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i work in healthcare admin and my manager mentioned i’ve had about 11 sick days since december (mostly certified). she wasn’t rude or anything, just said it was understandable but it still made me very aware of it
i had to leave early one day too and she suggested using flexi instead of sick leave because of the amount of sick leave i’ve had recently
i’ve been having ongoing health issues that are only *suspected* endometriosis/pcos, no actual diagnosis yet. i get very painful periods, fatigue etc and it does affect my attendance sometimes
my manager is a nurse as well so i don’t know what’s actually appropriate to say to her or if i’m better off just keeping it to occ health if it ever gets to that point
i’m also a bit worried i could end up being sent to occupational health if my sick leave keeps going like this, which is making me think maybe i should just explain it now instead of it coming across badly
part of me feels like i need to explain it so it doesn’t look like i’m just randomly out sick all the time, but i also don’t want to overshare or make it more formal than it needs to be
has anyone been in a similar situation? did you tell your manager or just wait for occ health?

i work in healthcare admin and my manager mentioned i’ve had about 11 sick days since december (mostly certified). she wasn’t rude or anything, just said it was understandable but it still made me very aware of it
i had to leave early one day too and she suggested using flexi instead of sick leave because of the amount of sick leave i’ve had recently
i’ve been having ongoing health issues that are only *suspected* endometriosis/pcos, no actual diagnosis yet. i get very painful periods, fatigue etc and it does affect my attendance sometimes
my manager is a nurse as well so i don’t know what’s actually appropriate to say to her or if i’m better off just keeping it to occ health if it ever gets to that point
i’m also a bit worried i could end up being sent to occupational health if my sick leave keeps going like this, which is making me think maybe i should just explain it now instead of it coming across badly
part of me feels like i need to explain it so it doesn’t look like i’m just randomly out sick all the time, but i also don’t want to overshare or make it more formal than it needs to be
has anyone been in a similar situation? did you tell your manager or just wait for occ health?

i work in healthcare admin and my manager mentioned i’ve had about 11 sick days since december (mostly certified). she wasn’t rude or anything, just said it was understandable but it still made me very aware of it
i had to leave early one day too and she suggested using flexi instead of sick leave because of the amount of sick leave i’ve had recently
i’ve been having ongoing health issues that are only *suspected* endometriosis/pcos, no actual diagnosis yet. i get very painful periods, fatigue etc and it does affect my attendance sometimes
my manager is a nurse as well so i don’t know what’s actually appropriate to say to her or if i’m better off just keeping it to occ health if it ever gets to that point
i’m also a bit worried i could end up being sent to occupational health if my sick leave keeps going like this, which is making me think maybe i should just explain it now instead of it coming across badly
part of me feels like i need to explain it so it doesn’t look like i’m just randomly out sick all the time, but i also don’t want to overshare or make it more formal than it needs to be
has anyone been in a similar situation? did you tell your manager or just wait for occ health?

So here goes
I’m 28 and with my bf for six years. We have a mortgage, stable jobs and earn a decent wage. I’m ready for a baby but he is not and I 100% respect that, I would never put pressure on him.
However, I am ready now and I’m getting anxious that it won’t ever happen as he is very happy and content with life (I’d never want to jeopardise that). He isn’t interested in getting engaged or married but he says a mortgage together is just as serious and maybe he’s right.
Just worried he will keep putting a baby off and then it will be too late. I am only 28 but I am worried time is ticking as late twenties is peak fertility.
He says he wants kids but doesn’t know when and that’s fine, but how can I stop this long and impatience for the time being?
Thank you

I don’t really know how to word this, I’m just really upset that it hurts to breathe.

My mental health hasn’t been great lately and today I told my boyfriend I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. He got really angry and said I was being extreme and made a comment about “not fighting wars like Donald Trump.” I just felt dismissed after that.

There’s also been ongoing tension with one of his close female friends. I’ve been uncomfortable with how close they are for a while and I can’t really shake it. They met through Reddit about 6 months ago.

There was a situation yesterday where I was cat sitting and got locked in the house. I panicked and messaged her saying I didn’t feel safe and that my boyfriend wouldn’t come back (I was genuinely panicking and not thinking straight). I’d never met her before so I know it probably came across badly.
I’ve also made some stupid jokes before — about his granny’s inheritance, saying he shouted at me when he didn’t, and some dark humour stuff with friends. Nothing meant badly but I can see how it probably all adds up. I have mild autism so my filter isn’t amazing.

Apparently she told him I don’t feel secure about how close they are, and then it all kind of spiralled and now he’s really annoyed at me.

