We need more individualism. We need to create the conditions so that we depend less on groups and society. We need to be always ready to leave.
I think thats the only solution. As long as we keep working with other people, and we are forced to deal with society we will always be placed in a box, targeted, taken advantage, ostracized.
You have no control over this, this is not your fault. Dont let them gaslight you.
Actually the more you do the more it may be worse for you.
Human beings are superficial and judge you in seconds. They attack in groups, form hierarchies, and attack those who they perceive are isolated or different.
Human beings love hierarchies, and once they place you in a certain box, you will hardly get out of it.
In prehistoric times it was easy to deal with this for most individuals. You had 3 choices:
1- Camouflage / avoidance. You avoid them where they are, and they will pick another target. You dont mingle with them, you dont smile at them, you dont talk with them unless strictly necessary. Dodge them, ignore them. Pretend you have call, or you have something else to do. Starve them of the attention they crave.
2- Find greener pastures or bargain your exit. This was the most effective, and this why some societies collapsed. Tribes fear the most the loss of their young. That is why inside a tribe individuals rarely bully each other, and instead try to build and help each other, because each individual is very essential to the tribe survival. Also, take into account that you were equiped to survive on your own, and the land was abudant in resources.
3- Fight them. This would instantly reset the stance of most individuals to either neutral or cordial. You can't do this nowadays, unless you are a kid in high school, and even then you will be punished.
In my opinion only 2 is the actual real thing that works. Finding greener pastures, has a bit of 1 and 3. You are boycotting a toxic place, and at the same time depriving them of your presence. The truth is someone else will be the victim, and it is expensive in energy to be always moving from place to place or job to job. So the real answer to this problem is creating alternatives so that you are not stuck in one place and have more freedom to leave any toxic situation you might find yourself in.
This is why it is important for you to have money and resources. So you can withdraw from society at any moment, or change places.
A lot of you had these problems in school, university, work, and also your own social groups and family. The only way to be safe, is if you are not forced to deal with these people for one reason or another.
We need to support technologies that allow more individualism and autonomy to individuals. We need to boycott everything that goes against it, and that tries to impose collectivism.
The ideal society is a society where you can live happy and thrive and you are not forced to deal with anyone. You deal with society when you want if you want.
The ideal living space is within nature, and far away from cities. Though at the same time having access to the city, information, resources.
Think about this. The problem is not in you, and there is a path forward. This is what we must do to fight the good fight.
Support individualism and technology. Fight against the hordes and collectivism, that is what causes bullying/pecking orders.
DM me if you need help. PEACE.