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I’m asking here because I have been together with my lovely girlfriend now for 4 years, and I get that this maybe ruins the surprise to some but we’ve been discussing getting married and a proposal because we like talking about these things together. And then she told me she would really like if she was the one to propose to me. So how would ya’ll feel about it? I really didn’t expect it and I’m unsure of what to say because it really came as a surprise, so what would you think if you had been in the same position where your girlfriend was the one who wanted to propose?

I am intersex, I have OT-DSD (I was born with both ovarian and testicular tissue) and being intersex was difficult for me for a long time but eventually I managed to accept it but recently I feel really outside by the intersex community because it’s gotten so broad. And I know I will sound bitter and not open to other people (I wish I was, I get this isn’t exactly rational), but I actually feel a pang of pain when people with conditions like PCOS and conditions where I feel like.. someone is calling themselves intersex and may technically be, but they basically feel like have none of my experience of feeling like being a third thing and punished for it, instead their intersex is more like a defect of some but they were still obviously classified as male/female.

And I can’t talk about this even in the intersex community because people will get mad at me but I feel like the label has become so oversaturated and it kind of hurts because my whole life I experienced being treated as an actual “in-between hermaphrodite“.. and I struggled with that for so long. and now basically any intersex person I talk to lived as an actual relatively comfortably boy/girl only with some defect in fertility or something.

I know I don’t have the right to decide how intersex someone is, it just feels like I have less and less of a community I relate to- like there isn’t a place for intersex people who actually have an ambiguous presentation anymore and I can’t say it without coming across as bigoted either

Does anyone notice this thing where, when the Red Army is praised they are suddenly recognised Ukrainians who fought bravely.. but when the Red Army is accused of having done something wrong, they’re suddenly all Russians. I feel like I’ve seen this so disproportionately from Ukrainian supporters, they praise the Red Army’s Ukrainian history, but if there’s an alleged war crime or action they don’t like, they’re suddenly all Russians. “Russians never change“ if there is an action the Soviet Union did that they don’t like, but everything good the Soviet Army and country did becomes “brave Ukrainians.” How do these people not feel the hypocrisy in praising the Red Army in the context of Ukraine, and then saying they’re all Russians who is just the same symbol of “Russian/Soviet imperialism“ when it comes to the Russian-Ukraine war in the same breath?

I decided to take a DNA test for the fun of it, it isn’t something that I’ve ever gotten around to doing before now, but I’ve always had it in the back of my mind- well, last month I did it and I’ve been thinking about how it went ever since. My grandfather on my dad’s side was given up as a baby. It is something I always knew but never really thought about in depth.. well, after taking the DNA test and looking into it, I found out that that my great-grandpa who abandoned my dad had been a rich German man from this German aristocrat-like family. Many of them were nazis and members of the party and in the SS(my grandpa on the other hand, was an allied bomber.) But this German family that it turns out I’m related to, they owned slave labour at concentration camps in occupied Europe. And on top of that, lots of nazi wealth taken from people and the camps(which I believe the family still has today..) Well, I managed to find the German descendants of the same family today, I’ve never met them before. But they are wealthy in Germany and I think it’s because of that. I think the wealth they own still come from the war, none of the family members have any particularly well earning jobs but they seem like very rich.

I know it’s not my fault or anything, but I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. It’s been really lingering in my mind since it happened even though it’s distant from my life today.

I feel so remorseful for this, and I genuinely need to confess because it’s eating me up alive. I feel terrible for it because I know it’s not just a harmless fantasy, it started out as me seeking older porn and I fell into this niche rabbit hole by starting to watch gay porn made in Eastern Europe in the 1990s.. it fulfils this niche craving in the moment, but god do I feel sick. I’m pretty sure none of those men wanted to be there and just did it for the money, I’m sure they were probably exploited because they desperately needed that money, but I still watch it. I’m such a hypocrite, and worst of all is I want to be against it so badly and I say that I am and stand against it, but I still come back to watch it because I like the material. I’ve looked into it so many times as to why it’s morally terrible, I’ve read into the circumstances and still. I want to be against this so badly, it goes against my morals and I feel so sick I could throw up. The worst part is I’m from the West and I’m middle class so I’m sure it’s exploitation and poverty porn in every sense of the word. I guess it’s technically not illegal material, but I feel so terrible inside.

