So um i couldn't clear the criteria because i got short by 2 marks...i am planning to go for reval process , do u people have any idea when will the window open..and i have given improvement of English, do marks increase in english after reval? I am hopping to get just 2 marks more 💔
(18f)
have no one to talk to, so sharing here. this is not as interesting as those love story posts, so people can skip if they want. plus it's long as i am emotionally venting. it's a post about my fight with my family.
background: so my mom just hates me because i have a boyfriend. i was always good in studies, yk that studious child who listens to everything parents say. like EVERYTHING. pretty much a nerd, you can say, cause no matter how much i loved various things like fashion, hobbies, etc., i couldn't do them because my parents did not approve of them. and my mom has this weird habit, like all the other Indian moms, of making faces... showing how disgusted she is by my actions. and those eye glares etc. etc.
and now when i have a boyfriend, she thinks i am the worst person ever born... in fact, she portrays the whole situation as how much i have made her miserable. she would talk to literally anyone, and there they would just talk about how bad of a daughter i am... how much i have hurt her... etc. the depth she goes to prove herself a victim is crazy... i stay quiet 99% of the time, sometimes we have clashes when i burst out because of holding everything inside.
we don't talk normally either tho. we just have normal conversations like "have dinner", "i am going out", or times when she would be telling me how much i have made her life miserable. most of the time her tone is very harsh and rude, she would taunt me over the slightest thing. i also don't talk to her nicely either way, ofc.
she says (or maybe bitches is the right word) all these things to her sister (my aunt).
now today, i am basically at my grandparents' house due to holidays.
morning incident - my cousin sister (my aunt's daughter) did something, over which i told my mom, "your mouth only opens when it's time to criticize me. if something wrong happens to me, you won't say a word."
night incident (main thing): everyone went out, i refused to go because i didn't want to get bored. later my friend (not a close one) came just to chill and stuff. after some time my mom came too. and she hates it when she sees me with my friends. (she is female btw). ever since childhood i couldn't have close friends just because of my mom. she would taunt me and say things like, "you'll stay busy with these friendships all day" and "that's why your marks will drop." and me being obedient, i would leave all my friends.
so when my mom came and saw my friend, she gave me a disgusted look with her eyes... as if saying, "this is why you didn't go out with everyone, right?" she didn't even smile at my friend... kept a straight face.
imagine Kokila Modi's expression from Sath Nibhana Sathiya lol... exactly the same.
i really got hurt by that because it's an everyday thing. thus i told my aunt about being hurt and stuff... i thought maybe she'll ask my mom to behave more kindly, but she didn't.
later when everyone was having dinner, i didn't eat and said that i had already eaten Maggi and had told my grandma about it. (because i was alone since afternoon, so ofc i was hungry) and my mom rolled her eyes at that. atp i had enough, so i decided to call her out. i said, "what wrong did i do? it's not a bad thing, is it? there wasn't anything else to eat at home."
mom - did i even say anything?
me - then why do you keep making all these faces all the time? you did the same thing when my friend came before too. HOW CAN YOU DO THAT IN FRONT OF SOMEONE?
(these were the exact words that offended my aunt. idk, were they really that extreme?)
now my aunt comes into the scene... and starts shouting at me (she doesn't shout at her own kids btw).
saying, "how can you talk to your mother like that? parents have the right to do whatever they want. you're younger, you can't say anything back," etc. etc.
she said a lot of things, srsly a lot... about my career, how i'll never be successful after disrespecting my parents, etc.
and now my granddad comes and lectures me the same thing. they are shouting and yelling... i tried to make him understand but he didn't listen and cut me off and cursed me that i'll be nothing in life... i should be sent to a hostel... i should be thrown out, etc... "earn your own money, live on your own, then talk back."
there were a lot of hurtful things that i can't even write. but all of this coming out of someone else's mouth hurts way too much... like if i have a fight with mom and dad, then i don't cry, but this time i literally got a way too severe panic attack... i was trying to hold my tears and not cry... because how embarrassing, i am the oldest cousin and all the cousins would see me break down...
mind you, my mom said nothing to my cousins in the morning, right? then why would my aunt lecture me?
instead of calming down, i started shaking and hiccuping... i tried my best to control it... scratched my skin and everything, chanted "it's all okay, it's all okay"... but nothing worked. it's been many hours since that incident, and still my eyes are full of tears...
something which hurts even more is that who do i have to vent this out to? my cousins? no one came to calm me down... when i was the one who stood by them whenever they got scolded... i calmed my cousin sister when she was crying and took her side... same for my brother too... same for others too...
