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Just here to really vent. I think I really hate my husband, I feel like he’s putting his job before me and our daughter. He worked under the table the whole baby bonding, it felt like I was doing everything basically alone. He took over the house work, kinda he never touched the bathroom so I’ll still do that.
I know he’s working like that to make me a say at home next year (I’m on leave right now but I still bring income), but he’ll he here on zoom calls when the baby was sleeping and waking her up or be on a phone call until 8pm and half time it was just gossip. Before the baby he would go in and come home and wouldn’t really pick up the phone. I’ll be dealing with a screaming baby as he over on the phone laughing with his coworker and he’ll just tell me it’s work stuff.
Our baby has been really gassy lately so she been waking up all night. So I’m constantly getting up and getting her and in the middle of that I’m pumping.
She will be crying and he will be sleep through it. He’s clams he doesn’t hear her and on the weekday I don’t want him getting up cuz he works so take her out the room and deal with her in the living room. Since I move to the living room me and my daughter have been knocking out in there just in case she wake up she won’t wake him. Since we been sleeping in the living room he won’t do the bottles for me cuz he doesn’t wake us up. So when she wakes up I have no clean bottles and I’m like rushing to clean one while she crying from hunger. I know I can’t count on him so I clean the bottles right after.
He going to quit this job he’s at after he finally gets paid for the under table work he did( been a month still hasn’t got paid for it.) I asked him when he get paid and puts his 2 weeks in can he no go in the last week and spend the time with us and he said no.
He got me tickets see this DJ next week and I’m iffy If I wanna leave my baby already as well.
He gets weekends off and I still do all the night waking and everything else even when he is off. He will play his game if he see I’m feeding her or she taking a nap.
Last weekend I asked him to wake her all day Saturday cuz I really wanna clean the house. That was the time I wanted to have to my self was just cleaning the house. He said ok, after he gets his oil change. That fine. But oil changed turned into going to the store, getting weed. Then it turned into going to the job he’s going to leave his other job for( not paid) to talk about idk and idc. He left at 10am got home at 5pm, and asked if I still wanted to clean the house after I was dealing with the baby all day.
I have such bad dog mom guilt too, I used to walk my dog everyday and now he does it and he will only take her too pee and poo no walk and I’ve asked him before can you please walk her. He will just take her to the little dog park we have here. So ill tell him ill take her out and he will be like ill take her and give me the baby. Like i love walking and being outside and i barely get to do that now.
Today is my birthday also our daughter 3 month I was hoping maybe he would take the day off and give me a break, but nope. He hasn’t even told me happy birthday. I feel like he forgot.
I’m just overwhelmed, and I feel alone. I cried with my baby for the first time yesterday cuz I just felt so alone. I love my baby so much but I can’t wait until she gets out this stage. I’ve been stuck in the house for 4 months and I’m feeling it.

Ps the doctor told us not to let he outside outside until next check up and that was last week.
We go the ok but it’s been so hot and I have anxiety now about take her outside.
I will take her out soon!

Anyways thanks for reading.

My baby was born may 18 and my birthday is august 18 which is coming up. I wanna do something for my birthday and celebrate her 3 month too.
I was thinking of the aquarium but it’s like an hour away from me and it’s been really hot.
Anyone have any suggestions what we should do? 😊

Also this will be the first time taking her anywhere besides the house and parents house so I’m really nervous.

My 2 month old is eating a lot
Idk if this is a growth spurt or what but she taking down 8 oz
I’ll give her 5 oz and she will cry for more. I get her to stop with the passy but she spits it out, she shows hunger cues so I wait an hour and give her 1 or 2 more depending on when she stops and she passes out. She dose pass out for at least 6 or 7 hours in between each feeding
I burp her after every oz cuz she a gassy baby. And I’m sure feeding like this is making it worse. Idk what to do. I try rocking her and she just fussy until she get her bottle.
The bottle is of my breastmilk idk if that makes a difference or not.
She shits and pees just fine.
I just don’t know what to do. I read it can really mess with their tummy’s if she keeps eating like this.
I have a doctors appointment tomorrow but wanted to see if anyone else baby did the same.