It makes me want to die with how bad I feel over it, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I feel so ashamed. When I think about how I’m probably feeling pleasure at their expense, or worse, some part of me likes it because of that(I hope that’s not true but it’s my worst fear.)

I don’t know how to say this but I’m going to try and be as respectful as possible, I genuinely don’t know what to do so I figured it’d be best to ask trans people. So there is this guy at my school and he is trans, but he doesn’t realise that we know he is trans. I think the right word is “passing” and he thinks he does that, but he really doesn’t because I overheard my classmates talking about how he “was actually a girl.” And then I found his tik tok account purely by chance when I looked over his shoulder and saw his username, and I saw videos like “how it feels to be stealth at my new school” and stuff. I don’t want to give away too much information because I live in a very small country where people are usually not confrontational at all and nobody’s spoken about it (though he just started school less than a week ago) and I don’t mean this in a rude way. But I think a lot of the class is talking about it, and I think he doesn’t know, he is autistic as well.

What should I do? Should I politely let him know or would that just be a very bad thing to do? I support trans people but we live in a Christian part of a small country and I’ve heard people snickering about him

This is something I am really curious about, let’s say there is an immortal, the completely ageless, undying, eternally young kind. Eventually settling around would be an issue. Which modern-day country would be best for the immortal to reside in your opinion? On one hand, the immortal presumably does not want to become a lab experiment or get trapped in heavy and well-documented bureaucracy that will eventually reveal them. On the other hand, the immortal doesn’t necessarily want to live in total chaos and hardship every day. Which modern day country, and way of living, would be the most survivable existence for an immortal?

Jeg stiller ikke dette spørsmålet av ideologiske årsaker, men jeg er ganske interessert i historie. Kommunistisk sabotasje og motstand i Norge er noe av det jeg synes er mest interessant. Norge lager mange krigsfilmer, og det var da jeg fikk tanken at det er litt rart at jeg ikke har sett en om kommunistene ennå. Tross alt var Gestapo i okkuperte Norge fokusert på kommunismen(Jeg sier ikke dette for å diskreditere Milorg i det hele tatt, og jeg mener ikke at kommunistisk motstand var flertallet. men det var en del av fokuset.) Så fikk jeg tanken, kanskje den filmen finnes, men jeg bare gikk glipp av den.

Så.. finnes det en film som nr. 24 eller noe sånt, men om Osvald-Gruppa?

Jeg vet ikke om det er bare fordi jeg er eldre nå, men jeg går på VG3 og det er en venne-gruppe på skolen min som er alle muslimske eller utlendninger, og de er sikkelige homofobiske mot meg. Jeg er lesbisk og de sier skikkelig stygge ting om meg, De har kalt meg en «dyke» og til og med sagt at blodet mitt er skittent. Men ingen bryr seg i det hele tatt, og ikke engang noen av lærerene mine bryr seg. Læreren sier at jeg bør «ikke gi dem oppmerksomhet» fordi de kommer fra et annet miljø, og det må jeg respektere. Føles som jeg blir gal, nesten vær gang noen har skreket til meg og kjærsten min, har de var utlendninger. Men hvis jeg sier noe later folk som jeg er gal.

This post will have a major warning, this is not any views I condone. i hate how I am for this, and I just need to get it out. I don’t feel great about it at all. As a woman myself I watch absolutely misogynistic, degrading porn of other women. And I’m not saying this in a kinky sense because it isn’t sexual for me. Except I don’t pretend I’m the woman in these situations. Matter of fact, I hate the idea of that- I pretend that I am the man, who is degrading women. For some reason it is one of the only things that make me feel happy, but it is profoundly disgusting. But as a woman myself, I am so absolutely sickeningly misogynistic. I’m a woman, but I hate women, I’ve always felt that being a woman is just being inherently weak and born with a pathetic hole between the legs.

And of course I myself am a woman and it‘s a horrible way of feeling, I genuinely try always to not let it go out over anybody else- but I bare go out of my house because I hate my own pathetic state of existence, and this is by far the most embarrassing- I day dream, 24/7, about being a whole male persona I’ve made for myself in my head. And were it not for my own imagination where I pretend to be a strong male I genuinely think I’d be dead, he has a name and all, it’s so freaky. I basically live my life, exclusively pretending to be this whole other person and I hate having to step outside of this daydream.

