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ESFJ here! Hello my fellow ESTJs! I was wondering about it when I was chatting with my INTJ friend, he said he's often worried about future things, about worst-case-scenarios, thinking about everything he still needs to do, he doesn't understand when I say I get lost too many times thinking about the most random things about my past.

It's not like I don't worry about now and the future of my projects, obviously! But it's strange to see someone not thinking about past moments so often. During my days, my thoughts go like "I'm watering this flower, I love it's color, it reminds me of my old scarf's color... I used it on my first date with that person, I lost it because of the wind... I've lost one of my rings one day too, ah, I loved that one..."

It happens a lot to me, when I'm alone, I start to rumble about some things that happened to me, so many random memories, sometimes I need to say to myself "this is so weird... I'm here now, it was years ago, I'm doing a totally different thing right now, let's get back to what I was doing." I'm kind of curious, does my ESTJ mates with aux Si, just like ESFJs, get lost in thoughts sometimes? How does it happen to you?

I've been looking for a specific type of horror movie, it's the one I like the most, horror movies that are "disturbing by being quiet", with empty scenarios, cozy and really well "organized", it's the kind of movie that leaves you disturbed and tense by how """clean and cozy""" it looks.

So far, the best ones I've seen that sums up what I'm trying to say are:

The Bird With The Crystal Plumadge (1970

Halloween (1978)

When A Stranger Calls (2006)

The Thing (1982)

I hope you got the idea of what I'm looking for 😭 any recommendations?

Oioi, eu sou a Ana, tenho 18 anos (mês que vem farei 19), sou bissexual E assexual, do interior de SP e estudo pedagogia!

Sou extrovertida, tagarela e gosto de ser bem genérica, SOU como as outras garotas e amo isso! Meu mbti é ESFJ, meu signo libra, temperamento saguínea-melancólica e arcano pessoal O Pendurado (deixando só pro caso de alguém aqui entender dessas coisas e quiser saber).

Sou fã n°1 de: Urusei Yatsura, Lovely Complex, Taylor Swift, ABBA, Agatha Christie, Turma da Mônica e Junji Ito.

Gosto muito de sair, amo socializar, gosto de colecionar quadrinhos da Turma da Mônica (TDM e TMJ), estou sempre em rolês que vão desde churrasco com sertanejo universitário até rolê emo com nu metal e mosh pit (é difícil gostar de MCR e Luan Santana em pindamonhongada😢).

Sou uma pessoa meio cronicamente online, então gosto de muita coisa ao mesmo tempo:

Pop, rock, nu metal, vocaloid, musicais (eu AMO, viva EPIC e Hades Town!!!), animes como JoJo, Mob Psycho 100, Saiki K, Urusei Yatsura, Lovely Complex, Sakura Cardcaptor, filmes de terror, livros de romance, terror e mistério, Agatha Christie e Edgar Allan Poe são meus escritores favoritos, amo Scott Pilgrim, Nana, Turma da Mônica, Junji Ito, maquiagem, mundo pop (amo fofocas do mundo pop, vejo sempre!), yandere simulator‼️, Gorillaz, ABBA, Taylor Swift, MCR, Evanescence, homem-aranha, He-man, leituras de tarô, MBTI, mangás/manhwas BL/GL (ou romance num geral), eventos de cosplay, bibliotecas e baladas com som alto e bebida, fofocas fúteis e etc.

Bebo socialmente (1/2 vezes por mês quase me desvivo), gosto muito de uma boa fofoca (por favor me contem fofocas), saio pra absolutamente qualquer lugar, quieto ou barulhento, gosto de descobrir coisas novas apesar de ter medo de mudanças, sou curiosa, minha linguagem do amor é atos de serviço e palavras de afirmação, amo meus amigos e faço de tudo por eles! Sou sensível e emocional, muito animada e otimista e sempre adoto introvertidos.

ENFIM, deu pra ver que eu amo falar mais que tudo 😭😭 me mandem mensagem caso tenham interesse!! Adoraria ter amigas e amigos novos! Beijo pra vcs bbs

Hi, I'm a young ESFJ, and I wasn't so sure if I was going to post something about it, but I had a decision today and I'm feeling unwell.

Recently, I lost 5 of my friendships, due to some of them being emotionally absent everytime but always needing too much attention from me, one of them being my INFP best friend with 6 years of friendship, she treated me like I didn't matter so many times, over and over again, and now we don't speak, I didn't have the guts to say that she was poisoning me for the past 2 years, so she just left.

One of them got mad at me for an unnecessary joke that I made while I was drunk, and that affected our whole friend group (I have some friend groups, that was one of them), everyone just picked up sides and got separated, this time I tried to talk, he didn't want to listen to me so he also just left (I know that it's fair, he's not obliged to do anything, and it was my fault).

I also transferred universities, I was a friend to my whole class, with only 20 people, and now I'm in a bigger class with 50 people, and everyone has their own closed group, but I'm a pedagogy student, so most of our projects envolves group work, everytime feels like I'm humiliating myself, I can't keep up with their conversations, we're too different, they ignore me and it feels like a torture thinking about the next week.

Today, I choosed to end my favourite time of the year: my birthday. I love my birthday, I love it because I can gather all of my friends and they'll make effort to see me, to talk to each other and get along well. I took that decision after my friends canceled their plans with me without any consideration today, "meh, I can't make it, have fun", I slept the whole day. I know it's a impulsive reaction, but I'm feeling so unwell, I'm disconnected from what I love, my social life, my friends, I can't deal with people around me.

Recently, I've been having too many nightmares, everyday, literally everyday I'm dreaming that someone's chasing me and trying to kill or hurt me, sometimes they're my friends, and sometimes random people, I'm afraid that I'm dreaming those things because I'm constantly sad and crying, and I don't talk about it to anyone, I try to keep up with my friends energy, because I feel that's what will keep me sane, but it's so hard being oversensitive about the way people are treating me, because they're mostly in my head, like my friends ignoring some of my messages bc they're busy, how they cancel plans sometimes (isn't even their fault), how they're always needing something from me while I'm suffering inside, thinking that people hate me even though is just me being oversensitive, and that's why I can't talk about it, it's uncomfortable and they won't understand, I get oversensitive about stupid things.

Did that phase ever happened to you? How can I keep up with so many responsabilities if I can't even talk with people and I need to? I'm so distant from my social life and it's affecting everything, and it hurts, because I like to study, I have exams at the end of the month and I'm crying right now. Is it just me? I'm being oversensitive because I'm stupid? Is it really that easy to deal with those problems and I'm crying for nothing?