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Edit: I am looking for tips for MYSELF so I do not become like my parents. They are in their 60s and I am not the boss of their lives and they do not care about my input in their optical health. Thank you!

The post VVV

I'll just admit that my dad has never had an eye for detail. He doesn't like to use the vent hood because he can't watch the TV while he uses it, and as a result, the ceiling, the walls, the countertops, the cabinets are all sticky.

He used to wipe down these surfaces, but not anymore. After having a frank conversation with him it's because he truly couldn't see it anymore.

But as my mom and dad have been getting older and their sight has been failing, I've been noticing increasing cobwebs on the ceiling. I've been noticing far more grime around the baseboards. I pointed out and they have to squint really close and then they get shocked and embarrassed.

I always help them when I come over, obviously. Unfortunately though my dad is the kind of person who gets embarrassed and slightly offended when people try to help him do stuff. He's a stay at home husband.

I'm not gonna lie and pretend that they've always had good habits, but it really makes me concerned as time goes on, and I am getting older, that I won't be able to keep up with dirt I can't see.

I maintain my health, and maintaining my mobility as I age is my number one priority. But do any older folks have tips for keeping their living space actually livable so guests aren't gagging?

I feel like I can't talk about this with my friends because their babies are so, so, so unpredictable with sleep. But I'm so happy that my daughter is a good sleeper.

Ever since she was a little baby, she'd start getting tired and a little fussy, and I would take her to her crib and sing her a little song. Then we'd ask Mary to pray for us and kiss her little Mary statue together. I would go, "Mwah!" for her.

And then she would just sit there and look at the ceiling and be fine. In my head, I imagine her saying, "Damn, bitch, you're right. I was tired."

Now that she's older I can talk to her a little bit. She's 19 months old, I'll say, "Hey, would you like a nap?" And she'll look at me, and she'll nod her head and go, "Yeah!" We get her water bottle, and I'll lay her down, and we kiss Mary, and she goes, "Mwah," on the Mary statue, and she just naps.

I just wanted to say she's the best baby ever. I did absolutely nothing to deserve this.

If your baby's not good at sleeping, you're not doing anything wrong. I have not done anything to enforce good napping behavior. She has a really irregular schedule, and she kind of just naps on demand. She just likes to sleep, like I do.

"Think of all the money you could save if you cooked dinner at home!"

Wooow you're right! I would save $75 a week! That's $3900 a YEAR!

Goodness gracious! If I had an extra $3900 in my budget I'd be able to do so many things!

With an extra $3900 I would even be able to afford to go to a nice restaurant twice a week 🤪

An older co-worker who observed my husband and I are always dining out and gave me a weird mini parental lecture about saving vs spending in your early 20s .... Ma'am, I'm a homeowner with a fat 401k and a fatter kid. And I'm 29. We are doing fine.

My parents have been with Allstate for about 30 years and I've had some success in Georgia re-quoting some clients with the new product to get them some slightly different coverages and sometimes a better price.

Is California also has the new product available I'll let my parents know that they should probably take another look at their policy and request a requote.

It's almost impossible to buy a cute looking set of baby clothes without a couple of items in the set having the most inane bullshit written on them.

I want vegetables on onesies. I don't want my baby wearing some dumbass thing that says, "Give Peas a Chance."

"BuT iTs A pUn. There's pictures of peas on it!"

That's not a pun. That's not even wordplay. That is a homophone.

A pun connects two ideas with a punchline. "What did the hippie vegetable monger tell the picky child? Give peas a chance." THAT IS A PUN

Or, "Last name Hungry, first name Always."

It is insulting to the dignity of your child to dress them in this absolute garbage. My baby wouldn't say any of this bullshit!

"I'm in my baby era."

MY BROTHER IN CHRIST WHY

"I got it from my mom ;)" EEEEWWWWWWWW

The real reason I hate it so much, though, is that it's so attention grabbing. You have no choice NOT to read it every time it's in your field of vision!

And I get it, that is why it sells. People notice it, they read it, they shell out the cash.

"Hello"

If a picture is worth a thousand words this shirt is worth exactly one.

It's just so obnoxious having to read something every single time I look at a kid.

Edit: what the fuck mods it's a graveyard out here. calm down with your rules.

I knew that something was causing her reactions, but I just wasn't certain if it was really milk or if I was making it up or imagining things, because sometimes her reactions seemed so random that the only possible explanation would be cross-contamination. Everyone I know has had a kid who was allergic to milk and grew out of it, and they were fine. So everyone kept telling me to stay calm, but every time she had a reaction, it would get worse and worse, and it was quite frightening.

So here I am, and the results are clear from the pinprick test on her back that she is definitely allergic to milk. It's a relief to know for sure, but now it's real, and I'm going to have to start mentally committing to this long term. I've already been careful about cross-contamination and keeping dairy separate in our house, but now it feels real to me.

I am glad my husband is the one with her at the allergist. He's always taken her allergies seriously, but we're about to go to a wedding with all of his family present and I think that this will help arm him against people trying to feed her nonsense.

I'm embarrassed It got so bad to begin with.

2 years ago I, 28F, relapsed and lost my job because of it. I tried to hide my poor performance by covering my part of the household bills with my credit card.

I simply wasn't earning enough commission to pay my half. My husband never knew.

He did know when I lost my job that our shit was fucked financially. The shame that I felt every time I had to request money from him to cover my grocery store runs was horrible. I started telling him that groceries cost less than they actually did, and put the rest on credit.

Strict meal planning, super tight budgets. I haven't purchased anything for myself like clothes or makeup in over 2 years, but my balance got to $4,600 anyhow.

I used to lay awake at night figuring out how on Earth I can land a job to pay this off. I felt like a total leech on my husband and a horrible person.

Then I had a baby. UberEats and GrubHub with her in the back. Nursing every 3 hours. I got clean for her and have been for 16 months.

But now I was just getting by covering my portion of the bills. Making minimum payments doesn't pay down debt like this.

The only answer was to EARN MORE MONEY and tighten up even more.

I Landed a new sales job last year. Salary plus commission. I've earned a sizeable commission these last 3 months plus. That and slowly chipping away at my debt for months got me here.

My main card has a BIG FAT ZERO as of today. My second card will be paid next paycheck.

What I'm going to do next?

I'm going to get a new debit card with a different financial institution that doesn't automatically cash advance from a credit card. If my account's at zero then I want that transaction to be declined.

I'm going to up my share of the mortgage payment so my husband has more breathing room.

I'm going to get my car detailed.

I'm going to pay to attend an online addiction support group

I'm going to contribute 1/3 of my discretionary funds to my daughter's college fund, 1/3 to my saving, and 1/3 to treating myself and my husband on weekends.

I have a one and a half year old whose favorite toy is Tupperware.

My friend LOVES Amazon and Costco. As I am scrolling Amazon she literally has everything!

Birthday girl loves to read with her mama. She loves grooming routines and feeling pretty which is so funny compared to my dirt earing gremlin.

I'm kinda a minimalist Buying things stresses me out. My parents were quasi Hoarders, so even when I shop for other people my mind is buzzing with, "eugh who wants that just sitting in their house?" So I prefer giving a gift that will be long lived in its playability or is very useful.

Also, we are Catholic so any creative faith based gift ideas are welcome.

I know I can't be the only one going through this.

They feel like milk tools and the thought of having them touched in a sexual context makes my clit recoil in revulsion.

My baby is now weaned but even now I cringe whenever my husband touches them in a sexual context. Goofy honks ✅ Sexy caresses ⛔

I miss enjoying my boobs!

I'm pregnant again and worry I'll never feel connected to my womanhood like that again.