But the thing is no other male figure in my life even hurt me, I was never actually mocked, I had a great relationship with my dad and my mom, and I never even faced sexual harassment in my life. (I don’t condone any views I mentioned, and it isn’t who I want to be as a person.) There is something terribly wrong with me.

This post will have a major warning, this is not any views I condone. i hate how I am for this, and I just need to get it out. I don’t feel great about it at all. As a woman myself I watch absolutely misogynistic, degrading porn of other women. And I’m not saying this in a kinky sense because it isn’t sexual for me. Except I don’t pretend I’m the woman in these situations. Matter of fact, I hate the idea of that- I pretend that I am the man, who is degrading women. For some reason it is one of the only things that make me feel happy, but it is profoundly disgusting. But as a woman myself, I am so absolutely sickeningly misogynistic. I’m a woman, but I hate women, I’ve always felt that being a woman is just being inherently weak and born with a pathetic hole between the legs.

And of course I myself am a woman and it‘s a horrible way of feeling, I genuinely try always to not let it go out over anybody else- but I bare go out of my house because I hate my own pathetic state of existence, and this is by far the most embarrassing- I day dream, 24/7, about being a whole male persona I’ve made for myself in my head. And were it not for my own imagination where I pretend to be a strong male I genuinely think I’d be dead, he has a name and all, it’s so freaky. I basically live my life, exclusively pretending to be this whole other person and I hate having to step outside of this daydream.

But the thing is no other male figure in my life even hurt me, I was never actually mocked, I had a great relationship with my dad and my mom, and I never even faced sexual harassment in my life. (I don’t condone any views I mentioned, and it isn’t who I want to be as a person.)

I am very curious on how the condition of heterochromia(when a person’s irises are two different colours) was viewed then, in those times? What was the cultural view on it, did they view it as supernatural(whether bad or good), how were they treated by their communities? Looking to learn on how it was viewed any sort of country, doesn’t matter which!

FIRST OF ALL I WANT TO SAY THAT I’M NOT A CISSIE, I’m a trans guy, but I’ve not had any experience with trans girls and my sister just came out to me at 13, and I want to make her happy. She has social anxiety and autism, and I just feel bad for her because she doesn’t even know that people dislike trans people. Like she really doesn’t even know at all, and when she came out she immediately wanted to tell even our grandparents, our neighbour with dementia whose house burned down, and tell people on roblox?? She doesn’t even know being a trans girl is something people get upset at. She seems really sure, and she’s still sure after months of being out, even though our parents are saying she’s too young. i’m really hoping some girls here could maybe help me out a bit, because even though I’m trans the opposite way I’m not really sure what to do. And she’s definitely not getting it from me because she doesn’t even know I’m trans.

Så, jeg er nordmann, men jeg har bodd i utlandet i noen år. Nå reiser jeg snart tilbake til Norge, så jeg prøver bare å forstå den generelle holdningen. For å være helt klar, jeg planlegger å leve “stealth”(ikke dele åpent at jeg er trans.) Men du vet aldri hva som kan skje. Jeg har gått på T i 6 år og jeg går ut for å være mann, og jeg har ikke tenkt å snakke om det i det hele tatt. Men i tilfelle det på en eller annen måte kommer ut, er jeg litt bekymret. Jeg vil bare leve livet mitt normalt, jeg håper ingen hater meg på grunn av hvordan jeg ble født. Jeg spør på begge subredditene for å få et bedre perspektiv. Jeg er ikke sikker på hvordan jeg skal formulere dette, men jeg har ikke tenkt å "dytte det ned i halsen på noen" eller noe, jeg bare vil leve livet

Så, jeg er nordmann, men jeg har bodd i utlandet i noen år. Nå reiser jeg snart tilbake til Norge, så jeg prøver bare å forstå den generelle holdningen. For å være helt klar, jeg planlegger å leve “stealth”(ikke dele åpent at jeg er trans.) Men du vet aldri hva som kan skje. Jeg har gått på T i 6 år og jeg går ut for å være mann, og jeg har ikke tenkt å snakke om det i det hele tatt. Men i tilfelle det på en eller annen måte kommer ut, er jeg litt bekymret. Jeg vil bare leve livet mitt normalt, jeg håper ingen hater meg på grunn av hvordan jeg ble født.