking about several topics. So it’s like a rollercoaster of emotion going every day. There’s a time I was so afraid to do anything, cause anything can trigger an arguments. She made some rules in we have to text at least one every 3 hours, and said the reason I don’t want to be in a relationshop with her is just because I brought up too much unneccesary fences. Sometimes I felt like the fear is just a little bit overwhelmed.

Some months ago, I left job and went to study abroad. The time before my departure was kinda easy, I informed her and said that we’ll figure some way to maintain the connection. But since my first day abroad, we kept argueing since she said she couldn’t sleep, and argueing about many stuff. Sometimes it went off the limit and I fighted back by saying all the control and jealousy that she put on me before, while realising I was too naive to let it happened for such a long time. I said we need to stop this, by that I mean the relationship. But one time after another, there’s some way we figured it out. We keep texting and having phone call btw. At this point I perceived her as very close and good friend, one I don’t want to hurt, so I kept going.

She studied psychology. And after a while she said that there is something not right with her mental health, and I told her to checked up. She got a result with depression level 2.

At that time, I was also down because i was in a new country, wanted to explore new things but always tied to arguments and thinkings and heavy feelings.

From then, I tried to negotiate to live more freely like it’s my right to have a girlfriend, to be in a relationship etc. She said that my decision to study abroad is the first shock, and if I had a girlfriend will be the second shock, and she cannot just handle 2 shocks at the time.

But I had a girlfriend eventually, she is F22. I hide her away from the person. I have to admit that I sometimes lied about my daily routine as well when texting that person, since she always want to know where I go who I meet. To me, I just want to create some feeling of freedom and “I live my life on my own”

Then the arguments went even worse. At some point, I said “let’s stop” and I really want to stop. But then she negotiate with things that she will accept in order for us to keep the relationship. Accepting that I will have a relationship for my own is one of those. However she said that will still be a shock for her. I understand her situation, but for my own I feel like that’s something still one kind of controlling. I’m pretty confused at this point.

So here’s when thing get a little bit more complicated. So sometimes I received a message from the person saying that she knew I did thing but not telling her, like going to a pub, eating with a group of friends.

So the arguments keep on, and I started not replying back. Not silent treatment, but most of the time I’m too tired with arguing and I don’t know what to say. Everytime I said something, she replied that I was not caring enough or don’t really acknowledge her mental problems. When I told her to seek help from friends and family, she said that I am the only one can help her surpass this. I believed this, since before when she lost her mom I was there to help. But now I feel like I’m the origin of problem and also her solution? It’s truly my dilemma.

So I fighted back, I said I’ll be here with you, but if you ever angry on me again for every reason, I’ll walk away. She said ok.

So last week, I was having some works, the person also knew it. We had and argument, and I left the phone for 5-6 hours. When I picked up again, she texted that she chose to end her life since there’s no joy anymore. I was in a panic, I tried to call everyone for help. After 1.5 hrs, she picked up my call, she said she had vomit everything because she wanted to see me again.

The week after, she texted me that she’s tired and cannot eat anything since everything will be vomit out again. I tried to talk with soft tones, saying that I will try not be so harsh, and I want to keep the relationship going as good friend, although I will have my own life.

Then today, in the morning, she send me a photo of my gf’s insta asking what’s going on, since my gf is wearing a shirt of mine. We called, she said that my gf has followed her IG, then post photos of her with hint of me, but never romantic one. She said that that’s run her down, and with the fact that I said I would not receive any anger, she was suffering alone

A and I know the fact that my girlfriend is a bit childish, she might do what young woman do when they’re jealous. My gf never knew that the person has mental issue. So I said the main problem is I didn’t communicate fully about the person to my gf, and those girl trick came not at the right time. I was so sorry for that. But she went on and said my gf is a kind of “b*tch”

I kept sorrying, saying the problems was mine, from not communicating well to not letting her express her anger. She said I should stop protecting my gf, and she will left if I choose to stay with my gf.

I felt like it’s the “choose me or choose the relationship” again, so I fighted back, but hard words. I broke my promise of being soft but I just cannot helped myself. At one time, I said the control and jealousy of you for the past 3 years has ruined my emotion. I tried to speak what I felt. But she said she we’ll end her life, and wish me happiness with my “b*tch”

I fell into a total breakdown again. I cried, suffering, begging her not to do it. I said I’ll leave my gf. I am such a coward, but I cannot carry the thought of my decision could end someone’s life. After an hour of talking, she said she won’t do it, but I’m now devastated. I know I love my gf, and she did such a childish thing. But I also want that person to live a good life not being so emotional attached to me. I don’t know what to do when the sun rise tomorrow.

This is gonna be a very long story, and I am kinda stuck so, I may lay it all on here.

I’m a M26, and that person is a F30. We first start as boss and worker, getting to know each other more. We then have our cocktail nights as weekly ritual to share about knowledge. We get to know each other better although have no feeling for her, during that time I still had a girlfriend, but we when drinking and sometimes meet on trip. We happened to become really, really good friends.

Overtime, around 2 years, I said I just broke up with my gf, and that’s when she said she has been into me for a long time and ask if I want to be together. I said no, and she was kinda angry asking why. I said I just had no feeling.