but in my case, i was just so lonely... pulling the bedsheet to calm down... playing songs at full volume to distract my mind so that the tears would stop...
at the back of my head i got a thought to tell my dad, but then i realised it's of no use because i very well remember what he did when i mustered up the courage to tell him things in the past...
i was just venting to my bf and he told me to sleep to make me feel better. then i went and didn't reply to him... because when i needed him, he told me to sleep. in the past too i told him to calm me down in these matters instead of telling me to sleep... now i don't want to reply or argue with him because i don't have the energy. cause i know his reply - "sorry baby, i thought it would make you feel better" etc. etc... same bullshit.
in the family no one talks to me in a friendly manner. it's all work-related mostly, or lectures about becoming a govt officer...
yk the times when you bitch about someone to your friend and now your friend hates that person too...
same happens with me. my mom goes around telling everyone, especially my aunt... and now no one talks to me... stays rude, quiet, etc...
btw the same kind of incident once happened over me eating a mango, lol. it broke me so badly that i still get teary-eyed straight away when i think about it.
just wanted to vent out. if you read it this far, thanks, means a lot.
Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua (18f)
have no one to talk to, so sharing here. this is not as interesting as those love story posts, so people can skip if they want. plus it's long as i am emotionally venting. it's a post about my fight with my family.
background: so my mom just hates me because i have a boyfriend. i was always good in studies, yk that studious child who listens to everything parents say. like EVERYTHING. pretty much a nerd, you can say, cause no matter how much i loved various things like fashion, hobbies, etc., i couldn't do them because my parents did not approve of them. and my mom has this weird habit, like all the other Indian moms, of making faces... showing how disgusted she is by my actions. and those eye glares etc. etc.
and now when i have a boyfriend, she thinks i am the worst person ever born... in fact, she portrays the whole situation as how much i have made her miserable. she would talk to literally anyone, and there they would just talk about how bad of a daughter i am... how much i have hurt her... etc. the depth she goes to prove herself a victim is crazy... i stay quiet 99% of the time, sometimes we have clashes when i burst out because of holding everything inside.
we don't talk normally either tho. we just have normal conversations like "have dinner", "i am going out", or times when she would be telling me how much i have made her life miserable. most of the time her tone is very harsh and rude, she would taunt me over the slightest thing. i also don't talk to her nicely either way, ofc.
she says (or maybe bitches is the right word) all these things to her sister (my mosi).
now today, i am basically in my grandparents' house due to holidays.
morning incident - my cousin sister (mosi's kid) did something, over which i told my mom, "apka muh bss meri burai ke liye hi khulta h, mere sath kuch galat ho tab kuch nhi bologi aap."
night incident (main thing): everyone went out, i refused to go because i didn't want to get bored. later my friend (not a close one) came just to chill and stuff. after some time my mom came too. and she hates it when she sees me with my friends. (she is female btw). ever since childhood i couldn't have close friends just because of my mom. she would taunt me and say things like, "tum yahi dosti yaari me lagi rahogi" and "isiliye tumhare kam marks ayenge." and me being obedient, i would leave all my friends.
so when my mom came and saw my friend, she gave me a disgusted look with her eyes... as if saying, "isiliye tum bahar nhi gyi na." she didn't even smile at my friend... kept a straight face.
imagine Kokila Modi's expression from sath nibhana sathiya lol... exactly the same.
i really got hurt by that because it's an everyday thing. thus i told my mosi about being hurt and stuff... i thought maybe she'll ask my mom to behave more kindly, but she didn't.
later when everyone was having dinner, i didn't eat and said ki maine Maggie kha li thi, nani ko bata diya tha. (because i was alone since afternoon, so ofc i was hungry) and my mom rolled her eyes at that. atp i had enough, so i decided to call her out. i said ki kya bura kiya maine? it's not a bad thing, is it... ghar me aur kuch toh khane ke liye nhi tha na.
mom - toh kuch kaha kya maine
me - toh ye sare faces kyu banati ho humesha, phele bhi jab meri friend ayi thi tab bhi apne ye look diya tha. AAP AESA KAISE KAR SAKTI HO KISI KE SAMNE..(bss yahi words mosi ko bure lag gye idk, were they so extreme?)
now my mosi comes into the scene... and starts shouting at me (she doesn't shout at her own kids btw)
ki ye kaise baat kar rahi ho mummy se... maa baap ka haq hota h, wo kuch bhi kar sakte h, tum choti ho kuch nhi keh sakti etc. etc.
she said a lot of things, srsly a lot... about my career, how i'll never be successful after disrespecting my parents, etc.