Sorry I know I said 8 it’s only 7 oz but still

So I f up! I called the hospital yesterday to make an appointment for my daughter and they told me she didn’t have insurance. I was confused cuz she should be under me but I guess she only covered for 30 days under me then I have to call and add her my self?
I go on to my insurance app and I completely forgot to pay for June. My job just stop paying in may the same month my daughter was born . Im not used to paying my own insurance I’m used to it just coming out my check. I know it no excuse but now im stressing out.
The insurance said they will put in a letters to see if I can just pay the last month to restart it.
I feel so horrible as a mom.
Has this happened to anyone else?
How did you handle it?

So this is both our first baby, she 8 weeks old and I feel like my husband puts his job over us sometimes.
Before we had her,his job offered to set him up at home and work while he’s on maternity leave
I agreed so he can still bring extra income while helping me at home.
Lately I feel like he puts his job over helping me. I can see he’s stress cuz they have him doing so much, he started going in twice a week ,he picks up the house work and takes the dog out(I used to do it). So since he does all that I do everything with the baby, I don’t mind but I do. After the dishes are done and he finally logs off work he gets time to chill.
I don’t really have time to my self anymore I’m so exhausted. Our sleep shift is his 9pm-3am mine is 3-6 since I have to pump but I usually just end up dealing with the baby while he gets on the computer and starts doing emails or taking phone calls all day. When he’s working from home it’s like he’s not here. The baby be yelling as I’m making her bottle and he will sit there and keep doing emails.
I’ll ask him to do me a favor and he will take so long that I’ll end up doing it myself with the baby.
Today made me feel really alone. I was really tired today she has been clustered feeding and just wants to be held. So today he went into work so it was an extra long day, he brought us food home I let him eat first since I don’t mind cold food, after he was done eating he started doing emails and since I have the baby I needed him to take the dog out to poo but he got n a phone call, and I haven’t ate all day. It took him an extra hour and half after he was done to take the baby and let me eat.
So around 7 I told him I really wanna take a nap before my shift,baby end up waking up literally right when I said that and I got her and put her on me and we both slept. I woke up and hour later with the baby on me dark in the house (tv on) and he went to bed. It made me feel so sad. Like we just got left.
I know he’s stressed and tired too. I know he’s doing all this at work for a better future for us, especially since I’ll be stay home soon.
I’m sure I’m being dramatic i just feel like I’m being so ungrateful for feeling this way, but I’m exhausted too.
I think it’s ppd. I don’t like talking to him cuz sometimes he takes it offensively and start slamming doors or yelling and be around the baby so I keep things to myself.
Im a pretty mean person so maybe it’s the way I come off. Idk.
Also I’m still fully employed I bring income I’m just on leave.
Anyways thanks for reading 🫶🏽

Hi! FTM here!
I decided to only pump kinda recently, but I lag on pumping I don’t over produce and I don’t under produce I’m usually have a enough for a day in advance but I’ve been lagging A lot. I’m just tired or my baby wants to be held or I’m feeding her. So sometimes I pump every 3 hours sometimes every 4 or 6, 6 not very often but I happens.
My boobs do get an engorged. If I lag to long I just breastfeed her.
I was wondering if I keep lagging will my supply decrease cuz of of me lagging? Or it should be ok?
I’m only 2 months in.