So the relationship went on, but there’s a gimmick of her keep telling that I’m such a bad guy for not liking her back, and she start making questions comparing herself to my ex asking why not her. She say the friendship relationship between us will end if I had a girlfriend. We worked in the same company so everytime I talk to a female co-worker or post a story with female co-worker on Instagram, she was upset. During this time, she keep saying that I am actually in love with her, by everything we’ve gone through. I just tried to denied it.

Have to note that beside those uncomfortable moments, I enjoy working with her and talking about several topics. So it’s like a rollercoaster of emotion going every day. There’s a time I was so afraid to do anything, cause anything can trigger an arguments. She made some rules in we have to text at least one every 3 hours, and said the reason I don’t want to be in a relationshop with her is just because I brought up too much unneccesary fences. Sometimes I felt like the fear is just a little bit overwhelmed.

Some months ago, I left job and went to study abroad. The time before my departure was kinda easy, I informed her and said that we’ll figure some way to maintain the connection. But since my first day abroad, we kept argueing since she said she couldn’t sleep, and argueing about many stuff. Sometimes it went off the limit and I fighted back by saying all the control and jealousy that she put on me before, while realising I was too naive to let it happened for such a long time. I said we need to stop this, by that I mean the relationship. But one time after another, there’s some way we figured it out. We keep texting and having phone call btw. At this point I perceived her as very close and good friend, one I don’t want to hurt, so I kept going.

She studied psychology. And after a while she said that there is something not right with her mental health, and I told her to checked up. She got a result with depression level 2.

At that time, I was also down because i was in a new country, wanted to explore new things but always tied to arguments and thinkings and heavy feelings.

From then, I tried to negotiate to live more freely like it’s my right to have a girlfriend, to be in a relationship etc. She said that my decision to study abroad is the first shock, and if I had a girlfriend will be the second shock, and she cannot just handle 2 shocks at the time.

But I had a girlfriend eventually, she is F22. I hide her away from the person. I have to admit that I sometimes lied about my daily routine as well when texting that person, since she always want to know where I go who I meet. To me, I just want to create some feeling of freedom and “I live my life on my own”

Then the arguments went even worse. At some point, I said “let’s stop” and I really want to stop. But then she negotiate with things that she will accept in order for us to keep the relationship. Accepting that I will have a relationship for my own is one of those. However she said that will still be a shock for her. I understand her situation, but for my own I feel like that’s something still one kind of controlling. I’m pretty confused at this point.

So here’s when thing get a little bit more complicated. So sometimes I received a message from the person saying that she knew I did thing but not telling her, like going to a pub, eating with a group of friends.

So the arguments keep on, and I started not replying back. Not silent treatment, but most of the time I’m too tired with arguing and I don’t know what to say. Everytime I said something, she replied that I was not caring enough or don’t really acknowledge her mental problems. When I told her to seek help from friends and family, she said that I am the only one can help her surpass this. I believed this, since before when she lost her mom I was there to help. But now I feel like I’m the origin of problem and also her solution? It’s truly my dilemma.

So I fighted back, I said I’ll be here with you, but if you ever angry on me again for every reason, I’ll walk away. She said ok.

So last week, I was having some works, the person also knew it. We had and argument, and I left the phone for 5-6 hours. When I picked up again, she texted that she chose to end her life since there’s no joy anymore. I was in a panic, I tried to call everyone for help. After 1.5 hrs, she picked up my call, she said she had vomit everything because she wanted to see me again.

The week after, she texted me that she’s tired and cannot eat anything since everything will be vomit out again. I tried to talk with soft tones, saying that I will try not be so harsh, and I want to keep the relationship going as good friend, although I will have my own life.

Then today, in the morning, she send me a photo of my gf’s insta asking what’s going on, since my gf is wearing a shirt of mine. We called, she said that my gf has followed her IG, then post photos of her with hint of me, but never romantic one. She said that that’s run her down, and with the fact that I said I would not receive any anger, she was suffering alone

A and I know the fact that my girlfriend is a bit childish, she might do what young woman do when they’re jealous. My gf never knew that the person has mental issue. So I said the main problem is I didn’t communicate fully about the person to my gf, and those girl trick came not at the right time. I was so sorry for that. But she went on and said my gf is a kind of “b*tch”

I kept sorrying, saying the problems was mine, from not communicating well to not letting her express her anger. She said I should stop protecting my gf, and she will left if I choose to stay with my gf.

I felt like it’s the “choose me or choose the relationship” again, so I fighted back, but hard words. I broke my promise of being soft but I just cannot helped myself. At one time, I said the control and jealousy of you for the past 3 years has ruined my emotion. I tried to speak what I felt. But she said she we’ll end her life, and wish me happiness with my “b*tch”

I fell into a total breakdown again. I cried, suffering, begging her not to do it. I said I’ll leave my gf. I am such a coward, but I cannot carry the thought of my decision could end someone’s life. After an hour of talking, she said she won’t do it, but I’m now devastated. I know I love my gf, and she did such a childish thing. But I also want that person to live a good life not being so emotional attached to me. I don’t know what to do when the sun rise tomorrow.

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