u/One-Pun9419

I have an older sister who is in an unhappy marriage and has a 5 year old son. My mom is absolutely at her beck and call, whatever she needs and my mom drops what she’s doing to help. Maybe it’s because she’s the first born, or because she’s constantly on the verge of a mental breakdown from her home life.

Whenever I need something or could use her help in the same way, she doesn’t. Small example: my husband left the house today to go help my step dad build something. Husband accidentally took the keys to both cars, so I’m stuck at home all day. I asked my mom if she could come get me (she’s at home doing nothing) and she said no. I absolutely know without a doubt if my older sister called with the same request, my mom would’ve gone to get her.

I have another middle sister who my mom has also historically treated differently, in a more poor way (her personality annoys my mom). This sister is constantly pointing out the comparisons in treatment to my mom and my mom chucks it up to jealousy.

When I told my mom she would’ve left to go get my older sister if she asked her to she said “she’s my babyyy. You sound like your middle sister. The jealously amongst you guys is wild”

My mom and I generally have a good relationship. But it really annoys me how much she babies my oldest sister (her first born) and whenever me or my other sister point it out to her, we’re “jealous”. Why can’t parents be bothered to treat all of their children equally?

I have an older sister who is in an unhappy marriage and has a 5 year old son. My mom is absolutely at her beck and call, whatever she needs and my mom drops what she’s doing to help. Maybe it’s because she’s the first born, or because she’s constantly on the verge of a mental breakdown from her home life.

Whenever I need something or could use her help in the same way, she doesn’t. Small example: my husband left the house today to go help my step dad build something. Husband accidentally took the keys to both cars, so I’m stuck at home all day. I asked my mom if she could come get me (she’s at home doing nothing) and she said no. I absolutely know without a doubt if my older sister called with the same request, my mom would’ve gone to get her.

I have another middle sister who my mom has also historically treated differently, in a more poor way (her personality annoys my mom). This sister is constantly pointing out the comparisons in treatment to my mom and my mom chucks it up to jealousy.

When I told my mom she would’ve left to go get my older sister if she asked her to she said “she’s my babyyy. You sound like your middle sister. The jealously amongst you guys is wild”

My mom and I generally have a good relationship. But it really annoys me how much she babies my oldest sister (her first born) and whenever me or my other sister point it out to her, we’re “jealous”. Why can’t parents be bothered to treat all of their children equally?

I purchased my 3 story, new build middle unit townhome at the peak of the market in my area. 6 months later, the same units were selling for $50k less. Someone who purchased around the same time recently tried to sell for around the same they purchased for and got zero interest. They’re now trying to rent it out, again with zero interest.

How do I quit stressing over the fact that I overpaid? Makes it more difficult to enjoy my home and not regret my purchase.

I’m leaving my pretty cushy $120k salary in house counsel position to go back to an $88k PSLF eligible role (that I worked in previously). I have $200k student loan debt from law school, so while PSLF is part of the reason, I’m also looking forward to a more chill environment (mostly remote, good benefits, etc.)

I did the math, and to aggressively tackle the loans (10 year payoff) I’d be paying $2,500 per month on my current salary. With the PSLF position, I will be paying around $500 per month (lowest payment possible) with forgiveness in 10 years. So I see that as saving $1000 per month by taking the PSLF position (accounting for the pay difference and loan payment difference).

I do feel a little crazy taking a $32k pay cut, but think the lower monthly loan payment and PSLF potential will be worth it. I have no kids, spouse and I have a healthy amount in savings. I don’t want to die with my loans, that terrifies me as I want to enjoy my retirement and not have it looming over me.

Anyone else take the step down salary wise to get an PSLF eligible role and not regret it?

I’m leaving my pretty cushy $120k salary in house counsel position to go back to an $88k state contracts negotiator role (that I worked in previously). I have $200k student loan debt from law school, so while PSLF is part of the reason, I’m also looking forward to a more chill environment (mostly remote, good benefits, etc.)

Being an attorney and having the attorney title stresses me out, as dumb as that sounds. I do feel a little crazy taking a $32k pay cut, but think the lower monthly loan payment and PSLF potential will be worth it. I have no kids, spouse and I have a healthy amount in savings.

Anyone else take the step down salary wise to get out of an attorney role and not regret it?

