u/New_Positive_1692

I have a random Instagram question.

If someone sends you messages late at night, you reply after few hours, and then a few minutes later you unsend all of your replies before the other person opens the chat...

If they were already asleep and only check Instagram the next morning, will they still get a notification that you replied? Or does the notification disappear once the messages are unsent?

Just curious how Instagram notifications work.

pleaseee guide me. i am thinking of applying in this field but i dont know from where to start.

i would be really great if u could guide me.

i will keep it short..

so i met him few months agoo .

we become really good frnds but i started liking him, confessed to him and got indirectly politely rejected.

we decided to stay friends bcoz we literally dont wanna loose this kind of bond(maybe a bad decision) .

..i try to act as a friend daily...talk a lot...but somewhere i think m stupidly still so much like him...i keep waiting for his replies..checking his msg stalking his profile ..reading our old convos...everything basically i shouldnt do..bcoz i am friend uk?!

i realised i am ruining my mental health bcoz when he asked me advice related to a girl he liked..i ended up crying behind m screen

i realise i can not act as his frnd.wht if one day he get in a relationship?!

but i continue to act normal..but suddenly now i dont want to talk to him anymore bcoz i am getting heavily attached and idk how will i handle myself once this all needs to be over.

so i have started ignoring him... not seeing his msgs and replying a lot late then i usually do..

i no longer text him first. stopped sharing random reels(which i used to do a lot)

idk if its thr right thing to do to him bcoz he has always been so kind and a genuine good friend putting efforts in this friendship all the time

a poem i wrote about him but will never get the courage to send him

its called

"just friends"

You came into my life when I had convinced myself

I didn't need anyone.

You stayed so quietly

that I never noticed you had already built your pillars

inside my heart.

Wasn't it just you being curious?

Just simple, innocent questions,

and me answering without a second thought.

Somewhere between those ordinary conversations,

you began living softly in my mind.

You made me speak of things I never thought I'd reminisce about,

have opinions on things I never thought I cared for.

Then when did those questions become something more?

When did your words start lingering

long after our conversations ended?

I told myself it was only a phase.

Another feeling that would pass.

But you never held on loudly.

You simply stayed.

Somehow, that was enough.

On the first day, I said I only wanted to be friends.

The truth is , I wasn't looking for anything.

Not even friends.

Yet somewhere in the little things,

without either of us noticing,

you became someone I found myself praying for.

Your daily good morning.

Your quiet good night.

A constant I never noticed I had grown used to.

I smiled because of you.

I laughed because of you.

I cried because of you.

Maybe I started liking you.

Maybe it was attachment.

Or maybe it was just my foolish heart

falling for someone who existed only through words,

so close on my screen,

yet impossibly far away.

Sometimes I wonder if confessing was the right thing.

Then I wonder something even heavier

was staying friends afterward the right choice?

I never asked my heart whether it was ready for that.

Every morning I promise myself to talk a little less.

Every night I realize I've broken that promise again.

I don't know how much longer I can keep calling us just friends

while my heart keeps forgetting that it's supposed to be.

Some days I fall asleep with tears on my pillow.

Some days, one message from you makes me smile for hours.

Some days I felt everything.

Some days, nothing at all.

I thought I had learned my lessons.

Then you happened.

I don't want to call you a mistake.

You never were.

But somehow you resemble one

because without ever intending to,

you tore me apart.

I know your intentions were never wrong.

But intentions don't stop hearts from breaking.

Every time I tried to pull away,

my heart took another step toward you.

How do people silence a heart

when all it wants

is someone it can never have?

Sometimes I regret meeting you.

Then there's that stubborn corner of me

that would choose meeting you all over again

even knowing how this story ends.

One question keeps returning.

Should I finally put a full stop

to everything I feel?

Will that make me happier?

Or is letting go simply the kinder thing to do

for you?

I wish someone could answer that.

Because I don't know how much longer

I can keep carrying these questions.

Strange,

how a heart can become attached

long before two hands have ever met.

a peom i wrote about him but will never get courage to send him.

its called " just friends"

You came into my life when I had convinced myself

I didn't need anyone.

You stayed so quietly

that I never noticed you had already built your pillars

inside my heart.

Wasn't it just you being curious?

Just simple, innocent questions

and me answering without a second thought.

Somewhere between those ordinary conversations,

you began living softly in my mind.

You made me speak of things I never thought I'd reminisce about,

have opinions on things I never thought I cared for.

Then when did those questions become something more?

When did your words start lingering

long after our conversations ended?

I told myself it was only a phase.

Another feeling that would pass.

But you never held on loudly.

You simply stayed.

Somehow, that was enough.

On the first day, I said I only wanted to be friends.

The truth is ,I wasn't looking for anything.

Not even friends.