So I just had my baby girl 7 weeks ago, she is our first baby.everyone wants to come see her I get it! A new baby. When I was pregnant me and my husband both didn’t want anyone coming over until she hit 3 months, but after my mom was bugging to see her and so was his family so i decided to let the few people see her. The people I was ok with seeing her was my mom, my brother, his mom ,dad and sister.
Me and my husband are both not family oriented so we didn’t really want anyone over.
She was 4 weeks old when I let my mom and brother come and see her. They live about 2 hours away so I let them chill for a bit and it’s my family so I was really comfortable and my husband got to play some games.
The next day we let his family came.
It was his mom, dad,sister and her 2 really young kids. The kids came screaming in, no one washed their hands I had to ask them too. The mom kissed my baby and that bugged me. His sister let her daughter hold my baby without asking.
It was sister oldest daughter birthday a few days before so we got her a gift, we didn’t mind her opening it but then she started playing with it and running around being loud with her sister.
His sister and mom were talking to me nonstop giving me advice I didn’t ask for, there nice people but it just felt like so much when they came.
So fast forward to now. His mom and sister have been bugging to see her again. His mom sends messages that come off funny but kinda rude maybe it just me, she sent to me and my husband “ is it a good day to see her today, we will come for a short visit! Holding her from us could be considered elder abuse 😂”
I know it’s a joke but i feel like she trying to make us feel bad. Then last week i sent pics to his sister and his mom in the group chat they wanted to come see her I told them let me check with my husband on the days cuz he work from home and goes into the office twice a week.
They replied with oh he doesn’t have to be there we just wanna see you and the baby. I told them when he’s not home I do take care of her both shift so I’m tired I sleep with her. They told me they can watch her while I sleep but his sister will bring the kids and they talk a lot I would get no rest. So told them let’s reschedule. To this week, it’s his mom’s birthday today so wanted to see for her birthday.
So this week my aunt came over on Monday and it just messed up our whole schedule, she wanted to feed her so I let her and she gave my baby so much air while feeding her. My baby has a latching problem. Yes I know that my fault. I did stop her after I noticed, It was all bad.
Yesterday I decided I can’t have people over we are tired, having people over is just too much. We are new parents.
I told my mom and she totally understand and just told me to keep sending pictures that’s fine.
My husband call his mom for her birthday and told her what happened and how we are feeling. He said she understands.
I texted her happy birthday and her response was “hey I know you scheduled was messed up this week let us know if we can come next week and we promise we won’t feed her and we will leave at nap time. You know we really really really miss her.”

Idk I’m so annoyed, I feel like she tries to guilt trip us, they keep pushing I’ll really not let them see her.
My husband doesn’t even really like them. If it was for me they wouldn’t even be talking so I feel like they can back off. I’ve told them before I’m not close to my family, and I keep to myself.
Idk
Thanks for reading my rant 🙏🏽😌

Idk what to do. My baby looks like she in pain. She 6 weeks going on 7. She been eating so much lately like 6 ounces every 2/3 hours. People are telling me she going through a growth spurt buts it been happening for 2 weeks now.
Shes been really hard to put to sleep now, I can tell she wants to sleep but is fighting it.
She up for hours sometimes eating. She been having gas but since this is my first baby idk if it’s normal amount of gas or a lot. I do bicycle legs and I also you the medicine. Sometimes I can get her to let me so bicycle but other times she to fussy. Also burp her halfway through the bottle.
When I lay her down in her crib she starts squirming, knees to stomach with some crying. She is sleeping as she does it so I try to leave her but I feel so bad.
So I pick her up and put her facing me on my knees and that seems to help for a bit then then I lay her tummy to my tummy and helps for a bit then she arches her back but for a second then continue sleeping. If I do that she gets some hours of sleep.
If I have her in the crib it’s like 30 mins.
Am I messing with her learning how to poo by her self by messing with her?
She does pee a lot and poo is consistent but I feel like she hasn’t had a nice big one in a day or two. Idk if she’s need a big one but usually I hear one by now.

She used to be breastfeeding but her latch has been bad lately so she is bottle feed of breast milk.

When I first started breastfeeding my baby latched right away no problem. Then a few weeks ago she started making this clicking noise so I know she losing suction, I tried watching videos on how to fix it, I went to the Loctician and didn’t really help. so I decided to move to pumping more cuz it was stressing me out, she’s a gassy baby so I didn’t want add to her gas,but then she started doing it to the bottle too!
What am I doing wrong? 😭

My baby girl is 4 weeks old, and she has diaper rash. I’m sure it’s cuz we over wipe.
we use sensitive wipes and we use cream but she shits so much, we keep cleaning her. She doesn’t always cry only when she wakes up hungry or cold but if she cry she keeps sharting so I have to keep wiping her. I try to let her air out when she not crying(70% of the time)
When she isn’t crying she doesn’t cry or move or anything as we I wipe her.
We have her a bath and she was fine in the water but after she’s crying, so she keep charting.
Idk what to do! I need some help. I don’t want her sitting in shit. I feel bad. she my first baby and I don’t wanna fuck her up.

