u/Pristine-Branch3309

i’m posting here as a nanny!

Recently had an odd interaction. I’ve been with baby girl since almost her birth, she’s turning a year. Of course I care about and love her! However, I don’t do much in terms of affection like kissing her. I work with other young children and it’s purely just a germ thing for me, I don’t want to put my mouth all over her face when I know multiple kids can spread things. Spoke to a friend who employs a nanny and they told me they would think it was a red flag I was as close to her and her family and acted distant w affection (such as kisses) like that. I never thought about that. We’re close physically all the time, even contact napping sometimes, but am I overthinking it? As I said, I love my nanny kid, but I also don’t show affection as if I were her parent or something. Feedback helps as I’m looking for a second job and I really don’t know how employers feel about this, i’ve seen both sides

(I’m like an episode behind)
Why is EVERYONE on Rebecca’s side?? Is this normal?? Are all these people in their 30s/40s/50s just going through their partners’ phones on the regular?? And being so aggressive about it?? I’m in my 20s and would think it would be more common among younger people and less so w older people who didn’t grow up with smartphones, but Rebecca is FIXATED on that phone. And keep in mind, this whole conversation happened AFTER he already handed his phone over to her and she put on her little reading glasses and settled in to read every word on that thing. I can’t believe I’m mostly agreeing with SARPER throughout this whole season, but he’s right!! It’s not about the damn phone, it’s that she’s making it clear how much she doesn’t trust him by obsessing over the thing. Zied was never “hiding” his phone like they kept saying. She literally looked through it the night before, why are they all screaming at him to give it to her now?? When will he be vindicated about the damn phone?? Will he only be allowed to use it when Rebecca is directly over his shoulder watching?? The answer is never bc it’s not about the phone. I literally could not comprehend the conversation I was watching was happening between grown ass married adults, I think even middle schoolers playing with their very first phones would’ve had a little bit more tact

i was let go when baby went to preschool. i asked to use them as a reference, they said sure. now at my new job im just finding out what they said about me and it is insane. they make me sound like i hung the moon. i’m so beyond grateful bc this incredibly helps my next job, but id like to show appreciation. any tips?

Sorry if this is dumb. I’m a nanny asking nanny employers what they think about this.

I was scheduled to come in, but got a last minute family emergency. A very young family member of mine struggles, and was having a severe crisis and her mom called me. Unfortunately, this was about 30 minutes before my shift.

I didn’t want to disclose my family members problem, and I was a bit overwhelmed and frantic and probably sounded it, but I called them first thing and asked them if they would be alright without me and a personal thing came up. They didn’t sound happy, of course. I love this job and this is the first time something like this has happened. But leaving them hanging 30 minutes before is so not cool. As an employer, how would you proceed? we have a great relationship outside of this. I’m coming back in tomorrow as scheduled, but I’m nervous and really hope I didn’t damage our relationship too much.

I’m with baby ~45-50 hrs during week. Baby is SUPER SUPER CLOSE mechanically to crawling!! This may or may not happen, but given what it is i’m asking in advance. I am this family’s first nanny for their first baby. IF baby’s first crawl happens with me, would you tell them? Or would you pretend it didn’t and just let baby crawl again with parents? like maybe a little slide to not steal the moment from first time parents…or would you consider that a lie? Asking in good faith, thank you ❤️

Doing a rewatch and forgot how sad T dogs death is omg. With him telling Carol it was god’s plan for him to lead her to safety 😭 It was the same episode of Loris death so it was so unfairly overshadowed imo

Another thought tho, T dog definitely turned after being killed. But the group stayed at the prison for quite some time and expanded by a lot. At some point, as the prison community grew, they must’ve encountered him? Did they eventually find him and put him down and give him a proper burial? Or is he just at the prison forever??

First off, I see both sides of this and they’re just misaligned. Its whatever.
It’s Kara’s right to post videos and pics and whatever she wants. I agree. But some of the arguments are REACHES. How did this turn into she absolutely had to do this or she was going to be homeless, starving with her son? Why is everyone saying that now? She’s a realtor! And Patrick (🙄) saying that if Guillermo was rich, Kara wouldn’t HAVE to do that and then Kara enthusiastically agreeing. That seemed like, super unfair to me?? So now we’re twisting it into Guillermo’s failure as a provider forced Kara into porn?? Guillermo shouldn’t be shaming Kara at all, full stop. And he NEEDS to be stepping up and providing for his child, including financially. Kara and Guillermo just fundamentally disagree on this being an acceptable thing for her to do. No idea why the narrative suddenly became IT WAS PORN OR DEATH CANT YOU SEE