Bought my first (town)home in March 2025 in a new build community. It’s a 3 bed, 4 bath three story narrow townhome, middle unit. Others with my floor plan have rooftop decks (these sell for around $620k), mine does not. The end units are 4 bed, 4 bath and all have rooftop decks (these sell for around $650k).

We paid $595k. 6 months after we bought, the same floor plan was selling at $550k from the builder due to shift in market conditions. Really bad timing.

Someone with the exact unit recently tried to sell and got zero interest. They pulled from the market, instead trying to rent (also seems to be little interest). Two of the 4 bed/4bath end units have sold recently, very quickly. Other townhomes in the community with similar square footage (some even with basements) are listed for the same if not less than what we paid for our place.

When we were looking, our floor plan (no rooftop deck) was the only one available as they were still building. We were eager to buy (peer pressure, felt like we had to once we started looking). In hindsight, I wish we would’ve waited and spent $50k for one of the end units, as they are more spacious, extra bedroom, rooftop decks, and are easily selling, but I had $600k as the absolute max in my mind.

We worked with a real estate agent and saw some single family homes, but got nervous about upkeep costs on older homes so decided to look at new builds. Our agent practically hit the jackpot and didn’t have to do much work, didn’t take the time to advise us on resale potential (why would she try to talk us out of it? It was easy money for her). I’m also an adult, no one forced me to buy this place, but I really regret it.

Just venting. I’m already wanting to move but feel stuck. Is my only option to list for $100k less than what I paid? I’m in the foothills of Denver.

Bought my first (town)home in March 2025 in a new build community. It’s a 3 bed, 4 bath three story narrow townhome, middle unit. Others with my floor plan have rooftop decks (these sell for around $620k), mine does not. The end units are 4 bed, 4 bath and all have rooftop decks (these sell for around $650k).

We paid $595k. 6 months after we bought, the same floor plan was selling at $550k from the builder due to shift in market conditions. Really bad timing.

Someone with the exact unit recently tried to sell and got zero interest. They pulled from the market, instead trying to rent (also seems to be little interest). Two of the 4 bed/4bath end units have sold recently, very quickly. Other townhomes in the community with similar square footage (some even with basements) are listed for the same if not less than what we paid for our place.

When we were looking, our floor plan (no rooftop deck) was the only one available as they were still building. We were eager to buy (peer pressure, felt like we had to once we started looking). In hindsight, I wish we would’ve waited and spent $50k for one of the end units, as they are more spacious, extra bedroom, rooftop decks, and are easily selling, but I had $600k as the absolute max in my mind.

We worked with a real estate agent and saw some single family homes, but got nervous about upkeep costs on older homes so decided to look at new builds. Our agent practically hit the jackpot and didn’t have to do much work, didn’t take the time to advise us on resale potential (why would she try to talk us out of it? It was easy money for her). I’m also an adult, no one forced me to buy this place, but I really regret it.

Just venting. I’m already wanting to move but feel stuck. Is my only option to list for $100k less than what I paid?

I’m in the market for a new job and am looking at city and state jobs. I’ve come across numerous postings from 2016, 2017, and 2018 where the pay range is the exact same as the pay range for those same jobs today. Despite the fact that home prices in the state have doubled since then, cost of living in general is so high, etc. Awesome.

And before anyone comes at me, I know government pay is lower than private sector. That’s not the point.

I’m in a dilemma. The choice may be obvious to some but I keep going back and forth. I have $200k in student debt that I haven’t been paying since the pause went into effect (although that’s about the end now that SAVE is officially gone). I’m panicking about how I’m going to pay these off.

I currently make $120k working in house (full time in person). I have the ability to instead work for the state government for $79k in a non lawyer position (hybrid). Although the pay is drastically lower, the state government position qualifies for PSLF.

I also don’t love being a lawyer and am one of those people who should’ve never gone to law school. I know my earning capacity will only grow if I stay on the in house track, but feel I’m better suited for the non lawyer position.

Would I be crazy to leave $120k for $79k in exchange for PSLF eligibility?

Hey everyone. I’m one of those people who didn’t know what career I wanted so I decided to go to law school and really regret it. I’m a lawyer looking for a different career. I have massive student loans so really need a PSLF eligible career. I know I would make less, but the loan forgiveness is worth it for me.

Do you think I’d have a chance at getting an interview? I feel like I won’t have a chance once they see I’m a licensed attorney trying to make a massive career change, but the idea of working in 911 dispatch is really appealing to me and the city I live in is hiring. Any input is appreciated!!