So any advice would be appreciated 🙏🏽

Hi! FTM
My baby girl is 4 weeks old, and I think she has bad gas idk! When she is laying down in her crib she squirms like knees to chest and makes like a pushing sound. We burp her middle and after feeding, she breast and bottle fed she’s been having a little problem latching to me lately idk why. I see someone on Wednesday.
We give her gas stuff and we do the tummy stuff for gas. Her stomach isn’t hard it still pretty squishy. But she sounds like she in pain. She doesn’t cry but she like sounds like she might start then sleeps again.
We been picking her up and trying to burp her more or doing more things to get gas out. Sometimes we can get a little more out but she still does it and I start to feel bad cuz we keep waking her up to do these things.
So should we leave her sleep even with the noises?
Is it normal?
I feel bad😕

If I breastfeed my newborn for about an hour, she spit up a lot. She ate a little more then went to sleep.
Then she woke up about 20 mins later I feed her half oz of bottle breast milk. She showed some hunger cues, but she slowly started going back to sleep, now she out.
Should I have kept feeding her?

3 weeks old.

1st time mom here!
I have a 3 week old baby girl, and she looks like she in pain when she sleeping. I’m guessing it gas, we do the bicycle and burp her. Her stomach isn’t hard but it’s not super squishy ether.
We got the gas drops but it seems like she still in pain.

I know some of the noise and movements are normal.
But she like puts her knees to her chest like a ball and makes like a grunting noise. Like she’s pushing and nothing coming out then goes back to sleep.
She shits and pee fine. She eats fine.
What I doing wrong? I feel so bad hearing her.

She was breastfeed until this week now I only pump cuz she would take an hour to an hour and half to breastfeed and I would fall asleep.
Idk makes a difference. I feel like she’s gotten a little worse. But I’m stressing.
Please help.

I wouldn’t say I hate but I do.
I just had our first baby girl this week.
And I was already kinda scared to have a child with him not cuz I think he would be a bad dad but cuz of how he doesn’t listen to instructions all time and how he would treat me after.
He’s a good husband but he sucks at the same time.
After being in labor for 14 hours and all the doctors came in to talk to me about things I thought he would have listened to the doctors for me knowing I just gave birth. But he didn’t. I ripped so I had to get stitches and he didn’t really help me move around. When the baby would cry i would get out
The hospital bed to get her. He would be sleep. And I would get none.
Now we are home and it not any better. He would
Get frustrated with thing like the car seat, or how to swaddle her but it was Like unnecessary frustrated.
I havent slept a no more then 3 hours every day. But when he sleeps he gets 6 hours. And still complains he tried. He alway tells me to wake him up when i want help🙄i usually don’t sleep until 12am. And wake up every 2 hours to feed the baby. I woke up at 6:30am to feed the baby and to take over the morning shift. He wakes up at 1:30pm and ask if he can sleep for another hour.
I haven’t ate all day at this point I’ve been feed her ever 2 hours changing diapers. But he needs extra sleep.
I told him idk if I can take care of our dog and the baby when he goes back to work in a month cuz he wants space out his leave and his
Response was you can do the stroller. He said he was joking. we do joke alot but the way i feel like hes been treating me it didn’t feel like a joke.
And don’t get me wrong if im like can you do this or that he will do it. He doesn’t just sit on his ass at all.
He just sucks as a pp partner. He doesn’t pay attention to my needs I have to pretty much ask. He keeps telling me to just talk to him but It might sound stupid but i dont wanna tell him and then he starts doing things. Like why cant he just see it!
Also I hate the way he talks to me like, he ask me
Why am being over dramatic about things or he doesn’t know why I’m playing games with him. I just hate seeing his face. He alway tells me
He loves me but I don’t feel the love. I feel loneliness.
I’m sure a lot of women feel this way but it sucks and I just needed some where to rant.