On top of that my mental health completely crashed today and I ended up at the GP because I wasn’t coping and was having thoughts about not wanting to be here anymore. I did get seen but I still feel really shaken up.
Now I just feel like I’ve messed everything up socially and in my relationship and my head is just telling me I’m the problem in everything.
I don’t even really know what I’m looking for posting this, I just feel really overwhelmed and like everything hit at once.
He also told her to put on her engagement ring after her and her fiancé broke up so I wouldn’t get anxious, and said she wasn’t single when she actually was.

I’m living in Santry and would love to get to know more people.

I’m also having a very rough night so would be delighted with someone to chat to

really upset and tearful after a situation at work today

still kind of shaken after today and just wanted to get it out because I feel like I’m overthinking it

there was a situation at work where I ended up telling someone that my manager had changed her mind about something to do with a meeting (teams vs in person). I genuinely thought that was the case at the time, but I misunderstood what was actually said — she hadn’t changed her mind at all

later on she came in quite mad about it and raised her voice slightly in front of a few people and said that’s not what she said and that she didn’t like that being said about her. she also made a comment like “we’re not 12” which honestly really threw me

I tried to say I wasn’t blaming her or anything and that it was just a misunderstanding but it didn’t really go smoothly and I ended up getting upset and crying in front of a few people afterwards

there was also another unrelated situation earlier involving a colleague and workload/cover where there was some confusion and my manager also wasn’t happy about how that was communicated, so the whole day just felt quite tense overall

now I’m overthinking everything because I do realise I got it wrong and I feel like I’ve made myself look unreliable even though it genuinely wasn’t intentional, I just misunderstood what was said and relayed it badly

just wondering if stuff like this actually matters long term or if it usually just blows over, because it feels a lot bigger in my head than it probably is

really upset and tearful after a situation at work today

still kind of shaken after today and just wanted to get it out because I feel like I’m overthinking it

there was a situation at work where I ended up telling someone that my manager had changed her mind about something to do with a meeting (teams vs in person). I genuinely thought that was the case at the time, but I misunderstood what was actually said — she hadn’t changed her mind at all

later on she came in quite mad about it and raised her voice slightly in front of a few people and said that’s not what she said and that she didn’t like that being said about her. she also made a comment like “we’re not 12” which honestly really threw me

I tried to say I wasn’t blaming her or anything and that it was just a misunderstanding but it didn’t really go smoothly and I ended up getting upset and crying in front of a few people afterwards

there was also another unrelated situation earlier involving a colleague () and workload/cover where there was some confusion and my manager also wasn’t happy about how that was communicated, so the whole day just felt quite tense overall

now I’m overthinking everything because I do realise I got it wrong and I feel like I’ve made myself look unreliable even though it genuinely wasn’t intentional, I just misunderstood what was said and relayed it badly

just wondering if stuff like this actually matters long term or if it usually just blows over, because it feels a lot bigger in my head than it probably ish

still kind of shaken after today and just wanted to get it out because I feel like I’m overthinking it

there was a situation at work where I ended up telling someone that my manager had changed her mind about something to do with a meeting (teams vs in person). I genuinely thought that was the case at the time, but I misunderstood what was actually said — she hadn’t changed her mind at all

later on she came in quite mad about it and raised her voice slightly in front of a few people and said that’s not what she said and that she didn’t like that being said about her. she also made a comment like “we’re not 12” which honestly really threw me

I tried to say I wasn’t blaming her or anything and that it was just a misunderstanding but it didn’t really go smoothly and I ended up getting upset and crying in front of a few people afterwards

there was also another unrelated situation earlier involving a colleague () and workload/cover where there was some confusion and my manager also wasn’t happy about how that was communicated, so the whole day just felt quite tense overall

now I’m overthinking everything because I do realise I got it wrong and I feel like I’ve made myself look unreliable even though it genuinely wasn’t intentional, I just misunderstood what was said and relayed it badly

just wondering if stuff like this actually matters long term or if it usually just blows over, because it feels a lot bigger in my head than it probably is

I left my one and only indoor cat alone for 6 days with a cat sitter coming once a day for about 40 mins.

They were feeding her properly, cleaning litter tray, checking water, and giving her a bit of attention/play each visit. She also has loads of toys. I feel really guilty about it.

While I was away she vomited once (she’s never done that before) and I can’t stop overthinking it. i honestly couldn’t afford two visits a day, so this was the best I could do.

Did I do something wrong or is this actually okay for an indoor cat?

Staying in Corralejo 4-9 June

Thank you