u/PassionChoice3538

I don’t need a full time nanny as I’m a SAHM but my husband is out of town a lot or on calls into the evening so it would be nice to have an extra pair of hands in the afternoons a few times a week. My kids are almost 6 (twins) and 3.

The only thing is, our schedule isn’t consistent every week so I’m worried about hiring a babysitter for let’s say M, T, TH and then some weeks we actually don’t need help on one of those days. I could definitely still use her in some way but worried it may feel awkward for her to be around with both my husband and I also being there.

So anyway, I’m just trying to figure out what to do and wondering if anyone has found a set up that works for them.

I don’t need a full time nanny as I’m a SAHM but my husband is out of town a lot or on calls into the evening so it would be nice to have an extra pair of hands in the afternoons a few times a week. My kids are almost 6 (twins) and 3.

The only thing is, our schedule isn’t consistent every week so I’m worried about hiring a babysitter for let’s say M, T, TH and then some weeks we actually don’t need help on one of those days. I could definitely still use her in some way but worried it may feel awkward for her to be around with both my husband and I also being there.

So anyway, I’m just trying to figure out what to do and wondering if anyone has found a set up that works for them.

Hi everyone, I’m going to be reposting this thread on a weekly/biweekly basis (depending on engagement) so that everyone has a fair chance of getting responses to their questions. Again, please limit all redshirting (voluntarily keeping children back a year) posts and questions to this thread.

*PLEASE NOTE* Please only inquire about redshirting summer or cusp birthdays. The majority of us do not condone holding children back with birthdays that fall within months of the cutoff (ie March birthday with a September cutoff). In these cases, it is best to start the child on time and seek out support services through the school for any delays, and/or reassess with the teacher at the end of the year if they could benefit from retention.

I have no idea where to post this because it keeps getting removed in the Relationships sub but I could use support. My husband played professional baseball for 10 years and recently retired. Ever since then, he’s been home with our 3 kids and I (which I was initially excited for) but he’s clearly struggling with going from all the excitement that comes with being a pro athlete to now being a full time dad. He goes through the motions and helps out with the kids but he just doesn’t seem happy. Sometimes he actually seems miserable. It makes me feel super deflated because it feels like we (the kids and I) aren’t enough for him. I empathize with what he’s going through and realize it must be hard, but I don’t know how to make him believe that he does have purpose outside of baseball.

I’ve gently brought up my concerns to him and he is receptive to them and apologizes. He swears the kids and I are everything to him and he’s content with where he is in life, but his attitude and daily dull mood contradicts that. He has a few side quests going and has actually been offered work by MLB but says he doesn’t want to work full time because he needs to be here with the kids and I. I told him I’m totally cool with him working full time because it seems like he needs that, and that is okay. I think he’s just really struggling with what he feels he “should” be doing versus what would actually make him happy and it’s really taking a toll on our relationship right now. I would take living apart for months at a time while he played baseball over him being home full time but unhappy.

Hi everyone, I’m going to be reposting this thread on a weekly basis so that everyone has a fair chance of getting responses to their questions. Again, please limit all redshirting (holding children back) posts and questions to this thread.

*PLEASE NOTE* Please only inquire about redshirting summer or cusp birthdays. The majority of us do not condone holding children back with birthdays that fall within months of the cutoff (ie March birthday with a September cutoff). In these cases, it is best to start the child on time and seek out support services through the school for any delays, and/or reassess with the teacher at the end of the year if they could benefit from retention.

Hi everyone, I’m going to be reposting this thread on a weekly basis so that everyone has a fair chance of getting responses to their questions. Again, please limit all redshirting (holding children back) posts and questions to this thread.

*PLEASE NOTE* Please only inquire about redshirting summer or cusp birthdays. The majority of us do not condone holding children back with birthdays that fall within months of the cutoff (ie March birthday with a September cutoff). In these cases, it is best to start the child on time and seek out support services through the school for any delays, and/or reassess with the teacher at the end of the year if they could benefit from retention.

My husband and I married pretty young (for where we live. We live in the LA area and most people here don’t even think about settling down until 35ish). We are now 35 and 36 respectively and have 3 little kids (6, 6, almost 3) and have been married for 8 years. Because we started earlier than most, we are still friends with a lot of couples from college who are either still childless or just beginning to think about kids. Whenever we hang out with them, my husband code switches into almost cosplaying a college student. Don’t get me wrong, I like to drink and have fun, but I feel like my kids and getting up in the morning to take care of them is always in the back of my mind. On the other hand, he is being so loud and drinking with “his boys,” wrestling with them, and then if I tell him he needs to have some water and start wrapping it up he’s like “you’re ruining the vibe babe.” Like dude, you’re our twins’ little league coach. You have to wrangle a bunch of kindergarteners in the morning. I don’t want to kill the vibe but we’re parents 😭