Does everyone collect the liquid gold before having the baby?
I’m Having trouble doing it, and I also feel really uncomfortable doing it.
Idk if im doing it wrong but it kinda starts to hurt and I’ll get a drip or clear stuff.
Is this normal? Anyone have a good technique?
Is it even necessary?
Im due in 4 days 😭

When I was 4 months pregnant my in laws kept asking us if we had any names we liked and we didn’t. So for like 2/3hours they started reading names and being like “oh I like that”. I didn’t really want help looking for names so it felt kinda uncomfortable, and me and my husband both agreed we didn’t want anyone coming up With the name cuz they will brag about it and it’s just annoying. We both had 1 name each we both liked so we told people and they thought both were cute but more mine and in laws liked mine better. But they keep bugging about if we had a name. I told my in laws multiple times I wanna hold her and see her face before pick a name.
Fast forward I’m due in 5 days and me and my husband agreed on 3 names. As we were looking We found some names we found pretty funny so we told eachother if anyone ask we will tell them We are naming her that, since people wanna bug so much and put there 2 cent in.
So my husband sister text me yesterday asking how I’m feeling and asked if we had any names.
I told her the joke name and she was like “ oh what happened to the other name” I explained to her we chose a different name cuz it was unique.
And she tells me “ oh it’s your kid,name her what you want but kids might make fun of her”and “she doesn’t see her name being anything but the name I originally gave her” and I didn’t text back
Then today his mom texts us if we had any names.
I told his mom the name and she was like”oh what?”
“ we like the name you gave us before”
Again I explained I liked it and she put the crying emoji “🥲”

It started off like a joke but then it really started to annoy me. Cuz what if I really wanted to name her that. Like who are you? I know I’m being dramatic but i feel like my in laws are so annoying.

They are good people but my husband isn’t close to his family, and I feel like they think us having a kid will bring us all together but I don’t think they understand I’m not close to my family either and we both are independent people.
I think his mom wants to be in the delivery room and I’ve told her no one will be there not even my mom only my husband and told me she can see my husband calling her asking her for help. But he literally ignores her calls and text all the time that why she puts us in group chat cuz she knows I’ll tell him something or I’ll reply.

Idk maybe I will change after she is born but I don’t see it.
Don’t get me wrong I am not keeping my baby from anyone on both ends. I want my child to be loved, But I’m also not going to be up there all the time like they
Think.
I’m sure I’m the problem cuz my family isn’t super lovely, they ask how I’m doing if I need anything and that’s it. And I just not used to having people always all up on me like my in laws are. They always kinda been like this but it’s worse now I’m pregnant.

If you made it this far Thanks for reading all of this lol.

I’m due in 9 days and I am freaking out.
Don’t judge me but I keep getting a pit I’m stomach if I made a mistake or not. Me and my husband was 50/50 on having kids. We took a plan B and it didn’t work and we both decided to keep her.
In the beginning I was having this same feeling then it went to excitement imma have a mini me.
Now I’m closer I’m back to this feeling. I feel like shit that I feel like this. I don’t wanna tell my husband how I truly feel idk why I don’t but I don’t.
I feel like everyone is more excited than I am.
I just know our whole life is going to change and I guess idk if we wanted it to or not.
When I ask my husband if he wanted kids in the pass he would tell me it’s up to me it’s my body but he feels like it might regret not having kids, and I kinda felt the same. We do have an age gap and this is also why I decided it was the right time. He’s 41 and I’m 28.
My pregnancy has been really easy no mornings sickness no pains it’s been a smooth ride. So I feel like it’s destiny in a way. So why do I feel like this?
Is this first time mom feeling?
Will it be better when I actually get to hold my daughter in my hands?
I had a rough childhood idk that’s playing a part in how I feel.
Idk. I’m just feeling down.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated 🙏🏽

Is there a difference in breastfeeding and bottle? Ether way it will be my milk but I’m not sure if i wanna breastfeeding. I was so down to breastfeed but i have only heard horror stories lol. So now im rethinking of just doing bottles.

If anyone has experience with both would really help me understand.

Thank you!😊

This is my first baby I’m due in 2 weeks

I would like to really thank everyone for their personal experiences! 🫶🏽❤️