Yet somewhere in the little things,

without either of us noticing,

you became someone I found myself praying for.

Your daily good morning wish.

Your quiet good night.

A constant I never noticed I had grown used to.

I smiled because of you.

I laughed because of you.

I cried because of you.

Maybe I started liking you.

Maybe it was attachment.

Or maybe it was just my foolish heart

falling for someone who existed only through words,

so close on my screen,

yet impossibly far away.

Sometimes I wonder if confessing was the right thing.

Then I wonder something even heavier ,

was staying friends afterward the right choice?

I never asked my heart whether it was ready for that.

Every morning I promise myself to talk a little less.

Every night I realize I've broken that promise again.

I don't know how much longer I can keep calling us just friends

while my heart keeps forgetting that it's supposed to be.

Some days I fall asleep with tears on my pillow.

Some days, one message from you makes me smile for hours.

Some days I felt everything.

Some days, nothing at all.

I thought I had learned my lessons.

Then you happened.

I don't want to call you a mistake.

You never were.

But somehow you resemble one

because without ever intending to,

you tore me apart.

I know your intentions were never wrong.

But intentions don't stop hearts from breaking.

Every time I tried to pull away,

my heart took another step toward you.

How do people silence a heart

when all it wants

is someone it can never have?

Sometimes I regret meeting you.

Then there's that stubborn corner of me

that would choose meeting you all over again

even knowing how this story ends.

One question keeps returning.

Should I finally put a full stop

to everything I feel?

Will that make me happier?

Or is letting go simply the kinder thing to do

for you?

I wish someone could answer that.

Because I don't know how much longer

I can keep carrying these questions.

Strange,

how a heart can become attached

long before two hands have ever met.

a poem i wrote about him but will never get the courage to send him

its called

"just friends"

You came into my life when I had convinced myself

I didn't need anyone.

You stayed so quietly

that I never noticed you had already built your pillars

inside my heart.

Wasn't it just you being curious?

Just simple, innocent questions,

and me answering without a second thought.

Somewhere between those ordinary conversations,

you began living softly in my mind.

You made me speak of things I never thought I'd reminisce about,

have opinions on things I never thought I cared for.

Then when did those questions become something more?

When did your words start lingering

long after our conversations ended?

I told myself it was only a phase.

Another feeling that would pass.

But you never held on loudly.

You simply stayed.

Somehow, that was enough.

On the first day, I said I only wanted to be friends.

The truth is , I wasn't looking for anything.

Not even friends.

Yet somewhere in the little things,

without either of us noticing,

you became someone I found myself praying for.

Your daily good morning.

Your quiet good night.

A constant I never noticed I had grown used to.

I smiled because of you.

I laughed because of you.

I cried because of you.

Maybe I started liking you.

Maybe it was attachment.

Or maybe it was just my foolish heart —

falling for someone who existed only through words,

so close on my screen,

yet impossibly far away.

Sometimes I wonder if confessing was the right thing.

Then I wonder something even heavier —

was staying friends afterward the right choice?

I never asked my heart whether it was ready for that.

Every morning I promise myself to talk a little less.

Every night I realize I've broken that promise again.

I don't know how much longer I can keep calling us just friends

while my heart keeps forgetting that it's supposed to be.

Some days I fall asleep with tears on my pillow.

Some days, one message from you makes me smile for hours.

Some days I felt everything.

Some days, nothing at all.

I thought I had learned my lessons.

Then you happened.

I don't want to call you a mistake.

You never were.

But somehow you resemble one —

because without ever intending to,

you tore me apart.

I know your intentions were never wrong.

But intentions don't stop hearts from breaking.

Every time I tried to pull away,

my heart took another step toward you.

How do people silence a heart

when all it wants

is someone it can never have?

Sometimes I regret meeting you.

Then there's that stubborn corner of me

that would choose meeting you all over again

even knowing how this story ends.

One question keeps returning.

Should I finally put a full stop

to everything I feel?

Will that make me happier?

Or is letting go simply the kinder thing to do

for you?

I wish someone could answer that.

Because I don't know how much longer

I can keep carrying these questions.

Strange,

how a heart can become attached

long before two hands have ever met.

Pata hai aaj kya hua.

Some of you might have seen my previous post where I talked about a close friend asking me a hypothetical question that ended up affecting me more than I expected.

(if someone tell me old post share kese kre would be grateful so that u get the story fully)

After that, I decided to take a little distance. I stopped initiating conversations, replied much later than usual, and kept my responses short. Normally I'd be excited to tell him about my day and reply as soon as I saw his messages, but recently I've been doing the opposite. I even replied to a message he sent at night the next morning.

He noticed something was off and asked me a couple of times if I was okay. I just said I was feeling a bit off. What surprised me was that he didn't seem to connect it to the conversation that had upset me.

