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My baby’s sleep journey has been exactly that: a journey. I am embarrassed to say that as a new mom, I had this idea of wanting my baby to feel safe ‘in the crib’. I thought that my baby as a newborn needed to be soothed in the crib so I wouldnt pick him up immediately at times and just swaddle him and pat his chest lightly, and then eventually pick him up when I saw that wasnt “working”.

I used to think “I need to help him feel safe in the crib by seeing that mommy is in the crib with him too”. I used to think that sounded so logical and thoughtful. I came across a post that discussed biologically normal infant sleep. I always knew I hated the CIO method. I despised it. All the parents that had recommended me use it, had grown children that had CPTSD including my husband or otherwise other issues that called for therapy. (My MIL recommended CIO and my husband has CPTSD and he cannot for the life of him figure out what exactly caused it. Of course I have no evidence to support the idea that CIO caused it. I don’t think it’s a huge leap to say that unresponsiveness at nighttime was a contributing factor or a framework for his nervous system though.) I began to realize how ignorant I was toward infant sleep and development, so I want to take a moment and thank the originators of this sub for bringing more awareness to the subject.

I started reading a lot more into infant sleep and studies done surrounding the impact of responsiveness, what the AAP considers “evidence“ of safety of sleep training, and finally I have realized this: Sleep training does not teach babies to sleep independently, it forces them to.

This is my first entry into my sleep diaries. I want to record everything I have learned and of course add links and resources. If you made it this far into this intro thank you so much and wishing you and your family well ❤️

Hi there! I’m excited for this sub and happy to be here 🫶 my husband and I have a 4m old boy who is super strong and energetic he started rolling at 3m and never looked back lol. We have been reading Montessori baby and so far we love it! I appreciate that it highlights how a secure attachment is super important and that as soon as a baby is born they begin to form their attachment system. I would like to know if anyone has read this book or similar and would like to share any interesting thoughts or highlights?

I was being curious and perused the sleep training sub. I wish I hadn’t. now I’m just sad. I feel powerless too cause there’s nothing I can do to change society’s view on sleep training. someone mentioned the extinction burst which is where a baby cries a lot during sleep training apparently right before they start sleeping independently. it broke my heart

my baby boy is 15wks today and he’s been sleeping 5-7hr stretches for a couple weeks now yay! However there’s been some changes in his preferences: he doesn’t like to be rocked to sleep anymore whether it’s holding him upright or cradling him. He loves to roll onto his belly to sleep so one night he was really struggling to settle and if I picked him up he would cry harder. I ended up setting him back down in his crib again and he just squirmed and fussed until he found his perfect spot or position and fell asleep on his own. I want to help him fall asleep a better way but I’m not sure how 😭 sometimes he’ll immediately roll onto his belly when I lay him down in which case I pat his bottom and back until he falls asleep. Has anyone else gone through this? Any suggestions?

I was using the Medela Pump in Style cause I didn’t know better lol I also didn’t know I was going to EP. but my medela just slowed down and it stopped draining me well after 2mo. I just bought the spectra and I get the same output in half the time. if you’re looking for a pump get the Specera S1, it’s worth it 100 percent

I hate fighting with my best friend

ok so I’ve noticed that when I’m pumping there’s been a couple times where I feel a slight jolt or spasm in my breast, has anyone else felt this? trying not to panic 🙂

GUYS GUYS IT FINALLY HAPPENED! my LO feel asleep at 11ish and woke up a little before 5amish!!! im so so proud of my little guy, the previous few nights he was waking up every hour or two which was confusing cause his previous schedule was 4-hrs then 3hrs n and then it spiraled into him waking up constantly throughout the night for a few days from 10wks-11ks he just turned 12wks literally today. ik this won’t happen every night but im so happy ahhhh

but i l love the freakin heck out of him

GUYS GUYS IT FINALLY HAPPENED! my LO feel asleep at 11ish and woke up a little before 5amish!!! im so so proud of my little guy, the previous few nights he was waking up every hour or two which was confusing cause his previous schedule was 4-hrs then 3hrs n and then it spiraled into him waking up constantly throughout the night for a few days from 10wks-11ks he just turned 12wks literally today. ik this won’t happen every night but im so happy ahhhh

but he pisses me the heck off

but he pisses me the heck off

but he pisses me the heck off

hey guys

my beautiful baby boy just turned 11wks today and for the past few days I’ve noticed he’s gotten WAY fussier than before. nothing has changed in his routine. he doesn’t stay asleep during nap time even though I do everything I can like white noise dim lights swaddled w arms out etc. my husband and I are so confused and so tired. when I mentioned this to pediatrician she was not concerned because he does settle he’s not inconsolable, but then after like 5-10 min he starts crying again even though he’s fed, clean diaper, burped. someone please tell me it gets better

hey guys

my beautiful baby boy just turned 11wks today and for the past few days I’ve noticed he’s gotten WAY fussier than before. nothing has changed in his routine. he doesn’t stay asleep during nap time even though I do everything I can like white noise dim lights swaddled w arms out etc. my husband and I are so confused and so tired. when I mentioned this to pediatrician she was not concerned because he does settle he’s not inconsolable, but then after like 5-10 min he starts crying again even though he’s fed, clean diaper, burped. someone please tell me it gets better

hey guys

I’m going to be 11wks pp in 3 days and I’ve been pumping exclusively for the past 6 weeks or so. it’s been great up until these recent past couple days. it feels like it’s been catching up to me with the bottle washing and pumping and taking care of my baby boy. these past couple days I’ve skipped a few pumps so I could get some sleep and also take care of things that needed to be done. my husband does so much he cooks the meals does most of the cleaning but i don’t know why I’ve been so exhausted. now I’m worried if my supply goes down, will it be too late to bring it back up?