It was weird like 15ish years ago when they first appeared, it’s even weirder now. She is just so dead set and CONFIDENT in her belief that she is so superior to Russ, and that he is the one that married up. Its bizarre. Maybe when she first arrived she felt like somewhat of a novelty, being “exotic” as a self proclaimed “spicy Latina” in a small midwestern town, but hasn’t that worn off by now? Russ was the one with the successful and steady career w good prospects, not her. And I feel for him, being laid off three times in this job climate is fucking brutal. And don’t come for me, but I think they’re a stone cold looks match. I don’t look at them together and think “omg how did he land her!” like Pao seems to think everyone does. They’re both fairly good looking people, its fine. This attitude that Russ could never possibly deserve her just baffles me.

I’m being dead serious too. Who could’ve predicted this when they first hit our screens. With the damn catfishing and Sumit already being married. But like over a decade later and you know what? Here they are. I dont truly believe in most of their drama, I think their last resort shit is mostly fabricated. I think Jenny does butt heads with Sumit’s family, but ultimately, they do allow her to live with them. And say whatever you want about the two of them but they really have been inseparable since they met. And a really healthy sex life. Now with Jenny’s diagnosis and decline in health, which is devastating, but apparently Sumit has stepped up and is managing her care. They are really in it for the long haul. S tier couple in the 90 day universe

To add: I mostly discount their last resort drama bc what is with the “$50,000 investment?” $50,000 DOLLARS? They kept saying dollars. Like American dollars?? If they had that kind of money they wouldn’t need to be living with his parents, they’d be doing pretty damn well financially in India. Maybe they meant 50,000 rupees (~$500USD). They should clarify. I was confused.

First of all, trying to “defend” Shekinah….dont waste your breath. Shekinah has nothing but venom and disdain for every single woman on earth, you are not going to be buddies with her. Backfired instantly and I’m sure Rebecca felt SO dumb. But this is Rebecca’s FOURTH marriage…and the second (that we know of) to a man exactly like Zied. Something just doesn’t seem to be clicking. I think she resents the age gap, plain and simple. They’re kind of in two different phases in life. And Rebecca’s insecurity has literally always seemed like her worst enemy, I wonder if this is history repeating itself for the 4th time. Unfortunate prediction, I think they won’t last and Zied may end up cheating on her. I’d kinda understand, bc like damn, why not go sleep w some cute young woman his age, Rebecca treats him/acts like he already did! At what point do you say fuck it. Idk.

Also to add: the darker hair really suits Jenny. I like it.

I have a 2018 ford fusion, key fob died and I really need to get into it. I inserted the emergency key and went to pull the cover off, but it will. Not. Budge. I’ve looked at video tutorials and I’ve tried every way possible, key position, inserting key harder or gentler into the notch at the bottom, prying w a screwdriver, but the cover will not move so I can actually unlock the car. Has anyone had this problem? I got the car at an auction lot and am worried there’s just something wrong with the key or the cover itself. For the record I have only owned the car for about a month and this is my first time attempting this.

so i nanny full time but i also have some repeat clients that i babysit for, on weekends or evenings for a few hours, stuff like that. i would like to have the money of working outside hours, but Ive had to drop some fairly longtime clients bc of vaccines. They don’t let me know in advance that their unvaccinated child was exposed to stuff like measles. so I show up, and then I can’t work for at least several days after bc my regular nanny kid is a very small infant and very vulnerable (not old enough to have her own full vaccines). Why has this happened more than once? It’s so unfair to me and everyone else. antivax crunchy parents are common in my area so I think i’m just gonna have to stop taking work outside my full time job bc I can’t be gone all the time after being exposed. I’ve been gone for four days of work after this happening the weekend, and I’m honestly scared they’re gonna let me go for being gone. But what else am I supposed to do? Knowingly show up and infect baby w a disease that could be deadly to her? Its just such a lose lose and I’m frustrated about it.

edit to add: i’m open with everyone that bc i work with multiple very young children, vaccinations are important to me. i’m not comfortable bc there’s a high likelihood that id spread it, even if i didn’t have bad symptoms.

I think I do pretty alright as a nanny, but my older family members are so weird about it. I’m a “babysitter.” The constant “oh, do you have to babysit that day?” I work 8-4 weekdays. A pretty standard work schedule. I’m not rolling in money but I make the median income for my area, and I have a cushy thing going on- nice family, easygoing baby, predictable schedule. I swear they genuinely think I’m unemployed and have been for years.