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Did anyone else have no idea this video existed?

I’m currently in a situation where I’m having to live with my adoptive parents for the foreseeable future - I’ve just graduated and won’t be starting my next degree until late 2027.

As is the same for many of you, my AP’s do not really have a bone of empathy in their body - and if they do - then it is buried under mounds of their own trauma. Being back in this space has brought up a lot of childhood memories for me that I had otherwise forgotten about.

I remember they used to absolutely scream and shout and mock me if I cried for too long as a child (anywhere from 6-12years old maybe). I remember sometimes they’d lock me in the garden and I’d be screaming ‘I’m sorry’ for whatever I had been upset about, and they still wouldn’t let me in for a while after that.

I remember my adoptive-father would mock my crying back to me. My adoptive mother would leave me to cry for hours and then I would have to go and comfort her and apologise to her for crying. I remember one occasion I would not stop crying and my adoptive father, and my adoptive-half sisters all came into the room individually to try tell me that I’m upsetting my a-mum by crying too much.

No one ever comforted me - a CHILD.

As a part of my journey something I’ve come / coming to terms with is that I was allowed to be upset as a child - that I wasn’t evil or horrible or wrong for crying over childish things.

Deep inside I was probably crying out for my biological mother - and I wonder if deep down my adoptive mother knew that and that’s why she grew to quietly resent me.

I remember being called ‘evil’ and ‘venomous’ for being upset or if I ever stood my ground. I remember my a-dad saying ‘you’re an evil little boy’ and I screamed back ‘I know’ (I must’ve been around 10).

I know I’m not an evil person and that that’s all a reflection of them and not me - but all these years later I still cannot cry. It’s like I can’t pull the plug out of my tear ducts! And that sentiment of ‘evil’ still remains.

I’m in a support group and someone brought up the feeling that ‘hey yes I do deserve to take up space and for my existence to be acknowledged and that I do have a seat at the table’ and that’s been resonating with me recently.

I forgot how draining it is to be around adoptive-family. And I am a strong person and I have been through a lot mentally and physically that my adoptive family have no idea of.

I really live a double life between friends and family. My friends know everything and are great, responsive, emotionally intelligent people with a strong sense of self - everything my adoptive family lacked.

And again I imagine it’s the same with lots of people here - this is only the tip of the iceberg!!!!

Does anybody else think this would’ve made a great double A-side with Fast? Or even just as a b-side? It’s killer and I wonder if it was made in the same sessions as the rest of the album or solely for the deluxe

Does anyone have any performances of Girl from 1992/93? They’re a bit hard to find online as they’re overshadowed by her cornflake successor 🐰

Hi all,

Not sure if this is allowed but I wanted to share a university essay I wrote analysing the aspect of trans- identity in the show.

Transness is a key aspect of the show in terms of transgenderism and transcendence; the transcendence of dimensions, essence, the body, and sex as seen in Buck.

It’s quite theory-heavy, but there’s no denying that this is a clever fan base so I thought you guys would appreciate it! It’s around 2500 words / 12 minute read (according to substack).

Let me know what you think if you do get round to reading! 🕊️

Does anybody else feel disassociated from the moment they wake up?

Most days I get this immediate feeling that I’m in the wrong place and wrong body, that I’m already doing something ‘wrong’. It’s like a tremor deep inside my chest that leaves me feeling on guard for the rest of the day.

Even when waking from a nice dream I feel like I’m waking from a nightmare sometimes.

It is even worse when I am in my adoptive household.

Does anybody else think that this track is a standout in her discography? Its so celestial

I work as a receptionist at a 140 room hotel, and I give complimentary upgrades to guests if I can tell they’re having a bad day; if they’re nice enough; and if it’s a quiet shift.

We’re constantly told we need to make more money and upsell etc, but I don’t like to give people a service if it’s just to the means of transaction for the business. I only really give it to people who don’t ask. If people ask then I charge the standard upgrade fee and sometimes discount it a little bit if they’re nice. Besides, a few complimentary upgrades two or three times a month isn’t really losing anyone any money, especially as the guests have already paid for their reservations etc.

I’ve never been pulled up on it and I’ve worked here for 6 years.

This doesn’t have much basis in anything, but does anyone else believe that The OA was cancelled for being too accurately transgressive in the way of showing how we can transgress our daily lives I.e. transgress and overcome capitalism and its impact on our beings?

I feel like the answer that ‘it just wasn’t making enough money / low viewership’ is just an example of capitalist realism: ‘the shows just cancelled for business reasons like all the other shows we cancel’. And this ignores that there may potentially be an underlying reason as to why the show was truly cancelled.

I know I’m making this into some big conspiracy but I do see worth in questioning it - if anything, the show teaches us to question everything we’re told.

TLDR: the show is too transgressive for what those who control the media want us to see. It is transgressive in the sense it teaches us we can transcend and overcome capitalism and its impact on our lives/souls/being.

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Also: has anyone else made the connection between Brit’s and Natasha lyonne’s recent interest in using Ai ‘ethically’ (using only content licensed for Ai usage), and their theory that S3 may focus on Ai/Ai will be implemented into the narrative at some point in the story?

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Also Also: if my theory does make sense to anyone, then I’d like to suggest the short book ‘Capitalist Realism: is there no alternative’ (Mark Fisher, 2009)

Has anyone else ever thought about how much the characters in AbFab mirror the characters in Cinderella?

Saffy as Cinderella
Eddie and Patsy as the ugly stepsisters
Grandmother as the evil step mother (ish)
Saffy’s father as the absent but kind father…

Just a late night thought!