and now my granddad comes and lectures me the same thing. they are shouting and yelling... i tried to make him understand but he didn't listen and cut me off and cursed me that i'll be nothing in life... i should be sent to a hostel... i should be thrown out, etc... khud kama kr la, khud reh, phir muh chalana etc...
there were a lot of hurtful things that i can't even write. but all of this coming out of someone else's mouth hurts way too much... like if i have a fight with mom and dad, tab i don't cry, but this time i literally got a way too severe panic attack... i was trying to hold my tears and not cry... because how embarrassing, i am the oldest cousin and all the cousins would see me break down...mind you my mom said nothing to my cousins in the morning right, then why would mosi lecture me ?
instead of calming down, i started shaking and hiccuping... i tried my best to control it... scratched my skin and everything, chanted "it's all okay, it's all okay"... but nothing worked. it's been many hours since that incident, and still my eyes are full of tears...
something which hurts even more is that who do i have to vent this out to? my cousins? no one came to calm me down... when i was the one who stood with them jab unko daant padi thi... i calmed my cousin sister when she was crying and took her stand... same for my brother too... same for others too...
but in my case, i was just so lonely... pulling the bedsheet to calm down... playing songs at full volume to distract my mind so that the tears would stop...
at the back of my head i got a thought to tell my dad, but then i realised it's of no use because i very well remember what he did when i mustered up the courage to tell him things in the past...
i was just venting to my bf and he told me to sleep to make me feel better. then i went and didn't reply to him... because when i needed him, he told me to sleep. in the past too i told him to calm me down in these matters instead of telling me to sleep... now i don't want to reply or argue with him because i don't have the energy. cause i know his reply - "sorry baby mujhe laga apko better feel hoga" etc. etc... same bullshit.
in the family no one talks to me in a friendly manner. it's all work-related mostly, or lectures about becoming a govt officer...
yk the times when you bitch about someone to your friend and now your friend hates that person too...
same happens with me. my mom goes around telling everyone, especially my mosi... and now no one talks to me... stays rude, quiet, etc...
btw same incident happened over me eating a mango, lol. it broke me so well that i still get tera straight a way
just wanted to vent out. if you read it this far, thanks, means a lot.
Mods i have read the wiki, i need active opinion on these by others...
stks (shortlisted)
Mittelhessen
Nordhausen,
Halle,
Hannover,
Leipzig
Bochum
Mainz,
Confused about
Darmstadt or Frankfurt(or none)
and in fh's (i want to shortlist 2 out of these whose fsp is widely accepted and has easy aufnahme too)
keil
Konstanz
wismar
coburg
anhalt
zittau
Kaiserslautern
Kothen,
i would apply for the next summer intake (t kurs).
i was just really confused; help would be appreciated... Also if the shortlisted list have a stk which doesn't fit right so just lemme know...i am open for every sort of advice. Thanks.
stks (shortlisted)
Mittelhessen
Nordhausen,
Halle,
Hannover,
Leipzig
Bochum
Mainz,
Confused about
Darmstadt or Frankfurt(or none)
and in fh's (i want to shortlist 2 out of these whose fsp is widely accepted and has easy aufnahme too)
keil
Konstanz
wismar
coburg
anhalt
zittau
Kaiserslautern
Kothen,
i would apply for the next summer intake (t kurs).
i was just really confused; help would be appreciated... Also if the shortlisted list have a stk which doesn't fit right so just lemme know...i am open for every sort of advice. Thanks.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document:
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document:
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document:
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.
posting this here, cause many people would be familiar with visa and various process.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document:
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document:
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document:
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document/ my_qualifications: (had to add this cause i couldn't post. )
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.
I seriously need advice regarding a UIDAI/Aadhaar DOB issue which is now affecting my APS and future Germany study plans.
In 2018, my parents got the DOB changed in my Aadhaar card, but my correct DOB is present in literally every other important document:
All of them match perfectly with each other except Aadhaar.
Now the issue is that the Aadhaar DOB update limit has been exhausted. For the last 2 years, I have continuously tried to correct it:
But nothing has worked till now. Everywhere I get told that the limit issue cannot be solved normally.
My main concern right now is APS for Germany because Aadhaar number is mandatory there. I am scared that this DOB mismatch between Aadhaar and my other documents may create issues during APS verification or later during visa processing.
I genuinely want to study abroad and have been working towards this for years. I am trying everything possible from my side, but this situation feels completely stuck administratively.
I want to ask:
Any serious guidance would mean a lot. plus there are almost no chances for Aadhaar updation...until i have someone really influential in my contacts.