Today I haven't received a text from him, and honestly I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do from here. Part of me feels like I should explain why I got hurt, while another part feels like bringing it up would only make things awkward when nothing can really change.

Just sharing where my head is at right now because I'm genuinely conflicted between being honest about my feelings and simply letting things go and acting normal again.

Edit: old post in comment section..read thst first old post

How do u guys repost.?

i have seen people telling some situation story and then few days later giving updates about that by attaching the previous post. how to do that? like how to post in continuation to thr previous post?

Does all subreddit allow it? If not hoe to find which one to do so?

blah blah bab

Pata hai aaj kya hua

A few weeks ago I confessed to a close friend. He didn't feel the same way, but we decided to stay friends and honestly things went back to normal pretty quickly. We still talk daily and the friendship itself hasn't really changed.

Today we were having one of our usual random conversations. He's the type of person who asks a lot of hypothetical and situational questions, so that's pretty normal for him.

Then out of nowhere he asked something along the lines of:

"If I get into a relationship in the future, shold I tell my girlfriend about you and your confession (qu__tion maek) And if that makes her insecure, hw should I handle it...(que__tion maek)

I didn't really know how to react.

Part of me felt like it was just another hypothetical question and he didn't mean anything by it.

But another part of me wondered if asking someone(who confessed to u )for advice about your future girlfriend is a little tone-deaf, especially when the confession happened only a few weeks ago.

I don't think he was trying to be mean. That's what makes it confusing.

Anyway, that's what happened last night

Curious to see how other people would have reacted in that situation. from both the guys and girls perspective. like guys ye question puchte or girls is question ko kese leti

(khi jagah i couldn't ask ques to mene alphabet skip kra.. i hope u guys understand the post)

I'm curious what people think about this situation.

a guy and a girl quite good friends then the girl confesses to the guy. The guy doesn't reciprocate, but they remain friends. The girl respects the friendship, doesn't push boundaries, and things continue normally .they continue to act like before and talk daily

A while later(a few weeks), the guy asks her:

"If I get into a relationship in the future, do you think I should tell my girlfriend about u and the confession? If yes, could that create insecurity for her, and how should I deal with that?"

Now, an important piece of context: this guy asks hypothetical and situational questions a lot in general. It's kind of his conversation style, so this wasn't completely out of character.

Would you consider this an okay question to ask?

On one hand, it seems like a normal hypothetical discussion. On the other hand, he's asking someone who previously had feelings for him (or maybe still have) to help him navigate a future relationship with another girl.

I'm not asking whether he has bad intentions. I'm wondering whether asking this shows a lack of emotional awareness, or if most people would see it as completely normal.

If you're the girl in this situation, how would you feel? ( if the guy u liked ask this)

If you're the guy, would you ask this question?( to u ur frnd who confessed to u)

Edit: as many of u misunderstanding my ques. I will say it again My actual ques is whether him asking mee this hypothetical ques is normal? Am i feeling hurt unnecessarily by overthinking? Or should he have thought before asking such question atleast once? Does it make him insensitive or me over sensitive?

pata hai aaj kya hua

he knew i like him .politely indirectly rejected...we decided to stay friends.

he just asked me hypothetical question around about him being in a relationship and me being his close frnd.

he called his future girl "my girl" and how i am among thr few first ones he will tell about first after getting in a relationship.

itna stung krraa ye. i even cried while answering him acting normal as friend.

koi bta skta h kya muje ky krna chahiye

i dont think i can continue answering his questiond around this.

bas hoja 125 words puree

so I just ended my second year of clg. and I still havent dont any single internship .

i dont want to waste my these vacations again .

so if someone is doing so please give tips like wht u doing

which field

what to build to apply for one?

i was focusing on finance field but then i realised its not easy to find in that one.

i just dont wanna do marketing HR thing.

if someone can help me figure out things i will be really grateful.

also i am kind of looking for remote ones as once clg opens i cant skip clses bcoz strict att scene.

so i was talking to this guy i met online. we were kinda clear from starting that we just gonna be friends but somewhere i got attached with daily talks and all.

i started liking him. i confessed without any expectations bcoz i knew he only see me as a friend(but i was damn afraid of losing him as a good friend). i was kind of sure this friendship is gonna end too .

but we talked it out (he politely indirectly rejected me) and he handled it pretty well and decided to continue as frnds.

conclusion we still talk as friends like more connected than before.

but damn these feelings..how should i stop them from growing day by day when deep down i know its just gonna be unrequited /one sided...this feelings are messing with my heart nd mind like yk always looking to talk to him daily ,gettnng excited over his texts , stalking him etc etc

just tell me how to move on and how to remove these feelingss because i cant focus on anything. my mind knows i was friendzoned but why my heart cant just accept it and move on . why am i getting atached more nd more that to someone online.

just tell me how to remove these feelingsss

so i was talking to this guy i met online. we were kinda clear from starting that we just gonna be friends but somewhere i got attached with daily talks and all.

i started liking him. i confessed without any expectations bcoz i knew he only see me as a friend(but i was damn afraid of losing hkm as a goof friend). i was kind of sure this friendship is gonna end too .

but we talked it out (he politely indirectly rejected me) and he handled it pretty well and decided to continue as frnds.

conclusion we still talk as friends like more connected than before.

but damn these feelings..how should i stop them from growing day by day when deep down i know its just gonna unrequited /one sided...this feelings are messing with my heart nd mind like yk always looking to talk to him daily ,gettnng excited over his texts , stalking him etc etc

just tell me how to move on and how to remove these feelingss because i cant focus on anything. my mind knows i was friendzone but why my heart cant just accept it and move on . why am i getting atached more nd more that to someone online.

okay so sab ladke ni firstly...kuch..okyy

its a rant session so please tolerate

i am gonna write it as third person

i dont get it why guys(online walo ki bat ho ri h yaha) are like this. they will talk to girls wishing them good night good morning everyday . complimenting them here nd there. remembering small details about her routine. talk to them daily sometimes for long hours, giving her update about his life too..

and when the girl got attached , they will say i only see u as a frnd!!! like wtf . why ur words and actions differ.

after the guy rejected th girl . they decided to stay frnds as they both value it more.

but even after rejection the guy keep going on with these acts! why dude..just be in the boundaries why r u confusing a girl who likes u and playing with her feelings.

a normal frnd would never do above such thingssss for god sake.

so me OP is in the above situation.

ofc its my fault i confessed to him even when from starting we set the boundary that we gonna be friends only , i crossed the boundary , guilty as charged.

but feelings arent in my control when a guy try to know me so well . in depthhhh like no one had ever before.

so OP is ranting bcoz she is damn confused . she thought she will maintain distance but one text from him or one convo with him make her go to the starting point. she regret confessing she regret talking to him.

pata hai aaj kya hua.

so pata hai aaj kya hua

i was talking to my online male frnd whom i like..and he see me as a frnd and he damn knows i like him but he still act so sweet and caring like bro stop it let me move on.

so u know wht he did today

he noticed that i wasn't active for a day he remembered when my exam was on and wish me luck in thr morning.. he will ask about my day my exam he will wish me morning and night even when we haven't texted whole day he will share little things about his day and many more ..i am afraid to reveal wht if reads this post though i doubt he is on reddit.

i never thought guys like him exist in this genz era .

wish i could tell him to stoppp but somewhere i likee this but i really need to move on for god sake or my own sakeeeee

how to move on after getting politely rejected by ur friend . we used to talk daily for hours but after my confession he has started texting me less nd less. got zero text from him today

I have a close online friend. We've known each other for quite a while and have always had a very comfortable friendship.

A few days ago, I told him that I liked him. To be honest, I already knew he had always seen me as a friend, so there wasn't really an expectation that anything would happen.

When we talked about it, he told me that he had always viewed me as a friend. He also said its not a rejection, but rather that he didn't think a long-distance relationship was realistically possible(totally agree with him). Either way, we talked it through and decided that our friendship was more important and that we'd continue as normal.

I genuinely didn't want to lose him as a friend. That said, feelings don't disappear overnight, so naturally it was still a little difficult but i choose to act like before.

However, less than two days later, he asked me whether it's common for a girl to give chocolates and a cake to a guy on his birthday, especially when they've only known each other for a few weeks.

For context, this wasn't completely out of character. Even before my confession, he would sometimes ask for my opinion on situations involving other girls.

So I answered honestly and told him that, in my experience, it isn't something people usually do for just anyone.

The conversation continued, and eventually he started asking me how he could tell this girl that he only sees her as a friend.

That's the part that made me pause.

On one hand, maybe he was simply treating me exactly as he always had and saw no reason to change our friendship dynamic after my confession. Maybe he trusted me enough to keep talking to me the same way he always did.

but something about the this whole talk stung a little.

I still gave him advice and tried to act normally for a day because I genuinely wanted our friendship to continue. But now I keep finding myself thinking back to that conversation again nd again

am I reading too much into it and taking it more personally than I should?

Would you see this as a sign that he trusts me and is comfortable enough to continue treating me normally?

Looking for honest opinions.

Tell me what should i do now.

guys aaj ye hua ki me jab insta p ss lene lgi it keep showing " this app doesnt allow screenshot" .

someone tell me is it happening with me onlyyy? like whst is wrongg is this some new update or feature as i reinstall the insta today?